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ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year now..and on new years my friend becky went to dylans house my boyfriends best friend and dylan told becky that my bf told him we went all the way and we DEFINITLY DIDNT and then i just found out he told 2 other people that..is that just what guys do ..and i dont like that he told them that but i cant tell him my friend told me cause she wasnt suppose to tell me that dylan said it so what should i do to ask him if he did and why?! please help thank you so much!

well, i know that definitely is not normal for boyfriends to spread such things, but boyfriends best friends love to.
i don't blame you for not liking it, becuz thats the kind of reputation-ruining stuff right there.
one of the best ways to do this is to go to your b/f and just say something like"i've been hearing you told people we went all the way. is this true?"
if he says yes, ask him why.(try to get a reasonable answer from him)
if he says no, make sure he's telling the truth.
then, move on to dylan. let him know you didn't really appreciate him telling everyone that. if he spread that lie, what if your b/f tells him a secret between you two?:O
hope i understood this question right. if i didn't i'm so sorry. i hoped i helped you at all.:)

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this guy likes me and i like him alot but my best friend used to go out with him and she is pissed that i like him what sould i do? should i go out with him!?!!?!
*thanks*

I NEVER suggest that a friendship be broken up by a boy. Friendships usually last way longer than a relationship. I can understand why she's hurt. Just think: What if your ex-boyfriend went out with your best friend all of a sudden? Could you actually stand to see them kissing and cuddling in front of you? Hope i helped at all.

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ok @ lunch there r 5 of us @ the table..today were just 4 of us...i have this lil habit if something says somethinf funny while im drinking it sometimes comes out..well this girl is always a bitch like if i step on her boot or something she says shell smack me or w/e , today we some how got into the subject of how much we weighted n we were guessing n she got mine right and i was taking a drink and she said it n then had this funny face expression and i actidently sprayed it all over her face and bc i was laughing so hard n she ran into the bathroom n washed it off then came back n 1- threw my snapple out on me, 2- smacked me, i smacked back bc of it and she said dont fucking touch me and im like well then dont fucking smack me! 3- she took my friends notebook and smacked me with it..and then 4th she took my friends water bottle n dumped it on me so i was went all next period..and i had 3 ppl laughing at me...shes such an ass...and being of the year she dumped this minted stuff in my snapple and dared me n my friend to drink it...which we did...we always try to get her back and she refuses to do it...wut the hell do i do?

oh i would hate to meet her...if she's always like that, and then to add insult to injury, she smacked you and was sort of daring you to hit her back, ditch her. she could find another punching bag. i know i sound unforgiving, but SHE is unforgiving. leave. you shouldn't regret it.

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easy. go to your own column(located on the left side of screen), and click "view feedback"
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My friend has manic depression and I was wondering if any one like knew anything about it or like has it and can talk to me about it because i would like to learn more .

I've never had it, but a friend of mine did.
All I know is that it's a mood disorder and the person can feel on top of the world one minute, and the next, down in the dumps. It's caused by some kind of chemical im balance in the brain, and people who have it can think suicidal thoughts when they're down.
My friend who had it recently killed himself.:(
He was bipolar, which is exactly the same thing.(just another word)
So watch your friend and be there for them.

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Well...my sister told me about this one younger kid who she thought was so adorable. He's a little chunky but I dont care cause when I seen him I thought he was so cute!!lol He went past me and just looked at me! Thats It
! I cant expect him to do or say anything but i dont know...how do i get him to notice me without going around the skool looking like a whore...please help

If you don't wanna have a bad image, then you could give him a kind of flirty smile when he passes you, as long as no one's looking.
or get one of your trusted friends to talk to him and tell him that you two would be good friends. then, if he likes you, he'll come and talk to YOU, instead of YOU going to HIM.
Good luck! Hope I helped some! :D

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There's this guy that I have a little crush on. He's nice and all and fairly good looking but the problem is he's about an inch and a half shorter than me. I stand quite a good chance with him but I keep worrying about the height thing because I used to go out with someone shorter than me and it was annoying. Should I just forget the height issue and go out with him or leave it? It's not even a major crush, just a small one and I could get over it if I wanted to.

Rarely hear this one...
I believe that if you really like him, you wouldn't care about the height issue. But since you think it will bother you, and you say that you can get over him easily, you might wanna leave it alone. You don't wanna be in an annoying relationship.
Hope I helped.

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i'm a freshman in high school.. 14 years old, and i'm dating a sophomore. all these girls my b/f hangs out with don't like me. today, these two girls - anna and liz were talking to my ex boyfriend, corbin about me and ryne. anna asked corbin if me and my b/f had sex.. (its not true).. liz said no, corbin said no, and anna didn't believe them. anna hates me w/ a passion by the way.. but yeah.. she's going to go around telling evryone a stupid rumor, and my b/f already bitched her out and went to the dean and told him. but what can i do to make this rumor go away or stop? or how can i stop them from ruining my reputation? i have a good rep right now and i don't want it ruined.. plz help! i'll rate all 5's for an effort.

sorry to say it, but there really isn't a foolproof way to stop the rumors or make them go away. the most you can do is deny it and hold your head up high. if you keep denying it, and you don't make any remarks that would make people think it's true, then most should think it's not true after a while. but it shouldn't even take long.

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Ok, I finally started crushing on this guy, lets call him Bob, like 3 months ago, or somehting like that. He and one of my guy friends got into a fight before that, so me and Bob never really talked. I didn't evn know who he was. Then..., I started noticing him, and realized his locker was like 8 aways from mine. I was really phsyced ... I mean I'm a freshmen, and I've had a ouple of crushes this year, but nothing serious, like more then 2 weeks until I started noticing Bob. I started to get all these butterflies. Finally, after two months, I got the courage to finally talk to him. I asked him to meet me in the library once and after that we started talking. That's when I reallly fell for him! =) And then we decidedto keep meeting after school at the library and stuff and I called my friend Alice, because I knew she USED to like him and she talked with him, so I thought maybe she could help a sista out. lol. Firstly, I asked if she liked him and she's like 'um, no, i don't think so ... ' and i explained the whole story and told fhger everything. She said she'd talk to him. So the next day, my friend Kyle calls me and says I saw Alice & Bob in the library on top of each other and flirting, so i was like wtf...?! And I called her, and she said she talked to him and he told her he didn't like me. SO I was like oh, ok, I mean what was I supposed to do? ANd she told me how HE *was all over* HER! And I was like, well are you guys gonna go out or what? And she's like no, he's too much, too fast. And the next day I asked him about her. He's like 'wtf, i hate her. what a jealous bitch. i'd choose you over her ANY day, he told me that like 21 times, lol. And he'slike she's just jealous, what a jealous hoe. So then, I just you know, went on with it and then I hear that he wrote here a not later on that say say said dont ever fucking o talk to me you fucking bitch i hate you dont look atme dont talk to me ... etc. so then she strats saying stiuff that the only reason I like BoB is cause she does, which SOO isn't true, cause I asked her in the first place. S me and her aren't talking and we USED to be best friends, so yeah. then here comes the problem, Monday, no school, Tuesday I saw Bob, and said HEY to him, i was shy, lol, and I havn't seen him since. I asked around, and I thought he had ACes(suspension!) but he didn't and I heard that he left to Siberia or somewhere (he's arabian) because its some arabic holiday. BTW, he'sonly 50% arabic. And i did notice that lots of Arabs were missing in school today, so I'm not sure if its that. then I also heard that he went to iraq or palestine or wherever for 2 years and he's coming back his junior year! i was like no, i seriously wanted to cry. then I heard, he moved/transfered. my one friend has class with him and she said he was moving or something bcz he returned his books and yturned in transfer papers so I'm not sure ... He was actually the first guy I've felt reall good about. I mean just when things were going good, things got screwed up. SO does anyone know if there *IS* an ARABIC HOLIDAY? and please I need help with all of this, I don't even know what to do. I'm like obsessed with the guy, I fell for him wasy too soon and he's just gone for sure now without a site. I'm still going to try to talk to his friends but I'm not sure. I just need some help, what to do about all of this. And I CAN'T moce on ... there is NO ONE else.! thanks for at least taking the time to read this!

I looked it up for you, and if this is anywhere near the same as Muslim/Islamic, then I did find holidays that landed right here.(I cut and paste)
(from http://www.earthcalendar.net/_php/lookup.php?mode=religion) These are the dates and names of the holidays. Hope I helped any!

January-19 to January-22
Eid ul Hajj

January-21
Id al Adha (Feast of the Sacrifice)

February-19
Ashoura

April-21
Mawlid an-Nabi

September-1
Lailat - Ul - Isra' Wal Mi'raj (The Prophet's Night Journey to Jerusalem & Ascension)

September-1
Lailat - Ul - Qadr (The Night of Power)

October-4 to November-3
Ramadan (month of fasting)

October-28
Quds Day

November-3
Id al Fitr (End of Ramadan)

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Ok, for anyone who had a dog, or other pet with a heart murmur, or anyone who studied vetrinarian medicine, i have a question. My dog was diagnosed with a heart murmur, a two on a scale of 1-6, but now, he's just over 1 yr old, it's gone up to a 4, and the vets say he probaly wont live long. Does anyone know anything about heart murmurs, or what could've cause his murmur to become worse, or how to make it go back down? i appreciate any help, and will rate. Thanks.

Well, I'm no vet, but I have watched animal planet before.
The doctors are right. Sorry, but your dog probably won't live very long:(
It's most likely he was born with it, but it's just starting to really get bad.When dogs have a heart murmur, their heart gets weaker and weaker.
Time caused his heart to become worse. His may be the irreversible kind, if i remember right.
So, there is really no guaranteed way to make it stop or go back to normal. Sorry to have to tell you this.:(
I hope he, somehow, gets better. Hope I helped at all.

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There is this guy I like that he knows I like him.Today he was near me during the first 2 class periods and every time we look at each other we either smile or do small talk.I really like him and he sweet and so smart.Well today when we were going off to 7th period he was beside me and said "you want me to ask you something?" And i was like No then i went to class and I've been thinking bout it all days.I'm just wondering if he likes me then how can I approach him or what can I say?PLZ help and thank you!!!

maybe when you're talking one day, you could bring up the subject of relationships. make sure you put him in in by asking something like"how long was your longest relationship" or
anything that would let him get the idea of what you're trying to say. hope i helped any!:)

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ok i like this gurl and i want to tell her and this is my plan but i want to kno if its corny or not. ok i was gonna ask her to take a walk with me and then take her hands and b like "i really like u and i was wondering if u could see me as a b/f?" abd then also if she says yes wat am i sapposed to do and wat do i do if she says no?

i believe there is no *corny* way to let someone know how much you care for them.
if she says yes, you could talk about your relationship and all.
if she says no, the most you could do is ask her why, and respect her decision. hope she says yes!:D

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ok..me nd my bf have been together for 7 months. just recently we had oral..and he busted...so he went to the bathroom and everything was ok. later that day, he fingered me. my period has always been irregular. im late a week nd my bf is freaking out. is there any way i culd b pregnant?

well, the only way if you should be worried is if some of his *stuff* made contact with yours. other than that, no worries. but i think you should take a test anyway to calm your fears.

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I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks

I think she's a good friend because she really trusted you. i wouldn't kick her to the curb anytime soon. But i would definitely do something about this Julie character. She's something else.
You should keep trying to talk to her. You can't blame her for not trusting anyone right now. How would you feel if someone told your secret and you didn't know who?
Hope everything works out. Good luck.

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Hey everyone. Well i really like this guy. he likes another girl even though she doesnt like him back and she has a steady boyfriend. we're really flirty with each other and i like it a lot. i usually find myself telling me to just go for it, and normally i would, but the fear of rejection is greater than ever because of his crush on someone else. im in 8th grade, and some of you may disagree with me and say that im way too young to be in love. and then there are others that may agree with me. for those of you who find yourself disagreeing, you can stop reading now. and for those of you who have the decency to hear me out, here it goes. we have a lot in common, and we've been through the same situations that i must say are not easy ones. we can relate to each other and usually find ourselves in deep conversations that are normally about crazy and random subjects. for instance tonight, i sent him a link to veiw a picture entitled "above the clouds". it had the same effect upon both of us and that was really nice. he opened up to me and sad straight up that it made him feel really good and that he wiches he could go there and so on. this may sound ridiculous to some of you but im sure some of you understand how hard it must be for an 8th grade guy to come out and say that. ive met a lot of guys like this and have fallen for almost every one of them. we both seem to enjoy each others company especially in our online conversations but i want it to be more than that. we have a lot of the same classes together and we talk to each other but its like he only really hears me out when its online because things are more at ease. after both seeing that picture, we calmed down and just openly discussed things. well anyway, this is getting lengthy, if anyone could tell me why im so attracted to these open and sensitive guys, i'd love to hear it. and by the sound of things, do you see anything happening between us? i mean, do you think he likes me in the slightest bit? thanks guys. i really appreciate it and i rate high.

good news! i definitely believe he likes you. really beacuse he opened up to you, and boys usually don't trust girls enough.
I know for a fact that 8th grade is not too young to fall in love, especially w/someone like him.
i love open and sensitive guys too, i guess it's because you get to find out how they truly feel once you get past a certain point, and its easy to trust them.
I think you guys will get much closer if the trust isn't broken. But i wouldn't worry about the girl he likes. He likes you more because he confides in you. So i do see good things for both of you. hope i helped any. :D

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ok i really like this guy but he wont talk to me at all..and when we broke up he said that he never wanted to talk to me again and said that he was too good for me. and when i try to email him he doesnt answer back..but i luv him soo much that i dont kno what to do?! i try getting over him but i cant..wut can i do to try and get over him!?

i feel your pain, honey.:(
The thing that worked for me is remembering the things like that he ever said. try not to remember the god times, or you'll get all mushy again.
I hope i helped any, and that it works. Good luck!

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Well i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. He has had sex before and I havent (15/f). For the past couple of days I have really been thinking if i want to do it or not. My boyfriend is perfect, but im kinda nervous about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I do want to have sex with him, but its only been to months and i think its kinda soon. I have been sort of leading him on, but i really thought about it today and im jsut not ready. What ways can i tell him that im sorry for leading him on but im just not ready yet?????
Please help

well, the only way i can think of to tell him, is in a "baby i'm sorry, but..." kinda way. and if he's a true boyfriend, he won't really mind too much. good luck!hope i helped.:)

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i like this guy and hes hott and we friends we talk alot and sit by each other he waits for me when i get out of classes but i mean we huged before and held hands but not to be
serious ...but im i don't if he is what should i do ?
should i ask him if he likes me or something i need som ideas or anthing

i think the signs are obvious. whenever a guy would wait for me at school and stuff like that, he usually wound up amitting his feelings to me not much later.especially if he saw another guy liked me too. but my point is, i am pretty sure he does like you.
but just to be sure, i think you should ask him. it doesn't have to be a direct question- if it helps, you could beat around the bush until he gets it.

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ok sorry this might be long!..i will rate if you read..!!
ok i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18...well lately weve been haveing some problems...1st off theres this girl *stacy* that he talks to and says it's his best friend well stacy's cuzin keyed my car while stacy was standing right there and it really bugged me cause stacy didnt stop her...well a couple days ago my boyfriend had called me and i told him i would call him back because i was getting in the shower...well when i got out i called him for an hour none stop and by the time i got ahold of him it was time for me to get off the phone with him...well turns out he was on the phone with Stacy..so i told him to call me back at 10 well i got tired of waiting so i called him well then at 10 the phone rings and it's this girl Molly yeah i really don't like this girl it's his "best freind" and she already caused some problems before in the realstionship thats why i don't like her anymore((she lives in maryland))((we live in georiga)) well anyways it pissed me off cause he got off the phone with me to talk to her...and said some bull crap like well i don't want anyone mad at me so i was like so you would rather have your girlfriend mad at you then her...
well he knows i don't like him talking to her or any other girls and it really herts...and then my mom was on the phone with stacy's mom ((talking about them keying my car)) well stacy's mom had told my mom that my boyfriend had gone over to stacy's house and has been calling stacy...well that really pissed me off beacuse he kept that from me and never told me...stacy's mom told my boyfriend not to come to the house or call stacy any more...but my boyfriend told me that stacy calls him...also i don't know if this will help but we do go to differnt schools and his going off to college next year

sorry that it's so long...but i just don't know what to do about all this...i will rate you for reading

looks like you're in a jam. i would say he's afraid of commitment or something, but he's too old for that, i think.
if he can't put his girlfriend first, then something's wrong....
and definitely since he's putting you through all this confusion and whatnot, i believe you need someone who has much less drama attached and has their priorities straight.
and if he's going off to college, you can't trust him. if he's keeping these simple things from you now, when he goes to college, he'll swear he doesn't have girls for friends. it might hurt, but if you break away from him, you won't have to worry about stacy or molly or anyone from his side of the fence anymore. hope i helped any!

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I hav 2 bessies Emily and Fi but i really dont like emily. we've been friends for years but i cant stand her. I dont want to make fi choose because we're really close but i know i cant go on like this. I often snap at emily and we say horrible things to each other and i feel really bad afterwards but i'm in a really sticky situation and my heads all messed up. Can u giv me sum advice on wt i shud do?

you could hang out with Fi more, but don't break the friendship with Emily, because you may lose Fi, too. And you don't wanna be alone. Hope I helped!

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