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Ok, I finally started crushing on this guy, lets call him Bob, like 3 months ago, or somehting like that. He and one of my guy friends got into a fight before that, so me and Bob never really talked. I didn't evn know who he was. Then..., I started noticing him, and realized his locker was like 8 aways from mine. I was really phsyced ... I mean I'm a freshmen, and I've had a ouple of crushes this year, but nothing serious, like more then 2 weeks until I started noticing Bob. I started to get all these butterflies. Finally, after two months, I got the courage to finally talk to him. I asked him to meet me in the library once and after that we started talking. That's when I reallly fell for him! =) And then we decidedto keep meeting after school at the library and stuff and I called my friend Alice, because I knew she USED to like him and she talked with him, so I thought maybe she could help a sista out. lol. Firstly, I asked if she liked him and she's like 'um, no, i don't think so ... ' and i explained the whole story and told fhger everything. She said she'd talk to him. So the next day, my friend Kyle calls me and says I saw Alice & Bob in the library on top of each other and flirting, so i was like wtf...?! And I called her, and she said she talked to him and he told her he didn't like me. SO I was like oh, ok, I mean what was I supposed to do? ANd she told me how HE *was all over* HER! And I was like, well are you guys gonna go out or what? And she's like no, he's too much, too fast. And the next day I asked him about her. He's like 'wtf, i hate her. what a jealous bitch. i'd choose you over her ANY day, he told me that like 21 times, lol. And he'slike she's just jealous, what a jealous hoe. So then, I just you know, went on with it and then I hear that he wrote here a not later on that say say said dont ever fucking o talk to me you fucking bitch i hate you dont look atme dont talk to me ... etc. so then she strats saying stiuff that the only reason I like BoB is cause she does, which SOO isn't true, cause I asked her in the first place. S me and her aren't talking and we USED to be best friends, so yeah. then here comes the problem, Monday, no school, Tuesday I saw Bob, and said HEY to him, i was shy, lol, and I havn't seen him since. I asked around, and I thought he had ACes(suspension!) but he didn't and I heard that he left to Siberia or somewhere (he's arabian) because its some arabic holiday. BTW, he'sonly 50% arabic. And i did notice that lots of Arabs were missing in school today, so I'm not sure if its that. then I also heard that he went to iraq or palestine or wherever for 2 years and he's coming back his junior year! i was like no, i seriously wanted to cry. then I heard, he moved/transfered. my one friend has class with him and she said he was moving or something bcz he returned his books and yturned in transfer papers so I'm not sure ... He was actually the first guy I've felt reall good about. I mean just when things were going good, things got screwed up. SO does anyone know if there *IS* an ARABIC HOLIDAY? and please I need help with all of this, I don't even know what to do. I'm like obsessed with the guy, I fell for him wasy too soon and he's just gone for sure now without a site. I'm still going to try to talk to his friends but I'm not sure. I just need some help, what to do about all of this. And I CAN'T moce on ... there is NO ONE else.! thanks for at least taking the time to read this!
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wow ...well im not sure about the holiday thing but maybe you should get his number and call him ...s.ee whta going on .......as for your friend....talk to her...tell her how you felt about him and how even if he was all over her she should have not let him be! girls are weird about that ...maybe she still liked him and didnt want to tell you b/c she didnt want HER to keep YOU from liking him./////idk hope things work ou
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Wow, that was really long! haha but if I was in your situation, I would deffently ask some of his friends. Find somebody that you KNOW he hangs out with and just ask them what happened to Bob. Also,The Hajj(Arabic holiday) is happeneing right now, everbody who is Aribic must go to Mecca,Saudi Arabia atleast once in their lives to celebrate the Hajj.I think it lasts for around a week? This might be the time he went because his parents probably didn't go when they were younger and decided to go now. If that's the case then yeah, he should deffently be back next week. If he moved and is coming back junior year then I'd say you find out where he went and get his phone number or IM address! keep intouch so when he DOES come back, you'll be the person he knows the best. If he transfered and is never coming back then my best advice there would be to get over him, I know thats hard but that is the ONLY thing you can do, other then follow him and move with him but I bet he'd be pretty creeped out ;o) haha well I hope that I helped you and I hope things work out between you, your best friend, and bob! :o)
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Ok, there's a whole lot of information here,let me think a bit.
Has your friend ever done this before? Has she suddenly started to like a guy again because you like him? It's not right that she would go talk to him for you, and then suddenly be all over him. But you also have to think about a few things. This girl used to be your best friend, and do you really want to let a guy, who you might not ever see again, get between you two?
Yes, it wasn't right for her to flirt with him after you said you liked him, but it also seems like he was playing the both of you a tiny bit. He flirts, or at least lets your friend flirt and think she has a chance, and then he goes to you and tells you that your way better. That doesnt seem right. He should have been straight up with the situation in the first place and all this confusion could have been avoided.
Now, about him leaving... did you tell you anything about it? It just seems like if he was really as interested in your as he said he was, then he would have said something about such a huge thing as leaving for two years. Even if you two did just start to talk, you would think that he would tell you that. Now your stuck wondering and worrying yourself over it.
There is NO ONE else huh? Well, your only a freshmen. This seems like he very well could have been an asshole in disguise. He could have been sweet, but from what I've thought about, there are some things that he did to really fuck with your emotions.
First, talk to his friends. His friends would be able to tell you more than what the little rumors you've heard can tell you. After you talk to his friends then you need to decide some things. Don't think "my life is over, I can't move on, he was the only one for me." because, that is bullshit. Sorry for being blunt. But your only a freshman, you have your whole life ahead of you, and he was only one small minute minute of your life. You'll move on eventually.
Good luck with everything.
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I looked it up for you, and if this is anywhere near the same as Muslim/Islamic, then I did find holidays that landed right here.(I cut and paste)
(from [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)) These are the dates and names of the holidays. Hope I helped any!
January-19 to January-22
Eid ul Hajj
January-21
Id al Adha (Feast of the Sacrifice)
February-19
Ashoura
April-21
Mawlid an-Nabi
September-1
Lailat - Ul - Isra' Wal Mi'raj (The Prophet's Night Journey to Jerusalem & Ascension)
September-1
Lailat - Ul - Qadr (The Night of Power)
October-4 to November-3
Ramadan (month of fasting)
October-28
Quds Day
November-3
Id al Fitr (End of Ramadan)
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