I'm Victoria. I haven't been on this site in a while. If you have received advice from me before and liked it, please feel free to ask more questions.
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A father finds his son praying at night. 'God bless Mommy, Daddy, and Grandma. Ta ta Grandpa.' The father finds this odd, but doesn't think too much of it. The next morning the grandfather dies. The father remembers the night before, but doesn't say anything. That night, the son prays, 'God bless Mommy and Daddy. Ta ta, Grandma.' The father hopes that nothing happens to the grandmother. Sure enough, the next morning the grandmother dies. At this point the father gets really scared. That night, the son prays "God bless Mommy. Ta ta, Daddy". The father stays up all night long, frightened. Early in the morning he goes to the doctor to make sure everything is fine. When he comes home, his wife is waiting frantically in the driveway and yells "Honey, come quick! The milkman just dropped dead on the porch!"
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"Cowards die many times before their deaths: the valiant never taste death but once. Of all the wonders that I have yet heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that Death,a necessary end, will come when it will come."
-Caesar Act II line 31-37
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" So our stories have made you sad, you tell me. Yes, this I can understand...but tears are not the right response. For every painful story there is one of beauty, one to learn from...You must never forget the art of enjoyment, otherwise the pain of survival will crush you."
-Gasper, a guerilla with the Guatemalan National Revolutionary union.
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i have a Sony Psyche walkman. it's about a year old and it worked great. well just recently the music only started coming out of the left ear. i thought the batteries could be going, so i put new ones in and it's still the same. so whats wrong or how do i fix it? im pissed off cause it was a $50 walkman. (link)
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Its probably the headphones, i always have to by new headphones almost every three months. You may be listening to the music too loudly. Try the heaphones, and then see what happens.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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I got my first period at the end of July (thankfully right before HS started) and it lasted about 2-3 days and that was it. Haven't gotten it since. Now, I am scared that i am gonna get it some random day at school, and i don't know how heavy it would be or anything. So here are my questions::
1. Is it normal to take this long for the 2nd period?
2. If and when i do get it, will it go down my leg at school or will it just be a little on the first day that it comes?
3. What is the maximum amount of time between one period and another?
Thank you! (link)
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Don't worry, your body is just adjusting, about this time next year, your body should have regulated itself. Its a totally natural thing. Your period is usually heavier on the first day, but don't worry about the blood running down your leg, just worry about your panties being ruined. A regular period is supposed to be 26 day apart, but thats not for every female, mine is more like 19 to 17. Stress and other facors such as diet can also effect when you get your period, too.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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I am looking to buy some fun socks, with simple patterns and stipes, mostly black and grey. So far I have found that 1 pair cost 3-7 dollars, even at Target. Does anyone know where I can find really cheap socks? (link)
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Honestly, sometimes the dollar stores have some kick ass stuff thats cheap, make sure you find a cool dollar store ( yes, there are cool dollar stores) you could also try the second hand stores in your area, but seriously, who wants to buy used socks...? Try the dollar store.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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Hello!! I never wear makeup!! Should I?? I have medium brown hair, brown eyes and white skin (not very tanned) what colors should i use, and fiunally how do I put it on?? PLEASE answer as much as possible!@!! !Thanks so much!! I'll rate you (link)
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Start slow with it, thats what I did. I started to wear eyeliner, and black eyeshadow, I too, have brown eyes, and it makes them more prominent. Since I'm carmel-complected, I tend to wear dark colors so I don't look weird wearing hot pink lipstick ( Not that I would, all I wear is eye gunk, I'm a bit of a tomboy) Don't put on too much eyeshadow, unless you want to look like Mimi from the Drew Carey Show, just put on enough to notice, so you'll get used to it, Eyeliner...Thats something you have to be careful with, it took me about 20 minutes to figure out how to put that stuff on, so please for your safety, have a friend to show you, thats enough make-up tips from me today.
Mad love,
Victoria
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Okay I asked a question before about boners before. :/ Please dont delete this question, I need some opinions. When a guy gets a boner is his penis supposed to go up or straight. Somone told me its a sign of cancer. :( Is that true? Or does it have something to do with age? Help please!!!! (link)
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His "thing" is suppossed to salute straight out. I htink this is a topic you should research on your own, because alot of the people you know are giving you the wrong info.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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I'm 14, and I have yet to wear a tampon! All of my friends do it, so I just pretend I do!.. I mean I've stuck one in there before, and it worked and it sticked, but I'm afraid like its going to go further, or I'm gunna try and pull on the stringy thing and its gunna break lose. Do you think any of those things could happen? Pllease help! (link)
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Don't be alarmed, the string will not break loose, and if it does, I think they have instructions on the box on what to do just in case ( you basically have to go in and get it, if you get my drift ) Don't wear tampons just 'cause all your friends do, wear them when you're ready, wear them when you're comfortable with them. And once again for the record, it is very unlikely any of those things could happen.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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im a freshy in high school and its the 5th week and im just so depressed and tired im already tired n its 6:00 pm n i still got 3 pages of homework and i have E's om almost every freakin class and idk what to do this h.s shit sucks! im so tired all the time and wore out. what should i do? and another thing in my school if you get like 3 E's or something i guess you have to be switched to the alternative high school and trust me i got more than 3 E's...its almost the 1st marking perioud but do you think they make you switch when its the marking period or semester )in jan.)????? conferences are this thursday and my moms gonna fuckin FLIP OUT...i have bad grades in every class except like 2...she knows my situation lately though ive been really depressed with some things that im dealing with but shes gonna be so mad idk what to do! my counselor told me to just kinda tell her ahead of time. should i? can someone tell me what to say? sorry this is so long! thanks. (link)
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Calm down. Most high schools tend to go a bit easier on freshman since this is a new transition for them. Hurry up and try to make your grades up so you don't screw up your high school GPA. After your freshman year, high school tend to get a bit easier, because you're getting into the feel of things. I'm in my Junior year now, and high school is so flippin' easy, you'd be suprised. If you still have 3 Es at the end of the semester, then you should worry. Try and turn those Es into at least Cs. Don't panic, but do be concerned and do all your work and homework, the homework is what may save you, but still study for tests. Try and get out of your depression, go to parties, do something creative, do anything you can to not be depressed, 'cause that will mess you up for sure. ( Don't worry, I'm almost done )Now, your mom, tell her the situation, so she won't be suprised, thats what has saved me many times, but make it up to her. Don't just promise, make it up to her. Get tutoring if you need to, drink coffee all day if you need to in order to stay awake.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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well i want to put conditioner on my hair and then sleep with it on... sounds crazy i no but i think it would help. i mean my hairs not really dried out of anything but it could prob use the shine and moisture. what do u think?
lol thanx (link)
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I wouldn't really help, it would just leave residue in your hair, therefore making your hair lack luster and heavy. My advice; don't do it, unless its leave in conditioner, but aside from that, no.
mad Love,
Victoria
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are ghosts real? have you ever seen one?? just wondering!! (link)
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I, personally, do. There are just some things that just can't be explained no matter how hard you try. I've never had a supernatural experience myself, but I think this world is too big for just us humans.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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Anyone a senior in high school? its so hard because of senioritis, anyone else have it, how can i get thru it, i dont want me GPA to lower, i want it to stay the same at least, if not for it to raise, help. (link)
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Well, I'm not a senior, but I do have "junioritis". The best way to keep yourself in line with your grades is to remind yourself not to become a "super senior", you know someone who had to do their senior year twice, and think about the college that you want to go to,as well, I know,I know, I'm not a senior, I'm only a junior, but I'll be in your position soon, so I've already devised a plan, and I'm sharing it with the world.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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what is a smear test? (link)
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a Pap smear test is when they get something like a swab, and they swab some of the fluid or secretions from inside your vagina to see if you have ovarian cancer and anything bad like that.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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I'm new this year at a school and I thought it would be so easy to make friends, and it has been thanks to basketball. But during school, the most people ever say to me is like...Hi! and then when basketball practice comes around they're all crazy. I'm a VERY talkative person, but going to the same school for all my life (except this year) I know what it's like to have a new girl and instantly not like them because they're not as tight with your friends or whatever. I'm saying I need to sharpen my social skills, but asking questions like, "So...what do you like to do?" isn't a question I'd normally ask. It's odd asking questions like what's ur fav color and stuff....so i need help... (link)
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Well, compliments usually work. Sincere ones, when you really do like something. If someone has a kick ass pair of pants on, say "Hey, your pants kick ass! Where did you get them from?" and strkie up a converstion, thats what I usually do. And if your talkative like me, you should make friends that way in no time. But don't complimenet things you don't like. For example is someones purse is ugly don't compliment it. Don't be fake.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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someone at my skool started a website wheres theres a list of top 10 prettiest girls and top 10 ugliest girls.. so yeah its really mean. ive been winning for prettiest girl the whole time so everyone thinks that im the one doing it and im not! any advice?? lol thanx (link)
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It sounds like someones trying to ruin your good name. Try not to worry about it. i know its hard, but act like it doesn't exist, the more you try to convince people that its not oyu behind all this, the more they will think its you, and if someone asks if its you, be sincere, look them in the eye, and tell them its not you. You could also get your friends to rate you lower to help take the heat off.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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Well my boyfriend was here today and we were makeing out and he got my shirt off and then i told him to stop but i love him so much and we could of had sex but i told him to go home and he knows what makes me feel better and stuff like that well he was kissing my neck (which i like ALOT) and then he took my shirt off. I then told him to go home and but i think i am ready (well at least i think so) What do you think is wrong? (link)
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You have to make sure your completely ready. You don't yell out "stop" when you're not ready. Sex isn't something to play around with, even though most people make it out to be a joke. Do it when you're ready and when you feel comfortable, don't let him pressure, it has to be mutual.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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I pay close attention to recurring themes in my dreams, as I believe that it can be my subconcious self trying to relay important information that I am missing in my day to day conscious life. For the past several months, I have had a recurring dream... well the dream itself is always different, but in the dream for a period of time my vision is terribly blurry. I can't read information, or I have a really hard time making out what is right in front of me no matter how hard I try to focus or squint my eyes. I know this is a bizarre question, but I can ususally figure out these things on my own and the answer to this one is just not coming to me. Any serious responses are appreciated greatly. Thanks! (link)
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What you need is a dream book. I don't have the one that I usually use with me rigth now, but when I find it, I'll put it in my answer. Did you have anything truamatic happen to you as a kid, or at any point in your life? The dream could also be stress related. You can also talk to a psychiatrist, but if your poor like me, your best bet is a dream book. But be careful when picking out deam books, some of them really suck, so glance through some and find what book you like. You don't have to go out and buy one, they usually have them at the library, I think.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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Hey I want to loose 100 pounds in 1 year! Thats my goal. Anyways. What are some excersizes i can do and how often,how long and ect to do them. What food do i eat? And do you have any sites? That can help me. Thank you so much i will rate everyone a 5 if you help! Ill even rate you if you didnt help because you tried lol. (link)
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I'm not saying the goal is impossible, but its a little unhealthy. your body might not be used to a change like that, and it can have a dramtic effect on you healthwise. I don't really advise losing tha much weight all at once, try for maybe 20 or 30lbs. But to lose wieght:
1. Cut back on the fatty foods. If your gonna eat fatty foods, don't eat as much of it as you usually do.Cut it out gradually, becasuse if you try to get rid of it all at once, its gonna be hard to get rid of at all. Eat more salads and fruits, healthier stuff in general.
2. Exercise. What helped me lose weight was playing with neighborhood kids and dog-walking. I lost about 10 or 15lbs that summer.
3. Drink lots of water, it helps to clean out your system. Cranberry juice ( 100% juices in general) are helpful too.
4. Don't discourage yourself. I know its hard, but this is something you really want to do, right?
5. don't eat before you go to sleep, your body is resting at that time, and won't be able to burn off the energy, so it will just store it in fat.
6. Don't eat when your not hungry.
I don't have any websites, but I hope I helped.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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okay well i havnt gotten my period yet.. and i have like no shape to my body... barely any boobs like no ass... when i get my period will my body start growing faster n stuff.... cuz i really hate how i look... im 13 im tall ( 5'3) I have really long legs... im really skinny... and i can never find pants and like i hate school shopping bcuz i can never find good tight pants that are long enough like if they are tight enough they are to long... so im really self concious.... idk what to do (link)
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Be patient. You seem like one of those who wre gonna sprout like a bean. And, no offense your not that tall, 'cause I'm 5'3 and I can barely reach the cabinets, but i'm not here to judge. *lol* Don't be too eager for your period, its a pain, litterally, but if your really worried that something isn't right, go to the doctor, especially on the period thing, that could be serious.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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Hey I'd just like to say to everyone that when people are asking a serious question do you have too be so sarcastic and tell them to kill themselfs?? This is a help sight not somthing to be rude about. Is there anyway people who say things like that can be stoped? (link)
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I understand how you feel, but some people are just a**holes to begin with and don't care who they hurt, so long as they have a good laugh. People can be banned, but they just keep on coming back. Its the internet, technically you can only ban the screenname, not the person. I try to ignore it, but its hard, thats why you have to give the best advice that you can in order to make the person who got hurt, feel a little better about themselves. And going and telling the person that they're a dickf*ck only adds fuel to the fire. So, don't do that.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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im a 15/f and i want some job ideas. What kind of places would hire me..whats the interview like?
- any ideas would be greaat...thank u! (link)
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Its best to start off working for neighbors around the neighborhood, thats what I tell everybody. But if you want a job-type job, try www.teens4hire.com and see what they have in your area. See if you have life skills or Career planning at your school, so they can teach you how to do an interview, its not that hard, but if you have a hard time with public speaking, well...you might want to practice.
Mad love,
Victoria
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whats a wigger? (link)
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A white person who tries to black or acts black, but thats not a term you want to go blantently using, its just like using the "N"-word...And I'm black, so don't use it.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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