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Q: Hey,I think i have a real problem with dudes..or do I? It never fails,I just cant never seem to keep a dude.Either they cheat,about to cheat,or lie.Is it me?Do i have a problem?Boys really know how to hurt a girl.There was this boy that "so-called" had a crush on me.I was a junior back then and he was a star player on the basketball team so i was soooo happy because he was an athelete.But his friend and my friend hooked us up.We exchanged numbers and all was good until....the ex girlfriend came back around.Ugh!! I was so mad.Everytime i turned around it seemed like she was always following him.She was also a cheerleader so they always saw each other at the games.I guess she decided she wanted him back because sooner or later i found out through the school gossip that they were a couple again.I was crushed.He never really broke-up with me or anything..just left me hanging.I will never forgive him for that.And there were also many realation-ships just like that one in my life.I'm always gettin left for someone of a more,lets just say,"higher standard".Now iam single and i refuse to ever date again..I just cant do it.Do you guys ever think I will find true love because i dont.I just cant trust dudes and I dont wanna take my chances.Somebody please give me advice because i'am so lonely but i just dont wanna be held by the wrong hands...Thanks for listening.

I know this may sound stupid..but it's honestly not you, it's them. Guy's, especially when they're young, can't seem to control themselves. You dated an athlete? Yeah not a good idea! They're usually the one's who flirt with many girls all the time. Maybe you should try finding a different type of guy? Someone who's different from everyone else you dated. Wouldn't hurt to try. That's the whole part of growing older..you have to find out things about yourself, that's something that you should find out. Going for older guys doesn't hurt either..they're usually more mature than the high school/early college years one's. Don't let a few guy's discourage your from dating again. However, maybe there may be something you're doing wrong? Think about all your relationships and evaluate how you acted, treated, and talked to the men you dated. Remember: don't ever settle for less than what you want!

Q: So my 14th birthday is coming up in august and I have been seriously thinking about getting a tattoo.
I mean seriously thinking hard.
I want to get a small quarter size peace sign on the center of my left foot.
It would symbolize this,
I intend to walk a life of spreading peace.
Also, it would remind me of my Jesus.
I know it's probably illegal at my age, but I've though about this for a very long time.
And putting it in a place where it won't stretch badly over time.
My mom actually likes the meaning of it too.
Is it illegal?
Is it a bad place to put it when I get old enough to get one if it's illegal?
All advice I will take :)
Thank you

I looked through tattoo laws...basically, you have to be 18. It's somewhat confusing because some people say if you're accompanied by an adult, you're allowed to get one. I'm not sure where you live so just look up tattoo laws in your state! The meaning of it is very nice. It is a good idea getting it on the center of your left foot, very unique. It's not a bad place, if that's where you want to get it, get it there. But, remember..tattoo's are their forever (well, besides laser removal..which is very painful and expensive). Make sure it is something you wouldn't mind having on your body. If you're 100% sure, find a very clean, and good place that has employee's that actually know what they're doing...and get what you want. :)

Q: Does anyone know where i can download or buy the song "part of your world" by chely wright? i looked on frostwire and i cant find it. thanks.

try 4shared.com.

might work

Q: It's this boy at my scool that likes me, and I want to go with him, but he flirts with a lot of girls.

If you want this guy, you're going to need to show him you're interested. Flirt with him back, talk to him often, try and hang out with him sometimes, get his phone number, and eventually (when you're ready) tell him you like him and see his response. However, "But he flirts with a lot of girls" is a warning already. Yes, it's common for many young boys to flirt with girls. But, are they dating material? Most likely not. You have to ask yourself some questions. 1)How do I know he likes me? Because, if he flirts with a lot of girls..how do you know he likes you. It doesn't matter if he flirts with you or not. 2)Do I really want to be in a relationship with someone who flirts with other girls often? That's up to you. It can lead to heartbreak and dissapointment. So, think it over before you go for this guy. There are other guys, I'm sure, that aren't like him and will treat you wonderfully. :)

Q: I've been in love with the same boy for nearly a year. During June, he said he felt the same way and we began talking a lot. He confessed that he really did love me and everything was going fine. He asked me out a week before today and I thought that it was set that we'd have a mostly lasting relationship. It's only been a week and now he says he's lost interest in me and feels that he doesn't have to try anymore. He claims that he only likes me and no longer loves me. :/ I, unfortunately, cannot get over someone that quickly. I asked him how it was possible that someone could just drastically un-love someone that way and he replied with, "Maybe it's the people that judge me." I asked him to elaborate, but he said he didn't know what he meant. Anyone think they can help? How do I get him 'interested' again? It's hard because I'm fourteen and unable to drive, but he lives an hour away from me. I really don't want to lose him for I'm afraid that I won't be able to move on from the heartbreak. Please help. :/

It's possible what he was feeling (maybe you too) is infatuation (the step before love as they say). Obviously, it was not love if he could easily "lose" the love that fast. I don't know why he said he feel's like he doesn't need to try anymore? I guess he just like the "chase" of girls. No normal person would lose love that fast. I know it's hard to get over someone fast..but this guy isn't worth it. When he said "Maybe it's the people that judge me"..that makes no sense what so ever..he just wanted an excuse for it. If this guy lost interest already..there's nothing you can really do. I would find someone better and not someone like this guy. He obviously likes to play games. Find someone better. If you really want him THAT bad..try talking to him, ask him repeatingly why he lost interest and doesnt "love" you anymore. If he doesn't answer or tries to give an excuse again..he's not worth anything. Please re-think this guy. He's already showing bad signs about himself.

Q: I am in a relationship, with a man who will do absolutely anything for me. ANYTHING. He is forgiving, great to my 3 kids that are not his - just a wonderful man. He loves me. I cant love him back, I think it's because of my girls dad. I love him still and pretend that I dont. We even all hang out together at times. I even make friends with my ex's "candidates". I cant figure out if it is the thick wall I built around my heart due to all the heartaches and dissapointments or if it really is because I still love my ex. I dont think my ex and I can ever be together again. I care about the man I am with dearly but dont see myself loving him or falling in love. My kids are so attached to him and I dont want to stay in it because of that only; as much as I love them - I dont want to be unhappy. I have a decision to make so that hearts are not broken. I need advice on how to handle this. I dont know if I can get up the guts to tell my ex that I do love him still. It is so stupid, because that man has hurt me so much in the past. I dont know what to do. Do I try to continue this relationship? do I let him be? Do I confess to my ex? Do I let my kids down?
My family down? They adore him and think that he is the one. Its been a year and I cant say I love you. Please give me some advice.

You said your ex has hurt you so much in the past. Why risk it? Why go back with him if there's still that slight chance of him hurting you again. You're always going to have that attachment to your ex because he's the father of your girls. That could be the real reason why you feel anything. Your heartaches and dissapointments are defintely something that could relate to why you don't say "I love you" to your current partner. Your kids love the man you are with now, and yes, it is true you need to be happy, but you also need to keep your kids in mind at all times. Maybe this will help. In your head, think of all the positive things about your ex and your current man. Write it down. Then do the same, but this time writing down negative things about the both. After you're done..look it over thoroughly. It may help you understand who you should be with. Even if your kids do love your new man, you need to find someone who makes you happy and who you know you can love. If that isn't this guy, move on. Your kids should understand you need happiness too. For instance, my mother dated a few guys after my parent's seperated. I was about 5 years old. Everytime she'd break up with a guy she'd sit me and my brother down, and explain to us. I feel that's the best way to handle children. Because this way, they'll understand what you're doing and why. Just because their kids, doesn't mean it won't effect them when someone leaves or enter's your life. You said you don't see you and your ex ever getting back together again. There's a reason for that. Maybe it's because you don't truly love him? That's something you must figure out on your own. I'm sure whatever your decision may be..your kids won't be let down by it. I'm not saying it won't bother them..but as I said before, they should understand you need love and happiness too.. and that means either going back with your ex and trying again, continuing the relationship you're in now to see if you can ever love him, or finding someone new. It's basically your decision on what you think is best for both yourself..and your kids.

Good luck! :)

Q: I'll keep this short lol

I like this guy, and I like flirting with him, but he constantly tells me he's interested in having a "forever" relationship with me once I turn 18 (in less than a year).

I'm NOT looking for anything like that! He's WAY TOO OLD FOR ME, I'm talking 10+ older than I am. I'm not sure how to handle the situation, I stopped flirting already.

Basically what I want (not sure if this can happen) is for him to give up the idea of living with me for the rest of his life and go back to the way it was (FRIENDS)
Can anyone give me some suggestions on how to deal and come across? Anything is appreciated!

Flirting is, of course, harmless. But, you should've thought about this before you started talking to him. He's 10+ years older than yourself..when guy's get near their 30's they want to start settling down. You're almost 18, you're going to explore different guys, have fun, and just be a normal teenage girl! This is something you must tell him to get him to understand. Obviously age doesn't matter to him (which I'm not saying is bad!) but you are a lot younger than he is..and the big thing is, you're 17. I don't know why he would even think he would be able to settle down with someone who isn't even 18 yet. Doesn't he remember when he was your age? I'm sure he wasn't settling down. Just tell him you want to talk and eventually say something like this. "I'm not even 18 yet..I want to enjoy being a teenager. I'm sorry but I'm not interested in settling down this young." You can even tell him (if you want) that you can still be good friends, but that he should try and find someone closer to his own age who would be ready for a "forever" relationship. And, as the person below me said, he's pretty much taking advantage of the fact that you're young and won't have "alarms" going off as fast as someone closer to his age would. I would also stop the flirting..it may lead him on to think he has a chance of having you when you're 18. Remember, don't come off as being mad, annoyed, or not wanting to talk to him anymore..just be yourself and act normal. He should understand! If he doesn't, you might want to stop talking to him.

Q: I'm 18 and I really like my guy friend we've been friends since 10th grade and he asked me out one day then by a note and I never replied because I didnt' really know what to do and I still like him but when i send him e-mails over myspace he hardly ever responds and when he does it's really short. i feel like he's the only guy i could be with because he's so great but i dont know what to do because i don't know if he's mad at me or something he's just the greatest guy that i have ever met. please help me on what to do. thanks

Tell him you like him! I mean, you should've answered him..and it is possible he's mad that you didn't, but I'm sure if you tell him how you feel there's a possibility he'll still want to be with you. Just tell him how you feel about him, and you should apologize for not answering. Tell him you weren't sure what to do..so you decided not to answer, but that you still like him a lot.
He should understand if he really does like you. He probably doesn't respond because he's either not sure what to say, doesn't feel like talking, is mad at you (as i said before), or is just plain busy and doesn't have time. All guy's are like that so don't take it personally if he doesn't answer sometimes, or if he just say's something that's really short. Oh, and make sure to add this if you'd like. "he's the only guy i could be with because he's so great but i dont know what to do because i don't know if he's mad at me or something he's just the greatest guy that i have ever met" that will partially explain how you feel about him.

Good luck!! :)

Q: Im a 21 yr old female and I live on my own. Im not fat in the least bit, Im just not as thin as I used to be and I dont like my stomach or arms anymore. I have a real bad habit of eating alit of junk food because I always could without gaining weight. But now I am gaining weight and I need to stop. I want some advice on cheap diets I could go on. Healthy food is more expensive alot of the time and since I live on my own I dont have all the money in the world to spend since I have other bills. What are some cheaper diets or healthier food that I can get to help me lose some weight? I only want to lose maybe 15 pounds. Thanks!

Believe me, cheap diet's are not the way to go. They have meals you can buy in the store..such as, Lean Cuisine, Weight Watcher's, etc. Look around, and I'm sure you'll find something! They're usually not that expensive either. Make sure, when you buy food, to always look at the nutrition facts! Make sure calories are not too high, and make sure the same goes for carbs and sugars. Drink plenty of water also. Water helps because when you drink very cold water often, your body has to work to warm it up to your body temperature which usually ends up burning some calories. It may not be many calories, but anything helps. Metabolism changes as we get older, which would explain why you started gaining weight when you eat junk food. It's not bad to eat just food once in a while..but make sure you don't eat too much. Cut down how much you eat for lunch and dinner. And, remember, breakfast is the most important meal of the day! So, try not to skip that. Eat fruit and veggies once in a while too. You can also exercise at home. People always think they need a gym, but you don't! You can do 15-20 sit-up's (strengthen's abs) at night, and leg-lifts (Which is when you lay down, lift one leg at a time and lower it down. do as many at 15-20)..and eventually (doesn't happen over night) you'll see results with your stomach because both of those help the stomach! For your arms..you can buy 5-10 pound (or more) weight's. They have weights that are small, and not expensive like the larger weight's. This example is not what you NEED to buy, it's just an idea of the size weight's I was talking about for your arms! http://www.target.com/Savasa-Hand-Weight-Set-Workout/dp/B001VEBJEK/sr=1-17/qid=1248973561/ref=sr_1_17/180-5334836-9699902?ie=UTF8&search-alias=tgt-index&frombrowse=0&index=target&rh=k%3Aweights&page=1

Work hard, stay focused, and I'm sure you'll get the result's you want. :)

Q: I wanna cook a nice desert for my boyfriend. with strawberry. Can someone give me a good recipe? thanks

http://www.bhg.com/recipes/desserts/other-desserts/strawberry-desserts/?esrc=nwwu51&email=815947344&sssdmh=dm17.264710

Just click the arrow to go through all 18. Just some idea's. :)

Q: ok so i live in california. and im going to be a junior. i moved here when i was in the 4th grade.i have a boyfriend weve been together for a lil over 7 months. we broke up for less then a month then got bak 2gether between our 4th and 5th month. well we got back together and were doing awesome! i have him and my best friend lets call her ashley.and weve been friends since i moved to cali...my dad is saying now he wants us to move to texas with him again us meaning my mom and 2 brothers. well i want to move. but i dont want to leave my boyfriend i seriously love him more than anything in the world. and i dont want to lose ashley eithr. they are my 2 reasons for wanting to stay...what do you guys think i should do? move backto texas and leave my lie behind. my life (my best friend and boyfriend) or should i try to stay in california. i also really wanted to go 2 UCLA and im the closes to LA as ill get... please help me... thanks

Well, it all depends on the reason for your dad wanting to move. If he wants to move because of a job..then you may have no choice but to move. If it does happen that you have to move..there are so many things you can do..long distance relationship, visiting eachother, and you can even go to CA for college and be with him their, you don't have to stay in Texas for college. If your dad wants to move for no reason at all..you may have a shot at actually staying. Tell your parents how you feel. Tell them you don't want to leave your boyfriend because you love him, and you don't want to leave your best friend either. Bring up the fact you want to go to UCLA. I'm not saying they'll decide not to move..but it's good you let them know this. Especially if you're interested in the college in CA..paren't usually love anything that has to do with education. But, all this may influence their decision. So, give it a try :).

Good luck!

Q: Okay this is going to be long

So I love this guy my parents don't like so I have to sneak out at night to see him. But my mom approves of my ex and i still have feelings for him but I'm now only his friend and we occasionally talk on the phone my boyfriend (they guy my parents don't approve of) don't like this. Wel when I was dating my ex I had sex with my new boyfriend and when I was dating my new boyfriend my ex fingered me. Well now my new bf is not talking to me and hes pissed at me and he won't talk to me at all. I have no clue what to do or say to him please help hes coming over tonight and thursday night because him and my 14 yr sister are really good friends and he promised her they'd hang out when he had a day off and I want to talk to him and have my sis talk to him but I don't know what say please help me.

I understand your parents like your ex better..and you may still like your ex, but you even said you love the new boyfriend. Well, first of all, you should'nt have let your ex do that..it would make any new boyfriend uncomfortable, and not trust you anymore. He probably feel's as if you have no interest in being his girlfriend. What you need to do when he comes over is tell him how you really feel. Sit him down and make sure he know's how sorry you are for letting this happen. Ask him for another chance. And, make sure you never let this happen again! If he does love/like you..he'll give you another one. You're also going to have to work on getting his trust back if he does forgive you. It's going to take a while though. Work it out!

Good luck!

Q: This is my story. It's kind of long.
I moved across the world, literally 12,000 miles.
I had a boyfriend who is Libra.
Madly in love, he promised to move here but he never did.
I understand why, because of money. I can't wait for him forever. He was my first love, first kiss, first time.
He treats me like a princess. I love him still. very much.
I realized that he will never move here. Unless some divine miracle took control. I feel guilty about it.
We broke up. I told him i hated him which is not true. He makes me very mad sometimes. He is libra.

I met this guy who became my best friend in the new place I moved.
He's funny, sweet, cute, and scorpio.
My mom was aquarius and married a scorpio, my dad. They divorced. My mom is harrd to deal with.
but we get along as friends. I think she gets on my nerves because she is bi polar. hard to deal with.
My dad is hard to deal with because he is a D-word. I know how to deal with him though.
This guy that is scorpio. lets call him. 'mr'
so mr and me became best friends and he lives near me so we hang a lot. things between him and his girlfriend werent the same and broke up with her.
he and i have very good chemistry, but he is a virgin. every time we get close to making love, i don't want to anymore. i just love cuddling. is it a woman thing? I want sex. i want it bad. but im not fired up enough..which is hard to understand because im 16. lets not get into this 'too young for sex ' thing. im talking about compatibility.
I found out mr made me angry because he made me jealous because a lot of girls talk with him.
we sorted it out. because i lie a lot too.
i heard its important to dominate in a scorpio relationship so i took control in the situation. I had him crying and breaking down. I felt bad about that. His friend tried to talk to me about it. Everything is good between us now.
but im wondering.
1.Why is passion so close yet so far?
( I want to make love with him, he means very much to me, we were best friends before this.)
2. I know scorpio and aquarius dont belong together, but is there hope since i know how to deal with them? (my dad is scorpio)
3. I know libras are better for me, but the fire kind of burned out from being distant. It sounds very selfish, i know.
4. Does it seem like it will all be okay in the end, or what should i do?

*also* scorpio guy and me are very happy whenever we're with each other. nothing could bring us down. we love falling asleep with each other. we can't go ten minutes without hugging or kissing.
the attraction between us is very very good. maybe the sex thing is my sex drive? *i finished my period a little more than a week ago*

Well!

Question 1): It's possible the problem is your sex drive, or maybe because he's a virgin it's a little weird? You never know. But the issue could also be subconscious. Maybe the fact that you lost your Libra ex still bother's you because deep down you still have feelings for him. It could also be any other issue, such as, family life, friends, work/school, etc.

Question 2): This link should help with this question. http://astrology.about.com/od/scorpiolovematches/qt/ScorpioAquarius.htm
Also, yes it could work out! But, just because he is Scorpio, doesn't mean you have to always take control before he does. If you have all the control, Scorpio's will, of course, not be happy. So maybe even it out if you guy's get in to a relationship or anything.

Question 3): Just because a Libra didn't work out for you..doesn't mean it should discourage you from ever dating one again! As you said, he was very loving, treated you like a princess, etc. So, that is a pretty good match for you. But, again, doesn't mean Scorpio can't be a good match either! It'll just be a more intense relationship.

Question 4): I definitely think if you guy's try hard enough..something could happen. But, Scorpio and Aquarius are not an 100% match. You might want to think it over before anything happens.

It's good he also loves cuddling. If you're sexually attracted to him, if you have feelings for him, just try it!

Q: im going to quit travel soccer soo i can do more dance. my coach always would say im going to loose you to dance one day. he like loves having me on his team. but i just want to do dance. how do i tell him??????

You have to be honest with him. Tell him that you know he loves having you on the team and all, and that you enjoyed it, but your real passion is dance. He should understand that you want to do something you love!

Q: i think my boyfriends cheating and i was wondering if anyone could be really nice and write down a few signs of cheating that could occur in a relationship that he might be cheating on me PLEASE! thanks so much!

-Become's distant..doesn't like talking about problems or anything.
-Ignore's your calls/texts often.
-He picks fight's with you a lot.
-He may even give you gift's or anything for no entire reason because he's feeling guilty (this is a maybe).
-He doesn't like you snooping around his stuff.
-If he talks about ending the relationship.
-If he hides new friends (like if you saw someone's phone number on his phone and you ask..he'll try and hide that).
-He'll change sexually (wanting to do different things)
-If he stares at other pretty girls for too long (this especially goes for guy's who don't usually stare at other woman much).
-If he becomes very moody suddenly.
-If he constantly wonder's where you are and/or what you're doing.(common sign).
-Or if you see the physical signs..you know, the lipstick on his clothes, hickey's, the smell of perfume, etc. This may even lead for him to take shower's a lot more often than he already did so that you have no evidence he cheated.
-Keeps phone on vibrate or turns it off at night so you don't hear/see anything suspicious.
-Another sign could be rumor's you hear..or even if a woman eye's you weirdly, and she's never done that before, that might be because she's the one he's cheating with.

Hope I helped!
Good luck!

Q: Hi. im 16. going to be a 10th grader. i dont know why, im just so depressed. there are always bad things happening around me.

when i was little i had a best freind, whos parents were freinds of my parents. we knew each other since birth, and we ended up liking each other and stuff. i dont know. but something happend to him, and he totally changed (we are thinking he was maybe raped or something.) anyways, i lost him as a friend in about ... 5th grade. that was the major begining of my depression. his parents then divorced (his dad is mental) a couple years ago and well now, his mom, who i feel like shes my aunt, is gunna die in 4 months of cancer. and my old freind (who i havent talked to in 3 years) is going to prolly go live with his mental dad who he hates..

then in 7th grade i finally got a bf. we were together almost 2 years, and then we had some issues, and he ended up being upset that we never did much, so he went behind my back texting girls (including my cousin) very inappropriate texts and everything. he broke up with me after i found out. that was DEVASTATING. it took me forever to get over that, and i still really havent. he says he still loves me and he was just fghting with himself and stuff. i dont know im not going back to him because he will hurt me again.

i now have a bf, tho i emailed him a break up (because i dont have his home number and his cell broke) and i like my best freind, who i've known for 4 years, and we are guuna go out. but no one makes me as happy as my bf who i dated for 2 years, or my old childhood friend who was like my brother and more than that.

i dont know if that relly has anything to do with my depression but i feel like theres no happiness in the world and idk why. im prolly not gunna commit suicide or anything, because it would devastate my parents, but i still dont see a reason to live, and i feel like im just here, dead, with no happiness. i try to depend on my friends to help me happy, but i cant because i feel bad that i depend on them, and i feel like i annoy them, tho they say idont. i just dont know what to do. i've lost all reason for life. i like music, but alot of it just depresses me. and it helps me sometimes, but i dont know. i also have a weird feeling of wanting to do drugs to get away from it all, or maybe because i feel like im on them, mindless or something. i know i'd get addicted too, but i dnot even know how to get any, and i'd get in major trouble, because im like... an honor student and stuff. so i dont know...

please help me. i just dont know what to do. and i dont wanna tell my mom that im depresed because she will worry about me,and also, depression runs in my dads side of the family.... so.. yeah.
just please help me

It seems the things that happen around you, make you depressed. However, the fact that it runs in your dad's side of the family is also a huge cause. They say things in life happen for a reason. Things in life aren't always great..but something I've learned is that you always need to look at the positive side of things in order to have any happiness at all..even if it's just a little. I understand death, and seeing your childhood best friend be in a bad situation can depress you..but this is something that can't be stopped. Unless he speaks up for himself, he can't be helped much. Maybe try getting in touch with him..give him a shoulder to lean on. He's obviously going through a difficult time. Your boyfriend, who you were with for 2 years, is definitely a little bit of the cause of your depression possibly. But, you must understand..guy's, especially when there young, don't like to be in long relationships because they want to explore different types, same for girls, also. What he did was no doubt very rude and disrespectful to you..but you can't control the actions of others. It is very hard to get over someone who you were with for that long, but you must try. If this guy really did ever love you..he would've never done that to you. I know you can't get over him that fast..but date other guys, and find someone who makes you happy, and I'm sure that guy will fade from your mind eventually. Since you like and are going to go out with your best friend..that's good..maybe it'll help you get the other guy out of your mind. I'm happy to hear that you are not considering suicide..that's definitely not the way to go. Not only because of your parents, but, because you're 16! you have your whole life ahead of you! No need to ruin it. And please do not use drugs..that's the worst way to deal with problems..I see it all the time. It gives you the high you want so you forget about your problems..but then when the high's over..you get even lower than you were before. Not a good idea, so stay away from that stuff. You should be happy that you have loving parents, good grades, good friends, etc. Some people don't have that. So cherish it. I don't think your friends are annoyed with you for any of this..they are their to listen. You are right though, you can't always depend on them. But, I'm sure they'll have no problem helping if you ask! I know you don't want to tell your parent's about this..but I think you should because they can get you help. Consider a therapist, or even a school counselor. This will give you the help you need to stop feeling depressed all the time.

Q: i was in a relationship with this guy.evrythin was goin well suddenly for 2 days they were misunderstandings n fights n he was like its better v break up.n well yea so v did.but i still love him.i want him back.he doesnt have feelings for me thts wat he told my friend what shud i do.i wnna b his gud frd n den i wnt him to ask me out again

Well I don't know why he suddenly changed..maybe he found someone else? You can't force a guy to want to be with you again. I know it sucks, but you're going to have to find someone else. He's not worth it if he can just say he has no feelings for you like that. Find someone way better! You can be good friends with him, but you'll have to casually start talking to him again and just try to get the friendship back. Is he ever going to ask you out? I don't know... I mean, if he say's to your friend that he has no feelings..then most likely it's over for good. I'm sorry.

Good luck!

Q: my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right?

It isn't selfish of you. I never actually heard of a guy telling his girlfriend about it but, you are both 15, of course he's going to check out other girls. Just like any girl would check out a guy. I wouldn't get upset about it if I was you..it's going to happen with any guy no matter how nice or sweet they are. Just try and learn to be okay with it! Remember: he said the other girls always lose compared to you. If you love eachother, trust him not to cheat on you or flirt with any other girls.

Q: okay im 13 and i kinda like this boy, and he
says hes likes me. he even asked me to the movies
he tells me hes gonna call me, but doesnt, do i text
him to try to start a convo or does it seem like he
doesnt like me idk?

If he say's he likes you and asks you to the movies..he obviously does like you! The not calling thing could be anything. Yes it is rude of him..but he could be too busy, he could be waiting for YOU to call, he could forget (Some guys do..), etc. You should try calling him and maybe even ask (if you want to) why he doesn't call you. Who knows..maybe he get's shy talking you so he doesn't call and is waiting for you to.

Q: at night its so hard to keep conversation go'n ....and i be so nervous because i dont want him to say imma call you back or "say somethingg!!"
i think about him all day , but as soon as we get on the phone, we would talk for 5 mins strong then its dead silence...... (he's 3 years older than me too)im 19 he's 22{that can smtimes be intimidating

Many guys don't know what to talk about either, so your both probably in the same situation. Yes..the age can be intimidating..lol. You can ask him questions about himself, you can talk about family, friends, school/work, what type of activities you/him like to do, what sport you guys like, what you did that day, funny things that happend throughout the day...etc. Don't be afraid to ask him what he wants to talk about either. He should think of things too!

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