I have small flesh-colored little bumps on my inner vigina, almost near my clit..Its not noticable but i can feel it with my fingers. it cant be pop or squeeze, because its like part of my skin. I dont know what this is? Can anyone relate to this or know?
if you shave your vagina, it may be an ingrown hair. if not, i can say from people i have spoken to that it can just be a bacteria bump. try popping it. and if not then just over time it should go away. if it doesnt or it causes you pain..see a doctor
hope this helps
xoxo Alyssa
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are these called anything? light spots?
http://18.media.tumblr.com/KfVuKL2EXlwec7jdlHca1EiVo1_500.jpg
light spots? as in what? like windows of light? lol im not sure what your question is. email me a little more specif details and i may be able to help.
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im the type of girl that always has a boyfriend , and i have been seeing this boy for about 2 years now, were off and on and he breaks my heart continualy, i try and not fall for his ways but i always do , and i really love him alot , and i know he loves me but we are also young were both 17, but alot of other boys like me and iam scared to lose what i have with "alex" by seeing other boys , another boy has showed intrest in me and has asked me to go to his prom, he goes to a diffrent school. and i always said that this boy was cute, but i dont know what to do , i love alex alot , i would do anything for him but this prom sounds like fun and this boy seems intrested what do i do?
i say go to prom. this guy could open new horizons for you. If you get to feel what its like to get out there again, you might feel like you dont need alex. i mean of course u care for him, but you just feel safe with him. put urself on the line, other guys that wont break your heart will come. just go to prom and get out there..see what happens =]
good luck =]
xoxo Alyssa
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I really tried to make this short. I clearly failed at that. Sorry.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. We’re both 17 nearly 18. Things were amazing for a while. I’d never been happier. But he warned me from the very beginning that he’s been diagnosed as bi-polar and depressed. I told him I would never let it get to me and I’d always be there for him and that I wouldn’t let it push me away. We’ve been having a lot of problems lately though. Just a bunch of arguing. Basically every day. I honestly don’t blame all of it on him. Nor do I blame it on his bi-polar disorder and depression. It’s really just both of us. I feel like he either wants to be arguing or intimate and that’s it, no in between. It really bothers me that we can’t have a friendship in our relationship anymore. I’m not very open with anyone but him. But I told my best friend about our problems and arguments and actually saying them out loud to her made me realize how terrible some of the things he’s said are and how mean he can be sometimes. So that night I broke up with him. (I thought I did, but when referring to it presently he always says “When you almost broke up with me.”) The next day I went to his house to bring him his stuff and we decided we didn’t want to be without each other. (That was about like 3 weeks ago.) The night that I “broke up with him” I felt so terrible. Like I had made a huge mistake and ruined all the plans we had, more then anything I was worried about him. He put all the blame on himself and I kept telling him not to. I was concerned for what he might do to himself. Most of his friends have abandoned him so he’s become friends with a lot of mine. I told him that I didn’t hate him, didn’t want him to hate me, and I wanted him to still be apart of my life. He just kept saying that I was contradicting things I’d said in the past. (Which is true, I’ve said that I don’t believe people can stay friends after a relationship ends. But I’d never experienced actually wanting to till then. And I told him that.) But if it couldn’t get any worse, I’ve begun to gain some feelings for a close friend. And I’m sure he (my friend) feels the same way about me, you can just tell sometimes. I’d never cheat on my boyfriend, I just feel so terrible about it though. I know crushes are normal, but I feel bad. I know I’d be upset if the situation were reversed and he had a crush on someone else. Part of me feels like we wouldn’t be together now if I hadn’t gone over there the very next day. If I had left some space he probably would have gotten very bitter and angry towards me. I also feel things would have ended up differently (This definitely makes me feel like scum.) if I had talked to my friend that I like in between our breaking up and getting back together. I think if I had talked to him he would have been really nice and supportive and probably would have made me not want to return to my boyfriend. And the fact that I even have those insecurities in my head make me unsure about our relationship. My boyfriend is definitely not the perfect guy, he’s very difficult. But I know I’m not perfect either and I sincerely love him. I just feel that I try more then he does. It’s just much easier to say “Talk to him about it” or “I think you need to end the relationship” then it is to actually do it. I tried. Anything I say he’ll always take and blame on himself. He’s already pretty heavily into drugs so I know he has the connections and that’s another worry of mine. I don’t have a problem with drugs or people doing drugs. I just don’t want him to hurt himself with them if he gets depressed or angry. I’m at a loss. I don’t know what to do or what to say to him. My friends and family are biased. My best friend will tell me to leave him. I can’t tell my mom all the details and she loves him, she’d just tell me to try a break. (Breaks never work.) And all my other friends know him pretty well and neither of us would want them knowing these details. They think we’re the perfect couple that never argues. We’ve been trying really hard to not argue, but we shouldn’t have to right? You shouldn’t have to try to not argue. That just doesn’t seem right. I’ve been sitting here venting to anyone who reads this I guess and I keep thinking THESE are the things I should tell him, my answers are right here. I guess my final question is, how can I tell him these things in a way where he won’t flip everything around and blame himself instead of realizing it’s both of us and we just aren’t working? Any thoughts on all the stuff above would be appreciated too. Thanks.
ok well. i think you should let him read this post. i actually tell alot of people this sometimes becuase you really pour your feeling pout here, and you said what you really feel and its sincere. let him read it =]
and as for guy #2 you have to be sure that your love it love, and not just a rebound friendship love, as in--im in a fight with my number one guy, so whose the next guy im really close to you know?
make sure your absolutely sure because other people feeling are caught up int his too.
and dont worry about your friend,like and love are two different things. if she is a real friend she will want you to be happy, and will give up her like for your love.
good luck..i know love triangle quadrilateral things suck!
xoxo Alyssa
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i have had some problems with friends in school latley and i got my unch period changed so i wouldnt have to be with those girls any more. the counciler wants me to tell him their names so we can all have a talk but my mom already tried and nothing worked. we asked him not to but he says he really wants to. they'll just make fun of me for telling on them because thats the way they are. even so the counciler wants us to do this. space fem, what should i do?
i think you should tell your counselor no thanks, that your not going to let it get to you. if he or she still wants to do so..stop seeing her. i think you should just plat it off like your really dont care. look at them like they are dumb for doing what they are doing, and are just plain immature. cuz really they are...
it should work..thats how the human minds is..lol
good luck
xoxo Alyssa
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17/f
i had sex with a guy and he came inside of me, and when i went to the toilet a whole lot of discharge came out, i don't know if it's a mixture of his and mine, or mine alone.. some people say it was a mixture of his too, but doesn't his sperm and cum go into my uterus and fertilizes my egg or something, instead of coming out straight after sex??
thank you!!!
ur fine dont worry! its totally normal. its just a mixture of body fluids coming out. discharge from you getting "wet" and him too. and maybe even some cum. yes when he came inside it went to your uterus but just think about it, its not all going to make it there, its just gonna be sitting there, so its coming out. ur bodys is just getting rid of some nasties..yoor good =]
xoxo alyssa
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
well, the advice given below me is one way to go, but i wouldnt risk it. it looks like thise relationship hjas a gash in it, and forgive my description but i dont think you want i to lose any more blood..or it will die.
you need to let him read this. if you have a friend that is friends with him, get them to give a copy of this to him. you have to lay everything on the table. stop beggin for him.. and tell him. ya know..say look..i love you, you are the best thing that has ever happened to me. youve changes my life, and i cant life my life without you. i need you..ans so on. SHOW HIM THIS MESSAGE! ..
but then if you love him, you want him to be happy, and that if its what he wants..u will let go. (even if it will kill you inside, he needs to know that ur not going to wait forever)
and if i may evaluate your situation...i think that why you were getting bored with him and wanted to fight with him is because you were inexperienced, you probably could get who you wanted, and relationships were easy, nothing you had to work for. he was the first time you fell in love, and this is new to you so you didnt know how to handle it. you were testing the limits and trying to figure out what this feeling was...tell him this.
he is probably scared.
i would say that after he reads this...you need to tell him to his fayce how you feel. tell him that whatever he decides to have the decency to say it to your face like a man. and then leave. let him think. if hes smart hella act upon it. gotta tell him its now or never. and your serious.
its tough girl i know..ive been in a similar situation..i can tell you about it if it will help you just message me. but i hope things go well for you =]
xoxo Alyssa
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me and my ex boyfriend lets call him (Y) were such good friends and then all of a sudden he asked me to date him. I said yes for some odd reason, and we dated for about two weeks. kinda weird, but i think i kind of used him to go out and party and just have a good time. and also his really good friend was my boyfriend before him and it was fun for all of us to hang out. But i felt bad for kind of using him so i broke up with him. He's 17 and im 14. and he was heartbroken and he was saying things like "i fell in love with you" and you were mi vida(my life). and just things like that but i just would apologize and say things like im sorry i just cant. and i started to talk to my current boyfriend(falling in LOVE) and (Y) started to breakdown. he wanted to fight everyone and when me and my boyfriend would be together he would be texting me and saying things like if you dont write back im coming to your house. and i would say look im sorry for everything and im happy now why cant we just be friends ? but he got shot, and stabbed and would be in the hospital for being stupid and getting in fights.
Now he has a girlfriend ! (thank GOD) and he told her hes still in love with me. ugh, so of course everytime she walks by me she gives that look. But i dont even care because im happy. and even though he has a girlfriend the text messages and calls still happen and it drives me CRAZY. and i tell him all the time to leave me alone. What do i do ?!!
thanks.
wow. looks like you have made this guy fall hard. aww..
but he does need to respect your boundaries. if u dont want to be with him you need to set him straight. tell him that you only want to be friends, and if he cant respect that, and only talk to you as a friend, then dont talk to you at all. as much as the threats scare you, you mat have to ignore him. you can live your life tip-toeing around worrying about what someone else does. if you really think he will do something to hurt himself or you, you may have to call authorities (just saying..i really hope it doesnt come to that for you).
tell him that he needs to stop, you dont love him anymore, and he needs to accept that. dont keep apologixing because that lets him know u have a soft spot for him, and he WILL keep poking at it. gotta show him some tough love. and stick to it! hope this helps you out..lemme know how it goes
xoxo Alyssa
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