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ok please read and help me out i am an emotional wreck
ok so my ex bf broke up with me in may of 2009 because of his parents were criticizing us. i guess he basically let them choose for him. we were together for 2 years. he is just as much a part of my life still as he was when we were together surprisingly. it was very hard to still remain friends i pushed my self to overcome that great struggle. i am confused wether or not how i really feel about him. for almost a year i tried so many ways to get back with him with little success. little things happend between us but i just dont see it as a big deal anymore because i dont know if it really means anything at all. i feel like im not getting anywhere with him kind of like im going in circles. he is not very good to me. he hurts me he calls my names in front of people. but then i just feel the urge to hang out with him. then yet he flirts with me when were alone and acts like he has feelings for me. last year i stopped trying to get back with him and im just going with the flow. i am open to other boys to i actually want someone that would be better. that would treat me good and with respect. but i still am open for him to ever come back. but the problem is now is that he might move to far to where i will barely ever get to see him mabye only once or twice a week. i am upset by this i feel like he doesnt care either. but im not getting anywhere with him anyways like i said its always the same pattern he hurts me he flirts then back to the same mean thing. i am not sure. should i let go ? i know i deserve better because he wasnt very good to me even when we were together but we had our good moments. is he worth my time and what should i think about this. i am also afraid that i might never find someone else. please help me
Hey there,
Some of what you have said sounds very familiar to me. You say you feel like you are going in circles, he hurts you, then he flirts and makes his way back into your life. That isn't a very good cycle. If he hurts you and you know it, why would you go back to him? I guess you know the answer to that. I am glad that you tried to see if there was someone else out there for you. Obviously you havn't been able to, which is why you keep going back to him. He isn't treating you right, he may be moving away, and you know you wish you had a better guy. I think you answered your own question right there. I believe you should let him go because the way you describe the situation, it sounds as if you are only going to get more hurt by all this. I know what it is like to have good moments with someone, but they just aren't the person for you. Maybe you are just meant to be good friends.
I dated this guy for awhile and things were going great, until he chose his sport over me. I had appreciation for what he liked, but he got a little too into it. I think about him all the time, how he treated me well, but we just didn't mesh and so it was best for me to move on. I havn't found anyone else since. BUT, I do believe it was best for us since we too were just going in circles getting nowhere. It wasn't worth the time.
Point is, you can't spend your life on one guy hoping that he will come back if he is not going to love you as much as he should. Also you shouldn't have to worry that he won't hurt you in the long run. I wondered for a long time if my guy misses me as I miss him. So I asked him. He said he doesn't. In my heart I knew he wasn't for me and I think you know too. Girls have good intuition. Some guys will just say that they won't miss you and they do... but for the most part, they really won't. Unless you have a phenominal guy, you are wasting your time.
I have taken breaks and stayed away to find out for myself if a guy really cared as well. Only you will know if your guy is really wanting to be there for you. I think he is just holding onto you cuz he knows you won't want to let go. If you think you can deal with the differences and zip codes, I believe you can make it work. If you know in your heart you should find someone else, then that is what you should do. Only you can decide what is best. Once you stop searching, you will find another guy out there; they show up when you least expect it. It takes time and patience. I honestly have to say, time is killing me right now... But in the end, you will know it was worth it when that perfect guy comes along
I need to get my freckles removed but idk where, how, and how much it's going to cost. I need to get at least an idea of those things.
Hey there,
There are home remedies that you can use, which aren't costly and quite effective. Here I will list the most common ones: 1. Lemon juice: apply to your freckles (may sting but you will know its working), leave on for ten min, then gently rinse off 2. Sour milk: put 1 tablespoon of vinegar in a cup, then fill the rest with milk and let sit for two min. Then apply to freckles, leave on for 15 min and rinse off. 3. Mix parsley juice with equal amounts of orange juice, lemon juice, and red currant juice, apply to freckles, leave for a few min, then rinse off. *after doing these options, you should use a moisturizer, for they will dry out your skin* 4. Sour cream: put it on your face/skin, leave for 15 minutes, DO NOT RINSE OFF, use a cloth or tissue to gently wipe off. *If you do one of these options once/twice a day, after a month you should see a difference*
Otherwise there are chemical treatments (bleaching, liquid nitrogen, lasers, chemical peels) that you can pay for (may be expensive). They will help, but give you the risk of infection, scarring, and other problems.
Personally, I think you should embrace your freckles, for they make you who you are, unique, and you shouldn't care what other people say about you. BUT, that said, I know there are people who despise their freckles. So, if you do wish to be free of them, here are some websites to help as well: http://www.home-remedies-for-you.com/remedy/Freckles.html
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Get-Rid-of-Freckles&id=333109
http://www.docshop.com/education/dermatology/facial/chemical-peel
I talked to this girl for like four months. We told each other everything, our deepest secrets. I think I may have loved her. She lives really far away, and I met her for the first time after the four months. We went to the movies, and hung out, but I was pretty shy. When I came back home, we never talked the same way again. Now she has a boyfriend... and I feel like I have no right to be bothered by it, but I just can't help it. She is literally the only thing I ever think about, and I don't understand why. I can't stop thinking about her, and I just want to get over her. I'm just so lonely now, and I want her more than anything else. But I don't WANT to want her. I want to stop having this empty feeling every time I think of her, and I don't know how. Can anyone help?
Hey there,
What you are feeling is what I call an "after love". Yes, it is sort of like an "after thought". When you have something in common with someone, you can talk lots and hang out, but it will only come off as a good friendship. Then as soon as that person is out of your life, you realize that you had stronger feelings for them. It is not uncommon for someone to realize what they missed, only after it is already gone.
I think you feel bothered because you think of yourself being in the other guys position and you haven't talked as much to her (probably) cuz you came off as shy that one day. To get over her, you have to: have no contact with her (don't message her or respond at all), get rid of the things that she may have given you, and find other girls/people to hang out with. Once you find someone you can relate to more, you will start thinking about her less and less and only think about/spend time with the new person. I know what it is like to feel lonely after someone you cared for walks the other way... find someone new (as hard as it can be) and you will be able to fill that gap you have inside
Ok theres a guy I like he's always been very on and off with me... He's told me before that he wants to kiss me yet he hasn't we've only hung out a couple times tho... I want to go to his work tomo and see if maybe he will walk me out after we talk or whatever and I really want him to kiss me! I kinda just feel like being like I came here for one thing and I want u to kiss me now.. But I know I'm too shy how can I get him to kiss me!
Hey there,
I think you have to show that you are interested in order for him to kiss you. Flirt with him: walk close to him, lean your head in towards his, touch his arm/leg, compliment him or just bluntly tell him "Soooo... I was thinking about that kiss" and smile. He should be able to figure it out from there. If he says "what about it?" flirtingly, tell him you thought he had a good idea. If he knows you are interested in him, odds are he will probably already be thinking about that kiss. It sounds as if he just wants to be sure you are okay with it. He already said he wanted to kiss you, so let him know it was alright for him to want to. Tell him subtly/boldly that you do and I'm sure he will be happy to oblige
Ok so I liked this guy he's a year older and I met him at the beggining of the school year.
I had a strong physical attraction to him so I waited for 2 months until his gf broke up with him.Then I started talking to him,through my friends who knew him.He was cute,funny,sweet,flirty,and caring,and little did I know he was the biggest flirt on this earth!
He would hold my hands,sit on my lap,hug me,walk with me to class,act like he was going to kiss me,compliment me all the time.Well one day one of his friends asked if he liked me and he said "yeah,I just want to get to know her better before I make it official."
And after that he quit talking to me,he ignored me!
So I got upset and left him alone for about 2 months,while he had gf afer gf.
So at a school dance we had he tried to make up with me,and he succeded.He danced with me and made me sit on his lap,nibbled on my neck,etc.
I thought he wanted to talk again so I went home,happy.Next week,nothing.
So I quit talking to him completely feeling hurt by him well one of my friends who hates him said he told her "I was ugly and I tried too hard to be pretty." Which is ridiculous considering how pretty he said I was and how I don't wear makeup so I can't "try" to be pretty.
So I was enraged I just couldn't stand him.Recently another one of my friends,a different one,who's best friends with him told me he said that he thought I hated him.So my friend and his also said "she doesn't hate you she just didn't know you were a huge flirt and you hurt her."
So he said "I want to apologize but she won't give me the time of day,I know it was wrong."
And lizzie told him about what the other girl said about me being ugly and trying too hard.
He said he never said that(come to find out she was lying about him saying that) he then called me beautiful,said he wants to be friends,and said he likes me but again wants to get to know me better.
I agreed to be friends but I'm a little worried that he just won't talk to me,again like last time.
So I was wondering if he don't talk to me,should I talk to him? And how could I trust him since he's a big flirt how would I know if he really likes me?
Any advice at all about anything with this story would be wonderful!
I'm so sorry if its really long I just thought that information would help.
Thanks in advance!
Hi,
I think he may of came off as the wrong way and that he really did mean to be nice. Your friend was lying about him and he seems like a great guy, so I would trust him for now. You cannot judge a person by one thing that happened, because of a friend. She LIED, because she doesn't like him and didn't want you to be with someone who may be bad. I think he is a caring guy cuz he said "I want to get to know her better". That shows that he wants to be with someone who cares about him and relates to him.
If he doesn't talk to you, just casually ask him if things are alright between you two and if you could hang out some more with him because you enjoy his company. If he is a big flirt, you could always mention that you hope what he is feeling for you is real, because you don't want to play mind games. By his response, you should be able to tell whether he is being real or not. Be aware though, for some flirts can play you. Get to know him, then decide. If you have the feelings, give him a chance. It doesn't matter what your friends say; if he is treating you right, cares for you and makes you laugh... go for it :) You will never know what could of been, unless you try
So, I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now...I'm starting to feel slightly lonesome in the relationship...we laugh and enjoy each others company, but there's practically no affection anymore...he used to be a lot more cuddly and kissed me way more, and now he only hugs me once in a blue moon, practically NEVER cuddles with me in bed anymore and as far as kissing goes, he only gives me a quick peck on the lips whenever we say goodbye. 95% of the time, it seems I'm the one who initiates sex...I know there's the whole "Honeymoon" phase, but I don't think it should disappear COMPLETELY. I know we haven't been dating for very long, but I'm absolutely crazy about him (And no, not the 'desperate, clingly' crazy) and all I want is just a little more affection from him...but I don't want to force it out of him either...
I guess what I'd like to know is if these are warning signs of any kind, or if this seems normal, and whether it is or not, how do I deal with it?
Hey,
These aren't really warning signs. He probably just has something on is mind or is more tired that usual. Yes, this is completely normal in a relationship. Things can always be great then die down after some time. You just have to work together to build it up again. If you want him to show more affection, you have to let him know that you miss it. Guys can be clueless and think that you are alright with the way things are going if you never speak up.
Tell him that you loved it when he kissed/hugged you and that you would like him to do it more often. He should be able to put in the effort to make you more happy if you do the same for him. As for the bedroom, let him know that you liked it when he was more adventurous in bed. He will want to initiate sex if you wear sexy lingerie, tell him directly that you want him to turn you on, or by saying dirty things to get his mind on the topic. Shouldn't be too hard (he's a guy) and once his mind is there... :)
Otherwise, if you want more cuddling and sexy, passionate kisses, you could always initiate them yourself. It can be annoying, but I'm sure he will get into it once you show him what you have to offer. Tell him you can kiss him better than he can kiss you! (jokingly of course). I guarantee you will probably start some action with a little playful competition! It would be hard for any guy to say no to a challenge :p Compliment how good he is at what he does, make suggestions, and if you have to: schedule a 'cuddling' day where the two of you stay in bed, watching movies, cuddling all day. You could even make a game where whenever you/a stranger say his name (or something random), he has to kiss you :) Get him interested by finding things to do that are fun for the both of you. Get his input on what he likes doing the most with you and incorperate them. Who says love has to be boring?! Once you get that extra spark back into your lives, things should go back to normal
18/f
my mother and father fight a lot. This doesn't really bother me. It's the fact that she always takes her anger out on me. If idobt agree with her, I basically am discommunicated from the family for a few days, till I apologize. It's not fair. My brother will get in trouble for something, but then I end up getting grounded. My brothers are afraid of her, so yet always agree but I don't anymre, because she is usually wrong. She overreacts and always will start crying and will sy mean things to me. Like how I'm stupid or she hates me. I don't know what to do, or what to say anymore.
I really need some advice..
Hey there,
I can definately relate to what you are going through right now. My mom would take out all her frustration on me when she is having a bad day/angry at something and I would get the punishment by having her blame me for things that I never did, just listening to her yell at me for no reason, and have her not listen to my voice. I would get really fed up with it, upset, and even be in depression mode for a few days where I just wanted to be alone in my room with the door closed. If I didn't agree with my mom, she just got more angry and would want to argue that she is right.
What you need to know, is that disagreeing doesn't solve anything... It just creates more conflict. So, what I did, as hard as it was... was shut my mouth, listen to her rant, and then let her realize that I needed to be heard. If you don't say anything, your parents can't make a counter argument and ground you. They just say what they want, then let you be. Then you can wait until they calm down (cuz they will eventually) and ask them if you can make a suggestion or if they are willing to listen. Just say "I would really like it if you listened to me for a moment" or "Sorry, I didn't mean that". As hard as it may be, if you wait until they are in a state to listen (calm, relaxed) it will be much easier for them to hear you. Your brother just gets his way cuz he is probably younger, thats how it is in my house...
If your mom calls you names, tell her to "please stop". If she keeps saying things, just say "I'm sorry" and walk away. It is not your fault that they are fighting and it is worse to be in the middle of a fight. Keep your ground, be polite, and eventually it will wear down. You are a great person and you do have the strength to get through this. If you need to talk, you can always inbox me
18/f
I have had my fair share of kissing guys but I'm really worried when I made out with this one guy I did something wrong. I haven't made out in awhile and I was really intimidated by him, and when we were kissing in the car I rubbed up and down his chest/stomach. I wrapped arms for a little and also grabbed/squeezed/rubbed his hips and pulled on his shirt where his hips were. He kissed my neck and put his arms around my neck, but I never kissed or touched his neck at all. Basically, I am scared he thinks I am a bad kisser or is annoyed that I didn't kiss or touch his neck at all. Is rubbing his stomach/chest and where I put my hands on his hips turn off? Is it a deal breaker where I put my hands and because I never kissed his neck/wrapped my arms around his neck?
Hi,
I really doubt that you did anything wrong. If a guy is kissing you, he obviously likes you and the way you kiss, otherwise he wouldn't have his lips on yours. Or he would probably pull back and tell you how he likes it/what was wrong. If he doesn't, just ask him how he wants to be kissed and I'm sure he will be happy to tell you. Any kind of physical contact, a guy usually loves. Him kissing your neck and putting his arms around you was a good sign that he was into the moment and felt connected.
If you are worried that he may think you are a bad kisser, next time just start the way you normally would and then part way through, if he seems unsure, just ask if your doing alright (and smile at him). As you may have heard 'every guy is different' so you can ask him what he likes or see how he reacts when you try new things on him. If he keeps kissing you when you touch him, he likes it. If he holds eye contact, pulls you closer, smiles, or kisses you more, he likes it. A guy will tend to mimick your movements as well, so if you like a certain thing, show him it and he will likely do the same to be in sync.
Where you put your hand isn't really a turn off or a deal breaker as long as he is okay with it. If he kisses you, it is only cuz he wants too! He may like it more if you put your arms around his neck, you never know unless you try :p and there isn't really a "bad kisser" for se, just a bunch of guys that prefer different techniques/ways. Find what works for the both of you and keep it going
So i finally got the guts to message the guy I like and we got past the hey whats up good, how ya doin great great part. but now i don't know what to saay. it's going good so far i got a few smileys haha but what do i say next? i don't want to end it obviously haha. thanks.
Hey,
After you get by the "Hi" and whatnot, ask him if he is free on the weekend or if he wants to go to a movie with you. If he says "not this weekend/time" say "thats alright, how about some other day when you are free?". If he says yes, then find a day that works for the both of you, meet up, and have a good time. If you keep talking to him, finding things you have in common and complimenting him, you will be sure to grab his focus
I told him in a short way that i needed to know how he felt .. He told me he never wants a relationship , and to drop the feelings i have for him ... So i acted very quite the last time i seen him and like he looked upset and sad about something .. and than now hes wanting to see me .. Ugh what should i do ?
Hi,
I think you should see him and talk to him about this. He told you honestly how he felt, then after you probably came off as having some resentment towards him so he felt bad. He wants to see you (likely) because he knows you have feelings for him and he wants to make things better between the two of you. Tell him that you only want to be in a realtionship if he wants to. Otherwise this isn't going to work out for the both of you. Find out how he is feeling now and go from there. He may of had a change of heart
I have had feelings for her since I became her friend. I have given her advice even when she was dating someone else. The reason I have not asked her out yet is because she is much better than I am in every single way and she hasn't ever seemed interested in me she talks with me about who she has crushes on even. Well I moved about an hour away but I might be able to move back. I can't breath when I think of her and I'm afraid to text her because I feel like I start sounding scary or crazy to her. It hurts to think I won't see her again. p.s. im a freshman in highschool and i am a guy
Hi,
I think you should talk to her. She seems comfortable with you since she tells you about her crushes. I believe she sees you as a good friend. Text her and let her know that you would like to hang out with her sometime, let her pick the day and then see if it will work for you. She is no better than you are, you are both human; you just have different talents. If you talk to her you will feel better. Just say things like "I would like to hang out with you sometime" or "What have you been up to lately". If you keep it casual you won't have to worry about coming off as scary or crazy. Just take a deep breathe and go for it. The only crazy thing that could happen is that she may just want to stay friends... and you could be good friends with her for a very long time
Me and my boyfriend have been friends since 3rd grade and we started dating since 8th grade we are about to graduate high school and he wants to get married. We both have refused to have sex with each other because we do not wanna risk are relationship with a baby . I really don't know what's best for him and for us . if you were me and you didn't Want anyone else what would you do .
Hey,
No, I do not think you are too young for love as long as you know who you are, what you want in a guy, and what you will have to sacrifice once you are in a relationship.
As for marriage: wait until you've been in college for a year or two and then see if you still want to be together. I say this because college is a whole other world. You will have to schedule him in, you will meet a ton of people and you will just begin to get your life in order. He will meet other girls and you will meet other guys. I'm saying that you will have a ton of options (mainly guys) and you might just want to see someone else. If after a few years in college you two are still together, making time to see eachother, only then think about marriage. College and careers can make a person change their paths. You two may be on different paths.. wait and see.
I am glad you don't want to risk the relationship with a child. That could create many difficulties. That said: you are still young and have plenty of time to get married. Do not rush into marriage with one person when you are just beginning to meet the world of guys. Expecially in college. You have known this guy for a long time, but you still have to be absolutely positive that you can and will spend every single day waking up to his face, exploring new places/things with him, doing his laundry, folding his clothes, holding his hand and kissing his lips after college. A ton of commitment (time, money, love) comes with marriage, so be absolutely sure He is the person you not only want, but need to be commited to for the rest of your life
I've been seeing this guy for about a year. I care about him a lot, and he feels the same about me. However, he is a little sexist, and pretty self-centered in bed.
We are exclusive, and dated for about 3 months but are currently on a break (still exclusive!) because we fought so much and titles just stress him out and make him feel obligated (and I must say I'm happier being what we are now than when we are in a relationship). But it still bugs me because I feel I'm not good enough for him, but he still calls me his girl. He knows it bugs me, but he doesn't like talking about it.
Also, he has kind of sexist views, he asks me to cook and clean, although I only do the cooking part every once in a while and he usually helps out. Cleaning is too much, but I clean up after myself. Note: we don't live together.
In bed, he is selfish. Its all about him. He doesn't kiss me, no foreplay whatsoever unless its on him. He won't perform oral on me, he said the thought of it grosses him out (I have great hygiene!), and where he's from guys get made fun of for doing that. He knows I don't orgasm from sex, but don't get me wrong I still enjoy it. I just feel like he doesn't care. And I've told him what I like, but he doesn't do it.
I'm not sure what to do. It's not a deal breaker, in all other aspects he's pretty much perfect. He respects me, he's proven he cares about me time and time again. But sometimes I do feel unappreciated and taken for granted. I guess I feel some resentment toward him. But I do genuinely enjoy making him happy, it makes me happy, and he also makes me happy in other ways. What do you think I should do?
We are both in college. And yes even though we aren't officially together, we are still exclusive and committed to each other. He is NOT using me for sex, trust me on this. And I don't cook for him that often either.
Hi,
I think you need to make him listen to you. Not forcefully or anything, but tell him when he does something nice and tell him what you would like him to contribute to be happier in the relationship. If he expects you to do more than him, it isn't an equal relationship (at least he helps you clean a bit).
As for your relationship in bed; he should at least give you kisses! If he doesn't want to show you the love, then he doesn't fully love you. Your guy should be willing to make you happy too when it comes to sex. He must be selfish (as you said) if he doesn't want to give foreplay and only wants the pleasure for himself. Your guy is obviously turned off by the idea of oral and if you want him to do it, you have to encourage him to try it once and see if he does like it. How does he know he wouldn't like it if he has never tried it? Besides, if he does do it, he shouldn't be telling his friends or anybody anyhow. He cannot be judged by them if he doesn't tell them. Maybe it is just his conscience telling him that it is wrong.
I think you should let him know that you appreciate it when he does help you (encouragement will help him want to do that task more), tell him that you would like it if he tried new things in bed (such as oral), and see if you can work out the kinks that make you feel the resentment. In the end, if he doesn't want to try new things or continues only wanting to make himself happy.. it would likely be better for you to find someone else. I'm not saying he cannot change, I just mean that there is probably going to be someone else who can fufill your needs and desires better than what he can. You said he is perfect in every other way... Ultimately, if you do feel unhappy with the way things may continue to go, it will be your decision to stay or leave
I've had this cut on my tailbone for about a week now and a half now. At first, it was bleeding and that's when I noticed it. I might've got it while I was cleaning myself in the shower and my nail slipped there. So, it's inbetween my buttcheeks and I went to the doctors a couple of days ago and he gave me oral medication and this cream called Mupirocin ointment 2% that I apply on it. Btw, I'm a 15 year old girl. Is it something that's dangerous? My doctor didn't tell me exactly what it was, just that if it doesn't go away I have to see a specialist...he kind of made me scared. Anyway, now I have my period and I don't want it to get infected. How do I reduce the chances of it getting infected? Like, what should I do? I wear pads, not tampons. Also, especially while sleeping since I sleep on my back and blood could get there. Any advice?!
Hi,
I don't think you should worry about the cut. It doesn't sound like it is a big problem. The doctor probably just gave you oral meds to keep it from getting infected and ointment to soothe/medicate it directly. When he said you might need to see a specialist he just meant that if it doesn't heal over a length of time, it should maybe be looked at by someone with more expertise/better judgement.
To keep it from getting infected, just keep it clean. Shower/wash as you normally would and it shouldn't get infected; being cleanly will reduce the chances of infection. It shouldn't matter that you wear pads and blood won't hurt it; you can just clean it off. Shower/wash/take the medications and it will be okay/heal in time
Long story short: I can never stand up for myself. Especially when it comes to guys. Especially my ex. We've had a REALLY rocky past. Really. He had so much power over me... I guess I let him. I was sooo whipped. I just let him walk all over me... Talk me into stuff... Well the bj. At one point he did physically force the fingering on me... But the bj he would say "If you loved me you'd do this..." or "I do things for you but you won't do this...?" so I did it... I hate myself. Why couldn't I just put my foot down?? Why can't I just have a backbone? And it doesn't stop there. I just let people boss me around... My ex still makes me feel small and worthless... And I hate it. I mean I am small... I'm like 5'4 and 105... And I have like no muscle... I am in a kick boxing class though! Haha... Buy seriously. I have such a hard time just standing up myself and I wanna know how... I get really intimidated because my ex would always used his size against me. Hold me down and stuff and I absolutely hate being man handled but it happens sooo much but when it does I can't even speak up except maybe a little "stop please"... Plus a lot of guys mess with me cause my ex told his baseball team who told everyone that we had sex even though we didn't! He also told them I was really easy and that let him "do whatever he wanted in bed"... I dont know what to do but I'm so tired of all of this... Please help!!
Hey there,
To start: there is a VERY good reason for why your ex got the name "ex" put in front of him. You deserve MUCH better! I am sure you wanted to be supportive, but it sounds as if he used you for most of the relationship. Him saying "if you loved me, you would do this" is total bullcrap. If he loved you, he would be patient and wait until you were ready. He shouldn't of forced anything on you. When you are in a relationship, both partners should give/take equally and most importantly: show respect for one another.
You couldn't put your foot down, for you probably felt intimidated by him. And you couldn't have a backbone, for he probably made you feel as if he was right and that you should do more for him.. but that is not true at all. You did what you could for him and he didn't accept that. When you decided to let him go, I believe it was the best thing you did for yourself... That took strength (see! you have it!).
As for your size, I am almost exactly your size! I am 5'4 and I weigh about 110. Not much different from you. What you need to learn to do, is say no. Even if your heart is telling you you should do it/listen, even if your conscience is screaming "just do it, it won't harm you". Think before you act and when in a relationship, say "no I won't do this" or "if I am going to do this, it will be for 'us' and not just 'you'". If someone ever is rough with you, get your friends to stand by you and tell him to back off. Or tell someone you can trust and let them know that "so and so" is being a jerk so they can help you get rid of that problem. It is so much easier to say 'no' when there is someone behind you.
Your ex had no right to tell his team that you had sex with him, whether you actually did or not. That just shows you how big his ego is and how little he cares about the feelings of others. He is lying to himself and everyone around him. If a guy really cares for you, he won't go telling his whole team (or anybody for that matter) that you had sex with him. It should/will be kept between the two of you. Be strong and say 'no' whenever you are in a tight situation. If needed, walk away as well. You can do it. Know that whatever your ex tells people, it is a lie and you know the real truth. Don't let people get to you; you should find what matters to you/is best for you and support that. Also, if it needs to be said: tell people the real truth. Speaking one word can make a great difference in your life and your voice will only get stronger the more you stand up for yourself
ok so im 18/f and hes 19/m
i dont know why this is confusing me so much but it is. haha.
so i messaged him saying
' when i see you expect big tackle hugs'
and his response was
' haha okies =] from you...=]'
its the from you...=] part thats really confusing me. what does he mean by that? is it flirty?
Hi,
He meant he wants big tackle hugs, but only if they are from you. He was definately being flirty. Plus, adding the smile means he likes them and hopes to expect them!
I am always really, really tired. I mean, I could take a nap at any time of the day and sleep for a couple of hours, easy. I usually sleep anywhere from 9 to 12 hours every single night. I always feel so darn tired and sleepy. Sometimes when I'm up for about 11 or 12 hours I start to feel flat-out exhausted and I haven't even done much at all, you know? When I was little I hardly ever slept, I had insomnia, and I would sleep like 3 or 4 hours at night if i was lucky. I was never tired then. Now I'm 17. What is wrong with me?
Hey there,
It could just be the way you are or how long you sleep. Sometimes my body tells me that I should sleep for 8 hours (by waking me up when 8 hrs passes) or only 6 hours (by waking me up after 6 hours). If I try to go back to sleep after that, I usually end up more tired. Kind of like oversleeping.. which sounds wierd, but it happens. Your body might need more or less sleep.
Another reason you might be tired, is because you are low in the vitamin B12. It is called the "energy vitamin" and you can get it in pill form or just get a shot once a month. I used to get really tired as you say you do, but I've been getting the shots and it gives me way more energy. Talk to your doctor about it and see if that is what you need. It may just work for you
When a guy cums when you give him a handjob does the sperm die when it hits the air? Thats what my friend said. That the sperm dies almost instantly. I was with my boyfriend and I was giving him a hj and I got his cum on my hands, but we didn't stop doing stuff and I didn't wash my hands and I touched myself in front of him starting like 2 or 3 minutes later. That was a couple weeks ago and now my period is late and I'm wondering??
Hey there,
To put rumours to bed: Sperm does NOT die as soon as it hits the air. Only after it dries out, it is dead. As long as it is still fresh/wet, it is living sperm (as long as you didn't just wet dry sperm, cuz sperm cannot be revived). There is a small chance your late period could of been because of what you did. But, wait and see if your period goes back to normal (it could just be late). If it doesn't, I would reccomend a pregnancy test, just in case. Better to be safe, then to keep wondering. Wash your hands next time and you will be alright/won't have to worry
I am 28 yrs old. I am living with my boyfriend, but most recently I have been thinking about moving back in with my parents. We starting dating in May and I pretty much started staying the night right away. Fully moved in after a months or so. June 15th he asked me to marry him. I said yes. We have known each other since I was twelve because he hung out with my older brother. Didnt see him much after I was fourteen or so. I saw him again when I was 22. I basically slept with him for a few months and then left bec I thought we were too different and that he would never change. The current situation is that I had a lot of doubt about the engagement...that he really loved me. Since he gave me his mothers ring, whom died four years ago (but this ring was from her first marriage which he inherited). I also felt that he couldnt possibly really love me, bec I have depression and lots of anxiety. He wants me to be more independent. Anyway, I convinced myself that he didnt really love me and gave an ex of mine a blow job. Granted it was only for maybe 15 sec...it was crappy to do. I lied about it to my guy then fessed up later. This was nov 4th. My guy is very closed emotionally. Just disconnected/distant a lot. It hurts, but when I tried to discuss this with him in the past, before I cheated, he told me that if I didnt like him the way he was then I could just leave. I love this guy a lot, but he hurts me emotionally all of the time. After I cheated he took me back. He wont trust me/holds it against me. He agreed to go to therapy with me, but we only went once so far. I feel like the more independent he gets the further he distances me from himself. I feel excluded, left behind. It's always been like this. I realize that he lost his dad at 15 and inherited a 100,000. He had no discipline or anyone telling him what not to do...so it's hard for him to relate to others. He just does what he wants. He has changed a lot with our relationship, but it is so draining. I encourage him, I let hiim do his thing, but he never encourages me or is there for me when I really need him. and when I try to talk to him about it, he gets upset. I explain that its not that I dont love him, I just would like him to be kinder sometimes or just give me a hug when Im down. He wants me to do all this on my own. What is the point in being in a relationship if the other person wont lift you up when your down. I know I have depression, I try to be positive...I just have a lot of pain inside that Im working though right now...and he cant relate...bec he's emotionally cut himself away from it all. He told me he's turning himself into a sociopath. He gets more disconnected with every relationship that the girl cheats on him...but its his lack of compassion and general consideration for other people feelings that make all his gf feel left out. I know he has changed a lot and we go to therapy in two weeks, but should I start preparing myself to leave him?
Hey,
He could of gave you his mothers ring since he knew it meant a lot to her and he hoped it would mean a lot to you. Him asking you to marry him was a big deal for him even if it may not seem like it was. When you ask someone to marry you, you are preparing yourself for a lifetime with that one person only. He had feelings for you whether you believe it or not. It doesn't matter if you have depression or lots of anxiety, what matters is what comes from your heart and he must of saw that when you met up again. He must of wanted you to see yourself as a better person when he wanted you to become more independant. He had faith that you could do it.
Convincing yourself that someone doesn't love you is like convincing yourself that the sky isn't blue or that stars don't shine. Whether you believe it or not, the stars will always shine and people will love you. Even though you lied to him, he still forgave you. Ask yourself this: if he had sex with another women, would you be able to forgive him? It takes a lot of strength to take someone back after being hurt the way he was. It is hard to regain trust once it has been broken. All you can do is tell him that you will be faithful and stick to your word. If you break your word once, he will likely not believe you again. He is trying to fix what is wrong in your relationship, for he agreed to go to therapy (even thought he probably hated the idea).
Sometimes, it is just a guy thing to receive encouragement and not give. Also, a lot of guys don't like to talk about their feelings. If they are upset, they usually keep it to themselves unless they feel it is needed to be brought up. Where you see a problem, a guy tends to see it as not a problem. You say you have tried telling him that you would like him to be more respectful. If he didn't hear you, he must have lost his interest that brought you two together. Respect and a hug is not much to ask for; a guy should be able to give you at least that.
There is not much of a point in a relationship if the other person is not inclined to lift you up when you are down. It should be an equal give/take on both parts. If he is not willing to relate, if he doesn't want to be involved in your emotions and if you feel your efforts aren't helping.. you have done all you can and it may be best to move on. I am glad that you are trying to stay positive through all of this, that can be very difficult. Just know that: anyone can love you no matter who you are or how you feel on the inside, sometimes love comes and goes in a flash (usually for good reason) and if you are not happy you should do whatever is needed to make yourself happy again. Be with the guy who thinks of not only himself, but the person he says he loves. Please let me know how things turn out
So, I'm wondering what to do for New Years. Last year was terrible. I ended up unable to do anything and basically had a really bad night. I don't want a repeat of that this year. What are some suggestions to do? It'll be my friend and I hanging out. I'm not looking for anything way out there, just something simple, but fun. Creative ideas would be wonderful! Please and thank you very much! (:
Hi,
I basically did the same thing as you last year (blah), so to make 2011 more interesting... You could have a movie night (classic): (bring popcorn, candy, drinks, tons of movies!), have a spa night (do facials, nails, hair), have a game night (find a bunch of board games and play till you won't no more; a deck of cards can bring up lots of games), make a prank call (call McDonalds to complain about their food or call someone you know that won't get mad), go for a walk, stay up stargazing (see if you can find all the constellations), make cookies, have a picnic (indoors/outdoors), go to a late night movie, find somewhere new to eat, go mini golfing (at an indoor place if there is one or in your house/backyard), draw eachother, pitch a tent for the night, think of random things and make it happen, or go travelling around the house/town/city where you live with a camera and take lots of candid shots (make a scrapbook later to remember all the things you did!). Go with the flow and have fun with it! :)