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im 15 and offered to watch my brothers instead of going out with my friends so my parents can go out. Its now 1:00 AM and they still have not returned. Im annoyed because its not fair that they think they can stay out til all hours of the night while i sat home on a friday night for THEM. If they were planning on staying out this late they should have told me. Honestly i have no idea what their out doing putzing around about..Am i wrong for being mad? How should i express how im annoyed at them? i understan that they are adults and a child has no right to yell and act like their parent..but im just annoyed with the lack of consideration i guess

Ya, you should definitely be annoyed. If they were to tell you how late they would be, that's another story, but they didn't. You have every right to be annoyed. When they get home, don't start yelling or anything, that'll get you nowhere. Just explain calmly how you feel, and would they please tell you how late they'll be or at least call when they're going to be late? Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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whenever i click the "my questions" or "give advice" the screen goes blank and i go nowhere. does anyone know whats wrong?

Hmmm, that same thing happened to me last night! I have no idea why, but it's back this morning, so hopefully yours will work later or tomorrow. They might just be having a technical difficulty. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Ok, My boyfriend and I got in a fight that got misunderstood and now my Boyfriend doesn't want to be with me anymore... I feel awful!! What should I tell him??? He knows it was misunderstanding but he doesn't belive me!! PLZ HELP SOON!!!

Either try talking to him again, or write him a note or email, explaining everything. Wait a little while, sometimes it takes a while to be forgiven (even if it was a misunderstanding). If he still doesn't believe you, I don't think he loved you that much (sry if that sounded mean). Because when you really love someone, you'll forgive them and trust them. Try looking for another guy. Just start flirting with other guys, and you'll forget about him faster. Good luck, hope things work out.
♥ Erin

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Okay, well I'll tell you what I ate first(yesterday), for breakfast I had a muffin(8am), and about 5:20pm (at a basketball game) I had some M&M's and a rescee cup, and for dinner(7ish maybe 7:10) I went to wendy's and got chicken strips but instead of fries I got a ceaser side salad. Well I felt perfectly fine until after using their ranch dressing on my salad and was joking around like gosh I probably got food poisening because I had a small stomachache, and today I woke up early and was super sick. I went to bed at 11, I woke up at 5 sick to my stomache, and I haven't been able to get to sleep since (it's now 8:15.) And I was wondering, the last time I was "sick" (throwing up) was at 7:11. I wanted to know am I just sick or could it have been something I ate? The only thing that's going around is mono and I haven't kissed anyone lately. Also how long should I wait until I eat, and what can I eat. (like crackers, or toast, or something like that) and how long should I wait until I get something to drink? I have gingerale and I have water. I usually drink gingerale and I usualy make it really fizzy and drink it VERY slowly through a straw. Is that okay? I'm kind of worried because my mom is asleep still, my dad is at work, and I figure I'm 14, & 10-15 years from now I'll have to deal with sick kids and right now I want to know how to take care of myself. I'll probably ask my mom when she wakes up, but I don't want to wake her up because I know that all she'll tell me is to put mats down so I don't barf on anything and to always have a bucket with me (I'm not stupid) and like should I try to stay away from my brother and sister, I don't want them to get anything. Also, I was supposed to go to a 12:05 showing of a movie, should I just stay home and see it next weekend?
Well, thanks for the help and sorry for the length. And sorry if it's confusing.

Don't worry, I think it's just food poisoning. But if you still feel sick tomorrow, it could be something else, cuz food poisoning usually doesn't last that long. I would suggest eating toast or crackers, I heard those are the best. Don't drink orange juice, though. When I'm sick, and I drink orange juice, I just throw up again (ick). Gingerale is good. Sip it slow like you're already doing. Oh, and just lay down and watch some TV, and try to get some sleep. You should definitely wait until next week to see that movie. Good luck, hope you feel better.
♥ Erin

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when ever i talk to a boy, i always talk to them as a friend. when ever i try to flirt i cant. how can i flirt more. what should i say?

You just have to compliment him all the time. Just say things like, "You look nice today." and stuff. Just be yourself, you'll do fine. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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I seriously hate him so freaking much! I dont know what to do anymore his friends like me as friends and liek they talk to me online and then he comes home and tells my mom like a little freaking baby! Hes so annoying he calls me names all the time and makes me cry hes such a loser Hes never had a girlfriend hes 16 years old and im 14 I HATE HIM SO MUCH and i cant ignore him he lives with me he needs to move out of the house!he drives but never drives me places and hes so retarded he thnks hes all tough guy when his friends come over and he makes up SO MANY FREAKEN LIES! someone help me please ! sorry for the length

Haha, some people have all the luck. My brother has Asperger's Syndrome, which makes him A LOT worse. He'll call me names and beat me up and steal things and everything. He's 19 and doesn't have his permit yet. The syndrome makes him act 5 years younger, meaning he acts like he's 14, but I think it's younger. Anyway, what works for me is when he's acting retarded, lol, is to just be nice to him. When I'm nice to him, suprisingly he's nice to me. Like, I went and got him a drink from the store, since I was going there anyway, and about a week later, he did the same thing for me. You just have to be nice, even if he's acting really mean. He'll be so caught off guard, he can't fight back. And if he's ever fighting with you, don't fight back. One person can't fight alone. You have to tell your mom about what's going on. Don't tell his friends he's lying, cuz then they won't like him and he'll get mad at you even more. Just talk to your mom about it, that always works for me. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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when the slop of a line is 12/0 (12 over 0) is is 0 or undefined? when the zeros on the top is it 0 or undefined?

When the 12 is on top, it's undefined and when the 0 is on top, it's 0. It's division. You can't divide 12 by 0, so it's undefined. But you can divide 0 by 12, the answer is 0!
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♥ Erin

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An hour ago I burnt my hand with hot water and it feels really hot and hurts how can I fix it>?

Ouch! Try running it under water for at least 5 mins. That's what everything always says anyway. Good luck, hope your hand feels better!
♥ Erin

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Hey, im having some friends over and were going to just have a girls night... so i was wondering on some ideas on gurly movies like Crazy/Beautiful, Crossroads... just gurly movies lol or any other really good movies you have to reccomend. thanks buches!

Mean girls is an awesome chickflick, watch that!
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♥ Erin

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what are crunches? and how do you do them

Crunches are just ab exercises. You sit on the floor with your hands behind your head. It's like a sit-up, but don't life your back, just your upper shoulders and head.
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♥ Erin

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is it safe to have sex with my wife when she is pregnant?

Ya, it's safe, but if she's over 6 months pregnant, then no, it might be a little uncomfortable.
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♥ Erin

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Ok i'm 15/f in 9th grade.
I'm in both of the advanced levels of classes here at my school and when it comes to friends vs. homework, i chose friends...

How can i stop myself from doing this? b/c my parents say i can go, so what do i do? i go

I need help b/c idont want to fail!

Tell your parents that you need to study and they CAN'T let you go with your friends until your homework is all done. Or make yourself a deal. Once your homework is done, THEN you can hang out with your friends. Just try really hard not to give in, I know it's hard. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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Since September, I have been friends with a girl, we are both 13. I really like her but I am very worried about her. Before she came to our school, her Step-Father, she hasn't seen her biological father in 10 years, threw her, her Mother and her sister out of their house and they had to move back here.

Since then, she has been cutting her wrists and talking about how she wants to kill herself. Recently, she has started taking paracetemol everyday because she says that she gets headaches and feels ill if she doesn't have any. She used to smoke and I know she still has cigarettes at her home in case she needs them, I'm worried she might start again.

She hates her Mother and yesterday she told me that her Mother is moving to another city and leaving her and her sister, who is 14, behind. I can't tell anyone because if I do, my friend will be put in care and she will never forgive me. No one else knows about all this except me and I am so worried about her.

I don't know what I can do to help her, I am going through a difficult situation myself and I'm so wrapped with it that I don't know how to cope with my friend as well. I have tried talking to her and telling her to get help but she wont and there is no way I can make her. I don't know what to do, I can't tell anyone and she wont get help. I'm so scared that one day she really will kill herself, she's threatened to so many times. What should I do?

Tough situation...
Well, you have to decide what's more important: losing her trust or letting her die.
I would tell someone, and trust me, eventually, she will forgive and she'll know that you did because you care about her, even though it'll take some time. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin

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i weigh 153 lbs and i would like to lose at least 15 lbs by this summer. i will probably do crunches. about how many should i do a day if i am doing them every other day? and how much weight will i lose by may or june? please help. *i rate all 4s and 5s*

I would do about 20-30 a day and them increase the number as you go on. By May or June, I think you'll lose about 10-15 pounds. If you want to lose it faster, try doing an equal number of situps and pushups. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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I really needed condoms, my boyfriend didn't have any. I didn't feel like going to the store to get some, so I took some from my brother's room. I think he noticed because he asked me about it, what do I do?

The best thing to do is just tell him. Tell him you needed them, but didn't feel like going to the store to get them. Tell him you're sorry, and you'll either buy some more for him or pay him back some $ to buy some. Good luck!
P.S. If you don't tell him and just go and buy some and put it in his room, he'll notice that there's more, so just tell him.
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♥ Erin

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I feel kinda dumb asking this but when making out do you keep your tounge in each others mouths and keep rubbing your tounges together or do you lick each others tounges then close your mouths and do it over and over again?

Haha, don't feel dumb, it's cool. Well, there's no real way to make out, just what you and him are comfortable with. I've never actually made out before, so I don't really know. You just have to experiment. If it's your first time, tell him that. Just do what he does, and you'll get the hang of it. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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I've noticed my mom acting very quiet and different today. I think that shes feeling depressed. This isnt accually a thought, its obvious. I saw that she got books from the library about depression.
Anyways, Im feeling quilty myself because I feel that being the 'teenager' I havent put enough effort towards the house. I dont think thats its menopause because she's only 40. but I dontknow. Also my brother is having a baby, its not that hes too young. But maybe that its scaring her that shes going to become a grandma?

Should I be feeling Guilty? It just scares me because I dont want my mom to be depressed..

You shouldn't be feeling guilty at all! And, actually, it could be menopause, because usually, women start between the ages of 40 and 50. I don't really think it's menopause though. She's probably scared of being a grandmother. To make her feel better, try doing chores around the house for her and just be really nice to her. Tell her that you're always gonna be there for her if she wants to talk. Good luck to you and your mom.
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♥ Erin

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my friend jessica is going out with some guy that is 27 and shes only 12(shes been sleeping with him too)!!! my friends and i keep telling her that its considered rape and that he probably wants her just cuz of her body and just wants her for pleasure, cuz what would a guy that old want with her? we tried to explain it to her a lot, but she wont listen...what should we do?

I definitely think he wants her for her body and for pleasure, because what 27 y/o man wants to be with a 12 y/o? That's sick. You just have to really explain to her that it's wrong and it's rape. Try finding her some new guys her age to hang out with instead. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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I have this friend and i always tell her who i like and she talks to him about me, like not in a bad way but in a good way, but every person i like they end up likeing her! what do i do!?

Well, instead of having her talk to the guy, just talk to him yourself! Because whenever she talks to them, they start to like her, so if you talked to him instead, they'd like you! Guys like it when you talk to them straight forward, they respect you more. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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hey okay today in the shower i used like tons of conditioner and now my hair is dried and it feels rrreealllyy greasy and like looks it too but i just got out of the shower and it smells like i just washed it to and my hair si really frizzy andi straighten the crap out of it.and i wash it only every 4 days do u think that the stiffness and greasy feeling will go away ?

Ok, ya, it'll go away. Just don't use too much conditioner next time, because I think that's what happened. Good luck!
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♥ Erin

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