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feeling a little guilty?
I've noticed my mom acting very quiet and different today. I think that shes feeling depressed. This isnt accually a thought, its obvious. I saw that she got books from the library about depression.
Anyways, Im feeling quilty myself because I feel that being the 'teenager' I havent put enough effort towards the house. I dont think thats its menopause because she's only 40. but I dontknow. Also my brother is having a baby, its not that hes too young. But maybe that its scaring her that shes going to become a grandma?
Should I be feeling Guilty? It just scares me because I dont want my mom to be depressed..
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It's normal to feel guilty. I don't know if you should be, but it's ok that you are. Just try and help out more around the house and make more of a conscious effort to be helpful. Hopefully, it'll get better. If not, maybe you should ask her about it and see what she needs you to do to help.
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Well, she's probably feeling insecure about herself. The fact that she is becoming a grandmother at the age of 40 could definatley be a reason of sadness. Not because she doesn't want the child in her life, because 40 is sort of young to become a grandmother. Try to help her as much as you can, like cleaning, talking to her, making her happy, not talking back(it's hard to do, I know.) Teenage years are always tough on the mothers. So doing that will help a lot.
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You shouldn't feel guilty because your mom's depressed, but you could be there for her. Try talking to her about whatever's getting her down. Maybe she just needs someone to be there for her and someone for her to talk to. She's probably scared of being a grandmother. But just be there for her and tell her everythings going to be okay.
♥ Krissy
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When my mom gets mad or like cries I ALWAYS feel guilty. Like maybe i should have done the laundry or helped her out more instead of watching television. So i think I know how you feel. Well I can tell it's on your mind cuz you already thought baout it since you said it might be becuase she's becomign a grandmother. You know, You could be right. SInce she's only 40 she feels older then she really is. My goddaughters granmother is 38 and she got kinda depressed too. Although you siad your brother isn't too young to have ababy maybe your mom had your brother young? becuase 40 is young to be a grandmother. So mayeb she feels guilty about havign her kid young. Well what I always do is help out a lot more and tell me mom to justs it down and relaz for the time being. So try to do that mayeb she's not depressed just stressed otu and this will help her. She coudl be streesed becyase she's excited about the baby. If things get worse talk to your brother about it. I'n not totally sure... but good luck. Don't get too worried it'lll get your more streesed out to.
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You shouldnt feel guilty at all because you did absolutely nothing. You should always help around the house, but you didnt do anything. Shes probably nervous about being Grandma and she might be stressed out from work or something. I suggest that you and your mom go spend some time together like getting your nails done or shopping, your something you both like. Just try to be there for your mom. :)
-Cali
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Menopause can start as early as 35 (yikes), but chances are she's feeling depressed about becoming a grandma plus wintertime can tend to make people depressed. She could also be feeling her age. You'd be surprised how depressed women get when they turn 40 -- or 50 --or 60 --
Believe it or not, you can help her so much by just being "a friend." Talk to her. Help with housekeeping. Suggest you go shopping or to the beauty parlor, get your nails done together, waxing, stuff like that -- you know, "girl stuff." She probably just wants to have a little fun.
If you feel that isn't helping much, you might tell her you're worried about her and ask her if she wants to talk -- to you or a minister or a counsellor. She will probably appreciate your concern.
Believe me, honey, it's has nothing to do with your being a teenager, so STOP feeling guilty. Hope I helped.
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your brothers having a baby? thats a new one. maybe thats why shes depressed.
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You shouldn't be feeling guilty at all! And, actually, it could be menopause, because usually, women start between the ages of 40 and 50. I don't really think it's menopause though. She's probably scared of being a grandmother. To make her feel better, try doing chores around the house for her and just be really nice to her. Tell her that you're always gonna be there for her if she wants to talk. Good luck to you and your mom.
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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