thanks for the advice but i dont think he would be creeped out cause he flirts with me alot and were actually not ne kin to each other.would you be creeped out.
If I had a crush on him, probably not. If I knew that he liked me back...honestly I would want to...but I may not just because of reaction from the family. But if you both are comfortable with it...I say do what you want to. If you think he would make you happy, then you should be happy. I personally wouldn't hold it against you. But I am very liberal. Your not blood. It is not against any law.
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I have a question that may sound strange, but tis a genuine question. I live in the UK, and I know nobody who supports George Bush, or even has a good word to say about him. He is generally a figure of hate. But I don't want to be close-minded, I just want a reasonably intelligent answer from somebody as to why they voted for George Bush, because I cannot see any good points to the guy at all.
Thanks!
My parents voted for Bush....sadness, I know. It was not for Bush himself, it was for who he had surrounded himself with. Mainly his cabinet. They really liked everyone else and my 'rents are republican....I wonder how I turned out so well sometimes...oh...wait...
I will add this just because...Bush cannot win another election. After FDR they imposed a 2 term limit to the presidency. - The 22nd Amendment...Duh! I can't believe I know that.
Oh and one more thing for the record....
The only bush I trust is my own.
[**Edit** I did answer your question. I did not vote for Bush myself, but my parents had. I told you why they did and in a way that any reasonable person should understand. However, it is not my fault that you are British and have no sense of humor. Thank you for you two.]
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i have liked this guy for like 4 years. he is only related to me by marriage.hes my dads cousins husbands son. sorry if that confusing. but ever since i have saw him i have liked him. ever since i was 13. im now 17 and still not over him. i thought i was and told all my friends i was but im not. last year i just moved out of state so i dont see him that much. i only see him when i go to visit family. and when i do see him i melt. can ne body tell me why im not over him? ill rate 5s. thanxs alot.
In ancient cultures it was customary for you to marry and procreate with relatives. Mainly brother and sister were subjected to this. It was felt necessary to keep bloodlines pure. (Royalty...geez) Since you are not ancient or royalty (if I am wrong...my sincerest apologies your royal highness...snicker... giggle...)You have the option to keep it in the family. If you really think that he would not be creeped out by his step-mother's cousin's wife's daughter wantin' a piece...
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i am 15 and boobs are very small what are the best things to us to stuff a bra like not buying one thats stuffed just what can i use thanks i rate high
You can stuff your bra with lots of stuff...
1. Peanut butter...not jelly it is too messy. Try to get unscented...it just works better.
2. Socks...use ones with holes. That means you are special. Very, very special.
3. Stuffing...just make sure you cook it first.
They may all be silly but it will give you the desired effect. Since you mention that your chest is small, if you stuff your bra, you will no longer look flat. There will be a so-called Britney effect. Over night you will have gotten boobs. People will notice and talk about it. Sadly, it is what they do. Enjoy not having them for now. It does not mean you will not develop, and at least guys will look at your face!
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=387836 (old question)
(New question based on old question.)
Okay... I figured out why he hasn't tried contacting me. (It is by far the worst reason possible.) I finally found a number through directory assistance, called it, and a woman answered. I was so shocked. I made up some crap about how I was from the hotel he stayed in and he had left his hat (the one he had given to me) and asked her if she wanted us to ship it back. It was the correct number because she said she'd leave him the message and have him call me back. She even knew which hat I was talking about.
After that, I did some research on the internet with the number I found. I am 99% positive HE IS MARRIED and has TWO KIDS. He lied to me, told me he was single. He had told me when we were together that his ex-girlfriend (what he really meant was his wife) had written him a letter while he was in Iraq telling him basically "cya, can't take it anymore." So I think maybe the marriage is faltering/on shakey ground, especially since he is about to be deployed soon and is wondering if she will leave him again.
HOWEVER, I know this is no excuse to lie to me and does not give him a reason to cheat on her. I have NO SYMPATHY for him. I am so glad I found this little bit of info out now, instead of wasting my heart on him. And he told me he didn't have any secrets. (Hmph!)
But I am soooooo hurt. Especially since I broke up with my previous boyfriend because of all the lies he told. Now this. Believe me, it's going to be very very hard for me to ever trust a man again. I feel like such a fool.
I'm going to send the hat back. I'm so angry right now. Maybe I'll send it back in shreds. I feel like screaming in his face or telling his wife what a &%*#%*$ he is. I feel like crying but right now I'm too much in shock to do so. I'm so stupid, but I suppose this experience will make me a wiser and stronger person... or at least an old maid.
Why do guys lie? Will I ever find someone who is not going to lie to me? Even if I find the greatest man in the world, will I screw it up because I'll be paranoid that he is lying to me? How do I deal with all this heartbreak?
People lie. They all do. I have, my mom has, my dog has (wait, he isn't a person..), and I am sure you have at one point or another. People lie for many reasons. Sometimes they are looking to take advantage of you, sometimes they want something from you, sometimes they are trying to save their own ass. Sometimes people just lie for the hell of it. Due to self preservation or just plain selfishness, you won't continue to live and never be lied to again.
One way to try and protect yourself is to get to know someone before dating or having a relationship other than a plutonic one. Especially meeting people online. You can never REALLY know who that person is. You can meet great people in person and online, but both can be deceiving.
It is a difficult lesson to learn, but it is a good one. You just need to take your time and get to know people. There are plenty of good ones out there. Adopt a friends-first policy (that is what I do) Once you are comfortable that they are who you think they are, then you should decide if you want anything more. Don't give up after two bad experiences.
Be angry at him, for he is the douche. He was a scoundrel. If you want, you could tar and feather him (I have always wanted to do that...man that would be cool. Maybe I'll find that stupid rent-a-cop who game me a parking ticktet.) But, you would have to find feathers, and find tar (just flirt with a roofer...) find a way to melt it, then go to where he lives and have him stand there while you dump it on him. Then run after him (because he has just been tarred...he may be screaming...) and throw the feathers onto the tar. Then you will be escorted to jail and we will all hear about you on the news. Now, you are not going to do this... How do I know? I have a sinking feeling you are smarter than that. ( I am not however...)
You should not say that from your two experiences that all men will lie to you. That is an invalid generalization. You CAN say (and should say) that men have lied to you in the past and that you will need to be more careful. There are people out there who will not lie to you. Like me. Heh, that is funny since my name is NOT chicken_flavored_eggs and I do not look like cartoon snakes. Sort of...heh.
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In health we are doing a project about heathly food and I can't seem to think of a good slogan. Can anyone help me?
thanks in advance.
....Ready?
I scream, you scream, we all scream for green beans!
Ham...the other pink meat.(hehe... that one is dirty.)
Cauliflower...not just albino broccoli.
You did not say they had to be quality. Heh.
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i have a problem my bfs a i guess you could say wigger. and im i guess a "rocker" im not all that into labels but ive been dating him 4 2 mouths and everyone keeps saying it wont last becuz we have nothing at all in common and latly ive been thinking about it to i mean we cant talk about anything and the one thing i talk about the most he doesnt like ((whitch is Rock music)) he listens to rap and i hate rap but i realli dont no what i should do i mean i like him but we cant talk about anything and he a little on the shy side and i normaly dont like shy guys (( dateing whys)) im so confused about this.
Being different is what makes knowing others fun. You don't want to be exactly like your boyfriend, although I will admit, having things in common does make it easier to be together. Your differences seem superficial (by this I mean the way you describe them and how critical they are to your relationship. Music preference shouldn't be critical to your relationship. Things like beliefs, views on respect, and what you want out of the relationship are more critical.) If you have nothing to talk about then you should not be dating. If you absolutely cannot find something to talk about, then you both should find other mates better suited for you.
Oh and just listening to rap music doesn't make him a wigger. I like rap, but I doubt that anyone would mistake me as one. I highly doubt that waving cartoon snakes are going to be come hip hop icons anytime soon. Maybe if they wore their hats backward...
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My boyfriend was sick previously for a couple of days. One of the nights that he was really sick I happened to be with him. I didn't leave him all night, I was constantly making sure he was okay and if he needed anything. He told me he appreciated this a lot. The downside of me being with him that night is that he got me sick too. So, all day today I've been pretty sick. You could see it in my eyes how horrible I felt. He commented on that a few times throughout the day. I constantly told him I felt pretty bad. He said sorry. Tonight I called, told him I was feeling very sick. He was watching T.V and was kind of ignoring me, so I just told him I'd call him back with an 'I guess' at the end- hinting how I wanted him to stay. He didn't.
It kind of bothers me how I was waiting on him hand and foot and not letting it bother me that I was practically a butler for him for a night, but he couldn't do a simple thing such as stay on the phone and comfort me.
Is this selfish of me to want comfort and attention from him?
I think you are justified. Relationships are SUPPOSED to be reciprocal. Significant others can be pretty selfish.
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Hey, I'm 16 and a junior in High school.
Anyway I have a hard time letting people get close to me. It's like it's hard for them to know anything about me. Like I can't let anyone get close to me without giving them a cocky or smart ass remark. I could just met the person and they could say "hello" and I would roll my eyes and be like whatever. Only because I think the person is going to get to know me and then turn around and hurt me in some way shape or form.
It doesn't matter who it is, it could be a girl it could be a guy. It could be my friend's mom! I know its pathic.
I wasn't always like this though It happened right after me and my boyfriend broke up. Me and him where together for 1 1/2 and I loved him with all my heart. But we had a falling out, he started not to trust me around guys, he started to pay more attention to being a fire fighter and putting things before me. When we broke up if I would say something he would say "whore" right away, if I was talking to an older boy he would tell me i was a "slut" if i wore a low cut shirt i was called a "skank". Me and him broke
This happened 8 - 9 mths ago, and since then it seems the "wall" around my heart has gotten worse.It seems to me that, that really changed me, and since I was hurt by the one person i truly care about. Since then me and him have stopped talking, and I lost a few friends because I wouldn't talk to them, I even lost my best friend in it. Also me and my own family are becoming distant, I have a hard time expressing myself now.
I'm so afarid to trust anybody, espcially a guy, because I think that they are going to hurt me and I'm going to end up heart-broke worse then before.
So my question pretty much is, is there any way that I can start to trust people and let people get back in my life?
*Also, please don't say go out and meet other people, I currently am, but I cannot let them get close to me*
Thank-you for ANY help!
You sound sort of similar to me. I didn't close myself off to everyone because of heart break...I just never had the opportunity to be open and let others in. The one thing I realized is...
You cannot control what others do. They may be honest, real, and great in your life. They may also lie, cheat, and hurt you as well. These are things that come with dealing with other people. What you can control is how you react to it. You can let all of these things close you off or you can pick yourself up and make yourself go for it. It is hard, it is scary, you are going to want to run (trust me, I have run away many.... many....times) but in the end you are only hurting yourself. In order to grow you have to put yourself outside your box. If you want, read my journal...its at the top of my column. I talk about that very topic. If I can't help you maybe it might make you feel better that there is someone else out there who is more fucked up than you are. Heh.
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um....ok im 14 and im pregnant! my mom keeps on asking who the dad is but i dont even know....ive had sex 3 times and with 2 different guys...the first one was some guy i met on the internet about 24 AND the other guy i had sex with twice and he is 49 yrs old....i know there is tests to figure it out....but i dont know where to get that...at a hospital i guess....how do i tell my mom who the guy is anyway is what im asking...its either a 24 yr old or a 49 yr old....what should i do!!!!!???? please help... i will rate with anything
You are gonna have to fess up to your mom. You are also going to have to wait until the baby is born to prove anything (As far as I know, they do not have paternity tests in-utero) So, it looks like you have an uphill battle on your hands. Also it is gonna be hard, and I mean HARD, to get those two guys to fess up to having sex with a minor. It is illegal and... punishable with jail time and possibly having to register as a sex offender. You are gonna need your mom, you better do it soon. All you can say is...Mom I really screwed up and now I need you. I will listen to all you have to tell me, because I am in trouble.
[**EDIT** I am editing my answer because I have just read all of the other advice given to you. What you did was stupid, yes...but you do not need to be insulted and judged by these people. Obviously, you were in over your head. This does not mean that others that you come to for help should in fact beat you up and curse at you for it. What you need are differing opinions on what you should be doing so you can make a choice on your own. Hopefully, in the future you will make smarter choices. Right now you need to talk to your mother and get to the doctor. You also need to inform those men that you are pregnant.]
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OK well i have this friend and ive been friends with her since 6th grade ( im in 9th now ) she has these annpying little things about her that tick me off soo bad like her laugh is sooo freaking annoying.a lot of people make fun of her laugh ( it sounds like shes having about 3 asma attacks at once ) and she freaks out saying my laugh isnt annoying.well anyway she is also saying rude comments to me like your soo stupid or stop being a bitch and then shell tell me she is just kidding.is there anyway i can block her out of my mind because its getting the point where i wish i never met her
Can you control you laugh? I can't. I doubt anyone had any say before they were born about what kind of laugh they would like to have. (I also doubt that if they did, they would say.... "hmm...I want to laugh like a donkey being told a joke by a funnier donkey" or "I want to sound like I am having an asthma attack so people will find me annoying and ask questions about it.")Being annoyed at someone for the way that they laugh...is...well...stupid. If you were annoyed because she always interupts when you speak, or steals the guy you like, or has a strange obsession with ham, that would be acceptable.
It sounds like she may be displaying some passive agressiveness towards you (she probably picks up on the fact that you find her annoying) She may just feel the need to defend herself, since her laugh is something that she cannot control, and people feel the need to make fun of her for it.
If she is saying rude comments, then you should ask yourself...what did you say to warrant that response? If it is nothing, then call shenanigans on her. She also could be hyper sensitive to certain things and you are annoying the hell out of her (ha, that would be kind of funny, actually)
Some people are not meant to stay friends. If you guys are so different and not getting along, then maybe you should split up amicably.
P.S. If someone made fun of my laugh, I would call them a bitch too, I just wouldn't say I was joking...because I wouldn't be...those bithes!)
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I basically just want to know what people think about this and whether I'm the one with the problem! Last night my male housemate asked me if i wanted to watch a film so i agreed even though it was about 11.30pm as i couldn't think of anything else to do. I started falling asleep in front of it and then waking up and not understanding what was going on so i decided to go to bed and i told him that. So he started saying how the evening had started off really well and now it had been spoilt and how i had agreed to watch it with him and i was breaking my promise. He kept sighing and just acting really unreasonably and going really quiet and pissed off. So i just went upstairs and told my other female housemate that i was not going to be made to feel guilty about not watching a film because its ridiculous. So he came upstairs and started yelling at me so i yelled back and it got totally out of control especially as all this is over a film!! So then he said that no one had ever upset him to this extent before and how he used to feel comfortable living in the house and now he won't anymore. Then i decided to go and talk to him because i dont like going to bed in the middle of an argument. He was just like don't worry i forgive you. So now its my fault!! WTF?? then he went and stayed at his friends house because he didnt want to sleep in the house cos of what happened. Does anyone else think this is strange? Or is it all my fault as he seems to think? I know maybe i shouldnt have yelled back but it really upset me! Thanks guys.
I would have reacted the same way. It was a movie, it is not as if he invited you to the most important event in his life and you slept through it. My question to you is... Has he been unstable before? (I used to live with a dude...just him, myself, and two other women... he got pretty psycho. He did alot of things for attention. Bad...things...) There has to be some underlying reason for him to freak out as he did. Something is bothering him and he has either not said anything, or is unwilling to do so. Don't let things go...you need to get it all straightened out. Don't let him blame you for being tired. That is just dumb. He - plain and simple - overreacted. He may try to justify it, but he probably doesn't want to look foolish (It really isn't that bad once you get used to it...I should know. Heh.)
If things continue the way they are, you may want to suggest him finding a new place. Don't let things keep getting more strange. I did, and my friends and I paid the price for it.
----I want to make sure that I say that I don't know your man friend. He probably isn't psycho and he is just looking for attention. He may also be feeling left out. If you and your other female housemate talk or do things together often, he may feel that he is the odd one out. That could also explain his quick anger and being upset about something as stupid as this is.
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I have a sore on my labia. My mom just asked me if I was sexually active, I said no. This is a lie, although I have never had sex, I have had oral sex and been fingered.. I'm so scared I might have an std. My mom is making me an appointment with the gyno. I'm scared to admit what I have done, they probably wouldn't let me see my boyfriend and I would be in so much trouble.
I'm so scared.. What should I do???
Well, if you do have an STD (and...well...it sounds like ya do...)then it was your boyfriend who gave it to you (assuming he is the only guy you have been active with)So maybe not seeing him anymore isn't such a bad thing...(after all, he didn't tell you about it, if he even knows himself. If he didn't know, then that is gross neglegence on his part. Being sexually active carries a lot of responsibilites. One of those happens to be knowing you health.) The main lesson you should take from this scare is ALWAYS have a little talk with the person you are going to be swapin' fluids with. Find out if they have ever been tested, if they have not, it would be a good idea to get tested. You never know. They may not even know, not all STD's have symptoms at first. Your health should be first and foremost on your list...
P.S Lying to mothers isn't such a good idea...they ALWAYS have a way of knowing or finding out what you have done (WTF is up with that anyway?). If you lie you just make it worse on yourself. Offer up the info. If you are old enough and mature enough to do it, you should be able to admit it also. Good luck, hope it turns out the way you need it to.
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i have these videogame cd's that have scratches on them and they dont work. do those scratch remover kits work?
how much are they and where can i get them?
all fives
These CD remover kits you speak of help some, it just depends on how deep the scratches are. Try going up to the guy in a long trench coat on a corner and say "The purple flying spider has eaten YO MOMMA!" He should not take offense and give you CD scratch remover. If he looks at you funny...run....fast.
However, those men are hard to find, so I would suggest Best Buy and or Circuit City. They shouldn't be more than 19.99$ But if they happen to be more expensive...don't blame me. Blame capitalism and the CD's makers for making CD's so damn scratchable.
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alright i need help..so i went to this halloween party and the guy i like was there and i hung out with him the whole time and over that times he kept kinda flirting like we were all cold and he was like lets hold hands and stuff and i was like my butts cold and he goes ill warm it up and he knows i get pissed when he talks about other girls cause he knows i like him and he kept doin that and being like just kiddding..i just cant tell if he likes me or not...
ill see him tomorrow so what should i do!!!
rate high for good answers! =)
Next time you see him...stick you butt in his face and ask him how all of the other girls are. Ok, seriously...just talk and be friendly. He knows that you like him, so let him come to you. If he is truly interested, he will do something about it. Don't push it or think about it too hard...you don't want to play yourself.
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My family has owned our place for sixteen years. We had to build it up from scratch- log it, drill well/power, build a house. My local county authorities have started a mandatory water meter program, in which it will become illegal NOT to have a water meter. I think the idea behind a meter is so that eventually we can be charged for water use. HOWEVER- we drilled the well and put it in and maintain it by ourselves...
So my questions to you are thusly:
1) Do you think it is right/legal/okay to be charged by someone else for water on your land that you tapped into and that YOU maintain?
2) If you were moi, how would you go about fighting this? (I am inherently new at this activism stuff. Mostly the most I've ever done- enviromentally-wise- has been feeding birds, composting, and regulary voting for the Green party.)
Thanks for all advice, ratings to everyone, comments and feedback to the best.
hmmmmm....Honestly, I have no idea. I think what you should do is contact a local attorney's office. They often have free consultations. They will probably know why they are doing this, and if you can fight it in any way.
If there are many people in and around your area, they may also have similar concerns. Talk to your neighbors and see if you cannot start a petition of some kind. It is easier to fight when you have support.
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just a quick question. i feel really dumb for asking this, but its been bothering my for a long time so what the heck. if you drink a lot of water (I MEAN A LOT) will it make your stomach stretch out and stuff? Because one time i heard about how those people who enter eating contests drink like gallons of water to make their stomachs stretch and able to hold more food. So i drink like up to 12-16 cups of water a day (4-6 bottles of water) to keep from eating everything in my sight and make my stomach full. but if it makes my stomach all stretched out than ew...does anyone know?
I used to work at a Mental Hospital. So did my friend Matt. They used to have patients who would drink so much water that they would gain 20 to 30 pounds in water weight. They called it being water drunk. It is a mental disorder, where the patient feels as if they must keep drinking water or they will dehydrate and die (or something to that effect) they ended up literally drowning their bodies. Anyway... You drink the recommended 8 glasses of water a day so you will be fine. The amount of water you are drinking will not make you look like Homer Simpson. But, if you drink that much water and then run or sit, you can hear it swishing around in your stomach. (It's cool and gross at the same time try doing sit ups after drinking that much water....you'll see what I mean) Oh, yeah...point being that amount of water will not, and one more time for staying power...will not stretch out your stomach.
But, you must pee...ALOT.
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my questions are simple.
I'd like to see your opinion on my latest moral quandry. hypothetically put yourself in the shoes of a soldier in iraq or afghanistan, you have the fortitude to engage and destroy the average insurgent with whatever weapon you can grab, be it a bayonet, or a mark 19 grenade launcher. you are on patrol in the streets of samarra or some other craphole city, and some 12 year old boy comes around the corner with a PKM(russian assault rifle) and opens up on your squad.
1: would you open fire with the intent to destroy the target, or to injure and disarm?
2:is it right, in a moral sense, to shoot and kill this kid?
those of you who instantly say no are missing the point of this exercise. use quotes if you feel the need.
you fellas that like to act like a box of rubber dicks, please contribute.
you normal civilians are welcome to answer, i just like to let those specific groups know that their opinion, no matter how depraved, is still valuable.
thank you for your time and patience.
-gunner
Being a normal civilian and having a box of rubber dicks, I feel that should answer your question.
If I were in that situation, it is killed or be killed. It does not matter if he is 12 or not. In Iraq and Afghanistan they use women and children as weapons to kill. These people are mostly willing to do so (if not completely willing). I cannot say that it would not seriously fuck me up, but I would kill him. "It's either my life or yo life, and I ain't leavin' I like breathin'" (Dr. Dre "The Watcher", The Chronic 2001)
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i like this guy, hes 17, and he has a gf. i was hanging out with my friends yesterday and he was there, i new him from lik 3 years a go because i tired to get the hook up with him, but he ended up going out with my best friend, and that was totally kool wit me. and now 3 years lata i see him. and i didnt reconize him. but then i relized it was him and me and him were ahngin out. well him and his 2 friends had to leave, and he asked if i woudl walk him out to his car so i was lik yea. i did and we walked up the street a lil, and he asked for my number i gave it too him and he said that him and his friends made a bet that he couldnt kiss a girl tonight, so he asked for a kiss and i gave him a kiss, and we made out a lil, not people are saying im a slut because i made out with a guy that i liked but i wasnt goin out with him, and they said it was stupid of me because i new it was a bet, well i new it was a bet and i dont really mind bcuz it was a win win situation, i got a kiss and he won the bet i dont understand the big deal is. y would ppl call me a slut ad stuff just because i kissed him? wats the big deal?
The big deal is that you made out with a guy who has a girlfriend. You knew that before hand and still took the opportunity to get on him. While that does not make you slut, it does not reflect highly on you. It also reflects badly on him (even if he is proud that he got another girl to makeout with him despite being taken) because he indeed cheated on his girl, for a bet. I call bad form on you both.
It is not a win-win situation because you forgot about one person...his girlfriend. Surely, if you were on the otherside of the situation you would think it was a big deal and would probably be very hurt.
Slut is used as an umbrella term that covers a whole wide range of actions. I would bet that you don't want the reputation of being a girl who goes around kissing others boyfriends.
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how do you make out?
Well...I don't exactly know the ingredients you would need... but there is an easier way...
You can remove the sh from shout.
There you go, instant out.
I am getting a 1 for this aren't I?
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