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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

Much love, Teza

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guys girls how can i tell when a girl is a virgin? its it true that when virgins have sex for the first time they bleed?

Unless you're going to have sex with the girl, you can't tell she is a virgin. When they are and it's their first time, their hymen will break so yes it's true about the bleeding part. It only happens once thought.

is it true that when girls play hard to get that guys like that girl more ??

I don't think it's true. A lot of guys are different and they like different things. If a guy is really interested in a girl and she is doing that, he might like it only because he really likes her. Besides that, it's not very true.

how do you put a tampon on? are they uncomfortable and hard to put on because I love to swim and I don't want to not be able to swim just because I have my period and I'm not usually the kind of person who sticks things up there..if you know what i mean. will it ever get stuck up there??

I really don't know how to explain on how to insert a tampon in correctly so I'll give you a good website. http://www.ehow.com/how_1185_insert-tampon.html It's nothing dirty or discusting so don't worry. If you put the tampon in the wrong way, it will feel uncomftrable, but if it's in right you can't really feel it. You can swim in them and do anything so don't worry about leaking. If you push the tampon in really high up and if the string is gone, there is a chance it might get stuck but that is really rare.

well, I like this kid in my chorus class. He found out I like him because he could "tell" but I have to play juliet and he's romeo and I dont know how to act around him anymore he's acting like nothing happened which relieved me but I still dont know what to say or do.
Ill rate high

Since he's not making it a big deal maybe you should try and relax a little bit about it. He doesn't really care and he just wants everything to be normal. Act like you did before and just act normal.

how do you take a tampon out?

You know that little peace of string that's on the bottom of the tampon? Well find it and grab it and then pull it out.

Is it true if i lost between 5&10 pounds.
my bra size (36c) would onyl shrink a tad bit?
Im 13, and I'm 5'0ft if that makes any difference.

It's different for everyone but when you lose about 10-12 pounds you go down a size. Your boobs won't shrink if you lose 5 pounds and even if you do it's just the fat you're losing. They will grow as you get older so no worries. :]

Okayy i wrote a letter to my best friend who is 14/m and iam 16/f and i've known him for about a year and i'm kinda starting to fell in love with him but i have that funny feeling in my somtuch when you get the "butterfilies" thats mean you are in love right? But anways i wrote him a letter and in the letter it really expressed my feelings and the way i like him and i wondered if i give him the letter do you think he would ask me out? But i have a funny feeling if we do but the problem is that we never hang out we live close to eother but we go to differnet schools its hard tho i really need to spend time with him but the only time we spend time together is on feild trips which it happends often not alot it kinda bugs me. But whenever i ask him to hang out hes like i can't because i have something he waits for the last mintue it gets on my nevrous but i really like himm how can i handle this?

When you get that feeling with butterflies it doesn't really mean that you're in "love". It means you care about him and that you like him. It's good that you wrote him a letter and expressed your feelings but just because you did doesn't mean he will ask you out, at least not right away. You don't know how he feels and he might feel different from you. He might not want to risk the friendship that you have. He might also be glad that you told him, but that doens't matter.. just think happy thoughts. :] Anyways, since you guys don't see each other much, you should make time and plans to do so. At times he will be busy and you just have to accept that, but whatever he is doing just be his friend and be there for him. He will know how much you care and that you're there for him. Give it some time and see if your relationship will develop into something more.

what does it mean if someone is two-faced? thanks!

When someone is two-faced it means they're fake. Like they might pretend to friends with someone and then they go to someone else and talk all smack on them.

well im getting an ipod nano on my bday (friday) and i really dont know what color to get! black or white? and i really dont want to pay 1$ for every song i download so is there any website to download them for free? (virus free, and doesnt make ur computer slow.) alsoo.. (haha sry 4 all these questions i dont really kno much about them) what gb should i get? i know 1GB is only 150$ which isnt really expensive but it only holds like 240 songs or something.. so what one should i get? should i stick to the 1GB or get another 1? (not 2 expensive) 1 MORE QUESTION hehe how do you delete songs on it? haha thanx a lot

Which ever color you like better you should get it. I got the video iPod and it hold about 5,000 songs and each GB hold about 250 songs so you should get maybe 4? Mine is white and I like it a lot more than black but then again black is cute too. You can download free songs at Limewire. When you get an iPod all the directions will come with it so I'm not going to explain everything. Anyways, Limewire doesn't cause viruses. Your songs are going to be on iTunes so you can delete them off there. If I were you I'd get the iPod video.. I love mine! It's awesome, can hold a lot of songs, in color, you can put pictures, movies, videos, games.. and it's about $320.

hey does anyone know if hollister sells jeans in the size double 0? thanks!

No they don't. Their sizes are actually weird.. like you can be a 0 at one store and a 3 at Hollister.

Probly wrong subject sorry about that.

I asked a question on here about my weight and i got that im not over weight by all but one person and so im going to attempt a diet.

I started 3 days ago. lol well ive cut down on the snack foods and alot of food all together. And its fine i guess But i have no idea what i can and cannot eat. Do i count calories or saturated fat.?

Also i drink alot of soda and i probly can't give it all up. I can maybe make it one or two a day but i dont think not drinking them is a choice. Unless there is something better out there.

And exercises i live in maine so im not up to running around outside and i dont have exercises machines at home so anything i could do in the house to help me out a little bit?

Any websites would be nice but easy to read ones would be nice.

Thhx in advance.

I hate the word diet!! It means you can't have this, you can't have that and that's not how you loose weight. You should still eat your normal foods in smaller porportions. Of course you should know that fried foods,junk food,sweets,fats and such are all bad for you so you want to have less of that. It would be good if you counted your calories. Do you know how much you ate before. Around 3,000 or what? Well, you should try going down to about 1500-2000 calories a day. You need to burn more calories than you take in so exercise!! Walk for about an hour, run, do whatever you like but make sure you try and do it every day. Soda is bad, but swich to diet soda. It doesn't have as much calories as regular. I used to like soda but then I swiched to flavored water and I got lemon lime and it had sodium in it so it tasted like soda. I love water so I drink a lot of it and juices .. but not with all that sugar in it. I hate vegtables but I made myself things that are actually good and healthy at the same time. Since you don't have a tredmill at home, try going outside. I mean it won't hurt you. If you have a dog.. walk it. Any activity really but walking would be the best. You can go to www.toneteen.com It's one of the best websites about fitness I found and it's really helpful. There are exercises that you can do at home and even some food tips. Good luck with everything.

well right now my hair is short and blonde heres the pic: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a92/Linds1819/121212.jpg but it has more blodn highlites in it now

would it look bad this color? :http://photobucket.com/albums/a92/Linds1819/?action=view¤t=yuvthishaircolor.jpg

with maybe bleach blonde highlites over it or underneath? orrr dark brown underneath? thankss

I think that color is really cute and you should do it. Blonde highlights on top would look even better.. if I were to re-do my hair I would do it. Good choice. :o]

ok so lately ive been trying to loss weight...and itz kinda working. ive been losing about 3 pounds a week. i am proud of myself for doing that. but that thing is, itz not showing. every sunday i weigh myself, and a measure how wide my stomach is ( like i measure around my whole stomach). i have only lost like 1/2 of an inch, but at the same time i have lost 3 pounds. what else can i do besides eat healthy and excercise to lose inches. also, do you have some easy exercise tips or ideas. female 12. i rate high if your answer works. THANKS

3 pounds a week is great! 10-12 pounds is a pants size and you won't see results right away. You have to keep working at it. If you loose about 10 lbs. you are probablly going to go down a pants size. Just give yourself some time and if you keep doing great like you are now you will see results soon. You can go to www.toneteen.com and go on health and it will tell you exercises for every part of the body. It's great and it's not hard at all!

Im 13 Female, And Im the 7th grade. Im moving soon, really soon. Im finshing off the 7th grade in the current state that i live in then moving out of it to one thats only 2 hours away. Around here Middle school is 6-8 and see once i move I'll be an 8th grader to a new school, with new people. Im really scared, And Im afraid to face the fact that im leaving everything behind for the better (Where i live now is drug filled and trashed what you'd consider the brighter side og the ghetto since its not that bad as a ghetto) Im scared to move, my mom is pressuring me to start packing my room and I dont want to. I dont want to move, I dont want to leave everything thats always been my comfort. I know moving is for the better, but how can i convice myself that it really truely be a better place for me? or atleast not be so scared. I RATE!

I kind of know what you're going through. You have it much easier than I did. I used to live in Europe and when I moved I was 8 years old. Well, down there I had my whole family, my friends, my house, and I spoke a different language and that was my comfort zone and of course I didn't want to move across the world! The thing is, I had no choice and even though I was 8 years old, I knew I had to start acting a little bit more mature about the situation because no matter how much I cried I knew I had to move. Well when I came to St.Louis of course I didn't know anyone, I didn't know English and I was starting 3rd grade. I had to learn the language, make new friends, & get used to the school and my new house. It was hard for me but then I went to 4 other schools and had to keep making new friends. You are going to be fine and it's for your own good. Your mom wants what is best for you so just do what she says and you can start a better life once again and make tons new friends! It's okay to be nervous and scared, but you will get used to the place and everything but just give it time. You'll think back and be glad that you moved. You have it good and just relax and look forward to all new things. Good luck hun!

hey guys i need some halp me and my x-girl friend are going to a school dance tonight well i like her alot but i broke up with her the last time because she was really controlling and did not want me to go any where or do any thing like on new years i wanted to go to a party with some of my friends and she did not want me to go she thought that i should go to the movies with her well it is new years you should be hangin out with you friends right? so i dont know if i should go back out with her or not can u give me so advice

It's always good to give someone another chance. No girl or boy should ever control the relationship and/or the person. If you really like her and want to try again, ask her back out. Make sure you talk to her before going out with her and let her know how you feel about it. If she really likes you she would trust you not to do anything stupid and so you won't hurt her. You have to say those things to her so she knows you like her and so she can trust you with other people.

I need to lose about 10 pounds really fast. It is SO important that I do. To loose this weight in 2 weeks or less what do I have to do? I am desperate, please help me. Please keep in mind I am 14, female, 140 lbs, and go to school everyday. Obviously no diet pills. Thank you so much this is very important.

It's not really possible to loose that much weight in 2 weeks. The healthiest and safest way is to loose about 2-3 pounds a week. Starving yourself won't do you ANY good what so ever but eating healthier and exercising sure will. I'm not just saying that to sound smart but seriously. It also doesn't mean you have to go on any diets to loose weight. You can still eat your normal foods but you also have to know what's good for you and what's not. Of course you know that junk food, fast food, fried, oils, sweets and fats are all bad. Eat a smaller porportion. Eat 3 meals a day and have snacks. By snacks I mean fruit, non fat yogurts, a small peace of cake, handful of chips. Drink diet soda because it has less calories and drink tons of water because it's really healthier. The key to losing weight is to burn more calories than you take in. So try eating about 1,500-2,000 calories a day and exercise for about an hour and walking really will help you. Do crunches and if you stick to this you will see results fast. I'm not making this up because I do this and it works for me.

I know that people say you are too young to be in love. But does that mean I can't tell my boyfriend that I love him?

13/F

Thanks so much !!

You can still tell your boyfriend you love him but .. it just bothers me when people say I love you without meaning it. I always said it to please the guy .. but of course I didn't mean it but I did care about him and I guess he knew. Just because you are young does not mean you can't be in love and you're right about that but most of us just take the relationship way to serioualy and just say you are in love and this and that and when you break up.. guess what, you guys never loved each other. So anyways, what I'm trying to say is that if you really like your boyfriend you can still tell him you love him. It's one of those boyfriend girlfriend things. You say love ya in the end of every conversation and it just prooves that they like you. Do you get what I'm saying? Lol.

How can you tell if he actually likes you?

Most of the time you can't tell if he does or doesn't. Most people tend to flirt with out noticing and when they flirt it doesn't mean they like the person. The best thing would be to ask him. I know you might not want to and you might be embarassed about it, but how would you be for sure if he likes you or not. It's better to take the chance and ask than wondering. Telling a friend to ask for you isn't always the best idea. Most guys like girls with confidence and they like when they tell them in person. If you don't want to tell him and if you're shy about it then maybe you could have a close friend ask.

I have a new hamster. When she is on her wheel, it is really loud. It is keeping everyone up and I was wondering if there was anything I can do. I am going to try to find a different wheel, but I am not sure if there are any quiet ones out there. Does anyone know what I can do for right now, until I can find a new wheel?

Thanks!

When I had my hamster she was always on the wheel in the middle of the night and it always woke me up! I didn't change her wheel but I did the same thing that the previous columnists said. I put vegtable oil on the bottom of the wheel and it didn't make noise. But before you get a new wheel you can also try putting the cage into a different room? Hamsters are usually active at night and sleep during the day.

Hey all. I was wondering if you guys thought I made a smart choice. Here it is: for freshman year, I am not continuing Spanish and going to Spanish 2 Honors, but instead I'm taking Italian 1 because I think it's different and a beutiful language. Please tell me if you think I made a smart choice. Thanks!

I think you made a good decision. I personally think that Spanish is a pretty rare language, but everyone takes it because it's easy and common. If we had Italian, I would defenetly choose it because it's different and I love Italy! Whatever you like more and feel happy about, then you made the right choice.

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