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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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K so my cousin is in town and she's from England which means she wont be here for very long and whats really been getting on my nerves is that she's been hanging out with all my cousins and even my brother but not me they all went go carting and they came to tell me but they didnt invite me which hurt me alot and today she called my brother and all my cousins and asked them to go to playland which is a theme park that only goes on in the summer and i still wasnt invited and now i have to go to victoria with all of them and i dont want to because they'll just make me feel worse so what do i do how should i make them stop ignoring me and start inviting me to do things and just to tell you its not because im too young to do these things im 14 but turing 15 in 2 weeks and they invited my cousins who are 3 years younger then me so dont tell me that im too young to do things with them. Thanks sorry if this is long.

How are they going to know you feel left out unless you tell them? They can't read minds. And I bet that they don't know they are.

So I would just approach them next time they are with you, at some point in the week, and just flat out tell them. How will she know you're upset about her leaving you out unless you communicate it to her? And please don't go up to her and start whining. Act mature and question calmly why she hasn't been inviting you. If she doesn't answer or gives a stupid excuse, then I wouldn't even worry about it- it wouldn't be worth it to hang out with someone who doesn't like you, would it?

--Jack
(16/m)

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Well on my msn nickname i always have something at the beginning so far i've had

-Originality
-Simplicity
-Teenage Tragedy


Anything like those ?

Innovation
Novelty
Creativity
Imagination
Ingenuity
Teenage Disaster


I'm not really sure what an MSN nickname is. Maybe if you helped me understand that I could come up with better ideas?

--Jack
(16/m)

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Around two days ago I lost my virginity. I have noticed inside my vagina burns & itches. My boyfriend (not a virgin) has been tested for STDS and everything was good there. I don't have any smell coming from down there so i'm not sure what it could be.

I, like you, have no idea. I'm not a doctor and not many of us are, and giving you a diagnosis is not our job.

What I will tell you, however, is that if you're worried about this, go to your doctor and ask them. They will know better than us.

You can also try www.webmd.com, or this link:

http://www.webmd.com/search/search_results/default.aspx?query=vagina%20itches%20and%20burns&sourceType=undefined


=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm sorry if this is the wrong topic to talk about this, but I really need advice. I just absolutely hate throwing up. I always feel so awful. Then, sometimes I get dreams about my siblings or relatives throwing up in the dreams. When I wake up, I feel quesy. Also, in like class at school, when someone throws up, I feel queasy again..OR, if I hear that someone threw up. What I'm worried about most is that when I go to California this year for a vacation, and then we will have to drive from LA to San Diego, it will be a 2 hour ride. And then my cousin is coming, same with my aunt, and they get car sick, and I dont want to have that feeling the whole way. It's not because I'm carsick. Then I'll be having my period, so having that feeling might make me feel worse. Is there any way to not make me feel this way? Or something to do? Thanks a lottttttt!!! :)

Bring along something to occupy you on the ride. Like bring your iPod and a book, and you can block them out and any emotions or vibes they are having in the car. You'll be completely oblivious to it.

I don't really have any medical advice, and I'm not a doctor so I don't feel right in doing so.

I think occupying your time with something like your iPod and a book would be good ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok guys wat is ur opinion of chics who have a tattoo?

It's an immediate turn-off. I think it's sick and wrong, and my main reason is that I don't think people should deform the appearance of their bodies, because it's what God gave to us and we should appreciate it ;].

I most likely won't date someone with excessive tattoos, but that doesn't mean I can't be their friend.

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok so i meet this guy at a lock in. and from what i have gotten to know him and what his friends has said about him he is great. he is a good guy, and he wouldnt do anything to hurt me. i been on 3 dates with him so far. and know from waht his friend saids he is going to ask me out. and at first i was soo happy and i was going to say yes.
but today his friend was telling me some stuff that he has done before. like he has done weed once and saids he will never do it again. he did it that once cause he got peer pressure into it. then it worried me that he could get peer pressure into a lot of things then. also that he has a lot of friends that smoke. and i dont really want to be around that. also it is long distance so that is already hard enough. and he has cheated before. and my last bf cheated on me and i dont want to go though that again. but i still like him. i just dont know if i should go out with him.
and so far he has treated me really good, and been so sweet.

idk maybe i am just taking this to seriously and freaking out about it to much.

sincerly,
softballbabe2610

I would lay down what you're comfortable with to him, and get his side of each of the stories. Sometimes you can't automatically assume these things are true, you know?

If you still feel uncomfortable with his past after talking with him, it's ALRIGHT to not date him. You're only a teenager, and you have your entire life ahead of you to date. Don't try to rush into relationships that usually end anyway.

--Jack
(16/m)

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This is a question that I please want ONLY the GUYS to answer...
So,
Do you care if a girl has a lot of body hair? (like arm hair, lower back hair, stomach hair)would you still like/date her?? please explain.. =)
Thankss

Relationships to me are more about the emotional connection we make, therefore petty things like that don't bother me that much. If it got to be very in the way, in some sort way, then I probably wouldn't continue to date that girl, but it would really depend.

For the most part, guys don't judge girls on looks, unless the person makes no effort whatsoever to try to make themselves presentable.

--Jack
(16/m)

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i have unlimited texting, can i go on aim mobile for free?

AIM comes from the internet, and therefore using it on your phone requires that you access the internet, and by using it, you will be charged extra.

You could contact your phone carrier to maybe get some type of deal, I'm sure those exist. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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i totally hate my mom. i was trying to cook something then she was like what are you cooking. what else would i be cooking. i was hungry. i hate that she asks that. she doesnt have to worry i know she is sleeping and i have everything under control. she is so unfair to me.

Honestly I don't see how asking what you're cooking is unfair to you. Did she make you stop? Maybe that would be unfair.

Your mom cares about you, she just wants to know what you're doing. I say be thankful for your mother taking part in your life, as in, actually caring, because some people's parents don't associate with them at all, and it's rather depressing.

If it upsets you, tell your mom in a mature manner. Let her know that maybe she doesn't have to shadow everything you do.

--Jack
(16/m)

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16 f

How do you know when a guy is trying to get inside your pants? Like what are the signs that lead to this conclusion?

He always talks about sex.

He is always looking at you in a sexual manner, as in at your breasts and such.

He doesn't care about your feelings whatsoever.

He doesn't seem like someone who likes commitment.


But, here are some ways you can tell if he likes you and not just to get in your pants:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!


--Jack
(16/m)

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16/f.. don't really wanna hear about how i'm too young to be having sex..
so i know that people say that you know when you orgasm but i've actually been told by guys that i cum when they go down on me. so is it possible that i just like don't feel orgasms?

Maybe. Either that or you don't recognize the feeling.

It isn't unusual for girls to not orgasm. Most girls don't, so far as I've gathered on this site.

I'm not going to tell you you're too young for sex, I'm going to ask that you practice safe sex to help prevent STDs.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Hello,

So i have decided that i wanted to spice up my life and change how I looked and the style that I currently have just to make me feel confident about myself. I want to look sexier and more fun.

My question is what sorts of things could I do. I want to get a hair cut and change how that looks since i have had the same hair cut for the passed... 6 or 7 years haha,

I also wanted to change the style of clothing just to look sexier. Now, i do have smaller breasts, but thats NOT gonna stop me. =) I just need things that appeal to smaller breasts that's all.

So, please let me know thanks. I will attach a picture just to help ya out.

http://img175.imageshack.us/img175/3960/hpim1460pq5.jpg

I really only have one suggestion, being a guy and all ;]

http://photos-d.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sf2p/v233/144/69/545987147/n545987147_427723_3579.jpg

Look at the girl on the left. That's my friend Jenny. She has her hair like that now, but a little shorter, and it kind of wraps around her head a little more. It's a really cool haircut in my opinion ;].

I think your clothes are alright. Simple is always better =].

I lied. The only other suggestion I have for you is to smile. When you smile, you can light up a room. Always smiling will make you more confident and more appealing to people. Maybe it was just an off day, which is understandable, and I hope that's the case.


Please give me credit for at least trying. I'm only a guy. What do I know about fashion? ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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There's this guy that was in my class and i noticed that he's been staring at me since April..so i started to like him and i told him and he said that he has a g/f...but after he told me that, he still would stare at me then look away..he even tried to start a conversation with me on msn but i wasn't at my computer..i was going somewhere with my sister and i saw him walking on the same side of the street as me..he walked by me and we never said anything but then i looked back and i saw him look back at the same time..I'm so confused..does he like me?

Laura, below, gave my usual answer for this question ;].

He keeps staring at you, and that is definitely one of the top things a guy does when he likes you. I know I do that a lot- not in a creepy way, but just because it's.. I don't even know.

I'm pretty confident that he likes you, and though he's told you he has a girlfriend, that could either be true, or just something to make it look like he doesn't like you back. I'm taking a wild guess it's the latter, unless of course you've actually seen him with this girlfriend of his. If he really had a girlfriend, would he be fancying another girl?

=]

--Jack
(16/m)

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At the top of my Facebook profile my network has my high school name but the wrong class year. When I try to edit my birth year it won't let me change that and I can't figure out how to get my network to have my high school name with the correct year I will graduate.

How do I change that network?

Facebook has pretty much gotten rid of the Networks.

But you still might be able to try this:

You can change your primary network by going to the "Networks" tab of the Account page. Simply click on the "Make Primary" link to the right of the network that you want to identify yourself with the most.

Here is the network page:
http://www.facebook.com/editaccount.php?networks

--Jack
(16/m)

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im 15, im american! And i am hairy!! Its really ugh! i dont like it! my legs are hairy, my stomach is hairy. thats about it! my stomach and legs! i hate it! i trie everything and it keeps coming back! I wish i can get rid of it forever! im the only one in the family with this problem, and IM AMERICAN! im white! im from new york city! i dont know why i have this problem! i wanna get rid of it. i want it goooone!!
i hope there is a way. please get back me.
-Phoebe

Trust me, you're not alone. It's in the genes, I guess ;]

You could always ask your parents if they wouldn't mind taking you to a laser hair removal place, but I'm honestly not sure how affective they are, nor am I sure how safe they are.

I suggest you first go to your doctor and see what they recommend. If they think laser hair removal is safe, then you could try it.

I'm sure you've tried shaving, so I'm not suggesting that.

--Jack
(16/m)

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okay, the shape of my V, i dont know if it is normal.

its not like this... (|)

its like (/). i have a piece [thick, it looks like swollen kindof] piece of skin sticking out between the ( and ) it just looks like a big mess. is that normal? i've tried searching for a while. and the guys i have been hooking up with havent said anything about it

It doesn't sound odd to me, but my only concern is that you said it looks swollen. I would go to your doctor about it, and get it cleared with them.

Even if nothing is wrong, it never hurts to ask, eh?

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm a girl who is from 13-17 and I want to know how to flirt, or at least some flirting tips.

1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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ok well i need to make $120 in like a month how should i make this much money? and also i am only 13 years old so i need a job that is my age.
thanks hope you can help me

13/f/kenzie

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543176

From there:

You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16.

You can do simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].

Use this search:

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(16/m)

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any good tear jerkers?
like PS i love you

The Notebook
The Lake House
A Walk To Remember
Wuthering Heights
Gone With the Wind
Pride and Prejudice
Love Actually
Titanic
Tristan and Isolde
Kate and Leopold



I asked my sister ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Weeelll I love my boyfriend, and I'm home bored waiting on him to get off work, and I want to make a CD of love songs for him. Haha he'll will probably never listen to it, but I still want to do it. What are some good love songs? like "Accidentally In Love" "If I Aint Got You" "Bubbly"..songs like those. Thanks in advanceeee :]

I won't be able to give you enough to fill a CD, but I'll give you some that are definitely worth it ;].

"So Much Love" -The Rocket Summer
"I Need You" -Relient K
"Must Have Done Something Right" -Relient K
"Run To You" -The Rocket Summer
"The Best Thing" -Relient K
"I'm Taking You With Me" -Relient K
"My Girl's Ex-Boyfriend" -Relient K
"Getting Into You" -Relient K


Yes, I realize this is only from two bands, but they are the most amazing ever. I promise you'll love them =].

--Jack
(16/m)

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