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The Question
I want to lose 10 or maybe 15 lbs in 2-3 weeks. Working out eating 1200 calories. Is that reasonable?
I'm 5'5" and 145 lbs
The Answer
It's a bit ambitious to loose 10 pounds in 3 weeks when you aren't really extremely overweight. It's not a horrible goal, but you are unlikely to really reach it.
But 1200 calories a day is not reasonable. Frankly, the idea of the 1200 calorie diet is pitched to very small women who don't want to exercise and would rather just starve themselves until they are thin. (To give you an idea, 1200 is the minimum recommended calorie intact for a three year old girl - someone a bit less than 1/3 your size.) Your body just cannot live on that especially if you are exercising.
People who are put on 1200 calories or less diets are generally morbidly obese and getting regular support from a doctor - You aren't. Trying to loose weight that fast, in that way, is not wise, and may even slow down your weight loss.
I wouldn't go lower than 1500 calories a day if I were in your shoes, and make sure it includes a good amount of protein and no junk. I'm just a bit taller than you, but I lost weight easily at about 1600-1700 calories a day along with serious exercise.
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The Question
Hi,
This is a weird question.
I was thinking about my cognitive ability.
I didn't grow up in a learning-friendly home as a child.
I've never really tried in school and sometimes on tests that didn't count towards my grades, I would answer more carelessly or just bubble in the grid.
I've always been exceptional in mathematics and creativity. I read over my gifted program tests from elementary school and found from the first test(taken in 2nd grade), I had gotten a 99 on creativity but I failed the other areas. I had taken the test again in 4th grade and found I scored 97/100 and 92/100 on the cognitive and comprehension areas-required was 96/100 and 90/100. On the creativity portion, I scored like a fifty something. And, I've always failed motivation.
I had always taken honors classes and I've never tried to take an AP course. I've always gotten an A B average. Usually, I just tried to get by in my classes and I actually tried when I had grades to bring up.
I think growing up, I've always been mentally-absent or only partially there. I used to have major depression. I think I picked up daydreaming as a coping mechanism. I still struggle with living in a daydream and living in reality.
I can lay for hours on just daydreaming for entertainment.
I've always wanted to be a film writer and I have a couple ideas for my stories.
One idea I believe is my ultimate goal in life. I've started on the story but I haven't gotten far in my writing. I'm always looking for ideas when I go places and some I haven't written down yet.
It's been two years since I've been out of high school and I haven't done a lot in that time. I still have terrible motivation. The thing is, I don't believe in myself. I learned last night from a writer to always try. He said he failed hundreds of times but also said if he didn't fail, he wouldn't have success. I don't know.
I think I have amazing potential but maybe that's just in my head. I have in the past, many times wowed my class with my projects at school. I've been told by intelligent people who have read my writing, that I'm very intelligent. I think I have ways of thinking that others haven't came across and maybe that's just what I think.
I'm not sure I have what it takes to write this 'genius' idea of mine. I usually surprised myself whenever I finished a project but never could see the success before I started. I really don't know where to go from here with this goal I want to achieve.
The area I'm worried most about is character development, my lack of vocabulary, and my writing skills(haven't always had positive feedback on my writing scores in school-I don't think B-scored writing would make a good writer).
From a second opinion, do you think I have chance in making this film and having a success?
The Answer
I think you are over thinking this.
You don't sound like you have any cognitive issues. You have intellectual strengths and weakness, and that is perfectly normal.
Your coping mechanisms for dealing with depression - which were so vital when you were depressed - might have left you with some bad thought habits and work habits. But that's not a cognitive failure, that's really just a habit and habits are hard to break.
Do you have a chance of making a film and having a success?
Yes. But right now that chance is pretty damn small isn't it?
So - take some steps to increase your odds.
A few things that might help are things like:
Write a film that has nothing to do with your great epic idea. Write a film that is only ten minutes long. Give yourself a task, a deadline and achieve the goal.
Painting the Sistine Chapel was not the first thing Michelangelo did - and thank goodness it wasn't! Cause it would have sucked.
Take a screenwriting or film class where you can collaborate with others and work on some small projects to develop your skills. Maybe even just a film history class would help.
Give some other thoughts to steps on the path, rather than the day dream of the final goal. You got to love the work, not just the achievement, or you wont get there.
So start working.
Also, watch this. It'll help you feel better when you suck. Because when you start working, you will do work that sucks.
http://vimeo.com/24715531
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The Question
I'm 16 and I've officially been out as bisexual for about a year. I've never had a relationship with a girl- only a guy- but I've been with a girl and I've liked just as many girls as I have guys, but now I'm starting to think I might be gay - at the moment I don't like any boys and even though I do get fluttery when i see a really fit lad I get more excited when I see a fit girl - and I've done sexual things with both men and women and I just simply hate penis'. I don't like the feel, touch, look, anything, whereas I love vaginas and think they're great. I dont want to label myself as anything until I'm completely sure but I don't know how to tell whether I am or not?! I'm really confused and really need help!!
The Answer
You might never be completely sure.
I know. It's a bit horrifying, but it's the truth: Sexuality isn't always fixed. Like your opinions on politics or taste in food or music - it can shift and develop with age and experience.
We are encouraged to label ourselves - labels feel safe and help other people understand us - but the truth is labels aren't necessary inside your own mind.
Pay attention to what you feel and think of, but don't beat yourself up about it. Like who you like, and be honest with someone if you aren't feeling it. While you are trying to figure it out, try to see each person as an individual, rather than an example of a GIRL or a BOY. If you aren't feeling it, for any reason, stop. Don't force yourself.
Remember: Labels are there to help us communicate with each other, not to define the whole messy, complexity of human experience.
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The Question
I only tested after 11 months of possible exposure where my results came back as negative. However i have been experiencing these symptoms including headaches, skin rashes, night sweets and swollen umpits. Is it possible i tested negative because my body had neutralised the virus at the time of the test as i am a sports person leaving a healthy and clean life. This is my 12th month and i am experincing a burning sensation in my male part which i suspect to be herpes. I will be going for an hiv test this Saturday, so could i be positive.
The Answer
You've asked this question a few times now, but the answer remains the same.
Your test at 11 months should have been accurate. False negatives are almost unheard off any later than six months after exposure.
Your health is irrelevant. If HIV is contracted, it cannot be neutralized by the immune system and it doesn't go away.
It sounds like you didn't get it. It's almost absurdly unlikely that you'll get a positive on this next test.
You should talk to doctor about your symptoms to get some help with them and an actual diagnosis.
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The Question
If you use or used MAC and/or Sephora (
The Answer
Okay, Sephora is a store that sells many brands of make up, including MAC.
MAC also has some stores, but obviously, they sell only MAC products.
So I think what you are actually asking is which is the better brand, Smashbox or MAC.
And I'd vote for Smashbox. Better bang for your buck and I've always found them to be a better product overall. MAC goes stale too fast, and is overpriced.
If you can find a Sephora near by, it is really helpful to go in and ask them what they'd recommend. The people who work there generally know their stuff, and the stores carry many, many brands (my favorite is Benefit!)
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The Question
I'm 21 now and I like someone who is 18. I work with them and i went to school with them. But now,we both don't talk to each other. He ignores my texts and messages on facebook and he blocked me on there.He pretends he isn't gay sometimes. but alot of people don't know.But i only say something to him if he needs something. But that's it. He tells everyone i want him and he says everytime i walk by him i always look at him. Which i don't. How can i talk to him alone? without him flipping off or something.
The Answer
Why do you want to talk to him? He sounds like a jerk.
Look, this young guy has told you no in about as clear a way as anyone can that he is NOT interested. He didn't have to ignore you online and all your messages - he could have responded without anyone knowing. He didn't want too. He wants you to stop it.
Respect that and back off, keep it strictly professional.
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The Question
Hi, bit of a strange question that I'd rather appreciate answering really. I tried asking in my English Literature class, but everyone just laughed at me; which was embarrassing to say the least since I'm the best poet in the class, possibly school- having won a few competitions I've bothered to enter ... Yet, I wasn't granted an answer.
So, my question is what actually makes up a poem? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you and have a good day :D
The Answer
Poetry is tough to define, largely because it's is defined primarily in OPPOSITION to prose.
Prose is the simple, straightforward language of common use to share facts and information. "The key is under the mat. Dinner is ready. The window is open."
Poetry is everything - and anything - else.
It's an art form which uses the aesthetic qualities of language to evoke meaning above or beyond the literal meaning of the words/letters/language.
So what makes up a poem? Usually (although not always or exclusively) words, and always some sort of communicative language, sometimes even a visual or musical language instead of words.
If you start to recognize poetry in that way, you'll realize that much of what say every day is poetry. Text books and newspapers always use prose, but people speak in a mix of poetry and prose.
Of course, lots of theories have been in vogue over the centuries of 'what makes a poem'. Aristotle laid out three specific genres of poetry, and rules to how it should be written and for what purpose in 300 BCE - and it was considered the hard and fast rules for a long time. Many other definitions of what 'makes a poem' have been thought up, and even been popular for a time, but none of them successfully defined the art form.
Personally, I've always preferred Coleridge's definition of poetry as the closest to a complete definition, he said:
"Poetry is the best words in their best order."
Anything more than that is just subtypes and genres.
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The Question
My boyfriend called on Friday night. I thought, "Cool, he wants to see me." He really just wanted to use my computer to order motorcycle parts, and he left right after he was done ordering them. But before he left he asked if I'd like to do a club bicycle ride with him the next day (Saturday). But there's no way I could because that club consists of hardcore bicycle racers who go really fast, and I'm not fast enough. So he went without me ... and I'm okay with that.
Late that afternoon after his ride, he called me. I thought "Cool, he wants so see me." He really just wanted to use my computer to order more motorcycle parts. He came over, used it, and then had to leave right after because he had a meeting. The meeting gets over at 8:30, but he said he was tired and was going to go straight home after to go to bed. But he did ask me if I'd like to have dinner on Sunday night and said he could come over at around 5:00 and I can cook him anything I want. Huh? He invites me to dinner but dinner consists of me cooking at my house?
When his kids come to visit him, he woos them and does all the things they like to do: Rollerskating, ice skating, movies. All the things I would like to do, too. But when it comes to me, it seems like his attitude is, "We do it my way and if you don't like it, tough."
I tried to talk to him about the way I'm feeling about the way I'm being treated, but he rolled his eyes and says, "Not this again."
Am I being to sensitive and picky? What should I do?
The Answer
Dump him.
From what you've said here, you aren't being irrationally picky or demanding, but you are asking for more courtesy and appreciation than he is willing to give.
If he can't even hear you when you try to speak to him about it, then there is no solution you can come too together, and it's time to leave.
You are right to demand better - it seems like you'll need to make those demands of someone else.
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The Question
"I am a 13 year old girl and i go to a nice catholic school and have never kissed a boy or done anything sexual! today i was going pee and saw something that looks like a bubble or pimple right outside my bikini line where thereis some pubic hair to. i have shaved there maybe twice but not recently. i dont do sexual things unless your count simple masterbation with a pillow. could i have herpes? and if so how?!?!
The Answer
It's not herpes. That's far too far away from the vaginal lips to be herpes. Although it is possible to be born with herpes - it's very, very unlikely, and what you've described here, it's herpes.
It is more likely a pimple, or ingrown hair. Those are more common if you shave, but can also happen even if you don't.
So relax. Leave it alone. It should go away on it's own like any other pimple would.
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The Question
he dumped me then kept texting,year after the breakup he text..think bout u all the time,I'm not happy,wish I was with u...so I waited it out then I text and then he told me 2 let it go..he sent a random text bout nothing..we started to talk then I asked if he was going to leave his gf and he said no...wtf?did he mean any of the previous things he said?how can he b so hot then cold?
The Answer
He's playing with you because you are letting him.
If this isn't fun for you anymore, stop texting and him and ignore his bullshit.
Did he mean anything he said before? Maybe, maybe not. You'll NEVER know for sure.
If you want to end it, then end it, and he'll go find someone else to jerk around.
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The Question
My long term boyfriend hasn't been able to get a divorce or move out of his old house with his ex because money is tight and we have all just been 'getting by'.
We just found out that his ex has maxed out 6 credit cards so she can't pay for her half of the bills. I am on JSA and don't get much as I still live at my parent's but pay quite a bit of rent.
I need to know if my boyfriend will be expected to pay off her debt when the marriage is officially at an end? I do not know much about credit cards as I do not have one and never have had one in my life and don't think I would be allowed one as I am always in my overdraft.
The Answer
The important question is whether or not he co-signed these credit cards.
If his name is not on the cards, then he is not responsible for them.
If his name is, then he is.
Any credit cards in both of his name and hers should be canceled immediately. Generally speaking, if she maxed out a card with his name on it, then it's better for him to pay it off as quickly as possible, and then go after her in court for the money. It's more damaging to leave the debt there.
He should try to find a financial planner who will give him some advice. Many legal aid places have someone who can talk to him about his specific case.
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The Question
I was 11 an got appendicitis, I have a large amount of vaginal discharge (I'm guessing) I'm 13 now and I still have it. Any advice on that? Also, my inner lips on my vagina hang very low? Is that normal? I feel so ugly. I'm a very thin girl too, could that make a difference? I just some advice on if I'm normal?
The Answer
You sound perfectly normal to me.
You should try to get regular check ups tho, and ask these questions of your doctor as well.
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The Question
17/f
I recently met a guy in my area from a dating website. We exchanged numbers, talked pretty consistently for about a week and finally decided to meet up under the agreement that if we weren't attracted to each other, we'd go on our merry ways. However, things turned out very differently than how I initially expected. After an entire evening of talking, we ended up hooking up (no sex; only making out and petting) in the back of his car. So as of now, we're dating.
The catch is that he's graduating school soon and will only be around for three months, and considering both of our busy schedules, we wont really have the opportunity to spend very much time together. He's 23, which most people would consider a significant age gap. Not only are we in completely different phases in life, but there's also the question of legality.
I was just wondering if someone could give me advice on how I should address the sexual aspect of the temporary relationship I'm getting myself into. Because, we're obviously going to have to address the question of whether or not we're going to have sex (he'll obviously want to). Thanks.
The Answer
Do you want to have sex? You imply that you don't, but you didn't actually say so.
When you talk to him, you can't be this vague on the issue.
No one here can advise you on the legality of having sexual contact with him without knowing what state or county you live in. However, in the most of the US you are old enough to consent to sex with him. Only in Arizona, California, Idaho, North Dakota, Oregon, Tennessee, Virginia and Wisconsin, are there any restrictions on what you can consent too. Everywhere else, you two are fine.
So, the more important thing to do before you address the sexual aspect of this relationship, is determine what you WANT from the sexual aspect of this relationship. Then, tell him where your boundaries are, or aren't. If you are uncomfortable doing this is person, talk about it online.
Don't be afraid to be specific, even if it's uncomfortable.
Personally, I think you are seventeen years old and you are allowed to choose who you have sex with. I don't necessarily agree with the laws that are still on the books that would criminalize you having a sexual relationship with this guy. All sex IS risky, and you need to be aware of those risks (both the physical and emotional ones) and decide if you are willing to do take them, and how you are going minimize them.
But, it really is a choice you get to make for yourself. I'd don't think I'd choose to have sex with someone if I knew the relationship had an expiry date - even now at the age of 27 - that seems awkward and drama-filled to me.
So, decide what you want, and then tell him.
Remember that you want is allowed to change. Don't feel you need to be 100% certain about everything before you can speak to him about. Just tell him where your thoughts are at right now and you'll let him know if your boundaries or comfort levels change.
Don't assume you know what he wants - he might understand and be very comfortable not taking your relationship to a sexual level.
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21/F
I've been dating this guy off and on for the last 5 years. I'm in college and he's already got a job in the city so were in different towns at the moment, I had my birthday last weekend and he was suppose to come visit but things happened and I told him to postpone his coming for a day because I was extremely exhausted from studying for a major exam. All I wanted to do was go home and go to sleep, well he didn't take it so well since I've cancelled on him for our past few visits because something always comes up. I honestly didn't think he would take it that badly but he did and ended up being quite mean about it, therefore, the next day I told him I rather him not come cause of the night before. Again he was mad and started calling me names and blowing up my phone, he pretty much ruined my 21st birthday. He then sincerely apologized the next day but told me I wasn't to talk/call him until I was ready to see him and he would come visit the day of rather than making plans ahead of tIme.. The problem is I'm extremely busy with school from now till may and I will never just have a day specified for him... So my question is if I should just let it go and move on and find someone more understanding or continue to try for a relationship even though he won't talk to me until were together.. I think the thing that gets me the most is he knew the only way this was going to work was long distance so he can't expect me to be okay with not talking to him until then, right? I have talked to him since he said that btw but it isn't the seem it's like he just doesn't even make an effort to sound interested in me, so why should I make an effort to make time to see him?
The Answer
Break up with him.
Not because he's a meany or not understanding enough. Not because he over-reacted and yelled at you.
Break up with him because you aren't interested in making the time to see him - and because he's not interested in having this same fight with you over and over again.
If you are canceling on someone repeatedly (which is exceedingly rude, especially when you do it last minute and they need to plan and to travel) and can't handle your other life responsibilities in such a way as to specify a day to see them within several months, then you just aren't all that interested in seeing that person.
I get that it's tough and it's stressful. When I was at university the easy weeks were 60 hours in class, and I worked a job for long a time that was even more demanding. It's not easy - but if you really want to make time to see someone, even when you are not at 100% - then you do it.
If you don't, don't jerk them around, canceling and trying to make it their fault for getting annoyed with your rudeness - end the relationship that you don't want to be in.
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The Question
Is tape only intercourse? I told my boyfriend I didn't want to give him a blowjob. But he stuck his dick in my face and demanded. I resisted so he just hacked off in my face until he came. Is this considered rape? 15/f
The Answer
It may or may not be rape under the laws of your area. It is sexual assault, everywhere.
It is also a deal breaker. You should end the relationship.
I agree with adviceman, you should also tell your parents and the police, so this behavoir can be addressed appropriately and it can be made perfectly clear to him that he must never do something like this again.
But first, get yourself away from him. He has lost all rights to be anywhere near you. End the relationship, do not contact him. Keep yourself safe, and away. Don't try to explain it to him, or make peace with him. Tell your friends and family what has happened, so they can help you stay safe and away from him.
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The Question
Do I need to trust anybody ?
Is this world just business ?
People do cheat. In that case, why do I have to trust someone and be broken ? Cry ? Be disappointed ?
I know many of you might have experienced this.
The Answer
Life is risk.
Every friendship, every meal, every word, every choice. All of it. It's all risk.
Some people will cheat you and will betray you. Most wont. Often you'll misunderstand or be misunderstood and that will lead to pain.
Other people will not think like you do, will not judge things the same as you do, and will not feel the same as you do.
When people ask why they should trust someone, often what they are really asking is "How can I make sure someone will make the exact same choices as I will? How can I understand someone perfectly? How can I know they will feel the same way I do?"
And the answer to all of those question, is You Can't.
But can you still trust people, even knowing all that, and you need too, and you already do. Everyday you trust the chef who cooked your meal at the restaurant not to poison you. You trust the people who pass you on the street not to beat you and rob you. You don't trust them because there are laws, or because they are being paid for a service - you trust them because deep down you know that the vast majority of people are at least TRYING to be good.
Most of the time in this world, when someone betrays you or cheats you, they are still trying to be good. If they aren't, then yes, you cry it out. You get disappointed. You get the law involved if you need too. Then you walk away knowing that most strangers on street are going to give your wallet back if you drop it, call 911 if you are hurt, that most of your friends are going to try to tell you the truth, and most of your lovers are going to try to love you.
You can decide that you aren't going to trust people anymore. But functionally, you'll have to trust at some level, even a very low one, and the hypocrisy, madness and loneliness of trying to never trust others, will destroy you.
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The Question
For four-five years i have been in a happy relationship with a man, lets call him Bob.
However last year, I did the wrongest thing someone could do, I slept with someone else, lets call him Will.
I first met Will properly at someones birthday meal. I was sitting next to him. I told him that i was a cheerleader just in convosation and his eyes lit up. At this point he began to brainwash me. For the next 3 months he groomed me.
Bob at the time could see this (At this point we were a long distance relationship) and warned me against him. I did not listen.
Will would say things to me like "your such a freak, but your so cute" he'd convinve me to stay up late for him, he even convinced me to dump Bob.
Will tried time and time again to get my pants off me. He would come to my house to watch a film kiss me a bit and before the film had finished he would leave. he was grroming me from the start to always want more. Until eventually, he looked at me and said to me "Shall we just do it" he said as he undid my jeans.
I dont know what I was thinking, but I said okay and we had sex. We had sex another time after this too. He texted me to come round and i did, like a fool.
Will controlled me through the time I knew him. Brainwashed me, to the point he dumped me a week before my birthday and I still invited him to my birthday celebration.
All throughout this I was still in a realtionship with Bob. I didnt tell Bob untilafter it happened. Although I lied throughout to Bob and myself about what was happening.
I am still with Bob, and Will I no longer speak too.
A year on I've realised that I'm still under Will's control, I still wont say a bad word about him. Even though I think he is a snake (and a mix of other profanities)I want to break this bond, for mine and my boyfriends sake.
S few things need to happen:
- he score needs to be equalised. Will needs to feel the exact same humiliation that Bob felt, the feeling of helplessness.
-I need to break this bond i have between Will and I.
-I need to speak out against Will.
Bob should have been the one to get my virginity, not Will. Will really is nothing to me. and I want to prove this to Bob. Im just looking for some ideas, opinions. Bob is an amazing guy, he has taken me back but continues to remind me of what Ive done and the connection between me and Will. Im desperate to show him I am not under Wills control.
The Answer
You need therapy.
You don't need revenge or equalization. That's a myth of the movies. It doesn't exist in real life, because you can't control the emotional lives of others. You cannot make Will feel the same humiliation as Bob, because Will ISN'T Bob. Will might be such a manipulative narcissist he simply can't experience what Bob can, and even if he can - you wont be able to induce it in him. Nothing you do will hurt him as much your sexual affair hurt Bob. Accept that, and let go of the revenge fantasy.
Sure, you need to 'break the bond' between you and Will. Or more accurately, you need to end your obsession with what took place. Will doesn't have anything to do with it anymore really. Since you haven't managed this alone, get your butt into therapy. Remember that you are not 'under Will's control'. You never were. You got caught up in a fantasy and in lust. Will is a manipulative asshole, but brainwashing is science fiction. Maintaining this connection and obsession in the way you have is your way of making it all about nasty, evil Will, and not having to truly take responsibility for what you did.
When you stop blaming Will for EVERYTHING, and acting like he the dark wizard that cast a spell on you, you'll find it much easier to speak out against him and the things that he definitely did do wrong. If you keep thinking of him as though it's all his fault, then you'll have trouble speaking against him, because in your heart, you'll know that it's not true and that you share the blame for what you did.
Go to therapy and work on yourself. Explore the reasons you made the destructive choices you did, and how you can avoid those missteps in the future. Once you do that, you'll find it much easier to let the obsession go, and to hold yourself (and Will) responsible for the mistakes made.
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The Question
I live in a three bedroom house with four people. I know its not that bad and I know there are people who deal with worse, but you don't know my family. I have ABSOLUTELY NO PRIVACY! I'm fourteen and I share a tiny room with my nine year old sister. Just our beds take up about 85% of the room so yeah its mega small. I really want my own room 'cause I've shared all my life. My mom and my brother (who isn't home like 90% of the time) have the other two rooms. Now, I feel that with my being fourteen and the changer going on in and around me, I should have my own room. I have no real privacy. If I'm in the bathroom and my mom wants something out of there she will PICK THE LOCK! I mean really, she says that the only place we deserve privacy is the bathroom, so yeah way to contradict yourself mom. She also blames any argument I have with my sister on me. So yeah if she's taking my stuff its somehow my fault. She also laughs when my brother calls me fat and then says I should get a corset as if that'll make me feel
The Answer
Do you have a suggested solution?
Your mother is an adult woman and probably, the breadwinner. She can't be expected to share her bedroom AND it would be unhealthy for a nine year old to share a room with their mom unless it's totally unavoidable.
AND your brother can't really be expected to share with a nine year old girl either - also very unhealthy.
So you are stuck, because any other arrangement is just not going to be healthy for you, or your little sister.
I shared a room until I was 16. I know it sucks. But sometimes it is the best situation a family can offer.
If your brother is spending the night someplace else a lot, maybe you can talk to him and you mom about sleeping in his room when he isn't there.
And yes, you should remind your mother that picking the lock on the bathroom is both horribly unethical (unless she thinks you are doing cocaine or trying to kill yourself) and hypocritical. She needs to stop that.
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The Question
Do people decorate their dorm rooms in college? I know you cant paint the walls, but I am really into decoration and art. How could I personalize my small boring white room?
The Answer
Lots of people decorate their dorm rooms. It's good to come back to a place that feels like your own :).
The best thing to do is not to get too much, or plan too much until you've seen the room. Once you're there you will find out the little tricks of what you'll need or can/can't do.
Personally, I always favored fabric coverings/tapestry type stuff. It was classy and I could mail the nail marks way up high on the wall where no one really noticed... I also had a dorm room once that worked best if you put the desk in half the closet... Which I never would have figured out beforehand.
So wait till you get there to make too many choices. Get some sheets/blankets stuff you like, but save the rest of your money till you are in the space.
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The Question
Hey,
so i heard that BELLA THORN is a columnist on here and i cant find her i really need to ask her a question, please help cause right now i dont think im going to get help unless its her, PLEASE HELP!!!!
The Answer
Please stop. This is getting out of control. Your obsession with Bella Thorne is getting unhealthy.
Bella Thorne isn't a columnist here (even if she appeared too be, it's most likely an imposter - we've had a few of those over the yeas.) The standard Disney contract would likely forbid her from being one, not to mention the fact she is probably busy.
Her clothing is also expensive because she's a Disney-signed starlet. She likely doesn't even dress herself at most public events. She has a hired stylist to dress her and project the desire image.
You aren't getting help getting super-cheep trendy clothes, because that kind of help doesn't actually exist. There is very few 'tricks' to getting trendy clothes for cheep. Most people online who tell you they have a deal on cool clothes are going to send you to unethical websites where your credit card number will be stolen.
The real tricks, the ones that work, are basic: Watch for sales, learn the labels, and pay attention. Devote a lot of time to window shopping and always have an idea of what you are looking for. You really want cool clothes on demand: Learn to sew your own, there is no crime in knocking off designer clothes to wear yourself.
EDIT: I didn't call you names. I labeled your behavoir leaning towards an unhealthy obsession, and it is. You might have felt I called you names - but I didn't. I gave you advice about why what you are doing is problematic, why it isn't going to work, and what approach is more likely to work. Pretty good, thorough advice in fact.
Your inability to see that only lends support to my "this obsession is becoming a problem" theory.
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