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He Doesn't Seem Very Thoughtful
My boyfriend called on Friday night. I thought, "Cool, he wants to see me." He really just wanted to use my computer to order motorcycle parts, and he left right after he was done ordering them. But before he left he asked if I'd like to do a club bicycle ride with him the next day (Saturday). But there's no way I could because that club consists of hardcore bicycle racers who go really fast, and I'm not fast enough. So he went without me ... and I'm okay with that.
Late that afternoon after his ride, he called me. I thought "Cool, he wants so see me." He really just wanted to use my computer to order more motorcycle parts. He came over, used it, and then had to leave right after because he had a meeting. The meeting gets over at 8:30, but he said he was tired and was going to go straight home after to go to bed. But he did ask me if I'd like to have dinner on Sunday night and said he could come over at around 5:00 and I can cook him anything I want. Huh? He invites me to dinner but dinner consists of me cooking at my house?
When his kids come to visit him, he woos them and does all the things they like to do: Rollerskating, ice skating, movies. All the things I would like to do, too. But when it comes to me, it seems like his attitude is, "We do it my way and if you don't like it, tough."
I tried to talk to him about the way I'm feeling about the way I'm being treated, but he rolled his eyes and says, "Not this again."
Am I being to sensitive and picky? What should I do?
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Dump him.
From what you've said here, you aren't being irrationally picky or demanding, but you are asking for more courtesy and appreciation than he is willing to give.
If he can't even hear you when you try to speak to him about it, then there is no solution you can come too together, and it's time to leave.
You are right to demand better - it seems like you'll need to make those demands of someone else.
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To be honest I don't think he appreciates you because if that's how you feel and if he cared about your feelings than he would listen and not just roll his eyes. And if he invites you to have dinner at YOUR house and YOU do the cooking than his attitude needs to change because that's not right, no one has the right to do that to anybody. You are definatly not being too sensitive.
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