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I need my own room, but my mom won't let me.
I live in a three bedroom house with four people. I know its not that bad and I know there are people who deal with worse, but you don't know my family. I have ABSOLUTELY NO PRIVACY! I'm fourteen and I share a tiny room with my nine year old sister. Just our beds take up about 85% of the room so yeah its mega small. I really want my own room 'cause I've shared all my life. My mom and my brother (who isn't home like 90% of the time) have the other two rooms. Now, I feel that with my being fourteen and the changer going on in and around me, I should have my own room. I have no real privacy. If I'm in the bathroom and my mom wants something out of there she will PICK THE LOCK! I mean really, she says that the only place we deserve privacy is the bathroom, so yeah way to contradict yourself mom. She also blames any argument I have with my sister on me. So yeah if she's taking my stuff its somehow my fault. She also laughs when my brother calls me fat and then says I should get a corset as if that'll make me feel
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The best way is to listen to what your mom says for now and don't talk back to her. I have the same exact problem and things were done the hard way and I am living with my grandmother. You are very young and is going through some things in life and everyone needs their own privacy. Your mother is just probably just cautious about what young teenagers to now and days. She is right, but she's probably just thinking that she deserves the respect and isn't getting any from you. You just need to prove her wrong and show her that your good and is better then everyone in that house. Don't talk to her, just let her say what she want's. She's probably not thinking straight or positive right now. :) hope I helped..
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Yes you deserve your privacy unfortunately the space is not there for you to have it. You didn't say how old your brother is but by the fact he is away from home as much as you say he is says he is much older. When he is home it would not be right for him to share a room with your younger sister and it may be unlawful in some states to do so.
Does your home have a basement? If it does it might be possible for you to uses some dividers or curtains to separate a space for yourself. If you live in a cool or clod climate space heaters may be enough to keep the area you section of warm enough for you to use that area as your room. Talk to mom and see what she says.
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I think you should talk to your mother about your feelings on how your brother treats you. She "blames" you for the arguments with your sister because you are the oldest. If she takes your items you are at that age talk it out with your sister and share what you can with her because she is just looking up to you. Now wanting your own room. Where would this room be. If you own a 3 bedroom home you have to be in the room with your sister. Your brother cant share a room with your sister because of the gender differences your mother is an adult and that is why she had her own room. It is just part of life hun. I am sorry this isn't the solution you are looking for but help your mother out and try and get along with your sister. As for your brother boys with be boys I grew up with two brothers and it sucked. They picked on me called me names we fought and argued. I was a single mother at one time it is hard but its always nice when your children help you out and doing things for others like your mother you always get rewarded some time in the future. five a little to get a little.
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im sorry for what your going threw. i had the teasing from my brothers i had 5 of them doing it. heres some advice ignore them the only reason they do it is to get you reaction it like feeding them when you give them a reaction. so instead of getting upset just laugh with them it will soon not be funny to them and they will stop making fun of and as for your mom A MOTHER SHOULD NEVER do that you need to tell her,tell her when she laughs at you it hurts a lot because a mother should be the last one laughing at you tell her your serious a mother should never do that and she may do it not knowing that you care. you need to learn to ignore and laugh with them or walk away and give away no emotion and to confront your mother on what shes doing by laughing at you. i hate to see people at that age get torn down and have no selfconfidents its not right. so keep your head up they will stop and you will get threw this. but dont tell your brother that you hate it that he teases you he will do it more. but your mom, someone needs to tell her and that some one is you . and having your own room well it may be tough but it will make you appreciate it when you get your own room you just need to think about how nice it is to have a room to sleep in. i know i sound like im being mean but its true a lot of kids dont have a home, so be glad for what you get.tell your mom about not having privacy im sure she will work some thing out she probably donset even see that it bothers you. make the best of life dont be sad about this room and teasing. just keep living get out more and you will be fine .
Good Luck!!!! i hope you can work out your problems with your mom and always remember dont react to your brothers teasing he will just do it more. :]
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Your mother is an adult woman and probably, the breadwinner. She can't be expected to share her bedroom AND it would be unhealthy for a nine year old to share a room with their mom unless it's totally unavoidable.
AND your brother can't really be expected to share with a nine year old girl either - also very unhealthy.
So you are stuck, because any other arrangement is just not going to be healthy for you, or your little sister.
I shared a room until I was 16. I know it sucks. But sometimes it is the best situation a family can offer.
If your brother is spending the night someplace else a lot, maybe you can talk to him and you mom about sleeping in his room when he isn't there.
And yes, you should remind your mother that picking the lock on the bathroom is both horribly unethical (unless she thinks you are doing cocaine or trying to kill yourself) and hypocritical. She needs to stop that.
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