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Not sure what to say. Please help!
21/F: So me and my “boyfriend” have had a lot of ups and downs. We’ve been off and on for about 3 years. He has a drug problem and since the beginning of the year has actually been in recovery. While he was in rehab, he called me almost every night and we had hour long conversations of just happiness. He shared like every detail of his life with me and I felt so important because he trusted me enough to really tell me how he felt. But one day he told me that he couldn’t carry on a relationship with me or call me so often because he needed to work on himself but really wanted a relationship later on. Well, here we are a couple months later and I am going insane. It’s not that I don’t think he needs time or whatever. But I am beginning to doubt how he feels about me at all…He doesn’t EVER call me. Sometimes doesn’t even respond to my texts. He is supposed to come up this coming weekend and I am super nervous. I am excited because I really do love this guy with all of my heart but I’m scared he’s going to hurt me again. He said he can’t be rushed into a relationship and he would come up here and take me out when he was ready. So now I know that’s probably his plan. But I feel as if maybe he will never be able to give me what I want from a relationship. We are long distance and I want someone that I can talk to whenever I want to. I’m not talking like all hours of the day. But if I want to talk to him, I don’t want to be ignored. I feel like no matter how I tell him that I want a healthy happy relationship with him or how I wish he would talk to me more, nothing ever happens. This is new ground though because he is in recovery. I don’t know what’s going on in his life at all, he has all these new friends which seem like a great support system. But I wish I was more included :/ I really love this kid and if he does end up coming up here, do you guys have any advice on what I should say? I hate being this sad :/ I just honestly want a happy relationship soooo badly :[
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Just ask him how he's doing and if good than ask if you are still dating and if not then move on or make him want you!!! Hope this will help and your welcome for answering this!!! :)
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Being in a long distance relationship is hard. But this is not your average relationship he's in recovery. That is not a very eazy task either . You love him. Be supportive let him know that you love him and that you care. He probly broke up with you because he did want you to see him like that he is recovering . He's getting his life back on track if you love him just give him time to get his life back in order so he can be that man that you fell in love with and more! I hope everything works out for you!
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Honestly. If you can wait for him to deal with his drug problem that is great for you. I for see someone waiting for someone if they are fighting in the military or travel for work. How long had he done drugs? has he relapsed before? These are things you need to think of. Most people who go into rehab want someone to speak with unless they think that person is causing the trouble. I hope you find your happiness.
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I think that you should give him time and trust him. Because if he told you that its because he cares and if he is distant and you feel like he doesn't call or anything maybe his feelings weren't that true.
Try to stay calm and find another people to listen to you, rely on friends, try to meet other guys. Good luck with that!
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