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21/F: So me and my “boyfriend” have had a lot of ups and downs. We’ve been off and on for about 3 years. He has a drug problem and since the beginning of the year has actually been in recovery. While he was in rehab, he called me almost every night and we had hour long conversations of just happiness. He shared like every detail of his life with me and I felt so important because he trusted me enough to really tell me how he felt. But one day he told me that he couldn’t carry on a relationship with me or call me so often because he needed to work on himself but really wanted a relationship later on. Well, here we are a couple months later and I am going insane. It’s not that I don’t think he needs time or whatever. But I am beginning to doubt how he feels about me at all…He doesn’t EVER call me. Sometimes doesn’t even respond to my texts. He is supposed to come up this coming weekend and I am super nervous. I am excited because I really do love this guy with all of my heart but I’m scared he’s going to hurt me again. He said he can’t be rushed into a relationship and he would come up here and take me out when he was ready. So now I know that’s probably his plan. But I feel as if maybe he will never be able to give me what I want from a relationship. We are long distance and I want someone that I can talk to whenever I want to. I’m not talking like all hours of the day. But if I want to talk to him, I don’t want to be ignored. I feel like no matter how I tell him that I want a healthy happy relationship with him or how I wish he would talk to me more, nothing ever happens. This is new ground though because he is in recovery. I don’t know what’s going on in his life at all, he has all these new friends which seem like a great support system. But I wish I was more included :/ I really love this kid and if he does end up coming up here, do you guys have any advice on what I should say? I hate being this sad :/ I just honestly want a happy relationship soooo badly :[ (link)
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I think that you should give him time and trust him. Because if he told you that its because he cares and if he is distant and you feel like he doesn't call or anything maybe his feelings weren't that true.
Try to stay calm and find another people to listen to you, rely on friends, try to meet other guys. Good luck with that!
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I need a fast/painless way to commit suicide. I've already made up my mind so please don't tell me not to do it. (link)
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I'm just going to tell you that you are not in this world for nothing if you are in this world its because God wants you and needs you here. There's a lot of people that im sure that loves you. Things will get better they always do.
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hey,
When your not allowed to take like dancing lessons or voice i mean its making me hate my family what do you do?
thanks for any advice you can give (link)
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you could talk to them and tell them its something that you really love. I feel what you feel right now because i love dancing and i know how passionate you can get about these type of things.
Try talking to them and explain how much you love it and why and how good that could be for you. Communication is the best tool. Good luck with that~!
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Ok so I have a boyfriend and we are the standard couple. We fight sometimes but easily get over it. We recently got into a fight because we were talking on Skype and we were on eachothers facebook accounts and looking through convos and I read one on his profile to my best friend that said "Well to be honest, I never really stopped liking you" I was crushed and hurt and we got into a fight about it. I couldnt stop crying because I was heart broken. I love him so much! Anyways, I told him that even if he liked my best friend a bit that I would never stop loving him. Today, he said that he stopped liking her and he loves me with all his heart. Then, he said "Im not gunna tell her that I dont like her anymore though." Why would he say that? He confuses me sometimes :$ (link)
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I believe it's pretty normal for a person to like another people even though they are a relationship. It's sad but true.
That does not mean that he loves you any less or that he doesn't care about you. If he told you that i think it means that he is not going to cheat on you or anything but he can't stop that feeling. I think you should tell him to back off a little bit with her so he can forget about those feelings and you forget about her and try to work on your relationship. Try to do things that reminds him why he loves you. Good luck with that and don't be afraid to contact me if you have anymore troubles.
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My ex and me broke up a few months ago. It wasn't a nasty breakup but I was angry & upset. I did tell him that if we were seriously done, then we were to have no contact so I could move on. So, obviously, we've had absolutely no contact since then. I'm not completely over him and I admit it. I am at the point though, where I'd like to be in some contact with him. I'd like to see how he's doing, what's new, etc.. possibly even start to be friends. I really think I could do that. I just don't know whether I should try to contact him or just let it go/leave it alone. I think if I didn't, I'd always wonder 'what if'. How do I figure this out? What could I say that wouldn't sound dumb/pathetic and more along of the lines of upbeat/curious? I'm such a prideful and stubborn person, but my gut keeps telling me to say something. (link)
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if there's no possibility of you guys getting back together i dont think it would be a good idea for you to contact him again. If you stay away you might forget the feelings you had for me, the feelings won't dissappear but you might learn how to live with it. But if you contact him you have to be aware of the possibility of getting all those feelings for him back. So if you contact him its because you are willing to take that risk again and because you are prepare to some suffer. GOOD LUCK
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Wow, okay so I have alot to say! Ok so I broke up with my old boyfriend because I felt the relationshup wasnt really going anywhere and so I told him I only wanted to be friends. Now, I have a new boyfriend and he is amazing! I love him so much! We hangout really offen at lunch and inbetween classes. Online, we get into fights though but we always find a way to get through them. I could never live without him and he has told me that without me his life would be incomplete. We recently got into a fight that almost cost our relationship. =/ Worst thing ever! We got through it though but now he says that he likes my best friend a tiny bit. I told him it was okay because I love him more than anything and I know most people would be mad but Im surprisingly not.. I never want to loose him. Should I be a bit mad that he likes my best friend? I love him so much and I could never move on, he's perfect for me! Advice? (link)
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I think that the fact that he likes your bestfriend its because they are way too close maybe, and thats normal it happens a lot.
But if she is a true friend you should have nothing to be worried about. But be carefull with that and make him believe at least that you care, because if you act like you don't care at least a little bit he might think you are ok with that.
Good luck :)
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Please help me! I just don't know what to do! My friend has a date for the prom and then he asked her out and she said yes! Me and my friend Madelyn don't have dates for prom or boyfriend.
Ever since, she's been ditching me and her other friend for her boyfriend and other couples.
It's hard to talk to her! Let's say me and Madelyn, her used to be only two friend haven't hung out with her in forever. Whenever I try to talk to Jasmine on Facebook she responds a lot slower than usual and whenever I ask what she's gonna do today, she says she's going to hang out with her boyfriend or her new friends, who are also together. During lunch at school she eat with them and me and Madelyn are left alone. Jasmine is even starting to hang out with people she said that she hated! I can't talk to her, it's awkward and I don't know what to do about her. Me and Madelyn feel completely left out of her life nowadays and she seems more happy with her new friends and boyfriend than with her old two friends.
I can't take it any more. Her behaviour is hurting our friendship in my view. Please tell me what to do! :( (link)
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I think that if her friendship was really true she would have integrated you in her new group of friends. That means that when she was "your friend" she was just using you or something. Try to focus on something else and get a new friends do not wait for her to change her mind, move on with your life even though it hurts cause believe me i know how it feels but try to get new true friends. Good luck with that:)!
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Okay so let me start from the very beginning i really like this guy whos one year younger than me i used to go to the same childminder as him but now i dont we went out for ages a year almost and then he finally kissed me and i knew that this was a relationship worth holding onto i'd totally misjudged him from then on i saw him in a whole new light he wasent just the boy i met not he was sensitive kind and funny but i told none else and then for some reason when he was with his friends he was a jerk to me! He acted like i was some kind of wierdo that never went away he laughed at me with his friends so i broke up with him then i reaslised it was a really bad idea and i shouldnt have but i cant talk to him at my childminders because now i have my own key to the house and whenever i see him on the way home he speeds up or ignores when i say hi tomorrow were meeting up with my family and his with my old childminder for a day out what should i say to him? without embarrasing myself or looking like a sissy infront of him how i can sort of make suttle hints and then he'll ask me back out but one problem there will be lots of other people there and it'll be wierd if i ask him to talk to me in private Please help me i dream about him every night and its stupid that i broke up with him! HELP MEEE! (link)
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I think you should forget about it and show him that you have value and he should respect that and by following him and wanting him back you will not achieve that. Try to put your mind on something else and have another friends that are boys so he will misses you and respect you. Good luck with that!
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I'm trying to get a head start on planning my nephew's 18th birthday party. I want this party to be extra special because his home life hasn't been good, but since he's turning 18, he can finally move in with me. I'm trying to come up with a theme that will represent his new found freedom. Any help would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I don't know if the prison release thing will be a good idea because it may seem a little rude to him and bring him bad memories. Just find a hobbie that he likes everybody has one just try to find out and do it about it. Do not focus a lot on the theme but on the people thats gonna be there and that he spents a good time. Good luck :).
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Well it's the middle of the night and I just back from my moms room because I watch TV with her most nights and when I got to my room and suddenly felt very scared. I know that electrical currents can do this but it's worse than worse than normal and I just keep praying to God to help me feel calm. My light is on and I have music playing so there is nothing scary about my room but my room always gives me this feeling but never this bad. Please tell me something to do to help me feel safer. I didn't watch any scary TV at all so I odn't know why this is happening. Thanks. (link)
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It's pretty normal for you to feel this way. It happens to everybody, its because you are alone and all of the bad things we hear. Fear is normal. For you to know that this is a normal feeling and that it will PASS should help you a lot to get the fear away. When this happens to you try to get your mind off of it. Good luck :).
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