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contact ex.. or never a good idea?
My ex and me broke up a few months ago. It wasn't a nasty breakup but I was angry & upset. I did tell him that if we were seriously done, then we were to have no contact so I could move on. So, obviously, we've had absolutely no contact since then. I'm not completely over him and I admit it. I am at the point though, where I'd like to be in some contact with him. I'd like to see how he's doing, what's new, etc.. possibly even start to be friends. I really think I could do that. I just don't know whether I should try to contact him or just let it go/leave it alone. I think if I didn't, I'd always wonder 'what if'. How do I figure this out? What could I say that wouldn't sound dumb/pathetic and more along of the lines of upbeat/curious? I'm such a prideful and stubborn person, but my gut keeps telling me to say something.
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if there's no possibility of you guys getting back together i dont think it would be a good idea for you to contact him again. If you stay away you might forget the feelings you had for me, the feelings won't dissappear but you might learn how to live with it. But if you contact him you have to be aware of the possibility of getting all those feelings for him back. So if you contact him its because you are willing to take that risk again and because you are prepare to some suffer. GOOD LUCK
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You should leave it alone.
When you break up with someone that you invested your feelings in, you will often go through a mild form of the 5 stages of grief:
denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
It's not like someone died, but the loss of someone is still there. Also some stages are stronger than others, pretty much you just said that you went through the anger stage, I would say that you are at the bargaining part right now, where you are telling yourself that you can just "be friends" because let's admit it... right now you are remembering pretty good things and not too many bad things. The best way to get over it is to remember all the reasons you broke up in the first place, if you keep a diary, read that part only. Ask your best friend who you complained to to remind you of everything you're forgetting, you'll breeze through depression easy too.
If you got him, you can get another.
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The best, and easiest, and non awkward thing you can do is text him a "hey how are you" or "hey how's it going." It's simple, and from there, the ball is in his court. Hope I helped!
-Bri
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