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I notice in some people's answers they include the Google search bars. I was wondering if someone could tell me how to do this so that I can better answer my questions.

[*search*]Type something here[*/*search*]
Take out the stars :)

hi i think i pulled a muscle in my thigh and its been hurting for a few days now. i have a track meet this saturday and basically i need it to stop hurting ASAP. does anyone kno what i could do to make it better? please dont suggest buying prodcuts i have no money

I always got told the following:
Rest
Ice
Compression
Elevation

Read:
http://www.parknicollet.com/healthadvisor/firstaid/rice.cfm

Theres this girl that talks to me ALOT when ever i see her she says hi and talks. Then in gym today she ask if i wanted to play football and stuff. I like her alot. But she alerdy has a boyfriend. So does she like me?

From the information you've provided, there is absolutely no way of knowing. She could just be friendly. Look out for more signs, although if she has a boyfriend already.. I don't understand why she'd be flirting with other guys.. but you never know.

Omg! This boy just came over my house and we started making out. He bit my lip and now its all puffy!!! How do I make the swelling go down before my parents get home? Which is in like .. an hour??

Ice. It's all you can do really to make the swelling go down. If they ask, say you bit your lip or accidently hit it. Easily done!

I want to give my boyfriend head but im scared cause i dont know how to. Any tips? Also could you explain how to do it? THANKS!!

Since minors use this site, we can't really go into detail on how to do things like that. but luckily for you, you can choose from 1000s of sites to get some tips:

If you're ready, there's no reason to be scared. Just relax. and as the saying goes, suck it and see ;)

my boyfriend and I tried to have sex for the first time a few weeks ago and he couldnt get his penis in.does this mean im too tight?and what can i do to fix this?do we just keep trying until it goes in?

Probably. Maybe you weren't wet enough too. Why don't you have him finger you beforehand. Or use lube to make it slide in easier. You'll get it eventually. If a vagina can accommodate a baby, a penis can definitely fit with a bit of practice. :)

I'm a 29 yr old female. Don’t know how to explain this, but I have a friend, actually "friends with benefits" sorta thing, whom I used to hangout with all the time, dance with, go clubbing, hang out with his friends, so we were like buddies…and YES we have been “physical”.
Lately he has been acting weird (cold, nasty attitude, careless...) and he simply stopped calling me or ask me to join him/his group for no reason and no explanation whatsoever! But he's still hanging out with his other friends & enjoying his life...while I am left out, boiling with rage…feeling dumped, used, and humiliated. My pride couldn’t let me call him to question him about his weird behavior.He’s a reckless bastard, and has many options on the shelf (so he doesn’t need me) which makes it harder to get him back on his knees! And i dont have other alternative friends whom i can move on with, cuz i've been hanging out with him for the last few months. I don’t love him, but I feel like a fool and want to revenge to regain my self image and self-esteem back!I’m just UNABLE to get over it! It’s frustrating me! And I will only be relieved once I make him feel sorry and regretful!!

I understand how frustrated and angry you must feel - I think anyone would. The wonders of friends with benefits eh?
I know you want him to suffer because of how he's basically made you feel, but plotting revenge will only make things worse. You want the situation to get better - not break out into something huge which may never be resolved.
The best thing to do in your situation is to be mature and ask him why he's being so cold towards you - you have every right to know what's going on.
He must have reasons for his strange behaviour - possibly because he might not want to carry on the friends with benefits relationship - so you need to think ahead. Think about the possibilities, be prepared and think about what you want to do. If it turns out he doesn't want you in "that way", ask if you can still be friends because you've enjoyed going out with them etc. If he's okay with that and you definitely are, then fair enough, but if he's being an idiot and doesn't want to carry on a friendship and he doesn't include you anymore - then I'm sorry to say, but you need to forget him. Would you really want to be feeling the way you are over someone like that? No. He doesn't deserve you.
Want a way to make him feel sorry and regretful? Ignore him. Don't try to call him, talk about him, whine over him etc. Ignoring someone is the ultimate way to not only get over them, but annoy the hell out of them. He probably wants you to feel bad - but you aren't (even though you are deep down) - just act like it's not bothering you and move on. Find someone else and show him what he's missing.
Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's the best approach with situations like this.
Within time you will get over this, I promise. and you won't feel hatred - you'll just come out as a stronger person and would have learnt an important lesson.

Is it true if you get a physical for school since you have to do that every time you start a new school, is it true that doctors during the physical [or just in general by tests] can tell whether you're a virgin or not? Thanks [:

Relax, they won't be able to tell. The only sign that COULD mean you aren't a virgin is a broken hymen - but lets face it - hymens can break through anything from sporting activities to masturbation.

why on earth do i find domestic annimals attractive and a turn on!?
my dog rested it's head on my lap and i was hard as a fuckin tree
do i have issues?
help! i was almost so turned on today i almost fucked my dog!

Are you joking?
I don't support bestiality. In my opinion, yes, you have issues. Animals can't exactly give consent. and don't ask me questions in future regarding things like this - because to be honest, I can't offer any help with psychological situations like this. Seek help if you're really having thoughts about animals..

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okay.
so i understand that most girls shave their virgina. well. is it healthy? like when i do it i get red bumps.

Helpp?
sorryy.

It's not going to harm your health if you shave. It's up to you whether you do it or not. The red bumps are just from your razor - it's to be expected when you shave a sensitive area like that.
To prevent the bumps, you may want to apply some soothing gel made for that area, or look into other hair removal ways such as waxing.
but it's nothing to worry about. :)

Does anyone know where I can buy sex lubrication in REAL LIFE. I know there are plenty of places to buy on the internet but I need to get it in real life. Preferably silicone based. Thank you so much.

Normally any store that sells condoms will have lube. To be honest, I wouldn't recommend silicone based lube for the following reasons:
*It's more expensive
*Bad tasting
*Hard to remove because it's not water soluble.
In my personal opinion, water based is the way to go. It's cheaper, more fun, easy to remove, comes in a variety of flavours/sensations.. although if you have your own personal reasons for wanting silicone based - that's perfectly fine - they just seem to be harder to find.
Have a little look around next time you go shopping to see the varieties :)

Hello. I'm so sorry for asking another stupid question about myspace, but I'm extremely upset right now. My ex boyfriend, and now my current boyfriend, went and deleted his whole myspace. He wasn't thinking at the time, but there were messages he wanted saved from me in the past. He didn't realize this till after he already got rid of the profile. Does this mean there's no way at all to get that same profile back that he had? By a certain amount of days or something? I'm really about to cry right now. I also had tons of messages in my inbox from him from when we first started chatting and everything. Just in case he ever left, I really wanted those messages so I'd have all of the memories. It made me happy to read them. It hurts knowing I can't get em back. If there's any way at all he can get that profile back just the way it was, someone please let me know. Please don't answer unless you actually know what you're talking about. Thank you so much.

That really sucks. and I'm sorry to tell you once it's gone, it's gone. I know, because my inbox is full of messages from a best friends deleted profile - and there's no way I can get them back. I just have this message over and over:

"The profile you received this message from has been deleted. Either this user deleted their own profile or MySpace deleted it for spamming and/or content violations."

I know those messages mean alot to you, but hopefully you will still have the memories of them.
Cheer up. It's really not the end of the world. and there will be plenty of opportunities for you both to make new messages to each other - in ways you'll be able to keep.

okay, can anyone give me a code to a scrollbox for myspace. like not the kind where you just put comments in to make your page smaller, but the kind you would put pictures in, or inside jokes or something. Please hurry.

Is this what you're after?
http://mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=generators§ion=scrollbox

Has anyone on here ever re-dated a guy and had a successful relationship? I want to know if a second try is always disasterous.

It doesn't ALWAYS end up as a disaster. It matters why you broke up in the first place and if you can piece things back together without any problems.
I've dated someone more than once. Although for me it did spell disaster because we were just too far gone for it to work out at all. and the past just couldn't be forgotten.
If you give things another shot, know why it didn't work out the first time and fix things, there's no reason why it can't work.

i lost my virginity, i.e had sex for the first time but i didn't bleed(not even a lil bit). is there something wrong with me? am i alone? im really freaking out here.thanks.

Not everyone bleeds on their first time. Some people don't even experience any pain. I didn't. You're totally normal. There's no rule where you must bleed when you lose your virginity..

here's the deal...
i'll admit it... i'm a whore
i've shagged like 10 of my closest friends recently
and have too many 1 night stands to count
but i'm stuck in this situation where everyone now thinks i'm easy... and i find it so hard to turn it down... ok and it's not cos i love the cock... even tho to be honest i do... but it's cos i can't say no
ever since my first shag this has happened
i'm only 16 but i'm stuck
what do i do?

Thanks for your Q.
Well firstly, you've admitted you're easy. and in a strange way, that's good you finally realize because now you can do something about it.
You're young, 16 - PLENTY of time left for sex.
What's done is done, you can't change that. and unfortunately, you're probably going to have a reputation for quite some time. You need to learn to say no. You need to understand sex isn't a game. It's something you share with someone special - not thrown around to anyone who's willing - because lets face it - no guy is exactly going to turn down sex.
You need to respect your body and make the right decisions. From now on, if you ever come into a position where you could have sex - just stop and think. WHY should you do it? Yes, it's enjoyable - but does the person deserve you in that way? Probably not.
You will realize this when you find someone special.
I'm being honest, this question has got me stumped in a way. I don't see why you can't simply just say no and take control over yourself for once. There are more important things than sex. Think about them. Do things to take your mind off it. You're too young to be caught up in this. You're too young for a child. You're too young to worry about infections and diseases.
Just slow down.
You're the one who will benefit from it in the end. and you can finally start to get rid of the rep you already have.
Stop and think.
If you really can't break this, I strongly suggest counseling.

i like shagging my pillow... is this weird?

Not if it makes you happy and does the job =/

does anyone know if when you wash running sneakers, they fall apart or anything goes wrong with them?

It depends on the shoe itself. If they're fairly plain and don't have anything on them which could get damaged and aren't, say, suede, then it should be fine. Put them in a pillowcase first. I'd put them in a cool wash. and make sure you dry them properly.

This is for either girls or guys.

What are your standards for someone you would date?

Sometimes I think my standards are a little too high, so I was just wondering about other people's. Looks; type of personality; color hair; height; style; family; beliefs etc. Not really your ideal person, but rather (Put bluntly) what MUST they have or be?

Thanks

They must be themselves, have a good personality, make me laugh, share the same interests.. When it comes to looks, I prefer darker hair colours, (although have dated blondes in the past), taller than me. that's about it. I'm not too fond of really short hair. and I love nice eyes. Everyone has their own individual style, so I'm happy with however they look, as long as there's nothing too distracting with them. I really do despise the way people have such high standards. People need to learn to take a look what's inside, not just how a person looks.

why do girls shake thier legs while siting in chairs?

I'm guessing everyone has their own answers for this. For some, it's probably a habit, whereas others just can't sit still and want to get the blood flowing around their legs! To be honest though, when you cross your legs, it just gives you something to do so your legs don't go numb.
Weird question! I doubt it's just girls that do it either.

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