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I sometimes take long breaks from the site. I'm more than happy to answer anyone's questions, but just make sure they're not too time sensitive. :)

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if a picture from several months ago has a red X in the center of it. (and you cant see the pic anymore) how do you get it so that you can see it?

You'll have to upload it again. Something is wrong with what is linking the picture to your page. Good luck!

I am very pale because I am almost 100% french. In france it is beautiful to be pale but in the U.S.A it seems as though pale is not as beautiful. I would really like to be able to wear skirts and not be afraid that everyone is thinking my legs are ugly and that im to pale.

What can I do to make my legs look not so bad in skirts?

Awww, pale is beautiful. I think that people that are pale have a porcelain doll kind of look to them, which is just amazing. I would actually suggest just wearing a skirt one day and seeing what happens. See if anybody says anything. It can't hurt. You know you're pale. If that goes badly you have a few choices. Tanning is the obvious suggestion here, but it's not that good for you, it costs money, and it takes a lot of dedication to get started. Plus, fake tans look, well, fake. Tanning lotion is extremely difficult to put on right. It's a funny color most of the time, it streaks, and you'll likely end up looking really silly. Wearing stockings or panty hose I'm thinking is the best choice for you. You don't have to go with the skin colored ones. White or black look very good as do other colors depending on your outfit. The sock idea is a good one too. You'll have a schoolgirl kind of look going, which is adorable. Try not to feel so self conscious about being pale. There are more people out there than you think that find it attractive. Good luck!

ok i talk to myself a ton!! i dont get it. like sometimes before bed or something ill just pretend im like talking to someone. then sometimes ill act out something that happened earlier (something i said or did, ill do it in the mirror to see what i looked like.) is this normal? and why do i do this?

I do that all the time. I think it's quite normal. If not, hey, there's at least me that you can relate to right? People don't really notice when you do it. I do it when I get excited about something that is going to happen or has happened. This is going to sound so cliche, but when I was a little younger I had a crush on a guy. Anyways, he went to different schools and I only saw him through 4-H of all things. When we saw each other at 4-H events we always stuck our tongues out at each other, it was really cute. Whenever I went to a 4-H event, beforehand I would go in the bathroom and practice sticking my tongue out to see what it looked like. I felt so lame and this is quite an embarassing story to share, but my guess is that we all have them. I always replay conversations through in my head too. Every once in awhile I'll catch myself acutally talking. It does make you feel like an idiot, but it's not harming anything and lots of people do it so no worries.

Is there anyway you can add more characters to your aim profile without using a "subprofile" or "buddy profile"? Because I want to write something in my profile but I don't have enough room and it says i have to many characters(letters/words) over the limit. Thank-you! I'll rate!

No, but you can mess around with it and usually get another sentence or two to fit. Remember that using different fonts, stlyes, and colors counts for more characters per letter. The plainer it is, the more letters will fit. Try clearing it and retyping everything. Sometimes that helps. Take out any unnecessary punctuation and smileys. Other than that, sorry, there isn't anything that you can do. Good luck.

I want to get my belly button pierced yet I do not know where to go. Also I am 14 is that a problem? Does the piercing work like when you get your ears pierced, you can just slide the ring in and out? Do they pierce your navel like they pierce your ears, if not then how? Thanks!

Weight gain won't affect it much, but if you get pregnant...yeah. It's not good. I know you're not planning on getting pregnant in the near future, but keep in mind that if the time comes and you do, you may have some problems with it. My Godsister recently had a baby and she had a belly button ring. She had to take it out and the hole got all messed up and ended up closing. Belly button rings are awesome, I hope that your parents will sign for you!

sorry this is long but im DESPERATE!!! HELP!!!
For a haircut I went to this place. I said I wanted side bangs. but they gave me these weird...THINGS...and i absolutely hate it. they're like springs. like whatever i do to the rest of my hair, it won't work on the bangs. it looks terrible, and when my mom saw it i saw her grimace.

so my question: is it possible to get hair extensions, like you cant tell that they're in your hair? so then i can add them to the bangs so they will be normal hairs again? what salons are they available at??? I WILL RATE ANYONE AND EVERYONE WHO WILL HELP

Side bangs don't work for everyone! I'm sorry that this happened to you. There's not much you can do now other than pin them back and let them grow. Good luck.

okay so my hair is kinda long just like 3 inched below my shoulders but than it never grows any longer and i want it to be really long like lindsay lohan long. Is there any way without extensions that will make my hair grow long or faster so by next school year i will have amazing hair. i rate xoxo

It's only going to grow about an inch or so a month. Not a lot, but it adds up after awhile. So, don't get it cut an inch every month and it will grow. I'm trying to grow my hair out for Locks of Love and I only get it cut every few months. It is important to get it cut slightly every once in awhile. It tends to grow slower when you have a lot of split ends. I wish you the best of luck and patience.

Okay, Im 13. And i have bad acne, its on my chest, all over my face, and on back. Gross i know. And it doesnt go away, so im considering getting accutane, I've heard that you have to be tested to get it or something?
Anyways tell me about it.

A Dermatologist can give you exactly what you need. Just schedule an appointment and they will help you out. My aunt had me see one when I had mild acne and I got a perscription acne cream that was perfect for me. Definitely visit a Dermatologist! Good luck!

once your in a group on myspace, is there any way to leave it?

Yes, go to the group page and there's a button that says "Resign". All you have to do is click and you're home free. Good luck!

im am an 8th grade girl
and i am currently going with a 7th grade guy
we're both 13, (today is his birthday, btw)
and we just started dating again.
-when i say again i mean that we've gone out in november for about a month.
we both like passionatly like eachother
the only semi-problem is is that
i am 5"7
and hes like 5"0 about.
it usually dosnt botehr me, but its just like when i dream about that "first true love" i always think of some one that can hold me in his arms, you know? i really really like this guy tho.
he makes me feel like i've never been hurt before, like i just found out what love is,
and im sure to say, i am pretty experienced and stuff
i just wanna feel like this guy is
a man who stands by my side,
and not a boy who runs and hides,
just please give me some tips to feel better about this,
thanks a lot.
i rate particuarly well.

He's only in 7th grade. He will grow. Give him a year or two and he'll catch up to you very quickly. In other words, don't end the relationship for that reason because it's not that big of a deal, especially since it's not permanant.

I see where you're coming from about a guy being shorter than you. As much as people say all the time how appearances don't matter, it's not true. If there were two guys out there that were exactly the same anybody would pick the cuter one. People aren't all that different from each other. Personalities can't vary too much because of the restrictions put on people by society. Plus, have you seen Hitch? Yeah, Allegra never would have noticed the man of her dreams for the very reason that he wasn't good looking. That's how life is. Even people that go for personality, initially and naturally they notice and pay more attention to people they find attractive.

Again though, your boyfriend will grow and it's not like you haven't noticed him. Give it some time. Even if he doesn't get any taller, which would be really weird, it's pretty easy to get used to. My boyfriend is only slightly taller than me as you can kind of tell from my picture. I've gotten so I can even wear 4 inch heels. Being taller than him doesn't matter because I've fallen way too much in love with him to even notice it anymore. It sounds like your guy is definitely worth keeping. Good luck.

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i am so in love with my girlfriend, i cannot get over how lucky i am to have her, i tell everyone about her, on my myspace i have a pic of her, i love her and tell her that everyday, and i think she is the most beautiful thing to ever walk the plante, but this is where the trouble comes, she thinks she is the ugliest thing ever, she thinks she is fat and just ugly, and she has had a terrible life, all her life her dad and her family have called her fat and ugly, and she is not, and i tell her she is so beautiful everyday, but she cant believe me and she is so insegcure, and it is not just like a usual teenage girl, it is horrible, she has nervous breakdowns over it, i dont know what to do to get her to believe me...and help?

Something you can try is take the focus off of her and put it on yourself. My boyfriend actually did this to me. I never believed what he was saying to me, I just thought he was saying it because he felt like he had to because he was dating me, not because he really felt that way. So, having been on the other side of your situation I think that I can help you. Only do this if you two talk a lot and understand each other well. Say something like "you know, when you start feeling bad about yourself it really hurts me. I feel like I'm not good enough for you and that I'm not doing a good job at being your boyfriend because no matter how many times I compliment you, you still don't feel good about yourself. It seems like you don't trust me when I tell you that you are so beautiful and so wonderful and so..." I think you get the point. This will definitely get her thinking and she should make a very conscious effort to improve her self esteem. So far she hasn't been able to do it for herself. She needs to have an external reason to do it - you. It may feel like a low blow at the time (stealing the attention), but it seems you've tried just about everything else, this really is upsetting you, and in the end it will help her a lot. If she takes it the wrong way, you may want to consider ending the relationship or putting it on hold. She needs to want to make you happy too for it to work. I hope I helped you and good luck.

ive had my period for a year now. is it normal that im getting it every 2 weeks? please help! im kind of scared < 3

No, you need to talk to a doctor about it as soon as possible. One of my friends had to get surgery for this! Don't get scared, you probably won't have to get surgery, but just know that this is serious. Please talk to a doctor about it right away! Good luck.

Is there anything you can do to make a black eye go away faster? I've got one right now -- an accident -- and it's really gross looking and hurts.

About all you can do is ice it. I think black eyes look really cool so I wouldn't worry about people thinking it was ugly or anything like that. It happens to people more often than you think and if you mess with it too much it may make it worse. Just wear it proudly! Good luck.

I use a sponge to wash my dishes -- wet sponge, squirt on detergent, wash dishes, rinse dishes and sponge, pretty standard. Every time I get out the sponge to wash the dishes again, it's hard and stiff and I have to wet it for it to be flexible. Is this the normal condition for used sponges or is there something I can do to make the sponge soft all the time? I tried rinsing it an extra long time last time, but it's still got hard again.

This is very normal for sponges. They're supposed to do that. If it really bothers you, try getting a different kind of sponge. There are some types of sponges that remain soft. Just squeeze the package to see if it's soft before you buy it. Good luck!

Hey! So I have windows media player and it's supposed to be compatible with it but i cant add it to the places where i can store music. i have it plugged in to the usb port on my laptop but it doesnt pick up. any more info?

I'm not exactly sure what you're asking, but I think I have an idea of how to help you. Try right clicking on the music file that you want to play and if it has an option "add to now playing list" click on that. If not it should have an "open with" option and you can choose the media player. If that doesn't work, open up the media player and go to "tools" then click on "options". Click the "player" tab on the top and make sure the "add music files to library" box is checked as well as the one right below it that says something about removable media. Now click on the "file types" tab and make sure that all of those boxes are checked. They don't all need to be, but it makes it easier. I hope that I helped and that it starts working for you. Good luck!

13/f i just got my period today. i tried about 1000 kinds of pads and nothing seems to feel right. ive decided that im not ready just to jump into tampons. i also dont want pads wiht wings. does anyone know good SHORT AND NARROW pad namebrands without wings that i could try. thanks in advance. court ♥

I think Kotex has what you're looking for. Remember though, since it's the first time you've had your period it's going to be uncomfortable anyways. Good luck!

alright, firs tof all im prude lol
alright then, well i dont really know what this is, its just a "problem" im having..... All the guys in my school are like obsessed with gurls and getting sex and smokin weed and shit and im not in to that. I am into true love shit and i dont drink or smoke. I never have had like the feeling of wanting a girl like these guys do, i dunno what wrong with me.... i dotn knwo if its caus eim like super prude, like when i think about having sex with a girl i feel like its would "mess up" our friend ship or something, i really dont know. I think it would be wierd to ahve sex with someone your such good friends with, i dunno why i ahve that "idea" in ym head about sex...... can you help me figure out whats wrong with me :-D

Thanks

Nothing is wrong with you and you're not prude. You're just mature for your age. Don't worry about sex. When you're older and the time is right everything will fall into place. In other words you may be mature for your age, but you still have yet to mature some more. There are many people out there that feel just like you. Not everyone is into sex and drugs. A lot of the people that say that they are are really just pretending in order to fit in or because they think it's cool. You are completely normal and you have nothing to worry about at all. Good luck!

Is dance a sport? Now I don't need your opinions I need the facts, the proof that dance is or is not a sport, becuase I don't think it is, but I need to find out. Thanks

There is one sure way to tell if something is a sport (in most cases). Is it in the Olympics?

http://www.eijkhout.net/rad/dance_other/olympic.html

I hope that you can get something out of that link. It's pretty wordy and boring, but answers your question quite thouroughly and gives you the proof you're looking for.

I think that people get confused as to whether dance is a sport or not because normally it's viewed as solely recreational. Going out dancing with your friends isn't participating in a sport. Tossing a frisbee, playing catch, or dribble keep away aren't sports either, but they are based on sports (ultimate frisbee, baseball, softball, basketball, soccer, etc.). Dance doesn't have a different name to separate competitive dancing from recreational. It's all just dance. So, my opinion is, it depends on what kind of dance you're talking about, but yes, I consider it a sport.

I have a Dell Dj and it came with some software that is supposed to be installed so I can put songs on it. It was installed on my dad's computer but now he got another one and I misplaced the software CD. How do I get songs on there now? anyone have any ideas? thanks!

Download Windows Media Player from Windows Update. Go online and click on tools at the top of the page. Click on Windows Update and you should be set from there. If you have any problems let me know and I will try to be more specific. Good luck!

if you have sex when you are on your period will the guy's penis be bloody? and can i still get pregnant?

Yes of course, and yes but it is EXTREMELY unlikely.

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