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my girlfriend is wonderful
15/m
i am so in love with my girlfriend, i cannot get over how lucky i am to have her, i tell everyone about her, on my myspace i have a pic of her, i love her and tell her that everyday, and i think she is the most beautiful thing to ever walk the plante, but this is where the trouble comes, she thinks she is the ugliest thing ever, she thinks she is fat and just ugly, and she has had a terrible life, all her life her dad and her family have called her fat and ugly, and she is not, and i tell her she is so beautiful everyday, but she cant believe me and she is so insegcure, and it is not just like a usual teenage girl, it is horrible, she has nervous breakdowns over it, i dont know what to do to get her to believe me...and help?
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There are a couple things that you can do
1. You cant change what her family has said and it really does hurt but You could go up to her family and tell them how much its hurting when they tell her those things
2. You could just continue telling her that she's beautiful inside and out and that you would never lie to her
I hope this helps
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Something you can try is take the focus off of her and put it on yourself. My boyfriend actually did this to me. I never believed what he was saying to me, I just thought he was saying it because he felt like he had to because he was dating me, not because he really felt that way. So, having been on the other side of your situation I think that I can help you. Only do this if you two talk a lot and understand each other well. Say something like "you know, when you start feeling bad about yourself it really hurts me. I feel like I'm not good enough for you and that I'm not doing a good job at being your boyfriend because no matter how many times I compliment you, you still don't feel good about yourself. It seems like you don't trust me when I tell you that you are so beautiful and so wonderful and so..." I think you get the point. This will definitely get her thinking and she should make a very conscious effort to improve her self esteem. So far she hasn't been able to do it for herself. She needs to have an external reason to do it - you. It may feel like a low blow at the time (stealing the attention), but it seems you've tried just about everything else, this really is upsetting you, and in the end it will help her a lot. If she takes it the wrong way, you may want to consider ending the relationship or putting it on hold. She needs to want to make you happy too for it to work. I hope I helped you and good luck.
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Hey you seem really nice, and shes lucky to have a boyfriend like you. But what i strongly dont suggestion is what the perosn said below me, was moving in together since you to are only 15. But i'd have to say, the best the thing you could possible do is..
1.Listen to her. I admit it sounds lame, but a when a girl is feeling down about herself, she needs to know exactly that your listening to her, and you always will.
2. Make sure she knows YOU think she isn't ugly ect. Beacause if she knows that you honestly 100% think that, it will help her out.
3.And when shes having breakdowns, the best thing you can do, is really listen to her, and let her rant it all out on you. So then you can be the one to tell her how amazing she really is.
And Also since her parents tell her that, I'd tell her to ignore her parents when they that beacause she really doesnt diserve to hear that kind of talk. And so you know you may not get her to believe you 100% but deep inside she really does know that you love her & think she is beautiful.
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hey your giving your girlfriend all the support you can. you sound like a great sweet and lovng boyfriend. its all up to her now to know that she is not. og course going back home everyday and getting those thigns said to her cant be good. if you guys are old enough i recomend strongly that you move in together. if you are not have her move in with an aunt or soemthing. cait ♥
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