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flash backs
i am a 15/f and last summer i was raped, but the thing was i was high so i cant tell my parents or anything, but i am now clean and everything, but i have really bad flashbacks of that time, like they are so vivid and i can feel it happening and i say stuff outloud like "stop" and sutff....now i told my boyfriend and he was really upset, and i dont know how to get rid of these flashbacks without telling ne one, i mean i have a councelor but i just couldnt tell her, does anyone know what i can do?
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well if your clean now i think you should just tell your parents.. they wont worry too much about you being high once they have found out that you were raped. well they will be disappointed in you after hearing that but not as concerned as you being raped. i think that once they know that you should ask if you can see an outta school counsulor. good luck with that. im hope it all goes well <3
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Hey. Well what you need to do to get rid of these flashbacks is TALK. If you're not ready to talk to your parents yet (though I still suggest you do but I totally understand why it's difficult and that it may take you some time but you really should and you're going to need support to talkt o them and then support from them) or your friends (what happened to you is something personal that I wouldn't really suggest telling your friends). There are a lot of free hotlines (there's teen hontiles) and you can talkt o somebody there. Don't worry, they are totally CONFIDENTIAL (and it won't appear on the phone bill). You will get it out of your system and they will give you advice (they know much more about this topic than I do or msot of the columnists here). They may recommend talking to your parents also (don't worry about that yet though) and though you feel you can't they will give you moral support to try to help you and don't worry, they won't FORCE you to tell them or rat on you. It'll be totally up to you. But if you tell your parents you may be able to put charges against the person and you may be preventing what happened to you to happen to other people. Sorry for lecturing you about the parent thingie, like I said, don't worry about that yet. First make sure you talk to SOMEONE about what happened and then (soon) try to reconsider telling your parents.
Here's a website with phone numbers that may help:[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
p.s. Good luck and I'm so sorry you had to live a horrible experience. Remember it's not your fault and you will get through it because you're a strong person and though everything is difficult now everything will be okay.
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Sweetie you need to talk to your parents!! We all make mistakes in our lives that's nothing new, but you need to get some help to get you through this before it's to late!!! Your parents will understand it may be difficult at first but they will come around. No parent wants their child to suffer whether they are 2 or 202!!! Good luck
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Hi,
I have had many experiances with friends who have been raped. But in my advice please don't hold this in. It's not good for you. Do you know who the person was? If so PLEASE report it to the police. Your not hurting your self by doing that. Your hurting yourself by not telling anyone. Just think if you told someone (parent, police, etc.) you could stop this guy from probably raping other Teens because if he did it to you then he has probably done it to everyone else he has had a relationship with.
Your boyfriend also had no right to be mad at you. You were high. When people get high they do crazy things. He should have understood that. But please just get help because thats probably the only solution to get rid of those flashbacks. When I say "get help" I DON'T mean "get help you have issues idiot!". Because your not and it's normal to be afraid of things like this.
Sure your parents might be mad. But that doesn't mean that they don't love you. They can't be mad at you forever. The only thing that they could possiably be real mad at you about is not telling them. Their your parents and they will always love you no matter what. Trust me.
-GD
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You're not alone. Flashbacks are very common for rape survivors.
To be honest, this is something that you really need to talk to your counselor about. If you're not comfortable enough with her to talk about this, the odds are good that she's not really going to be able to help you - and please believe me, you do need help.
You can't just tough it out alone. Rape is very serious - you don't need me to tell you that, I'm sure - and there's no way to simply make the aftereffects go away by themselves. You need therapy with a counselor you can trust.
Otherwise, the long-term effects could be devastating, and last the rest of your life. I'm not trying to scare you...but please, find a way to talk to your counselor, or look into finding a new one that you can trust.
I'm so sorry that this happened to you.
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okay first i want to say im really sorry but the only way to get the flaskbacks out of your head is to let go of what happened and you cant do that without telling someone... if you tell a councilor by law she cant tell anyone else...but i would tell your mother even though you were high i think she would like to know that her daughter was raped so she could find a way to help.
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hey theres no way you can tell the police or anything because it happen a year ago and theres no way to catch the victum or anything. btu you need to tell someone. you cant just keep your feelings inside like that. you have to tell your councelor eveything you tell them will be safe with them cause thye cant jut tell your parents. cait ♥
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go to the police. everything you say will be confidential.. well so is everything with a counselor. you can tell them everything and they dont have to tell your parents that you were high if you dont want them too! you have to alteast tell someone!
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