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Hey my names kayla and im 14 years 0ld...i will answer any questi0n y0u ask me because chances are im g0ing/went thr0ugh s0mething similar. i have realized that i am best at giving advice t0 pe0ple 0n what t0 say t0 0thers 0n a given situati0n. If theres ever s0mething urgent y0u need t0 ask me feel free t0 im me 0n xoredskittleox...if y0u have any pr0blems regarding my advice...like s0mething i might have said that 0ffended y0u 0r anything like that.
Much0 l0ve
Kayla
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-Im sorry if anyone has been trying t0 email me. My email address is currently n0t w0rking. S0meh0w the pr0gram g0t switched to msn. grr my c0mputer always d0es that. Anyways i am s0 s0rry if any0ne was trying t0 get in c0ntact with me and i didnt resp0nd.

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OKay, I want to put self tanner on my legs and arms, but I have a few questions (just for those who have dont it before...please!)

Is it safe to apply to arms and how do I do it w/o it streaking. Also, if I sweat will it bleed onto my clothes? And are their any other tips?

If I mess up...how do I remove the tanner?

hey ive never done it before and i know u dont want my advice or anythin then but my friend recently tried it and it looked HORRIBLE. I dont know if she just had no idea what she was doing or if it just isnt the right rout to go if you want to look tan. If i where you i would just go to a tanning salon. I wouldnt want to risk a do it yourself tanner. Thats all i know about the topic. I wanna get a tan too so im most likely gonna go to the salon thats the better choice. But you should go ahead and give it a try and if it doesnt work out then you know never to use it again.
~kayla

-and my friend danielle also did it and she messed up big time and she had streaks down her legs and it wouldnt come off for weeks so she couldnt wear shorts or anything.

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hey! does anyone know of a site where you can put in a picture and see what you look like with different hair and stuff? i'd perfer a free website please. thanks so much!

yea www.makeoversolutions.com
~ kayla

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i just bought certain dri last night and i put it on and my armpits started tinglinng and itching and first but then they stopped... is this normal/ok?

maybe you had an allergic reaction
~ kayla

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My Boyfriend told me yesterday that if he doesnt have a girlfriend who loves him when he turns 16 he is inlisting into the army and i dont want that to happen. I dont want anything to tear us apart but if he does go i will miss him how do i talk him out of it!

Im 14 and He Is Almost 15!

Wait he is your boyfriend and he sayd to you that if he doesnt have a girlfriend that loves him hes gonna join the army?! ok well if thats the case thats crazy. Hes your boyfriend and you love him so why would he even say that. He has a girlfriend that loves him and thats you. Tell him that you really love and care for him and you would be torn apart if he left.
~kayla

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I'm really bad at starting conversations with people. I've been rejected by SO many guys because I'm "to quiet". I know i should be myself but the thing is that I don't want to be the girl that keeps her mouth shut all the time. If you could give me some good ways to start good conversations with people (Boys mostly) that would be great. Thanks!

hey i used to be in the same situation with you. But guys didnt call me "too quiet" they didnt even notice me. Part of it is because i didnt really show that i was confident in myself. Guys love girls who have confidence. Walk into a room like you own the place not liek you HAVE to be there. Start with that and see if any guys try to start a convorsation with you. This quiet to confident change is gonna have to take time so dont rush and run into school liek a spaz. Just slowely start coming out of your shell. Thats what i did and i noticed a big change.
Hope i was of some help
~ kayla

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this is kinda gross but does anyone know a good way to keep your armpits dry? i have even tried mens deoderant...i need something stronger HELP

If you go to your dermatologist (skin doctor) and tell him that you have a problem with ur arm pits sweating then they can perscribe you a strong medicin that will help you out. Or i hear that theres something you can get injected...i dont know much about that one but i have heard someone bring it up before.

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I have a friend. I met her in September and she was really nice for about a month and then she started hitting me for no apparent reason. Supposedly her dad "abuses her" but no physically, and whenever she hits me she blames it on that and her insomnia. Her insomnia is cured, and if she's smart enough to blame her problems on her dad, I think she's smart enough not to do it. So it's been months now, and she's bruised me a lot, in the face once. She threatens people and blames it on me when I get beaten and whenever I get a bruise she says "It prolly just something stupid you did to yourself to blame on me." So she started talking about killing people, one of them happens to be my major crush who I would do anything for, but I can't tell her or she'll kill me. (different problem) So I went to my principal because she'll end up killing someone, and we got into a fight. The principal said she's not worth it and to stop talking to her. She said she's sorry but I don't believe it, but I'm scared she's going the beat me if I tell her. I can't ignore her forever. What should I do?

Um she sounds really um odd...tell her that you want her to lay off you and leave you alone...say shes a good friend but you dont exactly appreciate what shes going through..wow thats messed up...

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ok long story short>>>i got caught shopliftin.....(my friends had nothin to do wit it)......**dont tell me anythin about the shopliftin like its bad or anythin bc i undastand everythin that happened**....but my friends mom is pissed at her bc she is the one i was stealin shit 4....but i still dont want her to take anypart of it ....and im only aloud over her house if i talk to her parents but how would i start up a convo wit her parents?

if you dont mention anything about shopliftin is bad or anythin like that ill rate high...thanx

hey, that sux that ur in this position...wow..um...well if it where me i would call and be like 'hey i wanna tell you i made a mistake shop lifting...i realize that it wasnt a good descision and i would hate to lose my best friend over it' or something like that

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Ok my neighbor is bi and she invited me over one time with her and another bi girl who i didnt kno was bi but then we got really really drunk and i made out with both of them and i woke up and i thought it was REALLY gross i mean ok and then i found out they werent drunk but i was and so they kept telling me i was bi and im like NO IM NOT and they keep telling me i am soo i dont believe them but am i?

You where drunk and you had no clue what u where doing. Dont rely on what they are saying to you on wut your sexuality is. Nobody can tell you YOUR BI or YOUR GAY you decide if you are or not.

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Okay my friend likes this guy, but they broke up and he doesnt lik eher at all..so she had a new boyfriend...and i started to like her ex so i told her so she wouldnt be mad at me..but she got mad and we are in a fight now...and then she broke up with her new boyfriend cause i like her ex.. and ithink shes gonna try and get her ex back so i dont have a chance but im not sure...i dont know what to do cause i was only trying to be a good friend by telling her that so she wouldnt have to find out if i like dated him

well you should tell her all that...shes getting way out of hand...she should give you a chance to have somebody instead of totally spoiling it for you...thats really mean...she seems greedy...but anyways...talk to her and tell her how you feel...if she is a good friend she will understand and calm down

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ok look i kno this chick and we've been goin out for about 9 months and she wants to do stuff really bad and dont get me wrong i do too but i am not done with puberity and i am shy about it i dont kno what to do what do i do? what do i say? should i just go for it and see what happens or should i just wait?

P.S. we love each other VERY much!! :)

Tell her to wait a little while because your not ready. Usually its the guy who wants to do things. Well any which way tell her that you arent comfortable about it.
mucho love kayla

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you know how most ppl have tht friend who is always there for them and they can trust them no matter what..pretty much their best friend? well i dont have a best friend, i just a lot of friends and theres lots of times where i need someone like a bestfriend that will keep all my secrets but i dont have neone like that so wht should i do!?

well...maybe you dont really feel a close bond with some of your friends, until you get close with someone write your feelings in a diary or somethin...choose a close friend that you trust to keep your secrets. Maybe you have a best friend but you just dont think you do.

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My boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month now. My best friend had no problem with him until now. She says she hates him. What can I do to fix that?

um...well i have a friend and we went through the same exact situation over a boy as your going through...well maybe not exactly the same but close...well i had liked my friends little brother for a really long time and he had finally asked me out...i was in 7th grade and he was in 6th...and then my friend got all pissed about it and said that she hated him and she wouldnt talk to me until we broke up...well thats wut i think she said...idk well we both decided to ditch the little guy and move on...im sure she will answer this question too x next 2 you x0 ...i dont think theres anything you can really do...chicks before dicks

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Hi there, I'm 14 years old and I have a problem with self harm. It used to be controlable, but now it's an addiction. No one else knows, and I don't know how I can stop, because it's getting really bad. How do I control it??

hey..well if you r aware you have a problem you need to tell someone...tell your parents and they can get you help before you really hurt urself

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okay there is this guy, matt, and he's a- well- a bit of a slut. we are good mates and last year he got with my friend. not sex or anything but fooled around. i was totally cool with that coz he's a nce guy and everything. but a month or so later i realised i had feelings for him. i told my friend and she was like OMG go for it!!! he had a party, so after a few drinks to soften the blow, i told him i liked him. he was like. OMG i've liked you for ages. i was so happy!!! he kissed me and we were making out when my friend banged on the door asking for me. i ran out and my other friend had passed out. i looked after her and made sure she was okay. when i came out of the room i saw matt kissing his ex. after pouring my heart out to another guy friend i got over it and we kept being friends. we still are. he was like so into my sister so i introduced them but warned my sister about him. they hooked up (not sex) but she wanted nothing else. he was cut up about it but got over it. i havn't spoken to him much lately coz i been busy. but i ran into him at the mall yesterday. we chatted for a while and today he sent me a message saying hey gorgeous, i'm thinking of you. and i dunno whats happening. n e 1 that can help it would be appreciated!!! sorry it's so long. i rate!

It seams like the only time you two hook up is when there is ahcohol involved. Thats not a good sign...he seems like a player you deserve better...

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is it normal to have ur pierod for only a day??

i wouldnt think so...

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i like to wear my hair up in a bun or pony tail but my mom is soooo annoying about it. she says that i hav beautiful hair and i should wear it down. i keep telling her wen i wear my hair down i get really hot (like today i got out of the shower and i felt sick i was so hot). any suggetions?

please help. i rate!

Well..i have the same problem...i wear my hair up on warm days and down on cool days and im just fine...and my mom stops complaining...

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I cant get a foundation to match my skin, because I am so pale. Does anyone know any good brands?

cover girl dream matt mouse comes in alot of shades...

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Why do guys always have to date popular girls?Why cant they date a regular girls?

well guys like who they find attractive and confident in themselves...and the popular girls are masters at both of those fields...

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Bad posture runs in my family. My mom's shoulder is one higher than the other, and she constantly slouches. Ive noticed over the past year, i have been becoming the same way. I cant even stand up or sit up straight because it hurts. My shoulders are slouched, and ive already gone to the doctor to get it checked out. They said i dont have scoliosis (spelled it wrong), but how am i supposed to improve my posture if it hurts?

well if you want to have good posture that bad you might have to deal with the pain...ever hear the saying "beauty is pain" every day when you come home from school put a book on top of your head and walk around with it on there for a couple minutes each day. thats all i could think of...

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