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Controlling My Self-Injury
Hi there, I'm 14 years old and I have a problem with self harm. It used to be controlable, but now it's an addiction. No one else knows, and I don't know how I can stop, because it's getting really bad. How do I control it??
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By self-harm do u mean cutting?The only effective way to completely control it is through counseling.Also try to find something else to replace your cutting, that helps get your frustrations out like cutting does such as listening to music,dancing,writing,reading,or my personal favorite which always makes me feel better watch movies, movies that have adventure in it so you forget about reality for lose couple of hours.If you ever need someone to talk to im me on aim my sn is sp0iled shedevil or leave on in my inbox.
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My psychiatrist did these things to help me control the problem:
1. Give whatever you cut with to someone you trust. I gave mine to my mum.
2. If you cut to see blood, or it makes you feel better to see blood, take a red marker to your wrists/wherever instead. The illusion is seeing the red marker on your skin :)
3. If you do it for the pain, snap a rubberband whenever you feel the urge. The sharp burst of pain will keep you satisfied for a little bit.
4. When you feel like cutting, do something else that you really enjoy. Mine was reading.
I hope that helps.
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Well i almost have the same problem but what i do instead is I punch a pillow as hard as i can or i just squeeze my fists really tight to avoid it. Or another thing i do is write them down on paper or listen to music or even cry. You can also talk to a close friend about your problems. But if its now an addiction you might want to go to a counciler or therapist to help ease your pain inside. Now is the time you tell somebody about it, before it goes to far. Hope i Helped!! :)
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You need to get help. The best person to go to is your parents, close friends or someone that you trust. If you can't face them, go to your GP or phone up a helpline that specialises in teens that self harm (these can usually be found in teen magazines or in the phone book). You need to talk to someone about this. Only with the love and support of another person will you be able to work out exactly why you choose to self harm and how to control it or stop it all together. Please talk to someone about this before it gets worse. You've made very important steps by realising that you do have a problem and asking for advice. Now you need to go one step further and seek someone who can help. If you need someone to talk to at any time, e-mail me on csbubbles@aol.com. Good luck honey.
Claire xx
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Hey. I have to say I have been there/ or I am there. I know it is really hard to stop doing it and when it becomes an addiction it is even harder, I still haven't been able to stop, Its been a year and 2 months for me now, and I totally understand where you are coming from. If you really want to stop, you can tell your parents or a teacher/ guidance counselor, and I know its not something you would want to do, but if its your last resort then you should, SI is never ever a good thing, and I know Im not the one to talk. You can also try snapping your wrist with a rubber band or holding an Icecube. You can write your feelings down instead of taking them out on yourself, Punch something talk to someone, and Im not trying to sound lame but Give them a try it couldn't make it worse. One thing though, if you are gonna tell a friend make sure its someone you trust, It will make you even more upset, and make you want to cut more if you tell a trusted friend and they tell people or they tell on you, and people will think they are trying to help but they are just making it worse. If you need anything IM me anytime. PLease! ITSALLKAITLYN < S.N Keep Me updated, and I hope everything works out! <kaitlyn>
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get yourself help, a doctor. its like drugs, and its hard to quit. you can, but you have to really want to.
And You should!!!
Hope I Helped-
Kels
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If you go to a health program or something you can talk to somebody that can help you stop
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You should go to counciling i used to cut my wrist then i went to counceling .... it helped :)
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i think you need to talk to someone about it thats always the best thing but you need to be the one that wants to stop ..cause if you dont it will be really hard in the long run
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I know what you mean when you say it used to be controlable and now it's addicting. You need to tell someone you can trust. Whether it be a friend/teacher/parent/aunt/relative... But be warned... if you tell a councilor it's their job to call your parents. They HAVE to inform your parents when you are in any danger, otherwise they could be fired...
But it was a VERY addicting habit for me, and to tell the truth, I'm not completely over it. Whether I try but stop myself, or I just have thoughts of doing self-harm, it's definitley hard to get over. You NEED to tell someone. I got over it because I told friends and a teacher, and another teacher found out and told guidance, and it led to this huge deal. But what really got me to try and stop was when a friend told me that she couldn't be friends with me if I continued doing SI because she didn't want to be friends with someone who just tried to throw their life away. Because of her, and other helpful and supportive people, I threw away my needles, I tried and tried and tried, and the few times I got really strong urges I wrote poems, or I wrote private entries in my xanga from way back when. But you have to get your mind of self harm. What causes you to harm yourself? Try to fix that problem. Did a guy cheat on you, or does your boyfriend treat you wrong? Dump him! Is there a bad situation at home? Try to talk to the councilor, and tell her that because of your situation you've thought about, but haven't done self harm, that way that can't call home saying you've done something (maybe) or has a friend passed away recently? Try to remember the good times, and get everyone that was close to that friend make a huge scrapbook of pictures and insiders and things to remember that friend by, so whenever you get sad you can look through it (that will work for like anyone that's passed away)
Here's a website that may or may not help you. Good luck. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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hey..well if you r aware you have a problem you need to tell someone...tell your parents and they can get you help before you really hurt urself
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