My name is Rae. I live in Colonie. I go to CCHS asa freshman. I'm 14, my birthday is October 7th (( tomorrow from wen im writing this lol )). I help my friends out with advice ALL the time and i'm pretty good at it. I keep an open mind and make sure i give people as many options and opions that i have for them. I'll try to come on here everday, but if i dont i may have computer problems, charging my laptop, working on a website, or currently dealing with my own problems. I want to open up to you guys and relate your problems to mine. I may be young but i have gone through a lot in my life, as well as seen people i'm very close to go through the same problems you are. I'm actually really bad at solving my own problems... which is probably why i'm good at solving other peoples.
There are a lot of useless random info about me and i dont want to bore you anymore haha. but if ya wanna no more e-mail me, IM me, or jus ask a question lol. thanx
x333333 RaE aKa LiL sHoRtY
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Gender: Female
Location: Colonie New York
Occupation: Radio Host && Singer/Songwriter
Age: 14
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MSN: raexnicolee@hotmail.com
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What is a good color eyeshadow for a gray sweatshirt and a blue top underneath
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I'd say a light blue or white wood look really good. If it's a grey hoodie (( one that doesnt zip )) then white is the best becasue you won't be able to see the shirt. That way you still look good if you take the sweat shirt off. hope i helped
Rae x3333
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i've been with this girl for 2 months and at first everything was fine but when it started to get to the 2nd month we quit spending time together and everything we quit going places together and quit having sex and all kinds of stuff and i want to know what to do
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Talking to her is the smartest thing to do. You need to let her know you want to hang out more. I'm sorry but she might be trying to hint to you that your over. Which is why it's important to talk to her. Hope I can help...
Candii Grl
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well i have a lot of friends but some of them just plain dont like each other. my 2 best friends r the worst. they r like i just said my 2 BEST friends but they dont like barely ANY of my other friends, and some of them they just plain hate. none of my friends seem 2 realize how hard it is for me 2 deal with it all. so um yea.... advice pleez! (link)
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I understand what you're going through. I have a lot of friends too and they hate each other as well. What I do is I try not to talk about all the great times I had with them to the friends who hate them. Try not to hang out witth them all at the same time, but hang out with them equally. If the 2 are your BEST friends, let them know that their your best friends but you can have other friends. And that them hating on your other friends isnt going to make you stop liking them. They need to know that best friends dont complain about your other friends too. Pretty much talking to them is the best way to go. Hope I helped ya
LiL sHoRtY
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I'll be brief. There's this one pretty girl I knew in Junior High; although we weren't offically an item, we were very close friends. During the time we knew each other, we didn't exchange phone numbers, email, or anything like that. To make a long story short, I got in trouble with the law and was kicked out of the seventh grade. After the ugly rehabilitation process, I was missing her ALOT, but eventually I had to get over it, and started high school on a fresh note. Today, I get a call, and it's her. Obviously, I'm stunned she called; she tells me she got my number out of the phone book. She said she missed me and we talked for a looong time about our lives right now. During our chat, she talked about how she thought she was worthless, how her mom was being treated for AIDS, and bascially, things aren't good for her. She also said she liked me then(she even used the word "soulmates"), and although I told her I did too, the words didnt quite come out the way I expected. And thats where my question comes in. I have little to no experience with women, and would like to know ways to assert myself confidently, while not acting like a total jerk. I also want to make her feel less worthless about herself, because I do care for her. On top of that, she has a boyfriend already. How can I do all of this, without her thinking I'm trying to intrude on their relationship? She wants me to call her tomorrow at 7, so answers would greatly be appreciated before then. But don't worry if not, I'm sure I'll eventually talk face to face with her soon. For your information, I'm 15, and male. (link)
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As a girl the same age as you.... you write a lot better than any guy i know. sorry thought i'd let you know.
If she used the word soulmates she shouldn't have a problem ditching her bf and going after you. You intruding on their relationship might make him mad, but other than that if you liker you need to go after her. All girls want a guy who goes after them... so dont worry about being a jerk. Most girls end up liking jerks anyway. haha.
To make her feel more worthy... let her know that you missed her ever since. And that you care a lot about her. Letting her know that there isn't any one better will deffinitey make her feel more like she has a purpose in life. Pretty much compliment her and point out all the wonderful qualities she has.
As for confedence only you can do that one. I can't give you advice on how to be confident because i dont know you. I dont know how you usually act toward people you like, you know? What i can tell you is that acting like nothing bothers you is also considered a way of being confident. I'm sorry i cant help you with this one very well.
Hope I helped, and i hope you and her get together
LiL sHoRtY
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What's a garder? How do you make one? I have to make one for my homecoming date real soon & I have no clue how! (link)
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Garders are meant for weddings, not homecomings. And you cant make one. It's an elastic band that goes on a girls thigh. At the end of the wedding (( reception )) the groom takes it off with his teeth. Unless you plan on getting the freaky freaky i suggest a corsage likee normal dates
LiL sHoRtY
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i have a dance next weekend and i dont know what to wear. the dance is casual. im in middle school. what should i wear? (link)
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wear jeans and a t-shirt. if it's formal then your probably going to be running around so a skirt or dress is a bad choice. i've gone to about 36 middle school dance at a few different schools and when they say casual its a good idea to wear somethign you can do anything in. I dont think you should wear shorts though... jeans lookk nicer.
hope i helped
LiL sHoRtY
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Lastnight ... when i was just walking in my house ... my knee buckled, popped(i heard it) and i just fell to the ground. For the first 10 minutes it burned, and i coodnt get off the ground. My dad helped me up ... and i coodnt put any weight on it. I got thru the night ... but still this morning, its not better. It just feels like theres a giant bruise on it ... and i cant put much weight on it at all. Im going to the doctors soon. Do yu know whats wrong? Am i gunna need crutches or something? (link)
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You may have a fracture which is close to a break. You will need crutches, unless they find out it isnt bad. I used crutches and at first it was fun but it hurts and it sux after a while. I hope you feel better. n i hope i helped ya
LiL sHoRtY
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Is it wrong for me to go out on walks dressed like John Lennon? (link)
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ummmm hahahahahahaha. oh man. it depends... are you a guy? if your a guy then i dont think so. It's kind of funny but there isnt anything WRONG wiht it.
LiL sHoRtY
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I'm a 13-year-old girl and I always want to have sex...I just get this feeling a lot "down there" and it feels really good. I think about it a lot. I know that 13 is WAY too young to be having sex and I would never ever do it until I'm married, but I feel really guilty for getting like this. Am I way too young to be feeling like this? Am I way too young to even be thinking about this? Is there anything I can do about it without intercouse?
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Ok. This is definitely going to be long so hang in there. When people hit puberty, usually around the age of 11-13 they're hormones start building up. Have you had your period yet? Once you start getting your period you also start to feel "horny". This is because your hormones are racing and they're turning you into a woman. It is completely normal and you shouldn't feel guilty. There are ways to get the feeling without intercorse. Vibrators.... lol. From what i know they make a lot of noise just as a warning. You aren't too young to be thinking about this either. I am still 13 until tomorrow night at 7 pm, and i get these feelings all the time. But dont do oral. Oral seems like a good alternative but you could get STDS and AIDS from the cum and other things. Hope i helped
LiL sHoRtY
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I need your opinion:
I have been love for four years.
I am 17 now.
Some people say I'm too young and others say that seventeen is ld enough to know what you want.
I've always been mature for my age and when I told everyone I was in love at fourteen, needless to say, they didn't believe it. But it has been years and I am still in love.
Do you think I'm "old enough" to be in love? If I am, then wasn't I old enough when I was fourteen because back then, I was sure I would be in love forever and I still am. (link)
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Ok honestly you MAY be to young to be in love. I know i'm 14 now n thought i was in love many times. I'm not saying you are too young but you never know. There are a lot of signs to know if your in love and im sure you know what they are. I learned at a young age if you love something let it go, if it comes back then it's meant to be. I'm nto saying to dump your bf. but if you HAVE been dating sice you were 14 i think you guys should try to see other people. That way if you feel something for anyone else you know that you weren't meant for each other. Technically you're still considered a child, and to be in love already is a big deal. If you plan on being with this person for the rest of your life then you need to try new things before you settle down. You didnt have a logn time to dae and see exctly what you want in a man. You also dont know how this guy you love will act when it's just you and him against the world. I hope i helped
LiL sHoRtY
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i started my period 14 days early,i never did anything sexually.does anybody know why this happened?
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There isnt anything wrong with you. Sometimes periods decide to be stupid and come early or late. It just means your body is starting to work faster. If you're really cocerned go see your doctor. Otherwise you just have to go through a week of hell lol.
LiL sHoRtY
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Well ive been going out with my bf since June... But weve liked eachother SOOOOOO MUCH before that... I love him and all but i just get aggervated with the way he treats me sometimes. This all happened in July when we all went to a house party.. i got pretty trashed (14/f believe me i learned from my mistakes and theyll never happen again!!) and i ended up making out with this guy.. I didnt even notice i did it until the next morning when i woke up at my house (i had gotten a ride home from my friends bro')... Well anyway so i felt like such a horrible person i even called my boyfriend up and told him what i did... He of course reacted as any man would.. flipping out on me and sh** he even called me a fucking slut and whore... :( :( :( :(.... yeah I know harse... BUT we talked it over like 2 weeks after that and he finally forgave me.. I was so Happy... and see the thing is though whenever the boy who i madeout with comes up (even now and its october) my BF gets all pissed off and doesnt talk to me! or he'll be in a bitchy mood all day and when we hangout he wont kiss me or whatever... errr and its continually.. But then the next day hes all fine and everything. I know he doesnt trust me still.. and it sucks.. ANY IDEAS?? Im tired of this.. I HATE IT SO MUCH!! it makes me feel so low of myself and i cry whenever it happens.. What can i do to stop him from doing this??.. and for me to forgive myself? and how can i let him know he can trust me and that i do love him and it was just a mistake! (link)
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You can't make him trust you. But you can show him you dont like this guy at all. Try not to bring it up. If someone else brings him up roll your eyes and act like you hate talking about him. What you did was wrong, and you admit that which is good. I'm 14 and i've done some stupid stuff too. Admiting it is definitely the best. Talk to him again. Let him know that you love him and not that guy, that when he gets mad at you over it it makes you cry. If he really loves you he'd hate the fact that you were crying because of the way he was treating you. You need to tell him that you understand why he cant trst you but that you dont have any intention of ever doing it again. Guys are really insecure too they just try not to show it. So for him to know that HIS girl was macking with some other guy makes him feel like as a "man" he's missing something. He needs to be complimented just like you do, but in a different way. i know it sounds funny but it works. Let him know hes your and your his and no one elses lol. hope i helped ya even a bit
LiL sHoRtY
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