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Well ive been going out with my bf since June... But weve liked eachother SOOOOOO MUCH before that... I love him and all but i just get aggervated with the way he treats me sometimes. This all happened in July when we all went to a house party.. i got pretty trashed (14/f believe me i learned from my mistakes and theyll never happen again!!) and i ended up making out with this guy.. I didnt even notice i did it until the next morning when i woke up at my house (i had gotten a ride home from my friends bro')... Well anyway so i felt like such a horrible person i even called my boyfriend up and told him what i did... He of course reacted as any man would.. flipping out on me and sh** he even called me a fucking slut and whore... :( :( :( :(.... yeah I know harse... BUT we talked it over like 2 weeks after that and he finally forgave me.. I was so Happy... and see the thing is though whenever the boy who i madeout with comes up (even now and its october) my BF gets all pissed off and doesnt talk to me! or he'll be in a bitchy mood all day and when we hangout he wont kiss me or whatever... errr and its continually.. But then the next day hes all fine and everything. I know he doesnt trust me still.. and it sucks.. ANY IDEAS?? Im tired of this.. I HATE IT SO MUCH!! it makes me feel so low of myself and i cry whenever it happens.. What can i do to stop him from doing this??.. and for me to forgive myself? and how can i let him know he can trust me and that i do love him and it was just a mistake!
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Let me get this straight. You cheat on him, now you get mad at him when he gets upset when you bring up that guy's name? Maybe you should have been more responsible and NOT cheated on him. He has every right to be mad at you, and do the things he does. Hell, you should be lucky he's still with you. You're both young, neither of you should be dealing with cheating relationships yet. Well, not that anyone should ever have to deal with it, but someone older could handle it better. This is an important lesson, learn to take responsibility for your actions. You cheated on him, and he doesn't trust you and gets mad when you mention the other guy's name. Either deal with it or find a new guy.
Also, don't drink.
You may have done it three months ago, but I haven't forgiven my ex for cheating on me even a year later. Cheating isn't just something you can forgive and forget. It is one of the worst things you can do to someone, especially if you claim you love them. This wasn't negative, it was trying to show you that he isn't in the wrong for acting the way he is. If you can't understand that, fine, continue to live you life thinking you can just apologize to someone and it will all be better. I hope one day you mature enough to realize how stupid you're acting right now.
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You care and love him enough to ask for advice about it. Try showing him what you wrote and what you asked for advice on. He will see that you love him and not this jerk. Your boyfriend is lucky that you even told him, keeping secrets from your lover gets you nowhere in a relationship. There are going to be times when he does something that he will regret. It happens to all of us, we are only human enough. The truth is, you hurt him even though you didn't want to and yes he is jealous. Show him there's nothing to be jealous or mad about, you love him. Talk all of this over with him and show him how much you love him by simply showing him what you just said. I know it's tough and I hope you and your boyfriend go to the way things used to be. Just remember, don't give up on him yet. He will realize he loves you enough to let your mistakes go by...not the easiest thing to do but it will happen.
*Good Luck* -N- I hope I helped!
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You can't make him trust you. But you can show him you dont like this guy at all. Try not to bring it up. If someone else brings him up roll your eyes and act like you hate talking about him. What you did was wrong, and you admit that which is good. I'm 14 and i've done some stupid stuff too. Admiting it is definitely the best. Talk to him again. Let him know that you love him and not that guy, that when he gets mad at you over it it makes you cry. If he really loves you he'd hate the fact that you were crying because of the way he was treating you. You need to tell him that you understand why he cant trst you but that you dont have any intention of ever doing it again. Guys are really insecure too they just try not to show it. So for him to know that HIS girl was macking with some other guy makes him feel like as a "man" he's missing something. He needs to be complimented just like you do, but in a different way. i know it sounds funny but it works. Let him know hes your and your his and no one elses lol. hope i helped ya even a bit
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You can't really make him trust you. Of course he's going to get pissed when the thought of that guy comes up, he's sensitive to it still. It seems as though it still hurts him to think about it, you can't blame him. It's good that you two can talk about things and he can forgive you the next day, trust me that takes alot of effort to forgive someone after that happens. And don't feel low about yourself, you got drunk and made out wiht another guy, yeh that's pretty bad but people learn from their mistakes. In time he'll trust you but stuff like that takes time to forgive and forget about. Things take time. I'm sorry that it upsets you but with every action is always a positive and negetive outcome.
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What is done is done and all you can do it let him know that you have no feelings for this other guy. You need to tell him how it makes you feel when he gets all mad and angry or else it won't stop. Since you have been together for awhile, you need to be COMPLETELY honest with him. Tell him you were trashed and that it has never happened before that and it will never happen again.
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