there was this one girl I went to school with named jessica and she really was rude to EVERYONE.

the first day i ever met her, I complimented her pretty hair, said I liked it.

and she blew up in my face and bullied me all the way to high school.

after 5 yrs i was pretty tired of it and everytime she she said something mean to me, i looked at her and smiled, and said.. "really?" and i would just keep smiling. she would get so MAD!!! after that she no longer had power over me and she eventually stopped completely!

hope this helps! =]

steph

be mature about it and ask him yourself.

my bf was shy when we met and after months of liking him, I asked HIM out. and we have now been together for over 5 years. Getting married in December!

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

hey!

i posted a similar question 2 days ago! except I was stuck between 2 dresses! I picked a beautiful princess dress. it has no train but it makes me feel beautiful! heres a pic:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplayView?storeId=10052&catalogId=10051&categoryId=-49995489¤tIdx=16&subCategory=-49999486%7c-49998998%7c-49995489&catentryId=6123308&sort=

its really pretty and made me feel beautiful!

you should go into a bridal shop and try on different styles of dress and see what style looks best on you. THEN, if you want to buy online, you wont be guessing if a certain dress will look good or not!

=] congrats! mine is in December!

steph

i had a similar sitch

this kitten needs your help. do you have a balcony or a porch? because i live in an apt too and I have a fenced in porch. the best thing to do would be to put the kitten there, and give it some food to distract it, and call the humane society. end the kitty's sufferring and get it the help it needs. you will feel much better about it in the end know that its taken care of. =]

let me know how things go!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

i did some drama/acting classes in High School and college and everytime i watch this show, the bad acting makes me cringe.

i strongly believe that it is all scripted. i know for sure that they dont just find people and let their bad bfs/and gfs sit on the couch with their parents and let them insult eachother. if it was real life, we would be seeing alot of peole get beat up. like i said i strongly agree that its all a fake act and scripted.

ive found that hj can be harder to please the man with. he much prefers the bj. im not going to go into too many details but to answer your question, bj's in my opinion, seem to work much better.

=] steph 21/f

i think I can help ease some of your worries.


First of all, it is VERY NORMAL to want to have male courtship when your single. there is nothing wrong with wanting him to be around and enjoying his company. Im sorry that he isnt on your "level" when it comes to the relationship that you have. we win some you loose some i guess.

as far as forgetting him? well, i would just say to be indifferent if you can. See if he ever changes his perspective and wants more of what you two share. right now im not sure what he considers you as, but there is always a chance that he will be tired of his party guy ways and want to settle down, but there is no way of knowing if or when this will happen.

what is probably best, is for you to continue looking for other men, there will be some with the same qualities you adore and perhaps some that will be ready to settle down and grow old with you.

you sound like a very sweet loving woman, and mother. There is the perfect guy out there for you, but if you dont seek him out, how will the two of you ever meet?

just continue to enjoy your time with this man, and take your relationship for exactly what it is. dont try to make him change. if he doesnt like/love you eventually, you will get tired of waiting and your heart will know when its time to give up on a lost cause.

email me if you would like to talk about it!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

hope I helped some! =]

i think i can help you here,

you said that she did want to get back with you after you broke up with her, right? if this is the case, and you really miss her, do this

talk to her, in person. go out to luch or something, talk for a little while, get her settled in the conversation, then say

"when we split up, i thought that was what I wanted...and I know I hurt you and Im very sorry. It took being away from you for a while, for me to to realize how much I miss the fun we had together, and I was wondering how you felt about giving US another shot?"

and see what she says. If she seems hesitant, tell her not to decided right this moment. tell her to take her time and think about it. it will show that you respect her let her know that you are serious about trying again and see what she says.

if she was too hurt, and doesnt want to risk heartbreak, and wants to stay friends, then the worst thing she can say is NO.

BUT the fact that she is still close friends with you and hangs around you makes me think that a 2nd chance is exactly what she wants.

do it in person so she can see your face and your emotion. doing it over a text message or an IM may not give the right vibe.

let me know what she says! I hope I helped!

email me

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21/f

its called "highlighter" or pearlesent powder. Its a fine, loose powder in white irridescent shine. They use it to accentuate the brow bone.

hope this helped!

I went through a similar situation about the same distance. But my BF was going away for a job, not school.

It was hard at first, but we talked every night on the phone, and on the weekends, we took turns driving to see eachother. It was great and made us closer.

that was our first year we were together.

we have now been together fr 5 yrs, we live together, and are getting married in december!

so i know its hard but can be done! if you guys really love eachother and are willing to out the work in, it can be a great part of your relationship!

hope I could help!

actually I have a sidekick and you CAN send picture messages. Its tricky because when you go into the SMS Message area, it LOOKS like you can only attach a video or a sound clip

BUT you CAN send a pic. heres how

go to the SMS
hit the menu button (top left corner of sidekick)
click "new message"
type in the person you want to send it to
hit the RIGHT BUMPER BUTTON (its the button thats on the top of your sidekick on the right.)

it should take you to your picture album

select what pick you want, click it, and it puts it in the message.

hit send!

hope this helps!!

you need to find the manual to the monitor and look up "resolution settings"

if you go to

start
control panel
appearance and themes
Screen resolution

find the correct settings and your problem should be fixed!

i used to work for a satellite tv company so i have some experience with this...

If the tv was working perfectly before you accidentaly unplugged it, then it might have 2 things:

1. it got shorted out, and needs repair..

or

2. it got an unexpected power surge.

if you leave it unplugged for a good 24 hours and then try to plug it in, with still no luck, it could have been shorted out and you need to call the tv manufacturer.

if it just surged, then unplugging it for a while should help.

i know it may be hard, but the reason they continue to do it is because they see that it bothers you, and thats they only reason the keep it up.

the next few times they bring him up, act...indifferent. like you dont have a care in the world about him and you could care less. after doing this a few times, they will get broed once they realize they arent getting the same reaction out of you anymore.

let me know if ya need anything. feel free to inbox me.

steph 21/houston

well, the only thing i can think of is that if you let the battery drain, and it still doesnt work when you plug it back in, call APPLE tech support. they should be able to know exactly what that means.

this can be normal. after your seventh day if the blood flow and cramps stopped, thats good. Spotting can occur up to a week after. the fact that it is darker, is a good indicator that its older blood probably from farther back in the uterus. if it keeps up past 15 days, go to your doctor.

steph2k10

hey,

i just wrote this really great message to you, and then the page refreshed and I lost it all, here i go again. =]

I was in a similar situation when I was 18 (im 21 now)

i felt like my life was pointless and heres why.

I was raped, my younger sister died, my parents divorced, 5 close friends of mine died in High school, (all at different times) my grandmother died, (my last living grandparent. she raised me), Ive struggled with my weight my whole life after my rape, and kids teased me every year, my mother was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and my senior year she decided to leave her 2nd husband and could no longer afford to take care of me. At that point, I HAD TO MOVE OUT, not because I was ready, but because I had NO CHOICE, i had no relatives to move in with, so I was sure i was going out on the streets....

I guess you could say Ive had it rough...

At that point in my life, i wanted to die. life was too hard and I just didnt believe I could pull through in the end. it was pointless and I thought I was just God's toy. I wasnt even sure there was a God....

one day, I woke up on a friends couch, and I decided I was NOT going to let this happen. NOT TO ME.

so the day I graduated High School, I started my first job. there was no summer break for me. I have been working every day since.

Today, I am 21 yrs old, I bought myself a brand new car, I have my own apartment, i pay over 20 bills every month including cell phone, insurance, gas, rent, you get the idea.

all on my own.

NOW i realize that by making me go through all of those things, God was preparing me for my life. He was making me understand that the world is never fair, but you can turn BAD things into GOOD things with the right attitude!

If I had an easy childhood, I would still be sitting at home with mommy and daddy taking care of me and not knowing what the real world is like, just like most of the people my age are doing right now. All my friends are envious that I have my own place and do what I want. I have to remind them of all the bad things Ive gone through just to get where I am...but in the end, i am the most successful person in my large group of friends....and i am the YOUNGEST. =]

The reason I told you my life story is because I think young teens/adults like you can learn alot from me. It can be motivation, to keep your chin up, and dont get depressed.

God works in amazing ways. dont ever doubt him.

If people are constantly teasing you, tell them you dont care anymore. most people prey on other peoples self esteem because they like the reaction you give them.

So next time someone says something bad about you, act like you dont care. dont yell, or get defensive, be indifferent. Honestly sweetie, if they dont take the hint, then they arent the kind of people you need to be around anyway. Screw them. You will find some people who understand you and like you for who you are. I promise things will be hard at first, but I also promise that the mental strength you will gain from this will be VERY worth it in the end.

if you ever want to talk or want some 1 on 1 advice, ive experiencced alot and can help with almost anything. feel free to email me anytime, 24/7. im here for ya =]

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21/houston

if there is a chance that you are pregnant, you need to take a test right away. if you ARE pregnant, you need to start your prenatal care and start your vitamins and doctors check ups.

- you felt like you were mature enough to have sex, you need to be mature enough to deal with being pregnant. It takes two people to make a baby, so dont blame him for "doing this to [you]"
start taking some responsibility, and get things under control. I dont want to come off sounding rude, but you need to get a "can do" attitude.

your family will be dissapointed at first, but they will quickly get over it and kick into family mode and start helping you.

drop the guy. he sounds like hes got other things on his mind than you and you need to stop worrying about him and the baby daddy and start worrying about your baby. you are the only provider for that baby and you need to start acting like a mother. stop worrying about having a boyfriend, and start worrying about the health of you and your baby.

if you need more advice, feel free to email me. im here for you girl

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

i feel sexual discomfort with my fiance every once in a while, hes really big and long, so sometimes he hits the wall of my uterus and it can be painful, also, ovarian cysts are a common occurance in many women, and usually dont affect sex, however, if you have one, an he hits it, it can cause sharp pains.

if it continues, see the doctor.

hope this helps! =]

i have a friend in your situation. Im sorry you are having to deal with this.

first of all, you are carrying his baby, so for the childs sake, you need to find a way to make this work. you might have to make some drastic changes like changing his phone number, and having him contact her from a pay phone or another phone when he needs to talk to her.

you need to be mature about this and sit down with him and tell him EXACTLY how you feel and EXACTLY what you expect from him. the biggest mistake a girl can make is assuming a guy can read our minds.

if you sit down and have this talk with him, warn him that this will be the only time. then, give him some time and if his behavior still does not change, he obviously didnt care enough about you to try to make you happy, and then you should drop him.

like i said, its going to be hard, and if you can make it work, try very hard for the sake of your child, but there is only so much you can take, and if you end up leaving him, YOU WARNED HIM. he cant say you didnt.

im here for ya girl. if you wanna talk about it in a more private setting, you can email me. i can answer alot of questions about this subject seeing as how my best friend went through it. and im here for support too. stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21/f

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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