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sex was painful
I recently had sex with the guy I've been dating for a while, and I'm not a virgin and have had a few sexual partners. It was the first time we had sex though and it hurt terribly. I was cringing and tensing up and it was just a painful experience. He said I seemed really tight and I'm starting to think it's because I have not had sex in more than a year. What could be the problem? Could it be that I was not turned on enough to relax and enjoy it? (21/F)
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More foreplay, take things slower, and try some lube.
Its likely that he's a bit thicker than usual. If thats the case, he's going to stretch you out a bit. Alot of foreplay to get you worked up will do wonders, it relaxes your muscles in the right areas and gets you wet enough that the friction shouldn't be a problem. If the pain feels like rubbing as opposed to stretching, use a little drop of lube to help things out.
Not having sex for a year definitely could have you at your tightest. Regular sex should help out with that, just remember to not skip straight to the action because it can hurt you alot more
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i feel sexual discomfort with my fiance every once in a while, hes really big and long, so sometimes he hits the wall of my uterus and it can be painful, also, ovarian cysts are a common occurance in many women, and usually dont affect sex, however, if you have one, an he hits it, it can cause sharp pains.
if it continues, see the doctor.
hope this helps! =]
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There are a couple reasons this could happen.
If you go a while without sex your vagina WILL return to the non-stretched version of itself (unless you have had a kid...) so that could it.
Also there's the possiblity that he's just really terrible in bed/he doesn't angle correctly with your vagina/he's too big (or even not big enough can poke you badly and make it hurt).
Last option is you weren't lubed enough. Maybe he didn't turn you on enough, or maybe you just weren't producing enough... who knows...
Advice, try more lube and if it's still unpleasant do a different position... If it's still unpleasant... well that sucks... vibrators can keep you a little looser.
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