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I think I want to leave my fiance...
I'm 21 and my fiance is 28. I am 7 months pregnant. We have been together for almost 2 years. Our relationship to me has hit rock bottom but only for one reason....his ex wife and other son. Ever since the day me and my fiance have started dating i have had to deal with endless amounts of bullshit from his ex. Phone calls 2-3 o clock am calling saying what a crackhead I am how I'm such a whore. This went on for basically the first full year. Sometimes she would call pretending to be other women (she was never smart enough to block her number or atleast call from another number). Anywho I'm at the point where I don't feel like i should have to put up with this woman for the rest of my life honestly after 2 years she still hasn't let up when will she? he doesn't help the situation either. When they have to talk on the phone whether it be about custody or whatever he flirts! I told him....she's trying to get more and more money and hasn't let you see your son in 6 months plus she's been trying to sabatoge us since the day we met WHY THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE NICE????????? He says he aggrees but ends up doing it anyways. Basically I'm scared to leave his side cause I feel like he'll call her. I'm scared to go anywhere cause I feel like he'll drive and see her of course to see his son(but she's sneaky and a slut) When he's not with me I wonder if he calls her and what they talk about. Maybe its just me but thats how I feel. I Love him so much and we're having a child but I can't deal with this torture and hurt everyday. I want to leave him but i'm scared.
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For one, You need a restraining order against her. Two, Block her number if you have too then call the phone company and see if it's possible you can change your number. This is clearly a stalking problem I don't know what her deal is but she is taking this waaaaaaaaaay too far. You are 7 months pregnant and any sort of stress can put you and your baby at risk. Don't leave him, This isn't his fault unless of course he is being unfaithful too you and he is allowing it all to happen. Your fiance needs to pick up the phone and firmly tell her to STOP calling no if,what,or buts about it. Yes, he might have son with her but he needs to handle that part on his own you can support him along with it and all but it is NOT your responsiblity to have to put up with this womans bulls***. Sit down with your fiance and talk to him, Tell him it needs to stop and it needs to stop now it has gone on long enough. Don't let her get too you, If you and your husband go to the police file a report even have the police contact her telling her to stop, block her number, change your number, filing a restraining order etc. Then I'm sure she will get the point and back off.
-BahaiMa22
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It all begins with a police report.
Two years? Its time to file a police report for repeated criminal harassment.
The police report is a start. It establishes a paper trail for you trying to deal with this. After filing a police report for criminal harassment, you'll probably be told they aren't going to bring charges yet.
If she's been calling you from her own number, get cell phone records. You should be able to pull all the incoming calls for the last six months from your own cell company. Bring those with you, and circle her number.
The very next time she calls after filing the police report, get that call record and go file a restraining order.
Once the restraining order is filed and she's notified, she can stop, or she can end up in jail.
And he needs to take your side and support and encourage you through this. If he doesn't, thats a pretty big warning sign. I can't tell you you should break up with him, I can tell you that YOU personally haven't taken enough responsibility for this to make that call yet.
File a police report and a restraining order. Exercise your legal rights, consider contacting an attourney.
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i have a friend in your situation. Im sorry you are having to deal with this.
first of all, you are carrying his baby, so for the childs sake, you need to find a way to make this work. you might have to make some drastic changes like changing his phone number, and having him contact her from a pay phone or another phone when he needs to talk to her.
you need to be mature about this and sit down with him and tell him EXACTLY how you feel and EXACTLY what you expect from him. the biggest mistake a girl can make is assuming a guy can read our minds.
if you sit down and have this talk with him, warn him that this will be the only time. then, give him some time and if his behavior still does not change, he obviously didnt care enough about you to try to make you happy, and then you should drop him.
like i said, its going to be hard, and if you can make it work, try very hard for the sake of your child, but there is only so much you can take, and if you end up leaving him, YOU WARNED HIM. he cant say you didnt.
im here for ya girl. if you wanna talk about it in a more private setting, you can email me. i can answer alot of questions about this subject seeing as how my best friend went through it. and im here for support too. stephanie.ellick@gmail.com
steph 21/f
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if shes still making those phone calls you could have her number blocked or call the police and file harassment. do what you think is right for you and your child. good luck<3
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