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siblings bringing up ex bf
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I broke up with my boyfriend, we went out for a really long time (a little under a year.) I finally got over it, and now all the time my brother and sister bring up his, just to annoy me. for instance, I will be texting and they will say who are you texting? Tom? something like that. It doesnt bother me that they are trying to annoy me, it hurts me that they are bringing up his name, because it makes me remember when all I want to do is forget. I have tried explaining this to them, and they laugh. another example is when we argue, they will tell me to go suck on toms cock just to be cruel.
help please!
ps my siblings are the same age as me so its not like they are younger.
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I'm really sorry about they way they act and I understand you but what I did was everytime anyone would mention him around me I would think of the pretty moments we had together. Eventually everyone noticed it didn't bother me anymore and they stopped mentioning him. Maybe you could tell your siblings that it hurts your feelings. Some understand some don't.
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Annie
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you remebering your ex at all.And you sidlings love you thats why they pick one you.Your best bet would be to just let it go in one ear and out the other and pretend like you never heard it.They are just saying comments like that because they see it bothers you and they want to mess with you,so act like it doesn't bother you even if it does.On the other hand since it bothers you that they keep bringing up his name have you considered that you might still have feeling with your ex?If you decide that you do your best bet would be to talk to your ex about your feeling and if he doesn't feel that way back then let him go.That's all you can do is let him go,you will find someone else that is a perfect match for you.
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this sounds SO MUCH like my family. I'm a triplet, and my siblings are the SAME exact way. Okay, I currently have a boyfriend, but somtimes to piss me off they'll be like, "oh you and [boyfriends name] together forever, love foreverrrr." and then they'll laugh or something. It's so retarded and they try to make me pissed. if you give them a reaction, they'll keep doing it, so I suggest you just act like it doesn't bother you. I mean, they still bring up my exes to and they call them nicknames, like for one of me sxes, they call him stork [because he was really tall] and for my bouyfriend, they call him like ... his name with an O at the end. it's just the little things like that that really push me to the limit, so i know how you feel when you can't have any privacy.
All you can really do is ignore them because they are just being immature and jealous [age doesnt exactly matter in this situation, i know that sucks, but its the truth] or you can maybe talk to your parents and try to get them to tell your siblings how hurtful this is. or you ca just keep trying to talk to them yourself, if they don't understand or keep doing it, so be it. they'll stop if they see it doesn't effect you. or say something back at them. there's many approaches you can take with this. choose wisely :]
hope i helped ! good luck and i hope this works out for you, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
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i know it may be hard, but the reason they continue to do it is because they see that it bothers you, and thats they only reason the keep it up.
the next few times they bring him up, act...indifferent. like you dont have a care in the world about him and you could care less. after doing this a few times, they will get broed once they realize they arent getting the same reaction out of you anymore.
let me know if ya need anything. feel free to inbox me.
steph 21/houston
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