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My boyfriend confessed to me today that he cheated on me last weekend when he went out with his buddies. He said that he had sex with a strange girl that he met at a club/bar and he regrets doing it now. I still think he's lying about a few of the details because one of his buddies told me that they didn't go to just any club or a bar--they went to a strip club.
I'm really upset about it but my boyfriend says he's truly sorry and that it won't happen again. My best friend reminded me of the saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," and I am wondering if it's true. I don't think my boyfriend fully understands what his mistake has done to our relationship, and I don't know if I will be able to get over this betrayal anyway.
In your own experience, is the, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," saying true? Does anyone have any cases in which the saying is NOT true? Please, share your experiences with me so I know if I need to just end this madness before it really gets started! (link)
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although the saying may not always be yes hes a cheater for life some people will learn from their mistake and not do it again however there should always be consequences!!!
why?? well you have been honest with him, loyal is it right for him to just say im sorry i didnt mean it it wont happen again? and like nothing? when a child disobeys what does a good parent do? he reminds the child what he.she did was wrong and explains the consquences right? then depending on the crime he /gets disipline? right? well im more concerned about you having sex with him. he was with another girl that had sex with him that he didnt know, didnt know how many parnters or anything about her. Id be more worried that he did not contract anything and pass it to you. thats physical now the emotional part. Im not saying to let him go but i am saying that you have the right to forgive him and say i forgive you but there is a consequence to deal with and that is i dont hate you but I did not deserve this and i do not want someone in my life that cannot be strong for me and our love if you really really love me then this would have never have happened, nowadays people confess to their infidelities more and more using the excuse im sorry thats why im telling you...but whats really going on is i want to clear my conscience of what i did because
1. ill do it again and want to feel that you know about my problem
2.there was too many witnesses and i was going to get busted or
3.i did this because im not stable and because im not stable id rather you know because you really do deserve to know and i want you to have the right to choose if you want to let me go and i will accept your choice. I did what i did and i was wrong but you deserve the right to say i forgive you but no. I cant have you in my life the wound will heal but the scar will always be there. and its my right to choose if i want this or if i dont, I dont accpet this and just walk away. time will tell if you can forgive and forget and have what i call emotional scar removal or also know by me as emotional forgiveness plastic surgery in which you know that something wrong happened but you completely forgave it.
Do i think you should feel bad for him?
NO!!
Do i think you should forgive and forget?
Only you know him only you has an idea if he is that type of guy that is willing to go cheat on you. you cant baby sit him or sels hes not a man hes still a child, and youll be the resposible one..I personally have felt betrayal and it was kept in secret until i found out, but it never ended and it occured again. If he is not expressing regret and is not being honest and you yourself do not feel absolutely convinced in your heart that his is being honest and truly is sorry then its best o walk away have some time alone for a while and enjoy life cleanly DO NO let this experience let you loose yourself you are beautiful and there are guys that will respect not only the relationship but more importantly you.
I hope this helps
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Hi.
I have a huge problem.
I'm 19/f and come from a super strict crazy ass family. My parents are very in touch with their culture (not from here) where as I was raised here (I moved when I was 9) I can relate to them but not completely. I feel closer to the culture here...yet I am not allowed to date (No I am not Muslim but we're sort of similar... they're cooler. they believe in love. we're probably mores strict that way and marriage and relationships are a contract. I am not revealing what exactly since I am pretty sure a lot of my friend might be on here) or be romantically involved I have to be at home most of the time. Malls, movies, any other form of entertainment requiring you to be out of the house is highly discouraged and usually requires a "chaperon" . Well you can tell where this is going... yep a doomed love story.
I fell for this french guy over the past few months. We've been eying each other for over a year but he's shy and I've been giving him mixed signals (my parent's travel for business so when their gone I let go a little and dare to look and smile and come up with dumb ways to talk to him... but when they're back I am on my tippy toes to stay out of trouble and avoid being sent back to my fanatic uncles) So for a while it cooled off then my parents where gone for more than 3 months and I couldn't help myself and I kept eying him again and this time he got the hint (I feel so bad, guilty, and selfish) we're at the point where he goes out of his way to come say hello and I know he'll be asking me out. The problem is that I am conflicted. I don't know if I should say yes (because I desperately want to! I really really like him! and i don't know if I would be able to keep him as just a friend) or no (and seriously end it this time once and for all). If I say yes I might get caught and get in trouble especially that my parents are going to be back in a few months for a very longgg time (no business trips for a while) and I am on a tight leash and my every step will be watched... If I say no I will never know if he and I were meant to be (I really believe he's worth it- I don't usually fall in love or have crushes) ... and if i say no without explaining he'll think i am a jerk. If I do explain why not he might be weirded out... and if i say yes I need him to know that I can't be there always and that our relationship can't be "normal"... I don't want to come off as weird (comes with the territory though, I know... but you just don't tell someone who doesn't know you as YOU yet this kind of stuff at the beginning ...u need them to get to know you first and then decide that it's your parents not you) I don't know if he'll accept it... and I don't have enough time to get this through to him in case we ever get together. he might think I am wasting his time...
Especially that in the end there is no way this can go anywhere (because I have to go back one day and marry someone from their culture and i have to have a "clean slate" so to speak) and i can never ever EVER risk telling them or anyone that we are together.... they'll kill me!
Sneaking out will be very very hard since as I said going out is discouraged and I have to report home after classes and because my every move is calculated... I have a few months till they get here say from now till the beginning of December...
I really do want to go out with him. Although I've never dated or had a boyfriend before I really like this guy and think I am willing to risk it... no matter what I do though... it won't be the same...
What should I do? I don't want him to get hurt and i don't want to embarrass myself... I really like him :( oh and for the record i met him randomly, we never had classes or mingle in the same place... I usually see him where he works and that's where he says hello or I go up to him if I need help with something (for real not as a way to get him to notice me!)
anyway... I'd really appreciate your input. It is very crucial right now so i'll know how to proceed. If in case you think it's selfish then please tell me how to avoid this without making him confused and without coming of as mean or arrogant or something. If you think I should go for it, how do I hide it from my parents. how do we see one another? how do i go about telling him about the situation in a subtle way? my best friend thinks i should avoid this to not get in trouble part of me wants to but the other part says he's worth it (not my neck though!) i am just scared they'll find out...... and my options are limited I can probably only meet on campus and where he works. but what kind of dating will that be!!! he probably won't be willing anyway.... urghhh i am confused please help me..... (link)
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I give you props for talking about this. You are doing the right thing trying to solve this issue. Why? well one day today or tomorrow you will realize that maybe you should have done something..well on with my opinion i offer you this three options all are risky and all are silly stupid..ONLY if you see them that way.
1.be honest let him know about your culture and that you really would like to give it a opportunity but that he needs to understand how your family would view you and him and the relationship. I mean you do want to be honest with him right? and him the same right? he deserves the right to choose and see whats up ahead right? and you deserve to have someone who will be willing to work and be with you regardless of what anyone thinks right?
2. just let him be your friend. it might feel your in lovepain cause you like him but he will have the chance to see you and your families point of view with out you saying much. He will have the chance to prove himself to you that no matter what he wont change his view on you, youll have him close to talk and be there when things get tough and youll get a huge chance to really find out with out risking your familys traditons if you really like him or if you just think you like him.
3. start plannig ahead what do i mean?? maybe its time to start thinking flying solo in other words maybe getting a job and working in reaching your career goal while living on your own. that way youll get to see life and resposibility in a new way.You need to decide do I want a arranged wedding? do i want to follow this tradition? would i like to make my children follow this tradition or would i like to even offer it to my children? see it this way you have a right to choose, yes they are your parents and yes you need to honor them but no they dont need to abuse their paternal authority. did they like all of the choices their parents made on them? im not saying to complaint. im saying can you adapt to the choices they have made for you? if so yes then dont get involved with anyone else and certainly do not get anyones hopes up, but if no then dont want follow the choice's. first get a career or better yet be able to support yourself, then youll have a much higher resposibility and right to choose more freely. they may threaten in banishment but again would it be fair to your children for you to make em feel and go through the confusion and sorrow you are going thru?
finally you need to be happy regardless and suport the choices you make in life. I hope this helps
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I have a small, yet growing crush on a guy named Rick. He just moved to my town not too long ago. He's pretty shy and doesn't really talk that much to me or anyone else. I end up starting conversations all the time but they are usually dead end questions because I'm also shy and I can't really think of what to say. I also catch myself doing embarrassing things around him all the time but he doesn't seem to mind and is friendly anyway. I'm too afraid to say anything to his face about liking him or finding him attractive because I'm not really sure if he likes me.
He looks at me and then looks away real quick all the time but he never stares at me.
He catches me staring at him all the time too, I can only look at him for 30 seconds without him noticing if he isn't facing the complete opposite direction.
I smile at him almost every time he catches me staring at him, he smiles back but its a little smile.
He sent my best friend a friends request on a social networking site and asked her where he knew her from (he sees me with her every day)
he smiles every time i say something funny, even if he isn't looking at me.
I run into him everywhere.
My friends notice him looking at me too.
Once, he was walking so close behind me that he stepped on me.( i realize that this probably means nothing)
When I walk behind him, he looks at me out of the corner of his eye.
I don't want to scare him off, but I don't want to wait too long and let him go. What should I do? (link)
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sometimes our energy can be picked up by others. I cant say he likes you or that he doesnt like you but i do know that you find him interesting, aks your self what are the things that you find about him that catches your attention. Yes his look are i guess important but nowadays thats alot of what we humans do we tend not to look into the person in what he really is and is not. I give my advice in writing things/qualities you do not want in a guy and making a list. examples: I do not want a tall guy or a hairy guy or a player or a abusive person, write down all of the things you do not want in a guy then read the list often and remind yourself of the qualities that you do not want in a guy.It could be you are ment to be with each other or maybe he might know the person who youll end up having a relationship. life is full of surprises. but before you tell him you like him make sure this is what you feel inside not what you see and that he hints or expreses that he feels the same for you so that you both are on the same page.
I hope this helps
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okay...so i started talking to this kid named tom. he is very sweet and we talk a lot. i am confused on the way i feel for tom. i just told this boy Mike that i liked him (i told him this two weeks ago) (i liked him for two years)..he never talked to me after that...so now im talking to zack a lot and i get butterflies and i feel happy and special whenever i talk to him..but i just sometimes feel different. confused. i have liked mike for so long that i havent been used to ever liking someone else. so now im just confused on my feelings because now i feel so vulnerable and im wondering.. do i really like tom?..but i know i do. i just hate the way i am feeling. i feel nervous and scared because this is going to be new for me. i havent been in a lot of relationships. and i hate feeling vulnerable. please someone tell me that this is normal! (link)
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you are normal. Theres nothing wrong with...not knowing. its part of decision making. I will say this if you are thinking about having a special someone in your life and want to make it a bit more easier on how to choose that person this might help it might sound silly or even dumb but it might help
If you have a diary write this list
things i do not want or like in a guy
write them in there
i know everone always writes about the good things they want in a mate but do the opposite write the things you do not want in a mate
and read the list often and remember them
you dont want/like a player or a abusive guy or a quiet one or a tall one..etc,etc that way youll have a more sense in what you feel you like i a friend or person and what you feel you want in your love life.
I hope this helps
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my bf and i just started going out. his so cuute and sweet buut not really a good kisser like he opens his mouth too much and too wide and pretty much sticks his whole tounge in my mouth. what should i doooo? oohhh and i want to ask him to the christmas dance...its a turn around dance. i want it to be really cuute. any ideas?? thanks. :] 17/f (link)
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make it easy on him by letting him know slowly ho to kiss you. if you guys are alone and hes kissing you whisper to him kiss me slowly. tell him kiss me gently, caress my face or i like it when you... and so on. make him feel hes doing a good job but let him know your preferences. every one has them even him...ynever know you might be kissing him in ways he doesnt understand..he might b new to kissing and just plain and simple doesnt know how.but whatever you do . Do not rush or feel hopeless communication is # 1 in a relationship.I hope this helps
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i have many insecurities ever since my past relationships, and now i'm in a 9 month relationship that i don't show my insecurities, but my boyfriend does know about it. i hate feeling paranoid and stuff like that, is there any way where i can try to think positive and stop being so insecure? thank you! (link)
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Without a adoubt you/ we can never control anything in life...except our attidtude. I agree with the previouse advicer be positive smile im sure you have a awesome beautifull smile, believe youare beautiful because you are!! Its a good thing that you have spoken to him about it. If you feel that he is doing and exceeding his part in the relationship that should help ease you. Hes human and so are you. You both will do fine and long as he hears you out and listens to you and gives you feedback , time and his love for you will erase the past. I really wish you the best and i hope this helps
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I have a 97 blazer and my dad wants to trade me for his 98 ford because im selling one of them to get a mini van every one says itd be stupid.. but i have me, my husband and three kids. (link)
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stupid? not if his van is newer with lower miles on it and has more space for you and your family and is well maintained. Now if your vehicle is the opposite then see it as a love gesture that he really wants to help you and that is not stupid thats being a parent. I hope this helps
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Okay so my boyfriend of a year and 7 months just broke up with me. It feels weird and I feel alone...I talked to him and the reason is for distance..."he wants me a lot closer". Is it okay to still hook up with him? We're both in love with one another and I honestly don't want to move on. I think he maybe be the one. Bad idea? I don't know this just seems weird and I'm not feeling right.
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sorry to hear your realationship ended but by hooking up do you mean sex? or hanging out? or to get together again? either way its really more of how you will feel after hooking up. Distance can be roguh on a relationship but if you really truly love someone i dont think should be a reason to let go. I think he might have another reason he does not want to tell you. I hope this helps
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so one day, i decided to be a big girl and iron my clothes. While i was doing this, my clumsiness got the better of me and i knocked the iron off the ironing board and onto our carpet. Our carpet is fine. I only realised then that the carpet was made of some plastic. Oh, the iron fell face down. So the hot side (where you press onto your clothes) was on the carpet. And because it was hot, the carpet melted and now that i had left it to cool. It has this hard plastic stuff on it. And i cant remove it..
Does anyone know how to remove this? Im really desperate and a bit of a cheap-skate.. :) my mom gets back in 2 weeks!
Thank you.. (link)
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you have a few options, 1ST check if the a closet has the same and color of the carpet that you damaged.. what you can do is use a large cookie cutter with a blade and cut out the section if this same carpet goes into the closet then itll be easier. go into the closet and do the same what you are trying to do is swap the carpet( the burn section) to a part where you cant visually see it so much. youll need to glue it down.if this is too much for you then call a carpet cleaner/ repair man. I hope this helps
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I recently wrote on here asking for some ideas on how my boyfriend and I could celebrate our one month anniversary....
However last night things took a turn for the worst, and he broke up with me. Basically, he was really quiet all afternoon so I kept trying to get to him tell me what was wrong. "I don't know, I've just been mellow like this all day." was his answer.
A few weeks ago, he told me that he wasn't sure if the feelings he had for me were just for a friendship or relationship. He said he was starting to just see me as a friend. But the next day he said, "I'm so sorry, I don't know what I was thinking. I changed my mind." So I just went with it, and things seemed to be fine after that. It left me very paranoid about were we stood, but everyday he seemed to prove things were fine. He often apologized again for doing that.
But yesterday I just had this gut feeling with the way he was acting. So we took a walk and I finally got out of him what he had been thinking about all day. Apparently, he was thinking about breaking up. He said that his feelings had gone away and he really liked me as only a friend now, not for a relationship. He admitted he's thought about it ever since that first time he brought it up, and that hurt me a lot because it means he was pretending everything was okay. So I said, "Do you want to break up?" And he was kind of unsure at first but then was like, "Yeah, I think we should." So we gave back each other's things and he tried to explain how he didn't want me to hate him because we always have so much fun together and laugh so he wants to stay close. I said it would be hard, but then agreed because I don't want to see him out of my life either. Plus he is my next door neighbor.
Later that night we were texting and he was still kind of apologizing and explaining it to me, so I said, "How do I know that you aren't going to change your mind tomorrow again?" And he said, "Because I'm sure of this." But then he continued to say maybe things could work out later on after we were friends for awhile. Because after we met, we both immediately had a strong connection/chemistry and started dating a week later. He said at first he was really happy about it, but then he started to feel like we went into a relationship too fast. So I said, "That means in a couple days you might miss me?" And he said, "Maybe." Ughhhh! I hate that. He said "Even I don't know what the future holds."
Do you think there is any chance things will work out again soon? We get along so well. He says that he doesn't feel "anything special" when we kissed, and he was sorry. I don't know if that is important so I just threw it out there. Also, do you know of any good break up songs I could relate to please?!?!
The worst part of all is that he told me "forever, babe" and that he wanted to have kids with me someday. I knew it was going quickly but it made me happy to hear him say those things. He said he meant them at first but then just wanted to make me happy and hesitated ending it cause he didn't want to hurt me. Now I'm hurt even more than if it had ended earlier. Please help, thank you. (link)
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Its not your fault. Even though hes spinnig you around. he himself is not sure what he wants...that can be very confusing...its goint o hurt what i say but dont feel bad there is hope. He might need time alone to really find out what he wants but what you will have to do is be strong if you choose to give him space you will also have to accept that he might find someone else..so the first question i have for you is this.. do you see yourself with him for a loooong time? is he the man you feel that you can be with? in other words will it hurt you to be with him or with out? Your feelings and body are extremely important and you must always care for your self hes important but right now to me you are more. he needs to be resposible and decide if he wants to A) be alone B) be with you or C) be with someone else. He cant have two of the choices and you need to be ready to offer those choices to him. If its going to hurt you to just be friends and you know its not an option for you then let him know. See the way i see it its normal for couples to go through these things but the point in having the right mate is when he s down YOU are there to cheer him up and lift his spirit and when YOU are down its he who need to lift YOU up...get it? you are young and without a doubt beautiful and i imagine he is too but like i said right now you are the one who is sad and with questions..he really needs some couseling...sad thing is many guys dont look for help so girl its up to you to make that choice let him know that being friends is just not going to work...its sad but a ton of guys loose a great girl all of the time and realize it way too late see love waits, accepts, tolorates is patient, never rushes but love is universal in other words you deserve love too..dont you?
I hope this helps
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We recently moved to a new place and the water here is horrible. The water is very dark brown colored and has totally discolored the house toilets. It really looks like they are dirty with grime but they're not. The sediments and hard water stains really have set in on these toilets in this town and it looks disgusting if you don't know about the water.
I want to get these tough hard water stains out of the toilet so I can have guests over from other places without being embarrassed and having to explain the situation with the water. I have tried lots of different toilet bowl cleaners made for hard water stains--most are from the Clorox or Lysol brand toilet cleaners. I even picked up a few new new toilet bowl brushes to see if different ones would have any better effect.
What is a way to remove these hard water stains? I'm at my wits end and need a remedy soon before I go insane! (link)
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1st NEVER MIX CHEMICALS >>>NEVER!!!
try washing it out with vinegar or an oxidizer like Oxy clean. borax might work or last CLR. i hope this helps
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I used to like my friend but then just recently i finally got over my crush for him n i dont really hang out with him except if he talks to me. at school during lunch he buys his food in the express line n i eat in the hot lunch line so my friend jerry told my ex-crush that i love him n my crush smiled till jerry said not anymore n walked away then my crush frowned n said i dont care. After all that my crush comes in the hot lunch line wen he never does he smiled at me but i tried to ignore him n he kept making me laugh. Now i think im getting feelings for him. What do i do now i cant tell him i like him again?? (link)
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take it easy and slow he might still feel something for you but dont get confused. be his friend and learn all over again who he is. you guys might end up being a couple one day but you need to walk the journey there. again take it slow dont get your hopes up or his just take it nuetral. dont tell him you like him and dont tell him you dont. as human we do a good job in expressing ourselves and our feelings with out words. be his friend dont ignore him but dont be his puppy either. always respect yourself and give the image that you need that respect so that he wont try to play you but instead always be there for you. I hope this helps
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My brother has just found out that he has a cancer that is not operable. The doctor has explained that it will be a very painful death and my brother has a very short time before it takes him. He has everything in order and wishes to end it his own way. Our mother feels it's appropriate for him to do this and that we shouldn't interfere with this decision. I don't want to lose my brother though. I thought it would be great to spend the rest of his days just doing whatever he would love to do and not thinking twice about it (I would gladly put myself deep into debt for the end of his life to be pleasurable). What do I do? He seems very determined and has agreed to tell us when he will end his life. I expect this to be soon and I feel like I'm going to lose him too soon. Please, help me... (link)
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Im really sorry.
its very sweet of you to care so much for him. I dont agree with him taking his own life. I always say if you want to take your life away do it tommorrow but not today. what do i mean about this? i mean today you might feel the world is over to you and maybe it very well is but give yourself a chance and time a chance just cause a doctor says that it it isnt. I have heard of numerous cases where the doctors where wrong and a huge miracle occured. offer him your shoulder to talk about it and let him know how much you love him and that no matter what he is a huge piece of importance to your heart and that you want him to be at peace with himself and have many beautiful memories of him and that by taking away his life it wont change your love for him but will leave a sad memory. tell him you all need to be strong together.that all is possible.
I wouldnt let him know i gree on his decision that might hold him from doing it he needs to know and feel that he is important and that his life is valuable, and the pain that you guys are going theu is bad enough let along having to wait for him to take his life away. I hope this really helps
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(We have talked the week b4..we are all kinda a group of friends)
So I like this guy that is my roommates cousin's friend..hah..And like last time he came over, I talked to everyone but him. I didn't do it on purpose, but when I like a guy and we are in a group...I tend to ignore him....I didnt say Hi, but I said bye.
That night he deleted me as his FB friend > (link)
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Ill be honest..he find you interesting..maybe even likes you. His hints are as follows he behaved as if it hurt him that you didnt acknoweledge him. He deleted you as a form of reaction and as a form of retaliation. but he doesnt hate you hes just wondering why youre being a bit cold. Im not saying to go to him and offer your self but if you find him interesting slowly fade him into your life slowly so that he doesnt feel your trying to play mind games little by little dont try to get to know him just say hi and little by little get involved in the conversation, be courteous if he talks hear him out when you talk ask around for feed back and ask him for his feedback in other words with out you knowing you placed a wall barrier in between you and him and he doesnt know why so now you need to slowly bring that wall down. its good though what you did. he will always see you as a cautious person and guys like that too. Guys dont like girls that are always wild and daring there are guys that find women attractive when they respect themselves. Always be carefull you dont know him so thats why i say slowly bring the wall down.I hope this helps
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I hate my mom's boyfriend mainly cause everything has to be in his control. I feel like he has like a self-esteem issue and he is making us do things we don't even need to do for him. I think that cause he is not white that he feels like everyone thinks badly of him. And when I feel like this it makes me feel like he is getting in my space. Everyone even my mom has to make me feel sorry because I do not do what he wants its like I am being punished for it too. Wouldn't you call that some type of wrong treatment. And the things I ask for is so little just to get a makeup at the mall. And its like he is upset with it. Sometimes the extra money my mom makes goes to him to buy him his toiletry stuff. Its getting on my nerves and I can not have money for the mall right now that I don't have a job. I want to go get a job but since there is something that I have to work at first to get a job I am left just waiting. (link)
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Sorry to hear that your going thru this difficult moment for you. I really hope your not upset that your shopping habbits are being interupted. I know the mal is important but dont let that be the reason you dont like this guy. If he is abusive and is trying to touch you in any way that you do not like or is not right then id talk to my mom and get some help (police) the #1 thing is he respects your mom and you and your siblings ( if any) 2. not ever get physical or abusive. 3 not be a leech in other words get you mom to feed clothe him in other words be a lazy bum. He needs to help out and be a good male role model to you. girls also need male role models as much as guys do and vise versa. My advice is to build a strong communication relationship with your mom thats so incredibly important for girls and boys to do!! alwasy get along with a parent thats your biggest friend and your biggest advantage. if you build a strong relationship with your mom then you can express to her the difficulty that you are having in adapting this guy into your life and if you do have a strong relationship with your mom she will set you as priority.work on that first then the mall shopping thing other wise your mom will think its just you having personal issues against her new love interest because you cant shop anymore the way you use to. You need to beat him in being your moms best friend you need to make sure she trusts you not him but you need to work at it. again you dont her as your enemy she needs to be your friend not his. dont let her think your a bratty spoiled person instead let her see your for the intellegent, caring loving resposible person you are. I hope this helps
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Okay so last night I had a huge breakdown because this is bothering me an stressing me out. So I texted him last night an said I would appreciate if he would give me a call an he did. I told him how I felt poured my heart out an he listened an said he knew an that he would talk to me tommorow when he got off of work. So he called me today, because his friend has been texting me trying to move in an cause drama telling me he has feelings for me an doesnt deserve me blah blah so I told my boyfriend about it . WELL now he is arguing with his friend an he isn't mad at me he is feeling good that I am faithful an told him of his friends actions. Wel we haven't talked since he said he was gonna call an talk to his friend an stuff because he didnt appreciate him talkin to me like that, which is funny because you want your space but noone can talk to me? And it makes him feel like shit because his friends see what he is doing an tell me its wrong, so he hasn't called yet? I am sure he will but ive been told that he knows what he wants he just thinks living apart is what is best right now, until we can get a place of our own an stop living with room mates an stuff. So, what should I do from here on out, We haven't talked yet, but I believe it needs to be in face an not over a phone , we have been together 4yrs we are past the whole lets work things out over a phone call.... (link)
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I think you should be patient this will help you learn something new. I know hes confusing you, i bet hes more than you. If you truly have feeling for him then wait for him...itll be tough bt rememeber you see your self with him for a long time right? and you love him right? and you feel that he sees you as a long time love right? He really loves you right? if you said no to any of those questions or i dont know or maybe then its best just to give him Distance and and let him fade away he might be trying to fade you out. Im sorry to say that theres a huge chance that he might be over you and he still cares for you just not on the same level as a lover just as a bud. But you have the right to be happy and to have someone who will love you and make you happy. Just please dont go and try to make him jealous or get back at him..and his friend i wouldnt go out with him hes not a friend hes just looking out for his own interest if he was a good friend hed try and talk to your guy and advice him on to 1. dont hurt you 2. appreciate you 3. tell him that hes lossing an oportunity that many guys wish they had a girl thatll be this patient 4. not try to hit on his firends girl instead value the friendship more than the girl. Guys and girls come and go but true friendship will always be there when things are good and when things are down. I hope this helps
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My family never goes to church. I mean literally, I don't know anything about God. I believe in God, but I don't know anything about him. I feel like my life would be better if I had the Lord in my life. I need to know what would be some ways to start getting him in my life. I started reading the bible, but I'm not sure if I should start in the old testament or the new one. I just need help getting started with God. I'm 17 by the way. (link)
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I think its a good thing you decided to do. I think you should try and get involved in a youth group and bible study group. Do know this about God he loves you and gave his son for our sins.his spirit will guide you. let him into your life. try and get into a support group in your church. I hope this helps
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deal is that this guy i have known since 6th grade has liked me so much im in 11th grade now and he still likes me and im starting to like him little by little but i dont want to be with him till after higschool because if i was to ever be with him i would want it to last and i think that in highschool it will make things too hard and he says he wants to be at least friends with benefits but i dont really want to because that will make things harder..im scared to be with him hes such a good guy and hes not bad looking and hes the only guy i can really talk to cause he knwos alot about me.but i dont know what i should do.we have both changed alot since 6th grade and i dont know if i should be with him now or wait.we dont hang out we just talk everynow and then.its kinda dull when we do talk.maybe we dont have alot in common and im forcing myself to like him..i dont know..i needd helppp!
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I dont recommend you being friend with benefits. You seem very intellegent in focusing in you studies and thats so COOL. Friends with benefits is another way of him saying i want sex! i want to just have sex nothing else just the benefit of having sex...imagine if you dont go to school but you want good grades or if you do not work but expect to get paid with health benefits...doesn sound right does it? he might sound nice but i wouldnt let him be my "beneficial friend" whos going to benefit you? him? or both? id rather choose a long term relationship that respects my mind, emotions, and body and will not try to take avantage of me and will work with me to reach that goal not try to score a goal. I hope this helps
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Please do not judge me, or lecture me, just advice. 18/f
well i have this friend m and he is so sweet to me, and we text every freakin day, and he is always begging me to hang out with him, and if i ask him to come see me at work...he does :)
he's told me that he liked me, and is always texing me first and tells me im cute...blah blah...seems like things are going good right?...wrong, he has a girlfriend.
i always am asking him about her, like should'nt you be paying attention to her and not texting me, and he'll just be like nah, shes fine, or your funner to talk to anyways...and stuff.
well ive hung out with both of them, and she is ALL over him every time.
it bugs...
and he'll end up texting me the same night.
but i honestly dont know what to do.
i like him a lot...and i know he likes me, but i dont know what to do about his gf...???!!!
her own brother even thinks she's crazy...
should i go for it, give it time, leave it alone...anyone been in this situation??? (link)
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my opinion is respect a relationship just like you would like someone to respect yours. Even though you might like him let him go if things do not work out beween them thatll be between them not you. also think about this for a moment if hes going around her back doing this with you maybe hes doing this with someone else and maybe hes not a loyal guy and maybe he'll do the same to you when he gets bored with you instead of talking to you and appreciating you he'll just go behind your back and Cheat. be honest is it fair what hes doing to his girlfriend? would you like to have a boyfriend like that?...do you want a boyfriend like that?...i hope this helps
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here is a little about me and my situation
*18 female
*virgin
*been on birth control for about two years now
*i've had horrible discharge, it's clear but i have so much of it
*i've been to the doctor, asked her about it and there is nothing i can do
*i have to wear a tampon everyday AND a pantyliner because it's so bad
*i know using a tampon everyday is horrible but there is no other option, otherwise it will get all over the place
*i wear thongs all the time, don't know if you needed to know that but just a fact.
my question is, before i have sex i don't want to have a pantyliner on that just isn't sexy and if i don't wear a tampon my underwear will get all gross! i don't want to be like, i have to go to the bathroom because what if it just happens you know! even if it wasn't about sex and he was going to finger me or something i just hate having so much discharge and having that gross feeling in my underwear. and i don't want the guy to be like ok gross your underwear is all wet and nasty? does this happen to anyone else? also i don't know if wearing the tampon causes this but i have this weird smell from my vagina. i wash it with water everyday. it's not like HORRIBLE but i don't know if its normal? what are some suggestions for before i am "sexually active" i just don't know what to do.... (link)
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If you guys have been together for a while i think he will not mind the wetness, it might be a bit gross for you but for him it can be a turn on it makes it easier to arouse you, to finger you and easier to penetrate you. if you really want more explanation try another doctor (gynocologist) and see what his/her diagnosis isand compare. I wouldnt wash your vaginal so much you could be washing away good bacterial and that might be the reason for the smell and even the discharge. your vagina is very unique it keeps itself clean and if it senses a foreign bacterial it changes on its own its ph levels to kill off the bad bacterial its a defense in other words. I dont recommend douching a vagina or washing it out again it can do more harm than good it can irritate your vagina. My guess is you might be washing out good bacterial and that might explain the smell and discharge. take bath and showers but do not wash the inside or use your finger with soap inside your vagina .. also you might have a allergic reaction to latex or a lubricant or even to his sperm!! yes his sperm in his semen might cause an allergic reaction or even his skin. make sure his penis is clean ( hygene) and his fingers, nails are clean and groomed. and make sure you know about his sexual experience and background.
I hope this helps
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