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why am i confused
okay...so i started talking to this kid named tom. he is very sweet and we talk a lot. i am confused on the way i feel for tom. i just told this boy Mike that i liked him (i told him this two weeks ago) (i liked him for two years)..he never talked to me after that...so now im talking to zack a lot and i get butterflies and i feel happy and special whenever i talk to him..but i just sometimes feel different. confused. i have liked mike for so long that i havent been used to ever liking someone else. so now im just confused on my feelings because now i feel so vulnerable and im wondering.. do i really like tom?..but i know i do. i just hate the way i am feeling. i feel nervous and scared because this is going to be new for me. i havent been in a lot of relationships. and i hate feeling vulnerable. please someone tell me that this is normal!
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you are normal. Theres nothing wrong with...not knowing. its part of decision making. I will say this if you are thinking about having a special someone in your life and want to make it a bit more easier on how to choose that person this might help it might sound silly or even dumb but it might help
If you have a diary write this list
things i do not want or like in a guy
write them in there
i know everone always writes about the good things they want in a mate but do the opposite write the things you do not want in a mate
and read the list often and remember them
you dont want/like a player or a abusive guy or a quiet one or a tall one..etc,etc that way youll have a more sense in what you feel you like i a friend or person and what you feel you want in your love life.
I hope this helps
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Hey,
So you have three guys? Well, it is completely normal to feel the way you do for all of these people.
Mike is probably not talking to you, for he may be shocked that you just came out and told him that you like him without giving him time to think about his reaction. What I mean by this is, did you give him hints that you liked him? Did you flirt with him and such before you told him? Cause if you didn't, you could have made him think 'whoa, that was a little unexpected'. I am not saying thats a bad thing if you did so, but if you did, he will need a little time to grasp what you told him. When he does, he will slowly come to you again. He may think that you are like a sister to him as well, which could be kind of awkward for him to know you like him ;)
Zack sounds like a real sweet guy. If you get butterflies, and you are happy around him, it means that you feel you can trust him. When you feel 'different' around him, it most likely means you really want to be with him. By the sounds of it, he makes you a little shy when hes around because you would really like to be with him.
You feel confused, for you aren't sure which guy you like the most. But you are sure you like them all. What you should do is get to know the guys better and really decide who you love the most. Who is it that would love you for who you are, make you feel special, hold you tight, AND not take advantage of you. Which guy has everything?
If you feel vunerable, you should let a guy know that you have boundries. Make sure they know what your boundries are and that if they cross them, there will be consequences. You have to take control over your own body. If you take protecting yourself seriously, so will any genuine guy. And if they are nice guys, they will respect you.
For the most part, just trust what is in YOUR heart. Only you know what is and what feels right, and if you feel it is not, you MUST do something to change it. When you know you can trust him, when you feel like you are the most special thing in the room and do not want to be anywhere else but in his arms; you will know you are in the right place <3
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