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confusing as hell!
Please do not judge me, or lecture me, just advice. 18/f
well i have this friend m and he is so sweet to me, and we text every freakin day, and he is always begging me to hang out with him, and if i ask him to come see me at work...he does :)
he's told me that he liked me, and is always texing me first and tells me im cute...blah blah...seems like things are going good right?...wrong, he has a girlfriend.
i always am asking him about her, like should'nt you be paying attention to her and not texting me, and he'll just be like nah, shes fine, or your funner to talk to anyways...and stuff.
well ive hung out with both of them, and she is ALL over him every time.
it bugs...
and he'll end up texting me the same night.
but i honestly dont know what to do.
i like him a lot...and i know he likes me, but i dont know what to do about his gf...???!!!
her own brother even thinks she's crazy...
should i go for it, give it time, leave it alone...anyone been in this situation???
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my opinion is respect a relationship just like you would like someone to respect yours. Even though you might like him let him go if things do not work out beween them thatll be between them not you. also think about this for a moment if hes going around her back doing this with you maybe hes doing this with someone else and maybe hes not a loyal guy and maybe he'll do the same to you when he gets bored with you instead of talking to you and appreciating you he'll just go behind your back and Cheat. be honest is it fair what hes doing to his girlfriend? would you like to have a boyfriend like that?...do you want a boyfriend like that?...i hope this helps
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The key thing to know in romantic relationships is this: If they'll do it with you, they'll do it to you.
Meaning, if he's betraying his girlfriend with you, then if you date him he'll just hit on another girl and text her and neglect you. It's almost a law of nature. He's showing you his true colours. He is the sort of guy who strings girls along and badmouths his girlfriend to other girls.
I'm sure this is very fun for you. I bet he's charming and his attention makes you feel good. But this is a fast road to heartache and drama.
Also... being with a guy who treats you poorly can bring out the worst in you, which may be what's happening to this girlfriend. And it could be you some day if he dates you instead.
I say leave it alone and stop letting him work his way into your life. He sounds like bad news to me.
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Leave it alone.
As cool as this guy might be, he is also an asshole and a dog. He's flirting with you while he has a girlfriend. He told you he was into WHILE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.
It doesn't matter if his girlfriend is a raging lunatic or a monstrous bitch. He is still betraying her and not even a raging lunatic and a monstrous bitch deserves that. Nothing she does can change the fact he is behaving like a self absorbed asshole.
So, don't go for it, because that would just be rewarding him for behaving badly, and it will be teaching him that you are okay with it when he treats girls like shit.
A guy who cheats with you will probably cheat on you.
HOWEVER a guy who you allow and encourage treating his girlfriend like shit, will treat you like shit too, even if he never cheats. That's a guarantee.
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Well, I wouldnt wait TOO long.. also, put yourself in her shoes... If he's doing this to her, don't you think he'd probably do it to you? Don't set yourself up... think about it, you deserve better than that... I wouldn't give him a chance, he doesnt look like the honest type by this situation... good luck!! hope everything turns out well :)
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I'd say give it some time. You don't want to be the one responsible for the break-up of a relationship..it could cause this girl to make you her enemy and cause more unneeded drama. If he really likes you and not her, hopefully he will eventually realize on his own and break up with her. just continue to be friends with M and see where time takes you two. Good luck
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