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My brother is thinking of committing suicide...
My brother has just found out that he has a cancer that is not operable. The doctor has explained that it will be a very painful death and my brother has a very short time before it takes him. He has everything in order and wishes to end it his own way. Our mother feels it's appropriate for him to do this and that we shouldn't interfere with this decision. I don't want to lose my brother though. I thought it would be great to spend the rest of his days just doing whatever he would love to do and not thinking twice about it (I would gladly put myself deep into debt for the end of his life to be pleasurable). What do I do? He seems very determined and has agreed to tell us when he will end his life. I expect this to be soon and I feel like I'm going to lose him too soon. Please, help me...
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You are so wonderful. I think you should talk openly and honestly with your brother. I'm thinking that, of course he is very scared and wants his pain including emotional pain to end. He just wants to "get it over with". You should open up your sweet heart to him and tell him you are scared too. Tell him how much you'll miss him but you don't want to lose him until God calls for him, until the very end. Tell him you want to love him everyday of the rest of his life and that's all you want. I'm sure he doesn't want you going into debt because it's not important right now. Write him some heartfelt letters telling him at first how you feel. Put together a little photo album or stories about growing up together and the good and bad times y'all went though. Remind him of how much he will be missed and you have to celebrate holidays or birthdays early. Throw him a little thoughtful Christmas or Birthday party...make it light and fun and if he has alot of pain...offer to rub his back, get some nice smelling lotion. Just tell him you want to love and pamper him and that not to be afraid...God Bless you all.
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Talk to him about this. Tell him you don't want to lose him that way tell him you want to spend this rest of the days with him doing what ever he would like. Just let him know how much you love him.
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..This will seem very out of context unless you can read into things, and it's nothing compared to what your brother is going through, but... it's the only way I can explain it. It's the same concept.
Once, I was determined to stay home from school. I felt sick, my legs hurt from yesterday's P.E., my homework wasn't done, and I just wasn't feeling up to facing anyone. I was absolutely determined, had a perfect excuse ready for my mother and everything.
But, for some reason I decided to go anyway.
That day, a boy asked for my number for the first time, I got lots of hugs, I laughed till I cried, my legs stopped hurting, my headache went away, the homework in the end wasn't even due for another day, I felt great about myself.. and I just had a really great day.
In the end, I was glad I didn't give up that day.
I was really really glad.
Hopefully your brother will start feeling the same.
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Im really sorry.
its very sweet of you to care so much for him. I dont agree with him taking his own life. I always say if you want to take your life away do it tommorrow but not today. what do i mean about this? i mean today you might feel the world is over to you and maybe it very well is but give yourself a chance and time a chance just cause a doctor says that it it isnt. I have heard of numerous cases where the doctors where wrong and a huge miracle occured. offer him your shoulder to talk about it and let him know how much you love him and that no matter what he is a huge piece of importance to your heart and that you want him to be at peace with himself and have many beautiful memories of him and that by taking away his life it wont change your love for him but will leave a sad memory. tell him you all need to be strong together.that all is possible.
I wouldnt let him know i gree on his decision that might hold him from doing it he needs to know and feel that he is important and that his life is valuable, and the pain that you guys are going theu is bad enough let along having to wait for him to take his life away. I hope this really helps
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