Member Since: October 11, 2009
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Last Update: October 26, 2009
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Does anyone have this? I have it and my mom really wants me to get into it and I just don't get it. I mean I understand that it's like a mini social network thing...but what is this idea that it connects everyone...the only way that i can tell that it connects everyone is that if everyone joins it and there is no difference in this than if everyone joined face book or twitter or myspace..So could someone please explain to me what the big deal is? I also can't seem to figure out how to find other members...like on myspace where you can look up people and choose friends...is there something like this on here, that way maybe i can see what their profiles are like and get an idea of what to do with this thing. Thank you.
I guess what i am asking is: The Payer Player website? How does it work and why should I use it? What makes it special? (link)
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All I can say is that your mom is pretty good for hooking you up here. Just relax and click on some buttons and start reading about people. Most people here are young people. You probably are a little ticked off cause your mom pushed you a little. I'm older but my mom used to do the same thing. But at least now it's better cause it's the internet. I hope you will start answering people's questions. That way you will become an advisor. I'm gonna watch for you so I can come to you with my old lady problems. bye
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hi, well this is going to be a very long story.
well i had a boyfriend in may and i met him througth my friend who was a girl and we were dating and then i got confused on wethier i wanted to be with him or not and relationship got worse and worse and he just kept clinging to me, and he had problems of his own. one of his worst problems was jealously and i knew a lot of people he knew and he didn't know it and on one of our good days in our relationship i was on the phone with him and he heard me typing on the computer and he was like who are you talking to on the computer? and i was like ... lets say the kids name is rob, and i was like rob. and he FLIPPED out and was like he gonna try and get with you and went off and i read him the conversation that me and the kid rob had cause we were talking on myspace and rob said wats up and i was like nothing really lazy and my ex flipped and he was like why are you telling him your lazy wtf, and then he was like i'm gonna call rob and tell him not to talk to you and so he did but me and rob kept on talking, and we talked for a few weeks and i sort of was starting to like him then, my friend lets say her name is samantha samantha asked if i wanted to hangout with rob and his friend one day after school and i was like ohkay, but it never happend i told my ex and he flipped out cause i didn't want him coming and we got in a big fight about it. weeks later i told my ex i needed some space some time to think i wasn't sure about things anymore and he was like ohkay fine you treat me like shit your acting mad shady so i need time to think to, so i was like ohkay so one day after school i asked rob if he wanted to hangout with me and my friend then i called him and he said he had to get ready for work. then my ex called me but i didn't answer then my friend took the phone called him up and told him infront of me that while i was sort of on a break with him that i liked rob and he flipped out and cursed me out soo many times then we broke up and he told me that he was going to jump rob and then rob said he didn't want to talk to me anymore cause he did'nt want problems with my ex & then my ex went out with my friend samantha right after me.
now, that was in june and also in june after they broke up him and samantha he called me the day they broke up saying he couldn't stop thinking about me and that he didn't mean to curse me out and then i found out he knocked out rob and i hadn't talken to rob at all he hated me for that
and then i told my ex i couldn't talk to him because he went out with samantha and he told me her would never go out with any of my close friends ever, and then he kept calling me when he drunk trying to get me to call him back all summer and saying that i fucked him over talking to rob and how they were good friends and then in september i found out that he jumped rob and threw him into a car all because he still hated him because of me when rob told me he never wanted to talk to me ever again because he didn't want problems with my ex and shit, and then all of robs friend got involved and he became this big brawl of fighting because i was flirting with rob and started talking to him, and then now i just found out my ex jumped him again yestuarday half of the people i used to talk to wont talk to me anymore because of my ex jumping him and they all feel its because of me because my ex keeps wanting to fight him and no matter what my name keeps on getting brought up in it when i told my ex that rob didn't do anything wrong but my ex wouldn't listen to me and i refuse to take any of my exes calls i feel like half the highschool hates me because of what my ex is doing is it really all my fault? what should i do? help me.
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I really don't have an answer because at your age, you are going to have many boyfriends. I don't mean to sleep with...just guy friends. That's all you should be right now. I feel bad for you because you are so upset. I know if I say it'll get better or whatever, you don't want to probably hear that either.
Just relax and say the heck with it...go on and live your life and like the commercial says.."never let them see you sweat."
Also, you know what makes bullies and people who tick you off, really mad? Just smile in their face like you don't really care and then believe it. I'm older so this is probably just yapyap to you but I do care about your feelings. I hope you are doing better.
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i'm a junior in high school, and there's a new program which i'm taking where i go to college as a high school student/college student. so i can finish up my high school and start on my college credit and graduate with my associates and my high school diploma. in the beginning of the year, everything was perfectly fine.. i was able to keep up with everything in my eight classes and get done with stuff early. but a couple of months later, it just suddenly hit me in the face... it started getting more overwhelming, more assignments and projects are handed out, i have a car i have to repair, and to do that i also work on the weekends. is there a way where i can keep everything up and not to become so stressed out about all of is? please & thank you! (link)
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wow...I think gr8fruit is so right. Good job. I want to give that answer a 5!
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you can flirt with them but the sometimes flirt but its inoccent and some girl really like the person but the boy doesnt know so they just flirt back but its inoccent. so how do you get a guys attention so he can like you?? (link)
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Now dear...haha...I'm an older lady. And I know you young ladies think we're old fuddyduddys, but don't be so in a hurry for a boys attention. You probably have boys that like you too and they are wondering the same about you. Just relax and be yourself and one day when the time is right you will have a boyfriend. Just don't try to force it because you don't want that reputation and you could be used by a boy that thinks you would do anything for them. Relax and let nature takes its course hon.
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I sent a letter to "Brooke shields" and i was just wondering, how long do you think it will take for her to answer me back? The mail arrived 10/8/09 and this question is being asked at 10/10/09. My dad says 2 weeks but i hope it's quicker. P.S: I live in Florida. (Fort myers.) Thanks!
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You know, one time a while back I wrote to that Jonathan Taylor Thomas. He was the blonde kid on Tool Time. I wrote him for my niece who had a mad crush on him. He wrote back maybe 3 to 4 weeks later and sent a letter and picture. Brooke seems like a very nice person and if you sent it to the right address to reach her...and it was an appropriate letter...I would think you may hear from her. I used the old fashioned mail. Maybe that's something you could do if you emailed her. Alot of people like to get an old fashioned letter because it's much nicer and more personal. Hope you hear from her soon.
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so, last summer i had job in a small cafe, and there was this guy who worked there too. we didn't see/talk much, but when we did, we used to smile a lot, and he's pretty hot. well, we go to the same school, and now me and my friends hang out at the place i used to work (he still works there), and whenevr we are there, he makes a big deal of coming to our table and asking us if we want anything. maybe im just reading too much into this, but i like him, and when we do talk, he's really nice, and very funny. i know we have a lot in common (tv, film, and especially music/ guitar) but how do i know if he just likes talking to me as a friend, or if he really does like me? and if he does, how to i get him to fianally ask me out, since he's fairly shy, but maybe he's just uncertain...? thanx in advance xxx (link)
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You know, some of the best love relationships and longest love relationships have been between people who were friends first. When you get a little older, gee...I think that's what we all pray for. Good Luck and be yourself and tease him a little (not sexually)...just be friendly.
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i don't think this is in the right category. but whatever.
the lifetime movie augusta, gone never comes on lifetime anymore. and i used to be able to watch it on youtube but it was deleted.
does anyone know a good movie website that i could watch it on? i've already tried "watch-movies-links.com" but its not on there.
thanks in advance. (link)
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Did you go to the Lifetime website? I think they have the info on whether it's on a dvd or even when it will be playing again.
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OK so my cuz (lilly) and my older sister (June) just moved into my house and now I have to share everyhitng all over again. My other sis just moved out so its like I lost her and gained two others. My sister (June) spends her money on stupid stuff like ciggerets and then gets money off my parents to get other things. Then my cuz likes to barrow all my stuff with out asking me and now she is waving it in my face that she got a camera and a new dress for homwcoming when I didnt because we cant affored it right now.They both get $130 sum dollars in the mail and I get nothing. Then after I said I got a new camera like she did she went and asked my parents for more money for homecoming and I cant get any she keeps taking the stuff I want and now she is mad because I got the shoes she wants. I hate how they both dont respect the fact that we dont have alot of money and wave what ever they get in my face. How do I keep my cool and how do i confront my parents about this. Should I even confront them?
I am so confused (link)
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I agree with the person who answered before me. Also, I am a big believer in writing letters. That way you can get your feelings out to a person and you can avoid over-emotional (but I can see why) scenes. I have to do that cause I will start yelling sometimes or crying or whatever. You know when you get a letter, a good handwritten heartfelt letter, you read it again and again. Maybe that will work for you. They are kinda like bullies but they don't realize they are hurting you. Good Luck
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My brother has just found out that he has a cancer that is not operable. The doctor has explained that it will be a very painful death and my brother has a very short time before it takes him. He has everything in order and wishes to end it his own way. Our mother feels it's appropriate for him to do this and that we shouldn't interfere with this decision. I don't want to lose my brother though. I thought it would be great to spend the rest of his days just doing whatever he would love to do and not thinking twice about it (I would gladly put myself deep into debt for the end of his life to be pleasurable). What do I do? He seems very determined and has agreed to tell us when he will end his life. I expect this to be soon and I feel like I'm going to lose him too soon. Please, help me... (link)
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You are so wonderful. I think you should talk openly and honestly with your brother. I'm thinking that, of course he is very scared and wants his pain including emotional pain to end. He just wants to "get it over with". You should open up your sweet heart to him and tell him you are scared too. Tell him how much you'll miss him but you don't want to lose him until God calls for him, until the very end. Tell him you want to love him everyday of the rest of his life and that's all you want. I'm sure he doesn't want you going into debt because it's not important right now. Write him some heartfelt letters telling him at first how you feel. Put together a little photo album or stories about growing up together and the good and bad times y'all went though. Remind him of how much he will be missed and you have to celebrate holidays or birthdays early. Throw him a little thoughtful Christmas or Birthday party...make it light and fun and if he has alot of pain...offer to rub his back, get some nice smelling lotion. Just tell him you want to love and pamper him and that not to be afraid...God Bless you all.
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is there a way to get the law peoples (government)to let me not live with my parents,, because my house is like world war 3 and i cant take this anymore. (link)
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Hon, I think you should elaborate on what the problem exactly is, as the gentleman asked a few answers ago. Not a good idea to try to make it on your own these days...it's pretty tough out there for grown adults. Maybe if you told us your situation we could better advise you on how to cope or where maybe to turn for help. Please write and elaborate. Hope we hear from you soon.
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My parents are having some really bad marital problems right now. It sounds like they are going to be getting a divorce soon, but they are still living in the same household with me and my little brother. I am 17 and my brother is 15, by the way.
My parents are always fighting and they sleep in different rooms. My dad sleeps in the living room on the couch and my mom sleeps in the bedroom. I have my own room and so does my brother, by the way. Mom just started working nights while my dad works mornings so they just don't interact any more than they have to.
Two days ago I found my brother smoking pot. I know he's 15 and lots of kids his age are turning to weed but, let's face it, it isn't good and it isn't the best way to cope. I know he's stressing out over Mom and Dad but drugs can lead to serious problems in the future. Weed is illegal, too, and I don't want him to get in trouble with the police. He begged me not to tell Mom or Dad about it and confessed that he's been smoking pot for like 2 months now or more.
I want to tell my parents because it just isn't good for anyone. They need to start paying more attention to us, I think. I don't want my brother to find safety in smoking weed. I want him to be able to rely on the family.
What do I do? How do I tell my parents what is going on with my brother? How can I explain to them that he's turning to drugs because they are not here for us any more and haven't been since they started fighting? (link)
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Please do not listen to some of this "advice" that is negative or insults you. So lame are they and should be ashamed to call you names.
This is happening to my sisters family. They're a mess. I think you should talk to your parents about your brother. They are so tied up in their own drama and mess, they are not thinking too straight right now. I'll bet when you sit them both down they will have to face what they are doing to you guys. Your brother is lucky to have you. I think you should leave a note to your mom and one for you dad and kind of make an appointment and let them know you need to speak to both of them and that it's very important. You sound like a very mature person and I'm very proud of you. You are probably the most mature person in the house right now. Keep up the good work, keep your spirits up. I know it seems really tough right now, but life has a million ups and downs. I think this situation and every tough situation you go through in life will only add to your knowledge and wisdom of life. You will only be a stronger person for going through this. Again, I am very proud of you. You take care and continue being brave, ok?
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so very recently, my mom and dad got a divorce. they had been seperated for a while, but that's not the point. see i've grown accostumed to my mom, but both my parents, are horrible. even they say it. so i basically live in silence. i go to school, i lock myself in my room hen im at home with her, and i go out with my friend. i don't have many friends, except her. well she's my only friend. but, i recently decided i wanna live with my dad. he's aay a lot, and even though he's the worst out of my parents (he told me he hated me, then didn't speak to me for a year, then moved out, then blamed me, then left me to cope with my fucking manic depressive mom, who basically needs to be looked after 24hrs a day.) i never made a big deal out of anything that goes on in my life, so now that i told her im depressed and i want to leave home, she obviously thinks im just whining. thing is, i don't like being dramtic or letting people know ho sad i am. so ho do i get her to be supportive without telling her all of this? her mom recently got her cancer back again, so i get she's annoyed by me moaning about my mom, which honestly, i haven't done AT ALL since she told me about it. but still. she get this look on her face. and i kno that look. it the one where she wants to tell me im being stupid, but she doesn't anna say it out loud. and i kno that the best advice is to talk to someone else, but im not kidding. i have no friends, except her. all i ant is her to be supportive of my moving. i mean, i know i seem happy about it all, but how does she not get that i hate my dad more than anyone in the world, and this move is way too hard to for me to do by myself, hich is what i am doing, beause my mom ain't doing anything, and my dad's just pissed that i'm 'forcing myself onto him'. it's really annoying. i mean, just because i didn't make a fuss about it, when it happened, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt now! and i didn't make a fuss, because my damned mother told me not to! im not good at confrontation, especially with my dad. i just clam up, and everyone thinks im whining over soemthing, just to get sympathy. all i want is my friend to get, that her parents wonderful family life, is not what i have. is that so hard for her to do? i just anna know if i should just stop trying with her. and bt, this question is aboutmy friend, not my family, i just wanted you to get the situation. thanx in advance. (link)
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I know this is supposed to be about your friend, but honestly if your homelife was more stable you could handle everything else. Maybe the advice I give you could work on or even help your friend too. Maybe I'm too old to understand, but I hate to see any young people that are in pain. First of all I want to say how sorry I am you are having to go through this situation, especially where you are the innocent one. You sure deserve a whole lot better than you are getting.
Well, first of all, try to shake off the bad feelings because it's not you, you didn't do anything wrong. Put yourself above your situation. Honestly, just be happy where you are. I mean, just ignore them, act like they don't exist. Eat when you eat, sleep when you sleep, do your homework, do whatever it is you do everyday. I bet they will notice something is up when you act totally like you don't give a darn what they are doing and could care less. Self preservation. Write down some goals you would like to accomplish and concentrate on them. Live them...not the garbage. You will be better off just thinking of your own life. So hey, as long as there is food to eat, heck with them...live your own life so when you are out on your own someday, you will be a woman you can be proud of. Good luck sweetheart. Pray when you are falling asleep. I'll pray for you too.
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It's really tough to go it alone. You know I sound like an old nag in my advice but, I am such a believer in writing letters to whoever it is you are having an issue with. It is so much better to pour your heart out and you don't have that confrontation or just a big to-do. I would write your friend a real letter, pen and paper, and tell her how much you value her and let her know how lucky you think she is. It's so nice to write like that because you can be lying on your bed or just being wherever and you can read it over and over and it will bring you some comfort.You know, I've learned over the years that what looks good from the outside may not be that good in reality. Like the saying, "you don't know people until you live with them." Maybe she has issues too and is putting on a front or being protective of her feelings. I'm a big believer of pouring your heart out, being honest and open, and even confessing. Encourage your friend to answer you back in a letter. Then when you get together maybe there will be less stress and more goodwill towards each other. I really hope you do ok. You are such a great person. I know that you are so stressed out. Close your eyes, breathe deeply. Like self-yoga. Try to push the negative feelings away. I'm going to tell you something very silly I do, but hey whatever works. When I feel something bad creeping up into my mind...I do like a little windshield wiper in front of my forehead and wipe it away. I always look forward...I refuse to look back. I will be praying for you. I'm on your side.
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i have a friend, let's call her her liz . liz is really good friends with my crush lets call him alex . alex acted like he didn't want to be around me after he found out i liked him. anyway today alex and liz seemed to get pretty chummy with one another. they were playing around with one another (not sexual) he would always go and sit by her. and he leaned on her arm while she was texting. he sat in her lap. and she gave him a back rub and kept her hand on his back when she was done. ( i wanted to tell her to take it off but that would be wrong). i think he layed on her too. it seems like they like each other. i couldnt stop looking. i didn't want to look but i couldnt help it. its like i feel really jealous but i really have no right to be i dont think liz knows i like alex though. i know this could be friends playing but i don't think it is. am i wrong to be jealous? what do i do to get over this jealousy? do i tell her how i feel even thought i don't see the point of it? (link)
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I hate it when a "friend" is so disrespectful and thoughtless. How immature this woman is. Yes, he is probably more to blame because he is in the relationship with you, but I hate it when women hurt each other. There are so many men in the world and to approach yours...it's just not right. I would try not to let it appear to bother you but I would talk to her privately and ask her what she is thinking. Now I'm the type of person who doesn't put up with that too long...(see so many men from above). Your life is too short for stress, you have enough of that with the daily life, work, bills etc... Don't put up with it too long. That's not love anyway. Good luck hon.
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Can you please explain to me what back pain due to large breasts feels like? And also where in the back the pain is, and what brings it on? (like walking, running etc.)
Thanks so much!
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I agree with previous answer. I have very large breasts and very very sore upper back, neck, shoulders. Had very physical jobs where I did alot of lifting with further bent me over. Good support bra, yoga..I do mine at home, stretching and twisting. It's taken me 5 years to stand up straight but without my twisting and stretching, I would go back to foward bend. Close you eyes. Go inside your body where the major pain is. Picture a perfectly normal spine, perhaps look for image online. Align your spine with your mind, if not physically. Eventually it will jive with each other...the vision and the spine, but as I said it's taken me years but I was really bending forward. Good luck.
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