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I cant stand her
OK so my cuz (lilly) and my older sister (June) just moved into my house and now I have to share everyhitng all over again. My other sis just moved out so its like I lost her and gained two others. My sister (June) spends her money on stupid stuff like ciggerets and then gets money off my parents to get other things. Then my cuz likes to barrow all my stuff with out asking me and now she is waving it in my face that she got a camera and a new dress for homwcoming when I didnt because we cant affored it right now.They both get $130 sum dollars in the mail and I get nothing. Then after I said I got a new camera like she did she went and asked my parents for more money for homecoming and I cant get any she keeps taking the stuff I want and now she is mad because I got the shoes she wants. I hate how they both dont respect the fact that we dont have alot of money and wave what ever they get in my face. How do I keep my cool and how do i confront my parents about this. Should I even confront them?
I am so confused
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You're saying that your parents don't have much money, yet they're giving your cousin & sister money for homecoming and other bullshit & they're even buying you new shoes & a camera. How is that even possible? They either have money or they don't.
You can always ask them to stop spoiling your sister & cousin because you're sick of them always waving it in your face but I don't really see much getting done about it. They might do something, but I don't think they will. It'll just make you come off as jealous.
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I agree with the person who answered before me. Also, I am a big believer in writing letters. That way you can get your feelings out to a person and you can avoid over-emotional (but I can see why) scenes. I have to do that cause I will start yelling sometimes or crying or whatever. You know when you get a letter, a good handwritten heartfelt letter, you read it again and again. Maybe that will work for you. They are kinda like bullies but they don't realize they are hurting you. Good Luck
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Hey there,
I know what you mean! I used to be best friends with this girl (her family is what I consider to be, real rich and we aren't so much), we hung out ALL the time, until she decided to completely dump me for my brother. Before she did this, she had lyed to me, backstabbed me, and used me (to get to my brother). This was a while ago, but she comes over every single day (arg). I live with my mom, and my mom treats her way better than me basically. I keep thinking to myself 'how could you treat her so nice MOM, when this girl is so mean'. No matter how much I explain.. my mothers the only one that doesn't get it.
And the only way your parents will understand, is if you confront them. Parents are sometimes pretty clueless, until you tell them what is happening right under their noses. Your older sister and cousin obviously do not know the value of money, and your parents are just giving into them. When something is bothering you, your sis and cousin might not know. You have to tell them straight up that while they are there, they have to respect you and your space.
Kind of hint to your sister that if she did not smoke, she would be healthier AND have more money so she doesn't have to ask. You can't really force her to do anything because she might turn what you are saying off, but you can suggest that it would be a good way to save money. Of course she won't stop doin it right away, you have to give it a little time but hint every now and then. Same goes for your cousin; when she starts bragging, tell her that it hurts you when she does that, because you can't afford it. She needs to know that she won't always have everything handed to her for free and that she doesn't realize the value of money by just asking for it all the time. Say how she has so much (give her a list of examples) and that she is so lucky to have so much. Does it really hurt her for you to have only ONE special thing (the shoes)? She has to let you have at least one thing, let her know that.
Also, you have to have your parents to back you up, which is why you HAVE got to talk to them. Have them understanding you, being on the same level, and knowing what your sis and cousin do to you, will let them know that it isn't fair. You do not get money just handed over to you, so why should your sister and cousin be so privileged? Ask your parents if there is a way to have Lilly and June EARN their money. Such as doing some chores or things to help out your parents.
Calmy gather your breath, and let it all out for your parents to hear. Make it clear that you need respect from Lilly and June; they take things for granted. It may be difficult, but nothing is going to change unless your parents know what they are doing. You need your rights too.
When you reach out, things only get better <3
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