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Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together for practically 3 years. And he watches porn. Now, I feel horrible whenever I find out he's been watching it. I have low self esteem and feel that when he watches it it's because I'm not pretty enough or whatever. I've told him how his watching porn takes its toll on me, and he promises to stop, which he always ends up breaking that promise :/
I satisfy him in every way possible, my sex drive is up to par, if not, even higher than his! But he just won't give up porn. He'll stop, and go back eventually. This frustrates me so much... What should I do? Should I leave? Thanks in advance :(
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if it is just the fact that you told him to make a promice to you and he breaks it i understand that would upsetyou. but watching porn isnt that bad it doesnt mean he doesnt find you attractive once in a while people need to finish themselves the way they want by themselves now if watching porn is taking over his life like he doesnt go to work or on dates with you then its a problem but other than that not so much a big deal.
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My boyfriend of 3 years and I have been having some problems before but it has gone way too far. I don't know what to do anymore because I love him but I found out that our whole relationship has been based on a lie. I was suspicious of him one day and checked him one email and found pictures of girls in their bra and panties and bathing suits that he had been talking to. He had a wouldyouhitthis.com account when we first started dating and promised to close it. All this time I thought it was closed and I tried to get over the whole email thing. But today I just found that he has had his account open since at least July 24,2008 and has been flirting, looking at, and talking to these girls on the sex site. I don't know what to do anymore. He lied to me this whole time and told me his account was closed except he randomly opened it before christmas but then closed it. He lied, he didn't open it around christmas, he had it open since at least July 24,2008. Two days before my birthday... what a great present and I didn't even know it. He has been talking to girls still too. He said he was done after that sex site thing but then started talking to a 14 year old girl. He's 25 years old. Am I wrong for thinking that's disgusting and wrong? He was calling her hot and asking her if she would date him regardless of his age and asked her what panties she was wearing. What should I do? Nothing will change will it? Should I just move on? (link)
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that is so gross a 14 year old girl i would call the cops but im a bitch so thats me. he lied and is talking to young GIRLS wow hes gross get rid of him but as always easier said then done i hope your really strong girl. i would ask him why hes talking to 14 year old girls and why he thinks its ok and why he thinks that its okay to lie to you throughout your relationship.
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I watch my boyfriends five year old little girl she tells me no she isnt going to do something and she wont. today she threw a cookies on the floor i thought it was an acident so pick them up. then goes a can of chip... alittle fishy i clean them up again. next goes her pizza and all her food on her plate... this time i catch her she is doing it on purpose. i tell her five mins of time out she says no.... i say it three more times nicely and she says no. i give her a choice time out or bed time she says neither. so i pick her up take her to the bed room i dont loose my temper i do it calmy and tell her i will see her in the morning goodnight then walk out.
she screams kicks throws stuff now i am mad i hear things falling and hitting the wall... i go in tell her to get into bed and go to sleep now. she jumps in bed then she starts kicking and sreaming begging me no bed time.
I decide its way to early for bed but she can sit in there for 15 mins if she is good she can get up and try again.
15 mins later she is till throwing a fit so i say ok 7 oclock go to bed fine with me. finaly she calms down.
but i have had these fits before and the same results the end in bed time or nap time. i would throw it up to her just being tired but it cant just be that they happen 30 mins after nap time when she is wound up.
how do i deal with this with out spanking.. ignoring this behavoir isnt safe or possible... help me...... (link)
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bottom line its his kid you shouldnt control your boyfriend on how to do things i had a stepmother like that and i hated it. and again she is 5 i babysat kids like that its annoying you can scream till your blue in the face. i say if she acts like this again get on her level and speack to her like you mean it but not in a mean way and tell her if she does not stop she will sit in the corner for five minutes if she doesnt listen to you or says no you say ok now you have five minutes in the corner and if you misbehave you get no dessert or tv before bed. if you send her to bed like that and shes kicking and screaming you need to tell her that if shes good she will come out early other wise its the end of the world to her. you should watch the nanny lol.
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I am looking for Godly advice please. My husband got violent today, threatening both me and my daughter, breaking things and hurting us... I went to the police, which I have never done with him, and now he is in jail. I dont know that he will even try to come back, it may be that he just lashes out, or never contacts me again. But what if he does, what do I do if he wants to get help and come home? How do I handle this? Im scared, and trying not to fall apart. I dont think that what he did is ok at all, but does anyone know if the Bible says anything about how to handle this? (link)
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you need to think about you and your daughters safety! do you want her to be around that its dangerous and she could be scared for life. i wouldnt want him back home hell just do it again. he will either want to come home or be mad but you should just think about safety and how your going to feel.
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Sorry its so long :)
So my boyfriend 2 nights ago texted me while i was at work telling me about how this girl was hitting on him at the bar and asked me what he should do. I told him just tell her you have a girlfriend, and he said okay. When i get back from work, hes at the apartment, and so is this girl! Granted, another guy was there, but there sitting in the dark watching a movie and drinking some wine she brought over.
The other guy, Derek, told me that all night she was asking people if he had a girlfriend and that he never told her he did. Derek ended up telling her that Joe was taken, and after he told her that this girl, Susan still came over to my house.
I walk in and she got all pissed off that i was there, and she decided to leave. Derek offered her a ride home and she refused and when Joe asked if she wanted him to drive her she responded with a very fast yes.
So my boyfriend drives her home, comes back, and doesnt think he did anything wrong!
How can i make him understand that what he did was completely unfair. Im not a jealous person and i didnt say anything rude to this girl. All i want is to explain to him how he hurt my feelings.
How can i go about doing this? I dont want to yell or anything, so what is the best way i can go about explaining how he hurt me? (link)
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i would never accept that if he couldnt tell her that he had a girlfriend that would hurt my feelings so bad id be pissed off too. and let alone he brought her over he only brought derek over because he knew that you would think it was weird that him and her were alone together! and he brought her home? hmmm i would have gone with them not that id be jelous or anything but its just not right why couldnt he tell anyone that he was taken why was that girl so mad cuz she was lead on by him most likely. if i were you i would talk to him and tell him well when that girl came over the whole situation hurt my feelings becuase... you didnt tell her you had a grilfriend or you brought her home or i found you guys drinking wine and watching a movie in the dark or the girl was to be so rude and angry that i walked in my own house... basically tell him why then say how would you feel if i meaning you did that to you!!!! if he still is like whatever your a bitch or mean you know then id do the same thing hed get the idea i understand that your relationship might be different and that you have different views but i would not accept him doing that i would not let him have her over take her home and id especially ask why she was mad that you were there and why he didnt tell anyone he had a girlfriend. but if that doesnt bother you thats you and im not saying your stupid or a bad person for not thinking thats not a big deal to me id be really mad and would be like wtf.
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am a female and i had sex with my bf for 8 months and unprotected and he has cummed inside of me. but i realise that my period hasn come yet and i feel this horrible pain in my puvic area.. also my breast are so sensitive and they hurt so much. i also started getting dizzy and i berly can stand strait some times.. Can i be pregnant?? (link)
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those are all sighns of geting ur period too! that happends to me b4 i get mine those nothing wrong with you if it still continutes asee a doctor. dizzy part your probally not eating enough.
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Last night I stayed at my cousin's house with her and her boyfriend. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and just recently met another guy. This new guy is amazing. Well, last night he came over to where I was staying and we hung out. We ended up going to get some drinks and when we got back we fooled around in his truck. Later on, after my cousin and her boyfriend went to bed and we ended up having sex. He stayed with me almost all night and I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but this morning when I woke up I was feeling regret.
I want to stay with my current boyfriend, should I tell him what happened or should I leave it alone and just move on?
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i think you should tell him because you cant live a lie and looking him in the eye and act like nothing happend you wouldnt want him to do that to you.
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18/f
with 18/m
How ridiculous is it for two 18, almost 19 year olds to move in together in our own apartment? We've been dating for a year and a half. I have problems with my parents but they seem to think there's nothing wrong but its bothered me enough that it stresses me out when I'm living there, so I spend 90% of my time at my boyfriend's house. Anyway, he wants to move in together but I feel like my parents would flip...I KNOW they would flip out. I was just wondering from an outside point of view, do I have a valid argument or is moving in with a teenage boyfriend completely ridiculous? (link)
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hi im 17/f and my boyfriend of two years is the same age and we were talking about the same thing hes moving maybe right after senior year and he wants me to go with him to live with his parents for a little while just for two years. well the thing is i already want to go to a two year college so it doesnt matter to me. so i asked my mom what she thought and she said well dont you want to live on your own and think that you can support yourself and what not and if you guys move intogether we will get pregnant. now i understand but if i live with him and his parents it would be the same as living with my mom but id be paying for my own stuff minus food. no big deal. point is that seeing my story maybe helps your own. yes im still young and im just thinking right now. my mom also said that living with someone is a whole different level money will split you apart or something. it comes down to you and how you feel. why would your parents flip? your legal to do anything you want and your almost 19 well i think you can if you truly want to but just keep in mind what my mom said to me. do whts right for you. what makes you happy!.
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I'm wearing this dress to my junior prom
http://img2.timeinc.net/people/i/2007/stylewatch/gallery/sequin_dresses/carrie_underwood_200x400.jpg
and was wondering, what should I do with my hair? And what color should I get my nails painted? I'm relatively pale and have long brown hair, if that helps. Thank you! (link)
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you should get your hair like hers.! just print out the picture and tell your hair dresser thats what you want. for your nails you should get a french tip your toes should be like a red or silver something differnt solid color.
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on facebook i pressed something by mistake and i now i cant see people's pictures , i cant even see the word "facebook" i need help because this is getting kinda annoying . i cant even see my own pictures , can some one please help me , thank you. (link)
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i think you hit the zoom button on the bottom right hand cornner put it back to 100%
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okay well this guy and i have been dating for 9 months. he graduated last year and im graduating this year. wen we first started dating it was like nothing Ive ever felt. i felt truly loved. he made me happy, basically everyhting ive ever wanted. well his family owns a business soo he is out on the road ALOT. and i only get to see him for maybe a two days then hes gone again for 3 weeks. well these past few months has been crazyy. ive figured him out. hes extremly mean to me, my friends (of whom he has not met--calls them sluts AND MY FAMILY) but the sad part is that i reallyy "think" i can make him see wat he does to me. we fight nd i cry and throw up.. idk wat to do. of course there are alot of other things that go wrong . but ima start from here first. should i dump him.. please helpp (link)
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well does he do more good or bad to your first of all. hes gone all the time is it worth it. the main thing is that you will be happy. if he makes you sad most of the week do you think its worth stressing over. its up to you. no one can tell you if you should break up with b.c we dont know him.
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16/f
No matter how hard I try to find love it just keeps avoiding me.I see all the couples around me,happy,holding hands and kissing and I feel jealous,or just burst into tears.Whenever I like someone now,they just end up being jerks to me.I had a few relationships but that's something I don't wanna remember.I try my hardest to attract someone I could like being with but I fail every single time...ofc I try to be subtle and all but it's like I'm invisible.I'm good-looking and smart,but I feel like I'm the exact opposite by the way I've been treated.Why me? I just want to be happy in love for once.and it never happens.I just get treated like dirt every time. (link)
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at this age most guys are not looking for a long relationship and are totally serious about. there are a few dont get me wrong. but most are all about sex and the facts of having a girlfriend you shouldnt try to hard to make someone like you they either do or dont and if you make it obvious its like kinda a wierd. i'm sure your beautiful and that just guys are being guys you should just be you and not try it will happen on its own. what your not looking for is what will come to you. enjoy being single and making friends this is when you can talk to more than one guy and not matter.it sux that you were treated bad im sorry idk why guys are jerks they like to play from girl to gril. it will happen thou no worries just stay calm and remember your still young and have years to come for LOVE. for now you have your friends to love you and family
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What are all the different names/types of sexual positions out there? xD (link)
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well honey theres google for that. it even has images
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I am getting closed to 18 and I have never had a boyfriend. Now, it seems kind of weird, but I have no problem with it. I've had plenty of shots, but I'm not rushing anything and dont plan to waste time with the wrong guy. {I'm very picky.) My family, on the other hand, makes it seem like a big deal, when it's not. They are always asking me why I haven't brought any guys home, etc. My younger sister, who happens to be a huge slut, made this ridiculous remark that I am a lesbian. Now her and my parents joke about it. And sometimes I think they really think that. (Which I'm not. I'm totally against that stuff and they know it.) Whenever my sister and I get in fights she's always like "Atleast I've had a boyfriend." I know I'm not experienced and stuff..but there's no one I'd want to go out with at the moment. I've already explained this to my family, but they still get on my case about it. I used to be able to ignore it easily, but now it's hard. I already have a low self esteem, and they arent making it any easier for me. Any suggestions? (link)
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you know it just sounds bad to some people oh your almost 18 and havnt had a boyfriend. well to be honost with them i say that good for you becuase who needs to be attached to one guy for a period of time if you look at it its more work sometimes people get so into their relationship you forget about friends and then your worrying about how to give a blow job and getting prego at a young age so what you didnt have sex at 15 is that really bad i think they should be proud that your enjoying your single YOUNG life. where was it written that you need a boyfriend bfore your 18 or have to have your first kiss at 13 and sex at 16 no one your going your own pace girl and thats good if they say something again you tell them that they should be proud that they dont have to worry about you getting your heart broken over scum bags who just are going to cheat on you and find another girl in five minutes and fighting is soooo annoying and you will when your in a relationship i say that your waiting to first find your bestfriend and if he is more than that one day good for you thats how i got my guy we are always friends first i think its great that way b.c our relationship makes it that easier. just flirt its so much fun for single gals. too bad your sister is growing up to fast and shell get god knows what an std or a baby and oh her reputation but good for her right? dont let your parents or sister or friends bother you about it you DONT need a guy ever and you know that and i promice that you will get a guy soon there is always someone for somebody.
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What is your opinion on PDA? Does it bother you when couples at school kiss? (I'm not talking about making out and getting all over eachother.) What do you consider acceptable to do in public and what should be saved for behind doors? (link)
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basically what ever you do outside just makes people think well what do they do behind doors if they can do this out in the open! my mom said never do anything that you would be ashamed of telling her. and with the whole PDA thing i kiss in school and hug and hold hands but its not a full on lip locking 8 minute b4 the bell hott fling. lol its ok to hold hands and little kisses here and ther dont be blocking the hall ways holding on to eachother thats annoying. behind doors should be make outs touching certain places. you know
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What should I do if a boy doesnt like me but i really like him. When i text him he neva texts back unless i tell him im sending a pic or coming ova. So my question is "Should I Keep Talking To Him Or Move On?" (link)
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bottom line is guys are wierd i hope its not like a naked pic but in any rate thats still ur choice. but why dont you say after leaving his house or ending a convo with him say text me if or something around those lines.
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soo me and my ex havent talked in about a month in a half.
and i decided id be nice and text him and ask him how he is and stuff. but i thought he wouldnt text me back but he did. so heres are whollllle conversation.
and btw it was a longdistance relationshipp.
me: hey youu. how have you been?
him: good how bout you?
me: im goood (: ive been in florida for about a week and im really sunburned so its hurts haha
him:haha that sucks im sorry
me: its all good. what have you been up to?
Him: nothing but working it sucks what about you
Me. Haha you always work but nothing on spring break so ive been down here with my auntt
Him: so do you have a boyfriend?
Me: welll hes not my boyfriend but were kinda together I guess. Do you have a gf?
Him: yeah same girl
Me: that’s cuteee.
Him: yeah do you still miss me
Me: of coursee. Do you?
Him: yeah so are you still coming down here soon
ME: in the summer probably
Him: sounds fun. We should hangout
Me: we should (:
Him: for sure. So are you still really cute?
Me: hahah i dont knoww.
Him: you should send me a picture
Me: I don’t think your girlfreind would like thattt.
Him: well do you promise not to say anything
ME: hahah who would I tell..
Him: true so send me one
ME: if I get one
Him: after work
Me: alrightt
Him: can I have any good ones?
Me: no not having what happened last time
Him: I said sorry so many times bri. I swear its me. Im at work till 1.
ME: I believe youu. Im still not gonna do it though.
Him: fine but can I have a pic
( I sent one)
Him: damn I wish you would of never cheated on me
Me: yeah me too :[
Him: so I say you owe me a good pic for that
Me: hah I sent you plenty that one night and you have a gf. Im sure you were just like this to other girls when we were together
Him: no I really liked you I wasn’t going to mess you up
Me: suree
Him: I swear I was good to you there was something about you I didn’t know what it was
Me: what do you mean?
Him: like I liked you so much treated you so good never cheated on you there was something about you that made me always think about you
Me: yeah same here. It fucking sucks. Ive been doing so good this past month and now im gonna fucking cry.
Him: im not trying to be mean but it was your fault you did mess up
Me: yeah I know :/
Him:well don’t cry we can get back together when you come down if youre not with anyone
Me: no don’t tell me that cuase I know that’s not gonna happen. You have a gf. Youre just not gonna break up with her for me. And im not sure if im gonna go down there yet/
Him: for you yeah I would and try your hardest
Me:well whats that point of being with her if youre just gonna leave her in a couple months anyways
Him: well if you come down and we hangout maybe I will change my mind and forgive you
Me: :[
Him: so you should really try and come down
Me: I will but i dont know if it will happen . Or in the summer ill drive a couple hours and you can too and we can meet somewhere cause I really wanna see you and miss you.
Him: well if you do it I will do it. Wil lyou really do it?
Me: yeah if im not gonna come down there in the summer and I mean all this so you better not be bullshitting me.
Him: im not. I swear. I don’t lie to you. But have you had sex with anyone else.
Me: nope (:
Him: swear?
Me: I swear
Him: ok well can I have a good pic please
Me: nooo
Him: the only way you will get a pic of me is if I get a good one/
Me: ugh fine. But its an old one.
Him: who all do you send pics too?
Me: no one.
( I sent it)
Him: back up. I cant see.
Me: seriously?
Him: yeah/
(I did)
Him: you suck at taking pics.
ME: im pretty sure its your phone cause you can see on my phone.
Him: can I have one more. Thsts really good
Me: no.
Him: fine.
Me: do you really miss me or are you just saying htat?
Him: why would I just say it. that’s stupid
Me: i dont know…
Him: do you still love me?
Me: I always will.
Him: ok good
Me: do you still love me?
Him: I guess you will have to find out
Me: and how am I suppose to do that?
Him:wait till we see eachtoher
Me: finee :[
Him: so what you doing
Me: laying in bed crying hah. You?
Him: y you crying
Me: causee.
Him: cause why. Tell me.
Me: cause I fucking miss you. And I hate how some other girl has you. You were always suppose to be mine.
Him: yeah well I didn’t do it
Me: I know.
Him: so have you met any guys down there.
Me: yeah some.
Him: so do you like them?
Me: haha noo.
Me: so are you happy I texted you.
Him: yeah are you.
Me: I iguess so. But im a total mess now.
Him: why./
Me:: you know why. I honeslty didn’t think you wre gonna text me back.
Him: why
Me: cause we havent talked in forever so I thought you wre just fine without me
Him: well that’s not true. But im going to sleep
Me: yeah I am tooo. Text me tomorrow if you want. Goodnight.
Him: night.
He never text me that day and I texted him like three times. And he finnaly said ill text you tomorrow. He never did that either.
my question is waht should i do? do you think he wa lying to me?
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lets see girl, i say you wait a couple days for him to text you. if he doesnt text him if he doesnt text you back with in the next couple days call him or call him before you text him. if you truly want things to work i see why not call him.he might be really busy is all dont get to worried yet.
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i've been dating my boyfriend for almost six months now. we've gotten in MANY fights however most of them have been because of me. about a week and a half ago he broke up with me because we were fighting and hooked up with a 17 year old girl in the back of her van (he's 15; he met her on myspace the day before) it's the first thing he's really done wrong, but it isn't even that wrong because we wern't dating? anyway, i forgave him and everything's seemed perfect lately.. did i make the right choice? what could i do differently to avoid fighting? what's a good idea for a sixth month present for a guy that his parents buy him 349838348 dollars worth of clothes everyday, and he doesen't need any cd's or anything. i just can't think of anything haha
oh and by the way dennis, if you know who this is, call me tonight?
(: (link)
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well this whole situation feels like your making excuses for this boy. and you only think that you start the fights is beacuse he said you did. you dont it takes two otherwise why would you BOTH be fighting you do realize that him hooking up with another girl breaking up for one night?! is gonna bother you for the rest of your guys relationship. what happends if one day you guys get in a huge fight and break up is he gonna hook up with someone everytime? if i were you if he can hook up with someone the night of the break up or day after i would NOT take him back. not worth your time trust me. but your wondering what to get him get him like colugne or does he have a favortie baseball team football? does he play a sport? make him cookies or cupcakes get him a chain write him a note.
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Hey,my names Alyssa.& i broke up with my boyfriend Zack in like the middle of january. and we used to sit at the same lunch table and the day i broke up with him this other kid Mark got everyone in the table to put their legs out and take up all the seats so that i couldnt sit down. so i went and sat with these girls Roni, kim cait sam and dana, that day one of the girls wernt there and so i sat in her seat.that was yesterday. and today that girl was in school so i had to find somewhere else to sit. the only place i could find was behind Zacks table. i was really embarresed because Mark kept saying stufff reallly loud like "ALYSSA HAS NO FRIENDS! IF YOUR HER FRIEND, YOU GAY TOO!" and when i started eating, they started throwing food at me! and i ran to the bathroom and started crying. and i dont know what to do! my bestfriends turned agnst me. please help me. (link)
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wow i feel so bad for you. this is very touchy if you were to go to a parent to stop this it would prob get worse. maybe talking to your so called friends about this maybe things will help or spread a rumor that the only reason you broke up with him is b.c he cheated on you with some other girl form a different school. but if you can talk to you "friends" privately or just one of them and see whats going on.
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I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.
I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.
He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!
Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!! (link)
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well then why dont you go out why is he holding you back from going out he doesnt live next door. if hes online and your not what is going to do. if the more you go out and less on the computer and phone hell get upset and mad about it. but be busy and when you finally talk to him be like ive had a great time going out i havnt done this in so long i love not being attached to he computer all the time. its just a lil hint your starting to get over him. he should give up eventually. as sketchy as your going to be and this sounds it might work.
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