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Q: Three girls. Used to be friends with them. Now I'm not (long story) and they're bitching about me behind my back. The part that makes it upsetting is that act really lovely to me when I'm around... and I'm a trusting kind of person. It took ages for me to believe it.
Would you please tell me what to do? Is it better to...
1)...confront them, and a)hold a grudge b)forgive them OR
2)...ignore them, and a) hold a grudge b)forgive them.
3)start a hate campaign.
Or if you have an alternative I'd be glad to hear it (but I'm not changing schools!)
First off, if you confront them, something darastic may happen. They may turn on you, and they will not be nice and all when you are around. And they may begin spreading words aound about you, lowering you. And hate campains are NOT the way to go, as nothing good ever comes out of it.
So, just ignore them. I would forgive them, because I believe all people deserve a second chance, and they are no exception. Don't ignore them to the point that it seems like you're mad at them, just don't pay attention to them. It'll seem a lot worse if they talk to you and you don't talk back.

Q: Can a passionate love-hate relationship work out?
Of course. Oddly enough, opposites do attract. And I have seen many love-hate relationships work out for no apparent reason. It's just that the two are so different that being around them is fun.
Yes, it can work out. But most of those relationships do go to marriage, and usually divorce after that. But, there's always the chance.

Q: hey im 16/m and there is this girl i really really like... we have already had some really kick ass times as friends but i want her to be more than that... she likes me too but at the moment im grounded and i don't think i would make a very good bf... cept at like school... im and excellent lover if i do say so myself, but the opportunities would be the only thing that i wouldn't have... any advice helps... i'll rate or w/e if u want... thanx peeps!
Why don't you just hold off for the week or month of the grounding, and then ask her out? Keep as a friend with her until that time, just at the point that you are now.
Or, you could just ask her out now. School is plenty time to see a person. Normally, outside is about 15 minutes to an hour, from what I've seen with other people. You'd just tell her that you cannot see her past school for a month because of your parents. And if you blame it on your parents, things tend to work out.
But, I'd personally wait.
-Steven

Q: write a c program ,that program read itself and detect the number of key words,statements,ittarations etc.?
I believe so... A C program does detect the key words and statements written in the program, and reads itself to execute the task. Yet, I do not know if that was exactly what you were asking... If you wish to elaborate more, drop one in my inbox!

Q: can women die from having sex in water?
Definately Not, unless they die from something completely unrelated, or something that would normally happen because of sex outside of the wate.

Q: Was Venus the Roman goddess of love, wisdom, or war? I didn't get this questionand I have been wondering for a while!
Love

Q: but my friend is a chrisitan. He wants me to go to church with him every week, and im not all that enthusiastic. I feel guilty for even thinking about saying no because i get all self concious when i think of him thinking of me as a sinner. Anyways we were having a very good time at a footbal game and then we were talking about stuff and somehow the topic just came up about dying. He was like, no offense but if you died right now i think you'd go to hell. He was being really serious. Well, it depressed the hell out of me. Im a nice person, i dont try to judge people, i like to share, my morals are higher then anyone elses and then i get depressed because i cant live up to them. I was really hurt but i didnt let on. He wouldnt elaborate, he said we could talk about it on the phone sometime. Well, do you think it was right of him to say that? Or am i just being dumb? I cant help but feel like im some kind of 'project' hes trying to save...
Absolutely not. It is not right for any friends to tell another that they are going to hell, and it is not right for anyone to openly state that opinion. If you believe in religeon, which you obviously do because what he said hurt you, you should know one thing. It is said in the bible that the only thing you need to go to heaven is a belief in Jesus Christ. That's it. Sins don't keep us out, that's what he died for.
But a good friend will never say that another is going to hell. In the words of my SS teacher "That man is not going to be my daughters girlfriend, as he said she is going to hell." It's really serious stuff. I would honest call him up right now, and talk to him about it. Yes, the old "Just talk about it" advice. Yet, don't jsut say how you feel. Tell him that it actually did hurt you when he said it, and that you are seriously questioning his friendship to you. Tell him that what he said was the type of thing that enemies would say to other enemies. Ask him how he meant it, and take it from there.

Q: i make xanga layouts and i know that when people make banners and stuff, like the really fancy ones they use adobe something... what is it called. if you can please give me a layout site example so i know we are talking about the same thing
I don't have an example, but I know what you're talking about. It's called photoshop. Where you take a background and you just cut out another figure. Then, just add it in. Yeah. Anyways, if you want to ask the question, drop one in my inbox!

Q: i have a problem opening up with guys. it is kind of weird. i like guys and all but when i acually am with them (date) it seems to weird. like i go back in my shell. how do i keep from doing this?
Being quiet and in a shell myself, I find that the best way to get out of it is to sort of force yourself into a conversation. It's hard to explain. You kind of just do it. You go to the guy, and force yourself to say something. It takes a lot of bravery, and just remember that you are doing it for your own good.
Try to get a good conversation starter. It always helps. For once you can get a conversation started, it is much easier to talk. Maybe politics, or music, or life in general. Those tend to generate a lot of discussion, at least for me...

Q: how do u know when your in love or what does love feel like?
You're in love when you get that feeling that you are friends with a person, yet so much that you cannot stand being around them, it's so good. At least for me. But you decide your love. Love is when you say it is.

Q: I truly love him but he's too high maintence. How do I just tell him easily but can we still be friends?
"[Insert Name Here], I believe that we would be better off as just friends." That tends to work a lot.

Q: what is a good picture editting that i can downlaod to my computer for free. i know where i can get it download.com but what is a good program. thanks so much
I don't know if these are on there, but paint is a good program, as is photoshop.

Q: I've been fingered a few times before, but I just got fingered tonight for the first time in a while. I don't want to sound too gross, but I was kind of dry for some reason (I think its because I was nervous.) Well when I came home, it burned when I had to go to the bathroom. Ive experienced this before, so is this normal?
Yes, because your body is not into the bathroom mode yet. If all fluids are not out of you before the event, and you don't use lubrication, it does burn, from what I have heard.

Q: Is there a website besides www.freewebs.com and www.piczo.com that let you create your own website for free? I will rate fives!
www.yahoo.com/geocities (I think that's the link...)
www.anglefire.com
www.tripod.com

I don't know how many of these work anymore... They were from 4 years ago...

Q: okay so this doesnt have anything to do with school, but here goes: so there is the AWESOME pair of shoes i am DYING for in this catalog. Well they cost 64.99 dollars and i can use a coupon for 20% off. can anyone tell me what that price would be after the 20% off?? thnkx a mil
20% is 1/5 off. 1/5 of 64.99 is 12.998. Stores usually will truncate, so around $12 off.

Q: Why do preps call people that aren't preps preps. Sorry kinda confusing but I'm just wondering that. Cause a few of the real preps call me a prep and I deff. don't consider myself or my friends preps.
Because people do not want to be known as the prep group, and they think that there is only one prep group in the school. So, by calling another group the preps, they are automatically not the preps in their mind.

Q: is their a difference between giving head and a blow job? are they 2 different things or just 2 ways of saying it?
Same thing, just 2 different ways said.

Q: In the mornings, I only eat a bowl of cereal and milk. I need more protein in my first meal of the day, but I don't know any quick protein rich things that are easy to whip up when I'm still half asleep. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
You may want to get a viatamen that's rich in protein. There's a type of chocolate that can be used for protein, though I don't remember the name... Ask your doctor, he may reccomend something better than I can. Or, go to a drug store and get a vitamen. There are some over the counter.

Q: I tore a ligament in my knee ... the medial patela to be exact. Does anyone have any info on this.Like, wll i need crutches ... or surgery? What exactly is this ligament, and how long will it take to recovery. Any help is appreciated ... thanks
The medial patela? I have never heard of it before. From what I have seen in my mad studies of the knee anatomy to find out what's wrong with me, the following exist:
Medial Collateral Ligament
Lateral collateral Ligament
Anterior Cruciate Ligament
Posterior Cruciate Ligament
Pateller Tendon
Another tendon near the bottom
Bursae (17 sacs...)
Kneecap
Meniscus

If you are talking about the medial collateral ligament, which I'm guessing, as it is the closest of the ligaments to what you describes, it may or may not need surgery. It depends on the rupture. If it ruptured completely or close to, it will need surgery. That is if you are active. If your knee is buckling, you will need surgery. And surgery means crutches. I would use crutches for a few days to keep weight off until you can see a doctor.
The medial collateral ligament provides stability on the outside of the knee. Recover usually takes 3 months, and involves physical therapy. Physical Therapy is pain. :'(
Good luck, and drop one in the inbox if you have further questions!
-Steven

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Hello! My name is Steven, and I am a mentor. Yes, that does mean that I help other people. I have helped over 1000 people to date, and have helped some individuals for over 1/2 a year. The miracle of my life occurred 17 years ago. I say miracle only because 1/4 babies survive to be born.
I am the first born of 2 children, and I am also the black sheep. I listen to Classical Music, so you can call me a weirdo. :P. I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, so take no offense if my answers never seem to end.
In school, I get As and Bs. More Bs really. I play trombone, and was the section leader of the trombones at my school. This year, I am the captain of the entire brass section. I am an Eagle Scout, so I guess that says I'm persistant? You make the call. I am a 3 time varsity letter winner, looking for a 4th next winter. I also participate in the musical, where I am a Bass 2. :)
I am straight, and have never had a relationship beyond a friend. However, I have survived the bumps in the road, and can advise you if you wish it. Though, it's not my strength.
I'm here for you, and only you. That means that my advise will not always confort you. Heck, it may even scare you. Yet, I want you to do what is best for your mind. Not what is typically seen as best for you, but what YOU see best for YOU. Heck, if you wanted what was seen as best for you, you would've asked your parents what you should do. They give you what's typically best.
Alright, before I start getting tendinitis from writing that over and over again, I'll just say what I mean. I mean that if you ask me about something, let's say walking 10 miles a day, and I think it's rediculous, yet you are asking for something to do, I am NOT going to say "10 miles is the type of a thing a anorexia athletica would do. Try 5." I'll give you something to do.
Oh, and I'm a L1 moderator, which means I rate questions.

Don't hesitate to IM me, I'm usually on. If I'm not, just drop one in the Inbox!

Oh, by the way, I am liberal in everything. That means that abortion is a woman's RIGHT, and gay marriage should be LEGAL.

Ask away!
-Steven

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