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What to do when the Popular girls bitch...?
Three girls. Used to be friends with them. Now I'm not (long story) and they're bitching about me behind my back. The part that makes it upsetting is that act really lovely to me when I'm around... and I'm a trusting kind of person. It took ages for me to believe it.
Would you please tell me what to do? Is it better to...
1)...confront them, and a)hold a grudge b)forgive them OR
2)...ignore them, and a) hold a grudge b)forgive them.
3)start a hate campaign.
Or if you have an alternative I'd be glad to hear it (but I'm not changing schools!)
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You should definetley confront them. I mean, not in a bitchy way and don't get in a catfight, but ask them about it. IF they deny it, then you just need to ignore it sweetie. I swear that it will eventually stop. I was in the same situation a while ago. Once they know it doesn't bother you, they'll stop it becasue they don't find pleasure in it anymore.
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ignore them....this too shall pass. By next week everyone will be saying stuff about them.
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i think you should be mad at them or forgive them, . depending on what they are saying. if its something really bad i would get pissed. im not sayiing you should get mad but i would because saying shit behind ur back is stupid and pointless especially if they act like little angels infront of u
xOx ash-
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if they are going to give you shit like that you shouldn't take it you should bitch back at them because if you take there bullshit then they know that they can talk about you all the time and you don't give a damn. they say something about you say something back, and no dont forgive them you will regret it l8er on in your life.write back
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ok just talk to ur friends check if its really true and tell them to stopif they dont than ditch them!!!
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i would confrint them, and let them tell their side of the story. if it sounds belevable and you want to saty friends then fine, but if the try to lie, hold a gridge and stay away from em.
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well i would go up to them and ask them if they were if they deni it i woul dhold a grude if they dont and they say they did i would forgive
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OK. CONFRONT THEM, && THEN FORGET ABOUT THEM. AND DEFiNATLY DON`T CHANGE SCHOOLS. THAT WOULD SHOW THEM THAT THEY WiN THiS LiTTLE HiGHSCHOOL DRAMA BS. TELL THEM TO JUST SHUT THE EFF UP, THEN LET THEM SAY WHATEVER THEY WANT. iF YOU SHOW THEM YOU DON`T CARE. THEN THEY WiLL GET BORED.. && TALK STUFF ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE. THEY ARE WANTiNG iT TO GET YOU MAD. <33
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Personally I would talk to perhaps just one of them (the one you trust most or, actually, just the weakest one) and ask them what's going on. Don't be too confrontational, just say that you've heard some things being said and would like to know how much of it is true and why they're doing it. Make it clear you don't want an argument, just some kind of explanation.
Chances are this is going to make little difference to their behaviour, but there's always the possibility t may make them think. If not all you've done is gain the upper hand by being calm and mature about it, making them look a bit stupid in the process.
If nothing changes, ignore it. Oh and don't waste your time bearing a grudge whatever happens- not worth the energy.
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Id confront them about it just to hear what kind of lame excuse they have.. then if they continue id ignore em.. dont forgive em but dont hold a grudge either just live your life without worrying about them.. ♥ Dez
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ok seriously although i love your idea of a hate campaign, i think the best thing to do is either comfront them or ignore them seriously if they see that it doesnt bother you they wont do it anymore because all that they want is your reaction, hope i helped, ~*MJ
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First off, if you confront them, something darastic may happen. They may turn on you, and they will not be nice and all when you are around. And they may begin spreading words aound about you, lowering you. And hate campains are NOT the way to go, as nothing good ever comes out of it.
So, just ignore them. I would forgive them, because I believe all people deserve a second chance, and they are no exception. Don't ignore them to the point that it seems like you're mad at them, just don't pay attention to them. It'll seem a lot worse if they talk to you and you don't talk back.
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