My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
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ok so me and my girlfriend broke up because all we did was hug but we only went out for two days
so monday im going to show her how far i will go with her by doing something... but i dont know if we should go out because were realy good freinds but i think she takes things to fast so if we went out eventualy she would get bored of me and break up to go out with someone else right someone please help (link)
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Well if you were going out for two days and she broke up with you because you only hugged her, then that's what we call a skank. You don't go out with someone for two days and expect to do much. And from your message, it sounds like she's expecting something sexual.
If you aren't sure about her or have any doubt, you shouldn't go out with her. Never do anything you're not comfortable with. If she wants so much within a two day period, she's probably not the "long-term" type of girl. It'd probably be best to move on and just be friends with her.
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Well the season of summer is almost here, and I have a slight problem. Due to the fact that I'm currently on medication that has weight gain as a side effect, I am now rather pudgy around the edges. I'm working to lose the weight, but in the meantime.. Does anyone have any suggestions for outfits that won't make me look like the Michelin man this summer? Any fabrics or whatever I should be looking for, swimsuit ideas, etc... Thanks ^_^ (link)
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Dark colors are naturally slimming, but I'm sure you know that. However, it is summer, so try to incorporate things like a black top with a jean skirt or something. Make sure your clothes are the right size, especially your shorts/skirts/jeans. If you get that muffin top effect, get a size larger. And don't wear your shirts skin tight.
As for swim suits, as I said, dark colors are always a good bet. If you want the slimming effect, get a tankini instead of a bikini. I wouldn't really recommend a one-piece unless it's particularly cute. If you have a wide butt, you can try boy cut bottoms or one of those cute sport mini skirt bottom type things.
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my cousin is obese...and wel tell her to lose weight but she never does...well make fun of her and say we lost weight but she won't ever listen..and everytime were like "r" your obese!!..s.he'll be like nu uh..or no i'm not...she's about 5 2 and 175 in the 6th going to 7th grade...her butt sticks out and her stomach sticks out..i don't know wat to do
her sis will bring it up and tell her then my cousin like shut up no i'm not and call their mom...then their mom will yelll at her sis b/c she brought it up...i don't know wat to do
do you knowo how we can make her lose weight or help her relize it's time to lose weight? (link)
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EDIT: And yet, every time I respond you feel the need to delete the question. Interesting.... Oh, and I DID answer your question the first time. Must we be immature and start with name calling? Honestly.
Hm, and for some odd reason when you deleted your last question and reposted it, your cousin's weight magically changed. I wonder how she gained so much weight in a matter of hours. Very strange. Hmm...
(Eh, give me another 1, I don't care. Just because I didn't give you the answer you WANTED to get, you have to increase her weight to make her ACTUALLY obese. Hm, sad.)
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i heard if guys take birth control it makes them temporaraly sterile and that it is more effective than women taking birth control. is this true? (link)
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Birth control has estrogen in it, so I don't think it would be wise for a guy to take it. It could screw up their hormone levels. But if you could find a guy actually willing to go on birth control, it could be a pretty interesting experiment.
As for being more effective, birth control is pretty effective in a girl on its own. Put it with a condom and you're pretty much guaranteed you won't get pregnant.
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13/f well, im having quite a difficult time with this, but i have been going out with this guy for 6 months. well he is really nice and all. Am i making a big deal about a little thing? or am i not? tell me the truth, but his really really good friend messages me over myspace saying that my boyfriend wants a hug, and why didnt you give him a hug? and that stuff. im just too shy! i know how you guys say just do it. but im too shy for that. im scared he wont see me trying to hug him and accidently walk away. :\ am i just coming up with the worst case senerios? or what i am lost. (link)
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Awww, this is just about the cutest thing I've ever read on Advicenators.
It's very strange, even at your age, that you've been dating for 6 months and you haven't even hugged yet. If his friend is telling you that, then I'm pretty sure that means your boyfriend told him you won't hug him. Which in turn means that he WANTS you to hug him.
I understand about being shy, and I don't know why HE won't make the first move to break the ice, but sometimes the easiest way to overcome a fear is to just do it. Face the fear and after that, the hugs will just come naturally. Next is kissing. ;)
Don't think about worst case scenarios. Just time it right (like when you first see him or when you're saying bye) and get it over with. You'll feel so much better once you've done it.
Good luck!
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ok well my friend spent the night with me and she told me she had cravings sometime to hump things. it kind of caught me offguard so i didnt really say anything. the like an hour later my dad let my dog in the house because my neighbors were outside, (and my dog doesnt like strangers) so i had to close my door so my dog didnt get out. so me and my friend and my dog were in my room with the door shut. ok like after about 10 min my other friend came to my house. so then we started playing truth or dare. my second friend dared my first friend to hump my dog. so my first friend got naked and started humpin my dog (gross) ok anyways, she flipped my dog on his back and started humping my dog, and then lickin his balls. (gross again) well after that was all over with, my friends dared me to do it, i didnt do it because i thought it was gross, but all i said was ill do it tonight, (because theyre coming over tonight.) well see ok, my first friend said it felt good and i mean the whole time she was doing it she was makin sounds and it sounded like she was having sex or soemthing. well crazy enough as it is im kind of curious to see how it feels, but i know its REALLY weird to hump ur own dog. so i am so confused and i dont know what to do. (link)
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WOAH! That is some crazy stuff right now. Um, I was speechless for about 10 seconds there. This is very strange.
I don't think you should hump your dog. Don't do it just because your friends are doing it. And I'm sure it does feel good. But it would also feel good to hump something "normal", like a pillow or just use your hand to masturbate.
And definitely DON'T lick your dog's balls. That's just...ew. So weird...and wrong. Blech.
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Is it true that if you play with your boobs a lot they get bigger? (link)
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No! Playing with them, pulling them, or anything else you can think of will not make your boobs grow. Boobs come in all sizes, you just have to embrace what you are given. And if you can't, then that's what padded bras are made for. :)
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Just out of curiousity, what do you prefer better, Yahoo Answers or Advicenators and why? (link)
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I definitely agree with the person below me.
Advicenators is easier to use and having your own column makes it sort of like MySpace, which is why a lot of people like it. They get their own page and get rated and all that fun stuff.
The only advantage Yahoo Answers has over this site is that a lot of the questions are more mature and there's a more broad range of things people need. It isn't all "omg i like this guy, what do i do?!" like it is here a lot.
It really depends on your personal taste. I prefer this site unless I'M asking a question and expecting an educated answer instead of a 13 year old girl trying to give ME advice on life, you know?
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okay i have a few questions
first off wat is obvolation?
second ive had my period for a little over 2 years and when im on my period the first day its just normal then the next 4-5 are heavy then its just normal and slowly dies out about the 7th or 8th day but will still have a few drops on 9th so my period will last for 7 to 9 days. today had i asked a lot of girls at school and they all said there periods last 3 or 4 or 5 days and im just like holy freak mine is 7 8 or 9 days so is there like something wrong with me?
im 13 and in 8th grade (link)
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Ok, firstly, I think you mean "ovulation". It's the time during the month (usually lasts a few days) in which you are most likely to get pregnant. It is when one of your ovaries releases an egg during or right after your period.
Your periods are a little longer than average, but it's probably normal. I know someone who has their period for barely 3 days! It's crazy! Mine usually lasts around 5 or 6. The average is 6-7 days. If you're really concerned about it, you can talk to your mom or ask a doctor. :)
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ok well i havent frenched anyone before, and i have never made out with anyone before. all my friends have made out with their boyfriends, and well my boyfriend just broke up with me. well i still like him alot, but im sure going to have other boyfriends. i want to know how to make out before it happens. i mean i know it sounds kind of stupid but i do want to know how. i mean (not tryin to be rude) but dont say just let it flow, or it just happens. because i get that from everyone. and i dont go on websites so i have no clue what to do. plzz help me. (link)
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Ok, if anyone knows that it really DOES just happen, it's me. I was a late bloomer with the kissing stuff and it actually just recently happened. The first time, I thought I sucked, but he didn't care. As long as you know the basics, you'll be fine. Now, I'm pretty good at it just by following his cues and doing some of the same stuff he does.
As for the basics, here they are:
-Don't tense your mouth up. Keep is soft.
-Keep your mouth wet, but NOT slobbery.
-Start off with regular open mouth (but not french) kissing before incorporating your tongue. Like, put one of his lips between yours and you'll kind of massage your lips together.
-Not too much tongue! Keep it light and don't shove your tongue down his throat.
If you're young, then it's really nothing to worry about. Your first time, a guy your own age, no matter how experienced he is, probably won't be that great at making out just yet. It takes practice, you have to learn by doing it.
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ok i am a 13 year old girl, and i weigh 117 pounds. im 5'3 too. i wear a size 8 in womens. and my show size is 9 in womens. are my feet big? or is my weight over weight? (link)
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If you really are 5'3" and 117, you are perfectly fine according to your BMI. You aren't overweight.
The reason you are a size 8 instead of a 6 or so is probably your bone structure. Not everyone is meant to be a size 0, that's for sure. Maybe you have wide, feminine hips, even at 13.
As for your feet, I'm 5'5" 122 lbs and I wear a size 8 or 9 as well. Everyone wears a different shoe size and your shoe size has nothing to do with your weight.
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15/f
whats an easy way to loose some weight in a week?
i weight about 135
but i still have a little chub and i want to loose it so can some one please give me ideas how to loose it in about a week? (link)
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There's no EASY way to lose weight. It's hard work for most people. But here are some tips.
-Keep your calories at 1200
-Drink LOTS AND LOTS of water
-Work out (running, jumping rope, dancing, etc)
-Lots of fruit and veggies (mostly water with negative calories)
-Watch your sugar and sodium intake
Here's an example day:
Breakfast- 1 cup Special K w/ Red Berries cereal with 1/2 cup skim milk
Lunch- Salad
Snack- Low fat cottage cheese and 7 reduced fat trisquits
Dinner- Lean meat (grilled chicken?) with a vegetable and 1/2 cup white or brown rice
Dessert- Sugar free jell-o or another serving of fruit
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ok well i go to walmart and there are like no jeans that fit me right. i mean they are either to short or to tight and i mean i cant find any jeans that fit me. i like then kinda lose and really flarey at the bottom. and they have to be long. im 5'3 and i wear a size 8 in womens. does anyone know here to look?
thx in advance (link)
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Definitely NOT Wal-Mart.
If you're looking for cheaper stuff, try Kohls, Target, JC Penney or Goodys.
If you're willing to spend more, cruise your local mall for stores like American Eagle or Hot Topic (whatever your style may be).
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ok my guy friend logan today told me that i am attractive to him. it really shocked me and i think it is going to get in the way of our relationship because it is going to be kinda okward around him. what do i do??
Thanks!!!
Shelby (link)
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Being attractive to your guy friend makes things awkward? Would you rather him think you're ugly? I don't think so.
Just because he said you are attractive doesn't mean he has this big crush on you. Unless he tells you he does, then don't worry about it.
It shouldn't be awkward, so don't make it awkward. He gave you a compliment. Thank him and move on.
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ok i just turned 13/f, and i live with my dad. i still dont shave my legs. its very awkward to tell him things like tht. i'm his only daughter, and an only child. i dont know what to do. i can not go with any one else. and when all my friends shave their legs, they ask me if i shave my legs and i say no. then they make a big deal out of it, and its really embarrassing. so what do i do? i havn't started my period either.
plz help. (link)
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The best thing to do would be to just tell your dad you want to shave their legs. Girls shave their legs, it's a fact of life. He knows this and all the women he's known shave their legs as well. And I'm sure he shaves too. Not his legs, of course, but it's still shaving.
The only other option I can think of is asking your friends if they use disposable razors and asking if you can pay them for a couple so you can shave and not tell your dad. Or you can just borrow one of your dad's.
Your choice, but the first one would probably be best.
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my cousin is obese...and wel tell her to lose weight but she never does...well make fun of her and say we lost weight but she won't ever listen..and everytime were like "r" your obese!!..s.he'll be like nu uh..or no i'm not...she's about 5 2 and 144 in the 6th going to 7th grade..and she weighed that much since the last time i checked which was about 6 months ago..i don't know wat to do
her sis will bring it up and tell her then my cousin like shut up no i'm not and call their mom...then their mom will yelll at her sis b/c she brought it up...i don't know wat to do
do you knowo how we can make her lose weight or help her relize it's time to lose weight? (link)
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Well according to her BMI, she's only slightly overweight. She's right, she's NOT medically obese. If she lost 9 lbs, she would be in the healthy weight range. That's NOT obese. At her height she'd have to be 165 lbs to be obese.
And making fun of her will not help anything. That's just plain mean and the only thing it will do is make her have low self esteem. Low self esteem does not equal weight loss, that's for sure.
Maybe if you guys were nicer to her about it instead of being plain rude and saying "you're obese!" to her face, she'd make an attempt to lose weight. And even if she doesn't, like I said, she's not THAT overweight.
She's not in any medical danger and it's not YOU, so I don't really understand why you care. Is it because you're embarrassed to have an overweight cousin? If so, then that's your problem, not hers. If she's comfortable how she is, then she should stay that way. If you're embarassed or disgusted by her, then don't hang out with her.
She's definitely not going to change for you or the family. If she's going to change, it should be for HER. And apparently she doesn't feel she needs to change. In that case, she's doing the right thing by disregarding your hurtful statements about her weight.
Just try to be more sensitive about things like this.
EDIT: I DID answer your question. I said to stop being mean, be more sensitive, and nicely talk to her about it. I answered, it just wasn't the answer you WANTED to hear. Get over it.
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just turned 13/f. ok i live with my dad and its very hard to talk about girl stuff
plus i can't go to ANYONE else. well i really want a push up bra. not just for the effect, but also because right now the bra i'm using right now my nipple points out and its disgusting because you can see it throught my shirt.i cant go get one because there is NO ONE tht can take me. what do i do to cover it up, and i havn't started my period yet either.
plz help me (link)
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Well there's pretty much nothing I can think of except telling your father. You're 13 and at the beginning of puberty pretty much. Your boobs will start to grow and you WILL need a bra. Just tell your dad, he knows women wear bras. He should understand.
If you don't want to tell him you want a PUSH-UP bra, then I understand. Honestly, you're 13 and you don't need a push-up bra. You could just use a bra that's thicker. Just a bit of padding will hide the nipples. Just tell your dad you need a new bra so he'll take you and you can pick one that has just a little bit of padding.
If you don't want to do this for some reason, a little (maybe 1 ply folded small) square of toilet paper should cover up your nipple poke-age. Other than that, I'm not really sure what you could do.
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well, the guy I like is exactly one year younger than me. I'm going to be a sophmore next year. Should I be ashamed? I'm afraid everyone at church will think I cant get a guy my own age. But, I really like him...I think he might too...advice? (link)
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Trust me, one year isn't a big deal. It may seem like a big deal now, if you're particularly young.
For example, if you're 15 and going into high school, you may think dating a 14 year old is weird or you might get made fun of. But then again, if you're 24 and the other person is 23, the difference is pretty much nothing.
Like the other person here said, most couples have an age difference. You can't be exactly the same age. And if he was the one that was a year old, you wouldn't think it was a big deal because HE'D be the cool older one.
It's not a biggie. Don't worry about it.
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ok so me and my girlfriend were talking on the phone and we were trying to figure out more stuff to do like sexually but we couldn't think of anything. so is there anything else we can to besides fingering and a handjob, blowjob and, me going down on her we both r trying to wait until we get out of high school to have sex anything would be great thanks (link)
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Well CheerCandi really didn't answer your question at all. It doesn't seem like your whole relationship is based on sex. Sex is an important part of a relationship if you're old enough/mature enough to handle it without getting too far. I think it's great that you, as a guy, are willing to wait until you get out of high school to have sex. And when you do decide to do it, don't forget PROTECTION, always.
As for answering your question, the only things I can think of are things that not everyone is into. Things like roleplay can keep things interesting (ie teacher, doctor, whatever). Or anal play for you and/or her if you're willing.
Other basic things that you didn't mention are grinding, making out, feeling each other up, etc. Sometimes the acts that lead to the blowjob or fingering are the best parts. Just keep it interesting with new things.
Another thing I just thought of is that you could look up things together on the internet like different techniques for handjobs, blowjobs, etc. There are a million different things you can experiment to switch it up a little bit without having sex.
Have fun! Hope I helped!
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I use the tanning bed but since I have been using it my sides are white!! How can I changes this? Should I lay on my tummy while I tan or what? (link)
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You don't have to lay on your stomach unless you back is white as well as your sides. What I did was rotate in the tanning bed.
Say I was doing the full 18 minutes that I could in a particular bed. There was a timer in there letting me know how much time was left. When it got to 11, I would lay on my right side with my right leg straight and my left leg bent so the insides of my legs would still be exposed to the bulbs. Make sure your arms aren't covering any part of your body. Then, when the timer got to 7, I would switch to my left side. When the timer got to 4, I would switch back to my back for the remainder of the time. This worked for me, but I did it from the beginning. You'd probably have to spend more time on your sides if they're whiter than the rest of you.
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