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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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weird word. What is it? what does it mean?
www.urbandictionary.com
... best site EVER.
milf: mother. id. like. to fuck.
thats what it is, and thats what it means.
hope i helped ! xxo.
my family is going down the shitter everyone is spliting or dying and i have no one to talk and its killing me and i cant take it anymore.what should i do? my boyfriend is mad and wont even hear me talk about it.
im sorry :/ it must be very hard for you. but you shouldnt give up. this is life, and life is hard.. unfortunatley, people die, your loved ones will eventually pass away, some families have problems, parents divorce.. its just the circle of life. it sucks, yes, but you just have to remember that there are people who can help you. there are therapists, counselorsm psychologists.. many people who you can talk to. you just have to want to get help from those people.
and your boyfriend ? well, i dont know why hes mad, but hopefully he'll get over it and talk to you.. it really depends on the situation, but sometimes when you feel alone, you have to turn to yourself and help yourself. not many people are going to have someone to talk to 24/7, so sometimes we have to learn how to help ourselves.
but i still suggest that you get a therapist because it would really help you.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]
Me and her had sex last night and this morning she said her tummy hurts. She's been eating ok and she hasn't thrown up yet. She's 18. Could she be pregnant ?
she could just be psyching herself out..
did you use protection of any sort ? pill, condom.. ? because if you didnt, theres a possibility she COULD get pregnant, but there is no way you can tell a day after youve had sex. its impossible.
but if youre that concerned, you might want to consider getting Plan B [its a pill you can take up to 72 hours after having sex to try and stop a possible pregnancy]
she could just be sick. or scared. or nervous because of all of this. dont panic and relax.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo :]
I am a thirteen year old girl, and he is a fourteen year old guy and we are both in the eighth grade (almost Freshmen)
So, my best friend and I got in a fight for the twentieth time this month it seems, but he claims it is always ME. that starts it. We are project partners for a 30 minute documentary that is due next week, and I have done ALL the work. he has gone off ice skating while I filmed, and so many other times has he blown me off. He also left me for the ENTIRE science project, which I did an A+ job on and he got credit. I calmly asked him to help in the project more, thinking that he would be cool about the situation but no. He literally YELLS at me in the hallway, and making me embarrassed in front of everyone in the hallway.
I simply asked him a question for him to help more, and he hasn't talked to me since calling me dramatic to other people. all of his friends are against me, which is practically the whole eighth grade. Should I apologize, or should I just be brave and stay like this for the last eight days of school?
i know EXACTLY how you feel [about the whole yelling at you in the hallways and embarassing you in front of everyone, ugh.]
honestly. he seems like a slacker and if hes your best friend, then this is not the way to show it.
if i were you, i would stand up for myself. your best friend is publicly humiliating you, blaming you for things that are HIS fault, and not taking responsibility for anything. YOU have nothing to apologize for.
so i think that you should stand up for yourself and not let this slide.. but if you dont want to do that, then just let it go.. only 8 days left.. right ? :]
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
why does it burn when i pee?
you might have a urinary track infection (UTI) or an STD.
but you can tell for sure unless you see a gynecologist, or just your regular doctor. if it is a UTI, dont panic ! you can get treated for it and be put on anti-biotics.
an STD is more serious.. and it could possibly be herpes.
you should definitely get checked out ASAP.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
how can i do right to my girlfriend? i never seem to make her happy and i feel like she is going to break up with me even though i knowe she wont. idk what to do becuase im feeling worthless because of everything :(
awww ! dont feel worthless ! im sure you're not ! :]
you cant tell the future, anything can happen at any moment and you shouldnt be down on yourself, its not healthy. and i dont know what "everything" is that is making you feel so worthless, but im sure its not as bad as you think it is.
whatever happened between you and your girlfriend to make you think that she is going to break up with you could be resolved.. it just depends on what happened. if its something little, then just let her cool off and be calm. dont go around yelling or trying to guilt her [my biggest pet peeve EVER, girls hate that] just let it be and im sure she'll talk to you when she feels shes ready. if not, just remember that girls need TIME. most of us dont want to be bothered 24/7 if we're mad.. we just want to be mad. yuh know ?
anyways. the only advice i can give you is to just relax and keep your head up. keep being good to her and she will be good to you.. you get what you give, thats pretty much what every girl lives by. if you did something wrong, apologize and she'll admit her faults too if she thinks she did something wrong. relationships take work... no matter what age you are [and i dont know your age] but just hang in there. lots of things can make a girl unhappy.. so she might be acting that way because of stress, friends, work, school.. anything.. not just you.
so dont worry :] and if you keep feeling like this, i suggest you seek help from a therapist or someone. it can seriously help, so consider it !
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
he has a girlfriend an i know its wrong for me to like him because of that but he is always flirting and telling me that he would not mind dating me and also he stares at me while hes with his girl and sometimes she would even give me stares,what should i do im a female and 16 years old?
ive been there, done that.
dont go down that road.
honestly, it is NOT worth it in the end. even though you're not, you WILL be called a homewrecker and people will make your life a living hell.
unless he breaks up with his girlfriend, tell him that its not fair to you or his girlfriend that he doing this and that he needs to stop.
you could also tell him that unless he breaks up with his girlfriend, you guys cant flirt with eachother or talk like you are now.. just FRIENDS is all you can be.
you dont want to be the other girl, i know you dont. and if you were his girlfriend and he was doing this to you, wouldnt you be upset if you ever found out ? .. im pretty sure youd be furious.
i think that you should talk to him and tell him exactly what i told you to.. if he bails out and decides to stay with his girlfriend than its HIS loss and his girlfriend's loss since he will probably continue doing this with other girls if someone [you] doesnt talk to him about it.
but i mean, i know hes your friend. so you probably dont want to ignore him.. but if you do and he asks you why youre being so guarded, tell him and let him know that this needs to stop and he needs to figure out what he wants because you wont wait for him forever and you sure as hell wont be used.
good luck ! i hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo :]
i am abused by my parents. they tell me im not good enough and my dad hits me. tryed to kill me soo many times i forgot the count. what should i do?
:[ i know its rough. a couple people i know are going through this too.
but you really need to tell someone. i know its your family [blood is thicker than water and all that good stuff] however, this is your LIFE. being abused is not okay on ANY terms what-so-ever. depending on how long this has been going on for, you could develop some kind of mental disorder which can become life threatening.. even though your life is already threatened by your father.
im going to give you a website you should visit.. i know you might not live in this state, but its a good website and gives you a number to call:
http://www.2ndfloor.org/
http://www.childhelp.org/pages/help-for-kids
... this site is also good. please read both. it might help you. but you need to tell someone about this, its not okay and you could possibly lose your life. no one would want that, not even me, and i dont know you. people care.. and you MATTER.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
i have been having random outbursts at people because of the stuff that they do not like. im male and 19 years old. so one day, my mom talks to me about school tests and i had gotten mad over something , so then i went downstairs. the next day, she didnt speak nor talk or look at me. it was really hurting me.so then i went outside yesterday and i had mistakenly come late. so like my dad comes in and starts yelling at me at how i didnt close the bag of a loaf of bread right. i had gotten pissed off and he had hit me with the bag for no apparent reason. i didnt say anything to make him angry at me. i had went back to my room and started crying at how my mother never speaks to me or looks at me because of my behavior. now both my parents are always talking garbage and how im gonna get kicked out of school in june. its really depressing to me because i always lose interest in fun things, i cant sleep at night, i dont feel like coming back home. i am scared to go outside or tell somebody, what should i do?? im so sad i feel like hurting myself.
I know it's hard and you feel like giving up, but dont !
have you ever tried talking to your mom ? like, one on one ? maybe that could help and you guys could talk about whats going on, especially with your dad.
maybe you could even try talking to your dad, very civily about everything and that you would like to work on this to make things better for all of you.
parents arent as wise as we think, yes theyve had many more years of experience than us, but theyre only human.. they make mistakes. those mistakes being that you are being verbally, physically, and emotionally abused lately and you have every right in the world to feel upset right now, but let that motivate you.. not depress you.
prove them wrong and do your best in school. show them that you WONT be getting kicked out of school in june and that youre doing all you can.
however, you should go to a therapist, even suggest it to your parents, because i really think it would benefit you. you could talk about your problems and you could easily find the solutions within yourself by getting help from a doctor and you could also tell that person in confidence about how you are being abused.
i know youre scared to go outside, but fight your fears, but dont fight yourself. you need to stay strong and look on the bright side, tomorrow is always a brand new day :] and hurting yourself will just make you feel worse.. and it would probably make your parents feel like theyve failed you.. sometimes when parents take their anger out on their kids its because they are taking their anger out, so group therapy, even FAMILY therapy would be a good idea.
just dont hurt yourself. there are so many people who care about you in this world.. your friends, family, and yes.. both of your parents care about you.. although it might not seem like it at times, just keep reminding yourself that they do.
everyone goes through rough times, but you can overcome this. i promise; you could write down your feelings.. make them into songs, poems, stories or draw them out.. scream into a pillow.. anything BUT hurting yourself just because you feel sad.
this will pass. you WILL be happy again, you just have to seek help.
good luck ! hope i helped, keep your head held high and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
Everytime we cuddle together she likes to lay her head on my belly and rub it and kiss it. She pokes at my belly button too and she tickles me alot. Why does she do this ?
well, lets put it this way: i like arms. i dont know why.. but arms, like upper arms, are just something i love. its kind of like a fetish, i guess. but really.. its just what youre attracted to.
i know one of my best friends loves backs. like boy's backs and everything. my other friend loves ears and she'll play with guys' ears.. yes, a little odd, but you like what you like, yuh know ?
so your girlfriend just likes bellies, and she might even be fascinated by them haha. but she also might feel insecure about her own stomach [if you were to try to figure this out in a pyschological aspect] .. like me ? i dont liek my arms, but i love guy's arms. my friend has big ears, hates her ears, but likes the opposite sex's ears.
although this may not be why she likes your belly so much, they are possibilities. the more likely one would be that she just likes stomachs. however, if you really wanna know, you'll have to ask her yourself. maybe when shes doing it, just be like, "haha, why do you like my belly so much babe? :]" something like that..
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
The other day i was having sex with my bf and he came in me but i forgot to take my pill that night,should i be worried.
considering the fact that the pill is not 100% effective should worry you anyways. [i was just at the gynecologist for the first time ever today and i learned all about the pill]
dont worry yourself into a panic or a nervous breakdown, but defineitely get Plan B or maybe even go to a doctor/guardian and talk to them about your concerns.
but even if you are sexually active AND on the pill, using other forms of contraceptive like a condom are always really good and decrease the risk of getting pregnant even more.
just stay calm, talk to your boyfriend and do whatever you feel is best :] wait it out, or get a plan B.. just make sure youre being safe !
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
My girlfriend is excited because het favorire actor has a new movie and she wants to go see it but I'm worried because she cries everytime she watches hs movies. What can I do to comfort her down if she starts crying ?
Its normal for people to cry at movies, if theres a sad part or something, dont worry :]
and you can just put your arm around her, kiss her cheek/forehead and rub her back or leg.. sometimes these rubbing movements calm people down because they are pretty soothing.
she'll calm down.. just keep reminding her that its just a movie, not real life. its a comforting thought ;]
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.
When boys look at your lips when you talk does thar mean he wants to kiss you
most of the time, yes.
it could also be that hes nervous to look into your eyes, and he doesnt want to be rude and look at your chest.
or, he could be totally focused on what youre saying.
oh, and if hes deaf.. yeah.
but from my experience, when boys look at my lips when i talk, it usually means that hes into you and would like to kiss you.
good luck ! hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
im 19 and i have a girlfriend. but today while i was at the gym i saw this guy in the locker room changing and he kept looking at me and touching himself came over and kissed me and i follwed him home. and yea things happend. im not gay at all but what should i do?
you know, theres nothing wrong with being gay, if you are.. or even bisexual. its totally fine.
but besides that.. you DID cheat on your girlfriend. so i think the first thing you should do is tell her.. she deserves to know. if she did that with a girl or even someone of the opposite sex, wouldnt you care and want to know ? yes, she might get mad at first.. but if you explain what happened, and give her some time to think, you could potentially resolve the problem.
but until you do that, youre going to have a guilty conscience and you'll beat yourself up about it.
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
so my boyfriend wants to beat up my ex boyfriend becuase he is making fun and trying to contact me and basically is trying to break us up so he has me again because im told he likes me and he is single. should i get mad at him if he fights him or should i be happy because i am in love with this kid and i dont want my ex?
Alright, heres the thing.. i know your boyfriend would probably LOVE to kick this guys ass, but is it worth it ? really ? he probably is just trying to get a rise out of both of you, and if you give into him, hes getting what he wants.
PLUS: lets say your boyfriend did fight him, HED be the one getting in trouble, not your ex. so once again, your ex would win.
i know. fighting is soooo tempting. but it does have consequences and you have to be level headed and sometimes.. being mature and ignoring what is going on is the better route to take.
and to answer your other question, well, it would really depend on your feelings towards everything. if your boyfriend got in a fight with your ex and then got suspended would you seriously be happy ? yeah, hes fighting for you, but having a boyfriend who stooped to your ex's level.. would that make you happy ? but also, it depends on what youre telling him. if youre telling your boyfriend to beat your ex up.. then you already know your answer, youd be happy 'cause then you got what you wanted, however, your boyfriend would get in trouble.
and if youre in love with him, think about his life and how getting into a fight with your ex would affect him. im sure if you love him, you wouldnt want him to jeopardize anything. being happy that your boyfriend will possibly get in a fight with your ex doesnt show that youre happy and no longer want your ex.. but ignoring it and focusing on YOUR current relationship will make both of you happy, im sure :]
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
how can i tell if my girlfriend is relaly happy with me without me asking over and over again?
hmmm, well. hahaa, this sounds like my boyfriend hahaa. he always wants to know if im happy :]
but honestly, if shes with you.. and hangs out with you and doesnt make lame excuses if she doesnt want to hang with you, shes happy.
if she wasnt, youd know. she would probably be acting weird and she would be flirting with other guys or only hanging out with her friends so that it would give her an oppurtunity to get space with you.
dont get me wrong though, space is good. you dont want to be all over eachother 24/7 or youll get sick of eachother and/or start to get pissy with one another.
but if shes happy, she'll go out of her way to make you happy and she'll tell you that she trusts you and that she love/likes you.
seriously. you just know :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
ok so my girlfriend shows me how much she loves and cares about me. but we get into fights all the time. like everyday. and i just want to do something for her to show her how much she means to me and how much i love her. i read all your other advice and i feel like your the person i can trust.
you read ALL of my advice ? haha, wow. thats alot of reading :] plus, im flattered you feel like you can trust me ! thank you !
anyways, im sure she knows how much you love her. reaching out to me, a stranger who you dont know, is pretty much showing how much you love her. [even though she probably doesnt have a clue youre asking me this]
fighting is healthy.. but all fighting is different. if you are both just getting into arguments everyday or most days, then thats not bad at all. trust me, its totally fine, especially as you get further into your relationship since you get comfortable with eachother or even doubtful/scared. so im sure she understands how much you love her, despite the fighting.
however, if its "i want to break up with you" kind of fighting, where youre literally going to break up everyday, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself if this is worth more of your time and if youd be better off/happier without her and the stress of basically breaking up everyday. otherwise, its normal.
back to your question: if you REALLY want to do something for her, it depends on her personality. if shes one of those girls who wants to be pampered and have you spend money on her.. then do that. buy her something for an anniversary.. like something engraved with your initials and date or something ... creative things :] or take her out to dinner, but surprise her.. and only you pay.
orrrr, if shes more of the low-key type, just write her a note or card and leave them places where she'll find them. make mix cds.. stuff like that.
orrrrrr, if shes adventerous you could make her go on a scavenger hunt with little clues and stuff then at the end be waiting there with, i dont know, something.. just you and a hug or flowers or something. i dont know haha. just ideas :] you could also surprise her and take her to her favorite place.. like blindfold her and then do that. or you could go have a picnic somewhere.. creativity is key.
orr, you could even just stay in and cuddle with eachother, and you just treat her like a queen.
but seriously.. even if you dont do ANY of that, she should appreciate you for who you are and just love being with you.. without any of that because you seem like a great and caring boyfriend.
good luck ! hope i helped ! and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
How do you show your girlfriend you wont mess up anymore an that she can trust you?
well, it really depends on the situation and what has happened in your relationship that made her not trust you.
but if you still want to try, you need to SHOW her results, not just tell her and repeatedly talk about how you're going to change for her. seeing is believing in most girl's worlds. for example; if i caught my boyfriend flirting with tons of girls i would need to SEE that he wasnt talking to them and if they came onto him, he would tell them to go away.. not just ignore them, but tell them to leave him alone. yuh know ?
it also depends on the type of person she is.. im not a material girl, but some are and they would love to be showered with gifts like flowers and chocolates and all of that stuff with a hundred apologies.
but, you could also go the more heart-to-heart route and make her a mix cd with songs about how you feel and stuff.
but all in all, it isnt going to get better until you SHOW her the difference from who you were before in comparison to who you are now/becoming. this might mean that you guys have to break up, and if she does break up with you, tell her that youre going to show her that you can change and youre going to get her back because shes WORTH IT to you.
but you also have to ask yourself, "is my girlfriend really worth this ?"
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
Hey guys i want to put some post its on my bathroom mirror with little inspirational sayings or something to do with positive thinking. Just little reminders. So far i have "positive attitude creates positive results" "Where there is no struggle there is no strength" and "obstacles are what you see when you lose sight of your goal" Does anybody have any other suggestions.. Your help is greatly appreciated and i do rate :)
i have so many of these things ! i used to do the same.. until they got in the way hahaa. here are a few:
- "Life must be lived and curiosity kept alive. one must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life."
- "The best days of your life are the ones in which you realize that you control your own destiny."
- "Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail."
- "The best way out is always through."
- "fortune favors the brave."
- "life is either a daring adventure or nothing."
- "smile :]"
hope i helped ! if you need anymore, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
Im a teenage boy, and i always wanted to know why girls dont seem as horny as we do. Maybe it is just me, but i go to highschool filled with hot girls everywhere and it drives me nuts. But the girls dont seem that way towards guys. They seem like they dont even think about boys or sex at all, but why is it that us guys always are more horny?
Okay well, i mean, for boys it's pretty much stereotypical. most girls are more reserved about their sexuality and such than boys are.
plus, teenage boys are SO hormonal and that is a FACT. girls mature faster than guys [most of the time] so they know how to control what they feel better and most of the time, it takes longer for girls to get aroused while boys can see a "big" attribute on a girl and suddenly BOOM their minds are on sex and what sex would be like with that girl.
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.