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My best friend and I are fighting...
I am a thirteen year old girl, and he is a fourteen year old guy and we are both in the eighth grade (almost Freshmen)
So, my best friend and I got in a fight for the twentieth time this month it seems, but he claims it is always ME. that starts it. We are project partners for a 30 minute documentary that is due next week, and I have done ALL the work. he has gone off ice skating while I filmed, and so many other times has he blown me off. He also left me for the ENTIRE science project, which I did an A+ job on and he got credit. I calmly asked him to help in the project more, thinking that he would be cool about the situation but no. He literally YELLS at me in the hallway, and making me embarrassed in front of everyone in the hallway.
I simply asked him a question for him to help more, and he hasn't talked to me since calling me dramatic to other people. all of his friends are against me, which is practically the whole eighth grade. Should I apologize, or should I just be brave and stay like this for the last eight days of school?
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Hey friend,
Well, I am sorry to inform you that it was your fault from the beginning. Why did you become project partners with him if you know that he never do any work?
Did you become partners with him just because he is your best friend? If your friend doesn't do any work, then you shouldn't be partners with him. Business is business and friendship is friendship, don't mix them both together.
As for yelling at you in the hallway and calling you dramatic as if you were the guilty to everybody, that is not something a friend would do, right? let alone a best friend. Are you sure you are best friends? Are you sure he takes you as a best friend too?
Next time you try talking to someone with that attitude, you should not talk to him on the school hallway or anywhere with people around. Try calling him or seeing him alone, or when you go around or when he comes. Don't talk to him in front of the public.
Of course you shouldn't apologize to him. Do you even think you were wrong? You did nothing wrong. Maybe you should talk to him alone. Tell him how you feel..Tell him that you did the whole project alone and he didn't offer to help and then he is degrading you in front if all these people. Tell him if still wants to be friends with you. because he is not acting like it. You should talk to him but do NOT apologize.
I wouldn't suggest doing anything extreme or breaking your friendship with him, and You shouldn't tell the teacher about that. Because he seems like a popular guy and he might ruin your reputation in high school.
GOOD Luck...& Let me know how it goes.
Love,
SunnyBay
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i know EXACTLY how you feel [about the whole yelling at you in the hallways and embarassing you in front of everyone, ugh.]
honestly. he seems like a slacker and if hes your best friend, then this is not the way to show it.
if i were you, i would stand up for myself. your best friend is publicly humiliating you, blaming you for things that are HIS fault, and not taking responsibility for anything. YOU have nothing to apologize for.
so i think that you should stand up for yourself and not let this slide.. but if you dont want to do that, then just let it go.. only 8 days left.. right ? :]
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
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He's a jerk! He doesnt deserve a friend like you. Dont ever work with him again. If I were you I would tell the teacher that he didnt do anything on the project. Dont apologize! You didnt do anything wrong.
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You shouldn't have to apologize for his mistakes. Just wait it out and hopefully he'll come around- tell me how it works out!
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i think you and your bestfriend should just sit down and talk about the situation. Just ask him to help you because him not helping you is really unfair. but if he doesn't help you then you should talk to the teacher about him and tell her about him not helping you. I think that should solve the problem.
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Welcome to junior high. When I was in school, it was usually the hard working student who did all the work for the entire group. That is why these things are often a farce.
Teenage boys are often pretty lazy about stuff like this. So no surprise he pulled that because I did the same thing when I was your age.
As for you starting arguments, it is almost always the girl who initiates them and there are two reasons for this:
1. Women are freaks about security. One of the ways that manifests itself is a constant need for reassurance from her partner and a desire to touch base emotionally on occasion. Men are not raised to deal with this and so guys wonder why you're upsetting the apple cart when things were going so well. Plus men do not get socially rewarded for talking about their feelings. They bond with other guys through doing stuff and touchy feely issues are urgently avoided. When you start accusing him of not understanding you he feels understandably defensive and cornered, which is where the lashing out at you begins.
2. Women overthink everything. Whether it is about how they look, what other people said to them during the day or how their boyfriend is acting, they love nothing more than to turn everything into a growing snowball of drama.
The solution to all this is to relax and take a simpler approach with your boyfriend. Why? Because guys are real linear and simple in the way they view things. Mean are results or destination driven while women are process or journey oriented. So you need to figure out a halfway point in all that so that your discussions with your boyfriend don't turn into a battle of mutual recriminations.
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