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k so i have problems with guys. none like me! But people tell me i'm good looking, and fun, but then why don't any guys like me?! people say all that stuff like 'i know someone taht likes you' but no one ever seems to...help! wut can i do to be more attractive to guys?

You should try to be more outgoing if you're not (( you seem outgoing though )). I'm sure there are guys out there that like you, maybe they're just a little shy talking to you. So maybe you should take the initiative to go up, start a conversation and ask them if they want to hang out or something. And thats basically all you can do. You say you're good looking & fun so I'll take your word for it. It just seems that you need to work on talking to them, etc. Good luck!
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VERY LONG BUT I RATE HIGH!

my dad. i dont know how to explain him.. he divorced my mom when i was 3 and i guess my mom walked out on me. she came back so now i see her every other weekend. my dad and her still fight sometimes and he gets frustrated with her easily. everyone at my dads house always says bad stuff about my mom, including my brother, so i defend her as best i can and my dad gets really angry. i live with him & my grandparents & my brother. i cry at least one time a day but i dont cut or anything like that. i just cry alot. hes very agressive, smokes, drinks, and takes pills. i dont know what to do though because im not sure why hes like this and he always takes it out on ME. i cant go to a psychiatrist because he wont let me or anything and i dont wanna tell the police or anything because he doesnt physically hurt me, only emotionally. oh and please dont tell me to talk it out with him because he will not do that :(

well if you have ANY advice then please help. & i am a 15/f if it changes anything :/

I can understand why this upsets you. You seem to have an okay relationship with your mom and you're constantly being surrounded with nothing but negative words towards her when you're at your dad's. It does sound like you need some sort of help and the only solution I can think of is to either tell a parent or a teacher. Because even if he's hurting you emotionally, it can screw you up and its better if you have someone to talk to and their door is always open. If you have one teacher you feel really comfortable around, I suggest you going in during lunch, before school or after school and ask if you can talk about some personal problems. And seriously, just let it all out to them. I don't know about verbally, but I know if he's physically abusing you, the school HAS to report it. But if he's hurting you emotionally, I'm sure theres something they can do about that as well. No child should be put through that and this is your chance to speak up for yourself. Go to your teacher or school councelor. I know in the past if students are having problems they can meet once a week or something and discuss things with their councelor. Thats basically like a free psychiatrist session right there (only they can't prescribe medicine to you, ha--so more like a counceling session). Hopefully I helped, and seriously, do something.
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why does it hurt for a girl to shave her cootchie area?

It shouldn't.

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my friend new that i liked this guy alot and secretly she liked him even though i asked ehr she did and she lied and by the way she is my best friend and she cries easly and i want how i should tell her that I'm really mad at her

Usually, people can't help who they like and maybe she didn't want to hurt you or make you feel like you two are competing against eachother. I wouldn't be so mad about it. But since you seem to be, just tell her that you found out he really did like him & just ask why she would lie about it. Just stay calm and talk to her like you'd normally talk to her.
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i want to get this boy alone so i can ask him to a dance but i can never seem to get him alone...he's always with friends! i think it's better to ask him in private right? i mean i don't even know his friends like at all, & i don't want to embarass him or anything (or myself haha). so anyways, how do i get him alone? i only see him in one class & sometimes in the hall but we are walking to classes so there's not time! i don't want to like ask in the middle of the hall in front of all the random people in the hall either! what should i do?!?!?! (i want to do it in person)

If you know the guy pretty well, you can always just go up to him during lunch or something and real casual just say "Hey, can I talk to you for a sec?" and then step aside and most likely he'll follow you. Then just tell him that the dance is coming up and he seems like a fun person to go with. Then say, "Do you wanna come with me?" This may be a little more gutsy than what you had in mind, but seriously you don't just want to sit around and wait to catch him one day walking in the halls by himself or anything, TRUST me--just go for it.
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Okay so I've been to the tanning salon which was awsome and i got a really cute tan but my mom won't let me go back! And i am now white! Lik a gohst. So if i can't go to the tanning salon than I'm going to go tan outside but how long does it take to get a good tan? And does the wind like affect anything? I rate good!

It depends on where you're at and how sunny it is. If you're having a week with good whether and sun just plan on going tanning outside everyday for like an hour or 2 and see what happens. Just get some tanning lotion/oil and hit it up. Also I've used sunless tanning lotion before and it works really good! Its just like, a lotion/moisturizer that you put on you and after like the third day you'll start seeing results. Its Loreal Sublime Glow. I've been using it for a few months but for the past couple of weeks I stopped and I feel so white, I need it back! Haha.
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My teacher at school really gets on my nerves. For one thing he always asks me why I'm late to class when there always the same kids that are late before me, so why doesn't he harass them. Also, my boyfriend walked me to class and I gave him a hug. As you can guess he was all over me on that to. I see people doing a lot worse than that at my school. If anyone can tell me how to get this guy off my ass it will be much appreciated. for any advice I'll rate. Please hep me!!!

People do this all the time. They're late and then they get mad because the teacher doesn't get mad at everyone else who's late. Most teachers have so many kids that at times its overwelming, you don't remember names, whos case you've got onto etc. But if you really hate it that much, I suggest you stop being late. And yes, if a teacher sees you hugging your boyfriend (something thats cute, but not totally necessary), they'll get on your case because they're assuming thats why you're always late. I'm not saying to be mean or anything but honestly, don't be late and he'll get off your case.
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so i really liked or maybe liked this guy, and my best friend now likes him too. she knows im like in love with him, but shes putting in her profile, mikey i love you, in pig latin thinking i wont be able to understand it.. mike said he would never go out with her and i heard she was telling him not to go out with me and to go out with her.. and i know he doesnt want a gf right now. what am i supposed to do if they do go out?

You said that you heard Mike say he would never go out with her so you should just hope on that. And if he doesn't want a girlfriend right now, then you probably don't have much to worry about. Just keep your friendship strong if you have one, if not you should build one.
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K, so I got a visa check card. I kind of understand it, but I don't...LOL
Can someone tell me what it can be used for?
My mom isn't really doning a good job. Haha

I'm assuming its a Visa card for your checking out, ha. In that case, its an ATM card. You can go to the bank's ATM machine and pull cash out (only by $20.00 dollar bills though). Also, if some places take Visa, you can pay with just your card. You just have to keep track of the money you used because its extremely easy to go over the amount you have in there and then the bank will charge you with all these fees and its not pretty, haha. So basically, you take your money or checks and deposit them in the account and then you can just pay with it or take money out with your card.
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my mom really pisses me off. She always says something and then denies saying it. A few weeks ago she said I could get whatever I wanted for my graduation present, as long as its not too expensive(meaning over about 3$00 or so). I finally found what I want. A digital Camera. I showed her the webpage and now shes saying that she never said I could get a graduation present, when i KNOW she did! it makes me so f*kin mad! (sorry for the language) What should I do?

That sucks big time. I've never gone through this, but I know of some parents who do these kinds of things to their kids. Some suggestions are:

Giving her a taste of her own medicine--Basically do the same thing too. But I'll warn you that I can't guarentee such perfect results. But being the person that I am, it's probably what I would do. Just do the same back. Say you're going to do something and then say "I never said that". It might not be a good choice, but honestly, its would I would do.

You can also sit down and talk to her and explain what she's doing and talk to her about it. Get her when you're both in a good mood and then say "Hey mom, I really need to talk to you." and just CALMLY explain how you feel. Other than that, theres not much you can do but I hope in the end everything works out for you.
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well 104.1 and 97.9 are like pop and r&b/rap can u plz give me some songs.

Beep - Pussycat Dalls.
Luxurious - Gwen Stefani.
Walk Away - Kelly Clarkson.
Ms. New Booty - Bubba Sparxxx.
Temperature - Sean Paul.
S.O.S. - Rhianna.
Hips Don't Lie - Shakira.
Unwritten - Natasha Bedingfield.
Say I - Christina Millian.

Hopefully I helped.
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ok i want to start downloading songs but i like so much music i dont know what songs to download....can someone plz tel me some good songs.
(p.s. i listen mostly to 104.1 ,and 97.9 if that helps.)

Radio stations only go so far so most likely, very few people on here can get a feel of your style of music just based on those two radio stations. If by any chance they're rock/alternative, I can probably help you out.

--Angels & Airwaves - The Adventure.
--Further Seems Forever - The Sound.
--The Starting Line - Nothing Can Stop Us Now.
--Taking Back Sunday - A Decade Under The Influence.
--Spitalfield - I Loved the Way She Said L.A.
--Class of '98 - Hundreds and Thousands of Stars.
--The Juliana Theory - Lovesong for the Loveless.
--The Hushsound - (something about a sun, I foregot what its called)
--I would give you some Panic! At the Disco songs, but I'm not good with their titles since they're kind of random.

Hope I helped. Then again, I have no clue what those radio stations play.
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okay i seriously think i have a problem in the love life area. im a very down to earth girl and im attractive and popular at my school i guess you could say. there are plenty of guys i could have if i wanted them but its like i'll like a guy for a day or two and then the next day im like what was i thinking? and i'll avoid them by all means possible and i hate it bc i feel mean and im not a mean person. for an example i met a nice guy last saturday but today at school i went down a completely different hallway just so i wouldnt have to see him and i feel like hes getting too clingy too soon. i cant ever like a guy for more than a day or so. but i really dont understand bc i'll flirt with a guy and then they think i like them and i hate to lead people on. what could possibly be wrong with me? and what could i do to try and stop that feeling

please help!
i'll rate =]

Are you possibly thinking too much about this person, where you're also constantly pointing out their flaws as well? That could be a possibility and seeing and thinking about the flaws may make you think, "Ew, I don't really like that person anymore." And that can make your love life difficult because everyone has flaws. Also, that can just be how you are. A lot of girls will like someone for a day and then just stop and say "What was I thinking?!" I'm sure that if you're patient, you'll find a great guy who'll come a long and you'll want to get to know & stick with. In the meantime just see this as a way for you to meet new guys and test out different types and personalities, etc. Also, concentrate on the positives of the guy and maybe you'll end up sticking with one of them. Hope I helped.
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i like this guy. i want to find out who he is into and if he likes me back. i asked him once if he liked anyone and he said "ehh idk. kinda but not really." what does that mean? i want to find out but i dont want to ask him directly again or ask his friends..what are some ways i can get it out of him?
I RATE HIGH ;)

What does that mean? He probably isn't into anyone. Or he can be into you and he won't admit it. If you don't want to ask him directly or ask his friends, you can get your friends to ask him and maybe he'll tell them.
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i think one of my friends might be anoerxioc how do i tell besides them not eating. i rate 5s

Not eating, constantly comparing their body to others or putting themselves down (ex: "I'm fat") & of course the weightloss.
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how do you upload your own songs to myspace? i really want to put this P!ATD song on my myspace but its not on their profile...thanks

I'm afraid I don't know how to upload music onto myspace, but you can always check http://www.song2play to see if they have the song. This site usually has the entire album & you can choose what song you want. Then just copy and paste the code into your profile.
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I don't have caller ID. And this girl Alyssa keeps calling my house and saying stuff about me and being all rude. It really upsets me; she has been doing it on Wednesdays starting last week. She calls me a dirty whore and making fun or me and stuff. I don't know what to do. If it happens again I'm calling the police for harrassment. Is that the right thing to do?

Yea I would totally call the police.
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there is this eight grade dance in a month. and it seems like all of a sudden guys are asking girls to go. no one as asked me yet and like i don't care if i don't go with a guy but maybe i would like to... i don't want to ask the guy i want to go with and i don't hink he would ask me cause he's shy about those things. how could i get him to ask me? is it fun to just go with your girl friends? do people who bring dates usually hang with them the whole time?

I've only been to one dance my whole life, and I'm a senior. Crazy, I know. And it was because I had to go. It was in the eighth grade on & it was on a really big yacht or "moonlit cruise" they called it. It was quite fun actually. But enough about me! From experience, going with just a group of friends is quite fun actually. I have nothing to compare it to, but it wasn't bad at all. It could actually be more fun to go solo/with friends because then you have the freedom to talk to whoever, dance with whoever and do whatever. You should just give it a shot. You might like it :) Either way, you'll have fun I'm sure.
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what is a free music downloading program?i have winmx right now, but it doesnt work very well,and some songs i cant download.i need a free program that i can dowload onto my computer.

also,i was wondering if i could download songs from high school musical on a given music program,because i cant on winmx,but if you dont know, thats ok.

thanks!!

Right now I'm using limewire and its pretty good. I've used Ares before, but only to download television shows but they also have music available as well.

I've never tried downloading songs from high school musical on limewire. But if thats the show from the disney channel or whatever, then I'm sure you can. Limewire has a variety of music.
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Do you think it is ok to ask a guy if he likes you. I mean like like you?

If you're comfortable with that--sure, why not? I wish I had guts like you, haha. But yea, go for it.
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