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guy problems!!! HELP!
17/f
k so i have problems with guys. none like me! But people tell me i'm good looking, and fun, but then why don't any guys like me?! people say all that stuff like 'i know someone taht likes you' but no one ever seems to...help! wut can i do to be more attractive to guys?
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If the object of your desires is not interested apparently, it could be they are shy.
Try doing the opposite of their body language - if they close their arms unfold yours.
Also linger over them with your eyes, but of course without making them feel uncomfortable or being too obvious.
Maybe you need to build up your confidence. Learn to be comfortable being yourself. The temptation is always there to want to be someone else, someone popular, someone with loads of friends who everyone likes. But wanting to be someone else is only ever a pipedream - you are you, and great for it.
Or maybe you need to just feel better with yourself. The key is not to try and compare yourself to others - that will only make you unhappy. Rather than keep up the comparisons, just be content that you are who you are and leave it at that.
Let the guys come to you. The harder you look the harder it could be to find someone. Just give it time, you can't exactly MAKE someone like you.
Good luck!
♥ Evy
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You should stop trying to impress guys so they will like you. Instead you need to convince yourself that you are good enough to be someone's girfriend. Once you realize that you are good enough, things will probably become a lot easier for you. I'm not saying that you will have all of the guys head over hills for you but you won't have the thought "what can i do to more attractive to guys" run through your head as much because you will be confident in yourself.
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wear something hott! not just hott really hott! and get there attion! and make sure its notice able if its not then thts y!
have a guy pick that you like come with you to pick it out and then wear what he picks and try to look real hott! it will work??
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Maybe you're trying too hard. If you try to change too much of yourself to be "good enough" for a guy, then you won't end up with the right one.
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Why would you think they don't like you? Guys like confidence. They like being assured everything if ok. If you're not confidence that one day, when its right, that you will find a guy, then maybe you should stand still and inspect you're attitude 1st...you're not going to find "him" until you're ready mentally, physically and emotionally. Others sense this without knowing they are sensing it. It'll happen when you're ready and not one day before.
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Perhaps the problem isn't with the way you look or how fun you are. Perhaps it's just that you lack self confidence.
All manner of surveys have been conducted and apparently men are more attracted to women with confidence and a nice smile than any other type. Obviously, without knowing you, it's difficult to tell how confidence you are but if you're constantly riddled with self doubt over why guys don't seem to like you then you be putting them off without even realising it!
On the other habd, if you act really confident and are surrounded by friends a lot of the time, it could be that there are plenty of guys that like you but they're intimidated by you. Another very common problem, unfortunately!
If you want to get a guy that you like, try just being open and friendly with him and before you speak to him, try to mentally invisage what you would like to have happen and imagine yourself giving off lots and lots of pheremones, which will help to pull him towards you.
In the meantime, please don't worry too much about this, because having a boyfriend is not the be all and end all. If you worry too much about it, you will miss out on the great opportunities that come with being single. I can promise you there WILL be guys that like you and there are possibly already a number of them with their eyes on you. Try to keep an eye out for signs they do and keep sending out those pheremones!
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it's not all about being good-looking and showing off! guys need to see your caring side, the side that says "i'll be there when you need me, i won't hurt you. etc."
show them the LOVE you have to offer.
i suggest you start with friendships, that's always worked for me! get to know a guy first, have meaningful conversations, as well as throwing in the flirty comment or two every now and then!
;) good luck
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You should try to be more outgoing if you're not (( you seem outgoing though )). I'm sure there are guys out there that like you, maybe they're just a little shy talking to you. So maybe you should take the initiative to go up, start a conversation and ask them if they want to hang out or something. And thats basically all you can do. You say you're good looking & fun so I'll take your word for it. It just seems that you need to work on talking to them, etc. Good luck!
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