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I am 14 and 5'4 and 155 is my weight and i wanna lose like 15 to 20 lbs, so do you have any helpful ideas?

Hi!
Before I start this, I just wanna wish you luck and support, I've been through it too, it's not easy but the results are wonderful and well worth it =]]

1. Food Choices : Follow the food pyramid. Make sure you cut out unnecessary carbs, fats and sugars. Sugars especially! They are killer. Instead of that greasy disgusting burger filled with oil, have a salad. Ceasar, Italian, Ranch or even Fruit salads can fill you up and they are delicious and healthy! Make sure you eat balanced meals and DO NOT SKIP ANY!!! Drink lots of water and keep hydrated. If you reduce the amount of soda and juices (filled w/ sugar) and replace it with water, you'll have weight loss. Eat fruits and vegetables! Apples, GRAPEFRUIT (amazing for weight loss) and Pomegranates are great for diets.

2. Exercise : I know we all hate it but it is necessary. Whatever exercise you decide to do is great, but what I did was target my abs, arms and legs. I swam laps on weekends and when I didn't have school, 2 times a day. Then when I had school I had very limited time to spend on exercise so I did 3 sets of 25 crunches, 3 times a day. So in the morning before school, when i got home from school, and at night.

3. Support! get support, if you tell your best friend that you want to lose weight, your best friend will support you and won't let you break your goals. Reinforcement worked great for me. I gave my mom 50 dollars and told her not to give it back until I achieved my goal weight. IT WORKED! lol.

I hope I helped.
If you need any more just ask =]]
Good luck

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So I have bulimia, and this morning I woke up with a bad sore throat. It hurts to swallow. The thing is, I thought that you have to vomit a decent amount of times before this would happen. I generally do it only a few times a month. Maybe I do it more often than I realize? Anyone have any ideas as to why?

Each time you throw up, you are damaging your throat, so it's going to hurt eventually. Some people can get away with doing it many times and not feeling anything for a while. Once it starts hurting, it'll only get worse and when you decide to eat or drink, it will burn.

It also has nothingg to do with the amount of times you make yourself vomit. It has to do with your tolerance and it seems you have limited tolerance. Just know you're ruining your body and it's a disorder, ever if you do it once.

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i really want to give my boyfriend a handjob but i don't know how to go about it. should i just stick my hand down his pants and grab it or wait for him to pull it out? and how do i know when to stop?

Depends on you.
If you want to hint it, then put your hand on his leg and move it up slightly, while pants are still on. Start moving up until you reach his penis and if he doesn't do anything then you can start unzipping his pants and going in there.

You'll know when to stop, you'll feel him cum or he'll move your hand away. It's not hard! I promise lol just have fun! it's natural

good luck!

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i know most of the advice givers get over 10 boy stories a day & im sorry this is another one of those typical "he doesn't realize im alive" stories. well there is this boy at my church, he is nice to everyone in my youth group, girls and boys. most of the time he doesnt want to talk to me. im falling hard for him and i just want to know--if he is nice to everyboddy in church and a generally nice guy out of church why doesnt he talk to me? here's some side stuff 1)everytime i look up at him singing on stage he is always looking at me 2) i took his phone and put my number in it and he didnt delete it:) 3)he always talks to my friends. i hope you can help!

Is it possible that he doesn't talk to you because he's nervous talking to someone he likes? =]]

I think that's what it is. If you always catch him looking at you then I'm pretty sure he likes you, here are some other ways you can figure it out.

1. After catching him looking at you, he quickly looks away.
2. When you look back, 5 mins later, he's still looking.

What you can try doing is asking your friends if he talks about you, or mentions you.
Seems like he likes you though!
Good luck!

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My wife and I have been married for a little over 2 years. Recently, my wife told me she wanted to have three somes. With girls or guys, she said it didn’t matter to her (she is bi-sexual). However, she stressed the idea that me watching her with another guy then joining in really turns her on. I have done this 2 guys 1 girl thing in the past with a former girl friend, and it worked o.k. for a while, but had a disastrous end. My wife assures me this wont happen to us, because she is just adventurous and her heart belongs to me. I really want to make her happy, but I’ve had bad experiences in this department before. Thanks for any help,

Guy #1

Personally, I believe that in a marriage, the two people married should not be with anyone else, bisexual or not. Even though your wife is adventurous, that doesn't give her the right to sleep w/ another woman or man. Plus, do you want to see your wife w/ another person?
If two people are married they have made a commitment of love to each other, meaning there should be NO ONE ELSE in their relationship. And what's the point? If you love someone, shouldn't that be enough to not want to be with someone else?
Just my thoughts on this. If you are uncomfortable with this, you need to let your wife know. She'll understand because she loves you.

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ok heres the deal..

theres this guy that i talk to & i like him and he knows that. He talks to other girls & goes out with them..and once he gets it leaves them. I kinda feel down because he doesnt seem to want a relationship with me & im not ugly..like i get alot of attention from guys...but idk maybe he doesnt want to hurt me. i need someones persective on this.

it seems like this boy just likes the chase. when he knows somebody likes him, there's no "fun" in chasing them around. personally I know many guys that act this way and they entertain themselves by playing this game. once they have what they want they let it go, because they know they already got it and they move on to something else that they haven't gotten. doesn't make any sense to me but then again this is the immature male population lol

try showing less interest in him, and see what happens, if he starts to chase you around like every other girl you'll know that it's all a game to him

hope this helped!

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There are a couple of Hip Hop songs that I have heard on the radio, but I don't know the name of them. I think both of them feature Lil Wayne, but on Itunes I looked up all of his songs and none of them sound familiar

# 1- ghetto, ghetto, ghetto, get ghetto (and theres some lady singing oh baby)

#2- kind of in a robotic voice goes like- you know you like it....that thang thang thang thang thang uh huh thang

does anyone know the names of these songs

Hi, I don't know about the second song but I do know the first so here's link to the lyrics if you'd like:

#1 "All My Life" by Jay Rock feat. Lil Wayne
& Will.I.Am

Lyrics :
http://www.lyricsondemand.com/j/jayrocklyrics/allmylifelyrics.html

Song on Youtube :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvguEx5X-yk

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okay so my boyfrined came over last night and we were kissing on my couch. and he like pulled my shirt up and started kissing my boob and sucking on it. i was so turned off by it. i pushed him off and moved to the other side of the couch it grossed me out. 1. because it reminded me of a baby getting milk.2. because thats freaking weird to me.
so my question is do people like that i mean on a guys point of veiw do they enjoy that? and how should i tell him that i think thats weird wiht out being rude?

I completely agree with you : if i were in the same situation i would have pushed him away too.

Some girls like it, as the comments below me have said.

As for your boyfriend I suggest you tell him something along the lines of "I'm sorry but it just doesn't feel right to me." Guys mainly do it to please the girl, so he shouldn't feel bad. Or you can tell him "You don't feel ready to go that far." Either way you'd stop him.
Hope I helped! But i definately agree with you on this situation!

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I bought this off of E-Bay:

http://cgi.ebay.com/New-i68-QuadBand-Cell-Phone-unlocked-i9-AT-T-T-Mobile_W0QQitemZ200304096023QQcmdZViewItemQQptZCell_Phones?hash=item200304096023&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14&_trkparms=72%3A1234%7C66%3A2%7C65%3A12%7C39%3A1%7C240%3A1309%7C301%3A1%7C293%3A1%7C294%3A50


I have a T-mobile phone already so when this one comes I just want to take out my sim card and put it in this one. I can do that, right?

yes, that's exactly what you do.
I did the same thing with a different phone, works really nice.
Lemme know if you like the phone, I'm thinking about getting it =]]

Also, it does have 2 sim card slots, therefore if you only wanna use one of them, use the primary one (also called SIM 1) which is usually on the far left one. Otherwise, you can put in 2 sim cards

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Are Katy Perry and Zooey Deschanel the same person? They look exactly alike. And what is Zoey Deschanel from? I know Katy Perry is a singer..

No, they actually aren't. I thought they were too at one point.
Zoey Deschanel is known for her movie roles (if you've seen the recent movie YesMan with Jim Carrey, she has a leading role there, and in the movie she actually doesn't look like Katy Perry.) She's also played in :
Elf
The Happening
Surf's Up (voice over)

Here's more information on her background

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zooey_Deschanel

Hope this helped!

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what are some really cute love songs?
about like being happy and all that,
none of those sad ones please.

thanks. =)

"Lucky" by Jason Mraz & Colbie Caillat
SO ADORABLE, AND PERFECT IN SOME SITUATIONS! Listen to the whole thing, don't just judge the beginning lol

"Bubbly" by Colbie Caillat

"You Belong To Me" by Lifehouse

"When You Say Nothing At All" Allison Krauss (kinda old)

hope you find these helpful =]]

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would it be considered slutty to give a guy a handjob if ive only seen him twice at my friends house and we arent going out and all he wants from me is sexual favors..i like him and i sort of want to but i sort of dont and im afraid this will make me a slut and he'll tell all his friends and ill seem like a slut. he also wants to eat me out and finger me but i told him i dont know maybe. because i mean we arent even going out and whenever i bring up the topic of him liking me he just says he doesnt know and that he wants me. but then he says he wants me to do these things, he means. i sort of want to but i feel like thats kind of slutty..i mean its not like im doing it to all of these guys, its just one guy. and i like him. but i dont think he likes me..but still its not slutty because its only one guy right?

it doesn't matter if it's slutty or not, it's how you think of yourself after you do it. will you regret it or not?

the thing i wanna point out is that he wants you to do all these sexual favors, but he doesn't wanna commit to you or anything. it seems like he'll just "hit it and quit it." sorry i'm blunt but it's just that if thats what happens, you'll end up hurt.

if you're worried about him telling his friends...he probably will. guys love to gossip believe it or not. they love to say who they were able to get with and all this other crap. so don't be surprised if his other friends start coming up to you and asking you for "favors" if they hear you did something to him. Just something to think about for the future, i know how it feels so i completely sympathize. I hope you feel comfortable doing whatever you decide and good luck!

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I'm 14, and I really like this one guy a lot, but he's going out with my best friend's best friend. It's sort of depressing. Going into school each day and seeing him there, but knowing I can't even talk to him, or else I'll start flirting, and that WOULD not be good. I don't know what to do!

When i was your age i felt the same way about this one guy who was actually dating my best friend. all in all, relationships at that age and even at mine (16) dont always last long. People will date then all of a sudden, they'll break up.

Eventually they'll get sick of each other (sorry but it happens quite often) and in the meantime, try to focus on someone else, even though it's hard!

DONT get depressed. It's really not worth it because he will be single one day, and that's when you can make your move!




good luck, and dont worry!






oh and get over it. you're 14 you wont be with him forever even if you two do date.

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I am playing Allegro by Antonio Vivaldi (transcribed by Bernard Fitzgerald). I play the trumpet and there is also a piano accompaniment that's supposed to go with it. I need to find the piano music, but I can't seem to find it anywhere. Does anyone know where I can find it?

here are some sights that have it.

http://www.musicroom.com/se/ID_No/0394116/details.html

http://www.musicnotes.com/sheetmusic/book.asp?ppn=BKWBBWI00473

http://8notes.com/scores/10309.asp

http://search.musicnotes.com/?q=allegr&search_id=Top&hl=n&mnuid=DJYNW1QBRUTU436MHY2L0U6T1Z650M871SQW0M87&iso=US

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so this guy asked me out like 2 months ago but i kindly said no because i didnt know him.i mean it was the first time i really talked to him ya know?
then i didnt seem him till about 2 weeks ago.he was flirting with me and stuff.well then when i walked by him he was like so whats up?and then when i replied he asked if i like him and i said well i dont know you really.so then he was like what you dont know me now?and i was like i never really got to know you but he didnt seem upset about it because he still flirted.well then i saw him last night and he was with some girl i believe was his girlfriend.and it kinda made me jealous i guess.it kinda made me think what if i really missed out ya know?now i dont know what i should do.i felt like i liked him last night when before i didnt feel it but between 2 weeks ago and last night i was thinkin like next time i see him if he asks me out again i was gonna say yes well know i feel im too late.am i just feeling this because he does have a girl now or what?i mean the only reason i turned him down was because i didnt know him all the well,he wasnt what i would date(appearence wise) and my friends opinion but when i thought about it he is a really great guy besides i never really see him but i was thinknin that would change if we dated ya knw?well i wanna thank you all before hand

I understand what you're saying. I think you're jealous because he moved on from you to someone else so fast. simple as that. I don't think he's gonna stop flirting with you considering he asked you out and didn't give up before.

Try being friends with him. Get to know him because once he realizes that he knows you better and you know him better he'll try asking you out again. And maybe he likes you more than his girlfriend. You never know. She might be his rebound.

I hope this helped in any way.
Good Luck!

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what is the name of the instrument that the lady in the middle is holding?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=keD6wRw4lEU

Accordion =]

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So I've had an eating disorder for almost 4 years now and I'm trying to recover. I was in the hospital for 9 months this year. Before I left I had like a natural high. I was feeling so good about myself and not worried about my weight and I knew I was healthy. About a month after I got out all of my problems came back. It was really hard because I gained 30 pounds. I'm 5'7 and now weigh 120, which I know is "healthy" but I want to be less. I know I can't lose weight though because I will never lose enough to please myself and I'll just cause myself to relapse. If I don't restrict/purge I harm myself in other ways (cutting, popping pills, etc.). I feel like I have no one to talk to about it, besides my therapist..but I want a friend I can go to at any time and talk to this about.

my sister went through the same thing, and i was there when she needed me. she was bulimic and anorexic, so i sympathize

if you need someone to talk to, i'm here. i can't be like your friends, but i can listen. if you need to talk, message me on here or on aim, my screen name is xxes25

good luck

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http://www.sallybeauty.com/flat-iron-creme/SBS-539506,default,pd.html

worth it?

i use this cream, i find it really good, i think it just depends on what your hair tolerates.

heads up tho: buy the round one instead of the squeeze bottle, it gives you much more, and it's about a dollar more. if you buy it at your local walmart(thats where i got mine) it's actually 5 bucks for the larger one.

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14-Female-5'6 5'7-220 pounds
Okay, so last week I was on the phone with a friend of mine Steven, and he said that if I lost weight and started straightening my hair I would be 'wickedddd hott'. Well I said that even if I did all of that he still wouldn't be-- which he didnt like but he had no right to say that to me. Well, my weight is a problem. I don't just have a little ponch- no im clinically obese.
Well I was told a good way to start is figure out why I eat, and I know why I do. Like every teenager Im unhappy, my parents fight constantly and I never see my Mother. I eat emotionally, to fill somekind of void. Sometimes I do it out of sheer bordom too. I am now recognizing when that is, but when I do it's like it doesnt matter I'll do it anyway.So I have to stop that.
I don't want to set a goal really, because for health reasons I should litterally lose like 90 pounds which is so overwhelming... So if I take it step by step, I was thinking like 20 pounds.
Money is a huge issue at the moment. We can't afford anything diffrent then what were getting now. Which is like cube steak, rice, and some kid of canned veggie. So I was wondering how much I should eat, and how much I should exersize. I can't do push ups in general so that's out of the question. It's weird my arms, and legs are tiny, like abnormally for my body. Its my belly, my thighs are becoming an issue but Im an xl[[sometimesxxl]] and size TEN in jeans. over the summer i went from a size 16-18 to 10. but nothing in my stomach went. How many sit ups should I do. And if I walk it would have to be around my neighborhood which is a circle. [[we know that 3 times around=One Mile.]] But it's getting cold.
I really wanna do this. and not for Steven because I honestly couldnt care what he thought. But we had this thing at school where everyone was like whats one good trate about someone. and we had to go ina circle and everyone said my best trate is my personalty, and confidence.
I DO NOT HAVE CONFIDENCE.
Ariele said she would kill to have the confidence I had. How I can walk around and act like I own the place. Say the speaches I do, and just not care what other people think.. Im glad I fool them so well. It was strange to have people think Im confidence when I know for a fact the very little self esteem I have..
anything you guys could say would be amazingg thanks for reading all of this.

sweetheart, first of all, this boy that said this didn't word it correctly. he said you WOULD be wicked hot, when the truth is YOU ARE WICKED HOT.

Now, for encouragement, think about how amazing its gonna feel to feel great about yourself! It helped me a lot, i lost a good 35-40 pounds so I can empathize.

Exercise : I personally hate it. Its like hell on earth, not gonna lie. However i have to do it so when i wanted to lose weight, I'd walk ALOT. I'd walk around my development and outside, and instead of being lazy and having my mom drive me to the mall, i'd walk! It does miracles and honestly walking is so good for you! And sorry i just realized you said that it's getting cold...how about in the day time when it's sunny? or if you wake up early go for a walk! its good to get the exercise done in the morning because you're pumped the rest of the day.

Start drinking water, at first it'll taste plain but give it maybe 3 days and you won't want anything else because it'll all taste disgustingly sweet. Plus, water is a good way to cleanse the body, so if you drink enough of it, you'll lose a bunch of water weight.

Make sure you don't over eat....but how do you stop yourself? I had this problem and i realized that after twenty minutes of eating something i'd be full. So basically eat smaller portions, wait twenty minutes and you should be content....ok so i know we all love to over eat because well FOOD TASTES GOOD! but that needs to stop, and the way i taught myself to stop was after i heard that if you over eat your stomach changes into a grayish color and expands. Personally when i picture this it makes me feel sick that the color of my stomach is changing and getting bigger. GROSS!!!

At first it'll be hard, but it's a way of life, you'll get used to it. kinda like walking, you had to try in order to succeed.

I really hope this helps you, I know you can do it. It's tough but in the end it's an AMAZING FEELING. if you need any support you can message me anytime. Or if you have AIM, my screen name is xxes25

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i'm throwing a surprise party for my friend for her birthday, and i've been thinking about what kind of music to play.

except i have a problem. my iTunes got messed up a while back and i can't use limewire anymore because it gave my laptop a virus (which caused iTunes to get messed up...) so i can't bring my iPod to the party nor do i want to force someone to buy a bunch of iTunes songs just for the party.

SO I WAS WONDERING:
is there some sort of a website i can use to make a playlist and just play those songs? i do NOT want to download the songs, and i don't want to have to stop after every song and search for a new one (so i can't use youtube / artistdirect.com).

i found deezer.com. you guys like it? any other recommendations that are better than deezer?

besides the one below my answer, I use : playlist.com and I REALLY LIKE IT. you can have up to 200 songs i think on one playlist and if you run out of room you can just create another one. Then you can have it "shuffle" and stuff. This is the one that myspace people use a lot.
hope it works.
have a fun party!

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