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This isnt slutty right..? :/
would it be considered slutty to give a guy a handjob if ive only seen him twice at my friends house and we arent going out and all he wants from me is sexual favors..i like him and i sort of want to but i sort of dont and im afraid this will make me a slut and he'll tell all his friends and ill seem like a slut. he also wants to eat me out and finger me but i told him i dont know maybe. because i mean we arent even going out and whenever i bring up the topic of him liking me he just says he doesnt know and that he wants me. but then he says he wants me to do these things, he means. i sort of want to but i feel like thats kind of slutty..i mean its not like im doing it to all of these guys, its just one guy. and i like him. but i dont think he likes me..but still its not slutty because its only one guy right?
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I don't think its slutty because it seems more of a friends with benefits kind of thing. I think you need to decide whether you think you should be doing it and not if it is classified "slutty" or not. Just don't do anything you regret because I had this really good guy friend and we messed around. Now I have an amazing steady boyfriend and I wish that I have never messed around with the previous guy. In the end, it is all you personal preference. Just think whether you are benefitting from this relationship you're having or not.
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no and who cares if some loser thinks youre a slut? getting eaten out is for YOUR pleasure not his so go ahead and enjoy it. you only live once!
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Yes, its kind of slutty.
Adults call what he wants to do "using people". It means that they get what they want from someone while completely disregarding what that person might want or need in return.
Plus, he WILL tell his friends about it. If nothing else, at some point some other guy will challenge him on his sexual experience and he will list off anything he's done to prove he isn't "inexperienced".
Why wouldn't he talk about it? He has no respect for you, he just wants you to do things for him. Why would he respect your feelings about not wanting people to think you're a slut when thats exactly what HE thinks.
Because thats what a slut is (by general convention). A girl who lets herself be used by guys because it makes her feel liked (she isnt).
Why would he being the only one matter? You're still being indiscriminate. No one other than you would see this as "he's the only guy". Everyone would see it as "He was the first of many". And if liking this guy a little when he doesn't want anything but sex back is enough for you to give him some of what he wants, I doubt that will be the only time you do it, or that it will be the furthest you go in a situation like this.
Stop saying "I like him". Who cares. He doesn't like you back, and his willingness to accept sexual favors IN NO WAY means that he will like you back, ever. More than likely he'll just get what he wants and drop you completely the moment getting what he want's isn't as easy as asking.
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it doesn't matter if it's slutty or not, it's how you think of yourself after you do it. will you regret it or not?
the thing i wanna point out is that he wants you to do all these sexual favors, but he doesn't wanna commit to you or anything. it seems like he'll just "hit it and quit it." sorry i'm blunt but it's just that if thats what happens, you'll end up hurt.
if you're worried about him telling his friends...he probably will. guys love to gossip believe it or not. they love to say who they were able to get with and all this other crap. so don't be surprised if his other friends start coming up to you and asking you for "favors" if they hear you did something to him. Just something to think about for the future, i know how it feels so i completely sympathize. I hope you feel comfortable doing whatever you decide and good luck!
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well its your body and your choices. dont lower your standards. if you feel comfortable with it, then go for it. if you will feel bad about it and feel like a slut yourself, then dont do it. i would not consider you a slut but thats just me, i mean its one guy ..not 5 at once. but you have to do whats right for you hun always remmember that
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