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Emily prefers to be called/a.k.a em,emz,lili,mimi,lee or emi
13 from England living in Spain - loves; giving advice, making friends, music, photography, the color pink&more ..
hates; racism, terrorism, poverty , animal testing, cockroaches, darkness, sluttyness, being tired


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+ : r&b
+ : rap
+ : hip hop
+ : reggaeton
+ : slow jams
+ : acapella
+ : pop


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advice

1st of i'm 16 and i'm in 10th grade and a girl...and i have some pretty awesome best girl friends...well i make-out with a few of them...i don't mind it i actually have fun doing...but i wouldn't call my self bi...i read this thing online and it says that we experment to find out what we like...well i love makeing-out with both sexes! but i've never done more with a girl...i have and talked about eating girls out with my other best friend and we have talked about doing to each other...but i could never see my self with a girl...because i just love boys...but what i am getting at is it wrong to want to do this stuff with girls...it's mainly with my best friend...it's just a experment..is it wrong to experment with her? she has ate a girl out before..i mean i'm not scared to do it and i don't feel un-comfortable caouse she is my best frined...my point...does any of this seem wrong?

((i don't want the stupid rood people to answer this...or jerks who think it's "nasty"))

love: the girl who doesn't know!!

There's nothing wrong with trying it out if you don't like it then at least you know and you won't have to worry about it anymore. There's no harm in giving it a shot.
I wouldn't say you were bi either I'd say you're bi-curious since you like making out with the both genders or just plain curios it depends on everyones personal point of veiw.
Hope I helped, sweetie.
♥Em

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I was talking to my boyfriend and he got a boner. I happened to glance at it and he noticed me looking and got real embarrassed. I can understand why he'd be embarrassed but now he's scared to talk to me anymore. I don't think it's gross or weird. It's natural and I wish he could see that I don't care. He doesn't have to feel ashamed or anything around me. He makes me horny too. TMI? Sorry!

You sound really mature about it, which is a great thing.
Talk thim about it and tell him he needn't be ashamed of it and tell him everything you told us.
He'll soon stop being embarrassed =)
♥Em

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18f

There is this guy that I have been friends with for a little while at school. We went to a frat party together and were dancing and having fun. Yes we were both slighty inebriated but thats besides the point. I kind of like him and when we were dancing he kissed me and we made out for a little bit. I don't know what to think of it because I kind of have feelings for him. We have been hanging out and flirting but haven't kissed again. He did make some comments like, you looked really good tonight but only on AIM. Is he just really shy or do you think it was just a random drunk thing?

I don't think it's because he was drunk, chances are he likes you. You should get together on your own sometime and go to the movies or whatever and see what happens from there.
Good Luck =)
♥Em

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Is it uncommon for the inner lips to hang out and be all floppy, because its really long and the inner lips are really...hanging out all the time. i dont know what to do, its just so big, long, and floppy. Also its kind of wrinkly.. Is this normal, is there any creams i can use to make it go smaller and more normal??? Ive never been sexually active if that helps; and i want to be sexually active but im embarased!!! Any advice please!?

Don't worry about it, it's perfectly normal.
The vaginal shape is unique to every female. Every female has there own unique shapes even though it may not seem like it each one has something different about them.
There's no cream for stuff like this the only thing that you could look towards is plastic surgeory which personally I don't think many people would adivse you to do that.
Don't be embarrassed because chances are the person you're with won't tell the difference.
♥Em

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one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?

oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol

Don't get pulled in to peer pressure crap.
If you don't want to drink then don't. Just say no. If they make fun of you for not wanting to drink then they can't be true friends can they?
Just try not to get pulled in to all the peer pressure stuff because if the next thing they're trying is drugs and you decide to just 'try' that too and get addicted or whatever other shit then you're fucked.
♥Em

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My parents know that I want to listen to Green day and Bowling for soup and a large variety of other music bands, but won't let me. I'm 13, but they prolly think it's too young. How can I convince them that I enjoy music and am missing out on a lot without it?? And besides-I should be entitled to what they had.

Talk to them and tell them that you like music and should be aloud to listen to it.
Explain to them that there's nothing wrong with that kind of music and you can't help not having different tastes in music.
They should be thankful you don't want to listen to something like Eminem with 'fuck' in every other sentence.
♥Em

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my friend is going out with a guy. she is like my BEST FRIEND EVER, and this guy is 16 and shes 12. im worried because we both know this is an illegal relationship. what should i do?

It's not actually illegal but it's not good either.
Talk to her and see if she can see some sense. What is this guy doing with a 12 year old? I mean, he must be a bit desperate or he's after something because there's plenty of girls his age he could date.
Just sit her down talk to her and tell her that you're worried about her.
♥Em

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umm i almost have a 100$ and i wanna buy a pet my mom doesnt like reptiles or any thing that smells and my nana dont like anything that makes alot of noise that will make the dogs bark and my friend is guna make her chinchillas have babies but that might take awhile so should i wait to get a chinchilla or i might be able to get a guinea pig but i dunno please help!!!
ill rate high :)

Guinea pigs smell sometimes.
You could get more than one tropical fish seeing as you have nearly $100 but you'd have to learn what temperature the water should be and what not seeing as they're tropical.
Or you could just be patient and wait for the chinchilla then you've got $100 to spend on whatever you want.
♥Em

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hey, ok, well my room always seems to get EXTREMELY messy. i straigten it up, but then it just gets dirty right away. there's always clothes on the floor, desk cluttered, dishes everywhere, the works. so, this is a pretty general quesiton, so anything constructive i will rate 5's! so, plz give me some tips on how you keep your room decent!

You could get some draws or some of them simple boxes that'll just slide under your bed.
Everytime you think about leaving something lying around just force your self to pick it up.
If you clean up as you're making the mess it's alot easier than waiting till the mess is huge.
♥Em

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Ok well i have to do this report on Sweden and i have to make some thing like food .. well i need swedish recipes and i have a few but i want more choices. i already have swedish meatballs, cinnamin rolls, and potatoe pancakes.. does any one have any Swedish Recipes?
Thanks

allrecipes.net is good for recipes. I'm not 100% sure they have from Sweden but if they don't you could just look them up on google =)
♥Em

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ok well whenever i go to the bathroom, i look at my underwear and theres this like clear slimy gooey discharge and i havent gotten my period yet ... what is this ? im 13/f HELP!

It's totally normal. Don't worry about it unless it goes a brownish color and starts getting a foul smell that's when you should see a doctor but if it's staying clear it probably means your period is soon on it's way.

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I've gained like, 20 pounds since I broke up with my boyfriend a month or so ago, and i relaly want to lose at least ten of them again. I eat rather healthy, veggies every day, no cokes, and just a cookie at lunch. i just eat a lot, like, I'll eat so much, and won't realize I'm full until I stand up from the table. And then, I'm always so stuffed! And there is nothing i can do about it. Ever time I tell my friends I wanna lose the 10 pounds, they call me anerixic. well, haha, If you've ever seen me eat, you couldn't be more wrong. I couldn't ever not eat, but I want a way to control my eating so I can keep my tummy flat. I'm not fat, but my stomache is a bit bigger than I'd like, luckily, i haven't gained fat anywhere else.
I was wondering if i should throw up food sometimes if i eat to much. Not like, every day or anything, just if I accidentally over eat. How do you make yourself throw up? Does it hurt?
Thanks. and please, i don't think i have a confidence issue, I've always had a high self esteem, but i want to lose 10 pounds.

Not a good idea at all, don't make your self throw up. You could become 'addicted' to making your self throw up and before you know it you're bullimic.
Besides after throwing up you'll be hungry again which'll make you want to eat again which will then, make you want to throw up again and so on.
Have smaller portions of whatever you're eating. That way you can't let your self get too full because there's nothing left to eat. Don't go over the top and have next to nothing though, just a little less than what you're normally having.
Excersise more, no matter how healthyly you eat you're gonna get no where fast without excersising. Try not to do many excersises that are meant for building up muscle because that just makes you muscley and doesn't really burn off fat. Try www.toneteen.com for some good excersises.
If you ever feel the need to have snacks and such inbetween meals when you're at home you can carry around a glass with ice it in so whenever you want to eat something just eat the ice seeing as ice is just water and doesn't hold any calories at all.
Hope I helped.
♥Em

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I am not sure what i have but some times when im scared, doing nothing, or exercising my heart beats fast and i can feel the pressure of it and i when that happens i look down at my shirt and you can see my chest vibrating from my heart. Im afraid that this could be serious, either if it is or not i would like to know what it could be and how i can treat it or do things to help it.
thnx to whoever responds.

It's hard of any of us here to say exactly what is wrong with you but it could be any number of things I think you should definatly go to a doctor and explain what keeps happening.
♥Em

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Ok I have these little bumps in some place my skin (such as my legs, knees, elbows, and back of my upper arms). They're the same color as my skin and aren't big or anything, but I don't know how to get rid of them. I asked my mom and she just told me to scrub my skin more in the shower...but it isn't helping. It just looks like I have small goose bumps on me constantly!
How can I get rid of them? I will rate you well if you give a good answer!

It could be from dry skin or from a skin condition. See a dermatologist and they'll give you something for it or in the mean time see if it is dry skin and moisturize regulary.
♥Em

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is there a such thing as two kinds of penises... my friend robert told me that evan has a something penis and i forgot what its called? does anyone know anything? like abnornmal or something?

I think your friend is probably on about
a circumcised or uncircumcised penis. Circumcised penises have the foreskin clipped at birth, where as uncircumcised don't. More than likely for culture reasons.

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I haven't gotten my period since the end of January. I'm not sexually active, and haven't been for the past year and a half. However I had lost about 7-10 pounds since the last time I've gotten my period. Is there something wrong? Or do you think that I haven't gotten my period because of my weight loss and diet change? Thanks!

Periods are irregular for the first 2-4 years of having your period. It's perfectly normal but to be on the safe side and if you're still a bit worried you should try seeing a doctor about it.
♥Em

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I was talking to a friend of mine and some how we got onto the subject of seasoning food. I made a comment that white people are boring because all they use is salt and pepper and occasionally garlic. I'm spanish and so is my friend, so of course us being spanish we're used to foods with all these rich spices and whatnot. I was talking to my boyfriend and I told him about it because my boyfriend is... well he's whiter than a sheet of paper. Anyway for some reason, he told his mom about it and I feel really bad now that I said it because I feel that I've offended his mother. His mother and I have a very good relationship considering the fact that I've been with my boyfriend for a long time. I just feel really bad about making that comment now. He told me that she pretty much agreed with it, but I still feel horrible about it because I eat over at their house almost every weekend and she cooks, but her food is really good! I don't know what I should do. I don't really want to bring the subject up again because I don't want to offend her even more if in fact I even did offend her. Any advice?

Don't worry about it!
Honestly, relax.
It's not an insult. It's actually the truth. It's just spanish people are much more daring when it comes to cooking and alot of white people aren't.
I doubt that you offended her and if she says anything about it just explain that you were joking around and didn't mean to offend anyone, I'm sure she'll understand.
♥Em

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Im on my period right now and i am so angry for some reason and i get pissed off so easily right now and i dont know why? and today this girl told me something and i ended up cussing her out and every one thought i was gonna hit her in the face so please tell me how i can be nicer why im pmsing

Normal behaviour that comes free with the monthly bitch.
It happens to alot of people who are PMSing.
The only thing you can do is think before you say anything or if someone is started to piss you off before they piss you off to the max warn them that you're PMSing.
♥Em

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How can it be that you can have casual sex? I am a virgin and some of my friends have had sex. Those who have also have casual sex. I just don't understand how you can have sex without having a comitment. Doesn't it still end up being a comitment because someone will want a relationship. It's natural for humans to want to have a relationship. So why is it that people can have casual sex with different people without a more serious relationship??

Peoples minds work in diferent ways, therefore not everyone is going to want a relationship till much later in life. Can you really see people waiting till they're 30 odd to have sex?
I think not.
Alot of people just want sex for now then later they'll consider having a relationship with another person.
Other people wouldn't mind having a relationship but can't find the right person so for now they just go round having sex.
I've never understood how people can have sex without commitment my self.
♥Em

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What is the website for all the color codes for your advice colum. I need the acual website because when I go to Colum Setting and click on that link it doest work. Thanks.

http://webmonkey.wired.com/webmonkey/reference/color_codes/
:)
and it's Column. Not trying to be rude or anything, just letting you know.
♥Em

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