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♥♥♥♥♥♥The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.
I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!
I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!
♥Leah
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what kind a questions do they ask at interviews and how do i answer them so i can get the job
also i heard that asking questions increases the chances of getting the job so what questions can i ask them
For preparation of answering the questions, create a Beyond profile [www.beyond.com]. When you have that finished, in your portfolio there is an option that says "Questions and Answers." Click on it, and it will give you a (huge) list of the possible questions an employer would ask you.
The basic questions many employers will ask are:
Tell me about yourself. Keep your answer in the professional realm only. Review your past positions, education and other strengths.
What do you know about our organization? If you've done your research correctly, you should have no problem answering this one. Be positive!
Why are you interested in this position? Relate how you feel your qualifications really match the requirements of the job. Also express you desire to work for that company.
What are the most significant accomplishments in your career so far? Pick recent accomplishments that relate to this position and its requirements.
Describe a situation in which your work was criticized. Focus on how you solved the situation and how you became a better person because of it.
How would you describe your personality?
How do you perform under pressure?
What have you done to improve yourself over the past year?
What did you like least about your last position?
Are you leaving (did you leave) your present(last) company?
What is your ideal working environment?
How would co-workers describe you?
What do you think of your boss?
Have you ever fired anyone? What was the situation and how did you handle it?
Are you creative?
What are your goals in your career?
Where do you see yourself in two years?
Why should we hire you?
What kind of salary are you looking for?
What other types of jobs/companies are you considering?
Then, they recommend that throughout the interview, you ask questions. It's better to wait until after the employer is done asking you questions, and then it turns to you. Here are some questions to ask the interviewer:
Why is this position available?
What type of training programs will be offered to the person in this position?
What obstacles must be overcome for the person in this position to succeed?
How will my performance be evaluated?
What opportunities are there for growth in the next 12 months? Two Years? Five years?
What growth do you anticipate for your firm in the next 12 months?
What are your skills and qualifications for this job?
Are there any benefits?
It's also important you come in with a confident attitude, having a smile on your face, and dress professionally. Always arrive a few minutes early in case they ask you to fill out a pre-interview application form, and give them your resume. And it does look good on you.
Here are some proper etiquette:
Arrive 15 minutes early. Late attendance is never excusable.
Clarify questions. Be sure you answered the questions the employer really asked.
Get the interviewer to describe the position and responsibilities early in the conversation so you can relate your skills and background to the position throughout the interview.
Give your qualifications. Stress the accomplishments that are most pertinent to the job.
Conduct yourself professionally. Be aware of what your body language is saying. Smile, make eye contact, don't slouch and maintain composure. Always sit on the edge of the seat during the meeting.
Anticipate tough questions. Prepare in advance so you can turn apparent weaknesses into strengths. When answering questions always look the Interviewer in the eyes.
Dress appropriately. Make your first impression a professional one.
Ask questions throughout the interview. An interview should be a mutual exchange of information, not a one-sided conversation.
Listen. This is probably the most important ability of all. By concentrating not only on the employer's words, but also on the tone of voice and body language, you will be able to pick up on the employer's style. Once you understand how a hiring authority thinks, pattern your answers accordingly and you will be able to better relate to him or her.
Here are some things you should NEVER do:
Don't answer vague questions. Rather than answering questions you think you hear, get the employer to be more specific and then respond.
Never interrupt the employer. If you don't have time to listen, neither does the employer.
Don't smoke, chew gum or place anything on the employer's desk.
Don't be overly familiar, even if the employer is doing all of these things.
Don't wear heavy perfume or cologne.
Don't ramble. Long answers often make the speaker sound apologetic or indecisive.
On the other hand, don't answer questions with a simple "yes" or "no." Explain whenever possible.
Do not make derogatory remarks about your present or former employers or companies.
Closing the interview, it's important you close it well. The employer may ask for any more questions or any kind of concerns. One last thing to do is, tell him/her why you're better than the other candidates. A good closing would be:
After hearing more about your company, the position and the responsibilities at hand, I am certain that I possess the qualities that you are looking for in the (title) position. Based on our conversation and my qualifications, are there any issues or concerns that you have that would lead you to believe otherwise?"
This is the website where I got these from. Thank Trak, who is a recruiting agency in Cincinnati. They have not only questions, but tips for proper etiquette throughout the interview.
(http://www.trakcincy.com/InterviewTips.html)
Go ahead and read through the website. It really helped me!!
Make sure after the interview, you ask the interviewer for business card or contact information so you can e-mail him/her a thank you letter for the interview. Give it a week, and if no call, call them. Most of the time no call to you means no job; however, if you call, it will look like it to them that you are interested in the position, and may keep your information on file in case something happens witht he hired candidates. A Recruiter of mine told me it does look good on you to do these things!!
I hope I helped, and good luck!
18/f
i have this recurring dream all the time and it scares me.
no matter what i'm dreaming about, i always end up back in my house usually with my mom and maybe with some other family members, but it ends up just me and her. its always late at night and someone is trying to break into the house. there's either one or two people and they'll drive up and start trying to bust down the door and come through the windows and kill or kidnap us. i always call the police but they either say they can't help me because they have other emergencies and just hold me on the line or they say they're sending someone out but they just never show and we're just stranded there terrified. i usually wake up right about here.
the last time i had it though which was about a week ago it progressed. i was asleep in my room when the robbers started trying to come through my bedroom window so i ran to my mom's room, woke her up, and started to call the police, but this time the robbers actually got IN the house and we were huddled in the corner of her room scared i was on the phone with 911 and we could see their shadows and flashrights ready to come right around the door of her room.
i have this dream so much and i always wake up terrified.
why does this keep happening & what could it mean? i've never experienced this.. no one's broken in the house before, i haven't watched scary movies lately and even when i do they don't bother me, i can't think of anything that would cause it. but i've had this dream close to 10 times, and now it's really scary that it's starting to get further. any ideas here?
It really does seem like it to me you are very concerned about your safety and the safety of your family. You don't even have to be influenced by something scary. It seems like you just want to be safe and protected day and night, because you're worried something will happen to the family. And it seems like, whenever you try reaching for help, no one will bother helping you. You're worried also that you'll be on your own when something ever happens.
My suggestion is, talk to your family, or who you reside with, and tell them your recurring nightmares. They will probably assure you that nothing will happen to you nor your family, and they'll also be there to help you with any problems.
This is just a subconscious feeling that you're getting, so it could be that you don't feel it much now, but your brain works in mysterious ways sometimes, and will pick up the most random things. Maybe deep down you do feel scared something will happen, and maybe you don't. But like I said, this is all subconscious thinking.
Just discuss it with your family, and they will probably tell you that you are going to be OK, just like your folks. This may help you sleep at night.
I hope I helped, and good luck with the nightmares.
Leah
I need some good over you songs, or i cant take it anymore songs that would fit a description for a guy to a girl, please.
I know just what you're looking for! I used this website frequently to cry out my sorrows of a break-up, and then listened to some songs where they had the "I am better off without you" theme.
http://breakup-songs.com/
They have lists of songs in all kinds of genres.
If you want to hear these songs, just get on imeem.com, or use playlist.com to hear them.
Hope I helped. And I am sorry about the situation. I hope you feel better soon.
Leah
hey can someone give me some codes on how to make a website..likt that kind of codes. i want to make a page with a column to click on the right to go to other pages and writing in the right side and then i need to know how to put borders on the pages. i just need them codes and other ones you think would help. thanks
I know two things you can do..
You can try the free trial of Dreamweaver, where you can build your website doing it the simple way or the html way. What is cool is that they have the formatting options like word, but they can convert it to html for you. Sadly, this is only a free trial, and buying the full thing is expensive.
http://www.adobe.com/downloads/
Another way, is doing it all on your own by going here:
http://www.web-source.net/html_codes_chart.htm
To make some cool looking features, I have used this website for years to enhance my websites in the past:
http://www.funkychickens.com/main.asp
It's pretty cute, and easy to understand. One note is that if you try to right click on a code it won't let you!! Instead, highlight the code, then type and hold CTRL-C for copy, and paste using CTRL-V.
Hope I helped.
Okay, so to start off with I'm really white and I shave my vaginal area. I hate hair down there but more then that, I hate that after I shave I get i guess you could say 5 oclock shadow. How do I get rid of that or reduce it?
The only thing you can really try doing is use hair thinning cream where you can get it anywhere, or wax because a wax lasts longer than a shave.
hey there....
thanks for the good advices there..
so here is the situation.. i have been going to gym for around for years but i havent gained the amount of muscle mass as i should have with respect of my ongoing training. its not that i havn't gaind a speck but uts not in the musclesome category yet.
so somebody suggested me to add creatine with protein powder to my diet. but some other guy told me that i creatine has severe side effects on body.
what should i do ? and if i should take creatine then of which particular brand coz in my country two main brands are available - herculees and nutrition.
i have been uder weingt control trainin for last few months but i am still in the lean categoy as i had gained quite a lot of weight last winter but with current rate , i will be fine in 2 weeks. so i am foreplanning. please help and please suggest something which increases my weingh because i am very prone to weight gain (genetically)
p.s. i am male of 20.
Your friend is wrong for the most part.
Creatine is safe, and scientifically proven safe. You can use it, but only in moderate amounts.
Although I don't trust Wikipedia a lot, their information here is approximate: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Creatine
For increase in weight, the only thing Doctors suggest is eating foods very high in protein, along with Creatine. Protein builds muscle mass, thus making you heavier. Exercise helps, too.
For further tips on weight gain, you can consult a Doctor because they do have diet plans, exercise plans, and medicine that can help with some weight gain.
I hope I helped.
Leah
okay so,
i have had quite a few people tell me imma whore because im flirty..
i don't mean to be but it's my personality..
and i like to hug people&stuff.
i REALLY don't went this reputation ..
someone please help!
thanks to all who help me
A whore is defined as a [woman] being promiscuous, having sex with multiple guys. A whore isn't defined as flirting with guys. A lot of young girls flirt, like guys flirt a lot with girls. What much difference is it?
You're not being a whore flirting. Flirting just shows interest in a guy.. that's it. Let them think whatever but don't change your personality over their opinions.
what is menopause?
when your older and your periods stop forever?
Like the previous columnist said. In easy terms, menopause is when you cease having periods for the rest of your life. You endure PMS-like symptoms (but not necessarily PMS), including hot flashes. Menopause comes around usually between the ages of 45-55.
Defined as when you run out of eggs in the ovaries, thus no more periods. You have millions of eggs in your ovaries when you are born. So you are good for awhile!
Estrogen also stops being produced, which is the result of the infamous osteoprosis, because estrogen is what helps keep your bones dense.
As a result of the following, you are recommended to go on hormone therapy until menopause is over. During and after Menopause, they'll probably do tests to see how dense your bones are and recommend taking calcium supplements or those pills and injections you see all the time on TV.
I hope I covered the basics for you =]
Leah
Can you still get tested for gonhorrea and chlamydia after five years? Would it still show up in a test, if positive? I have only had one sex partner (several years ago)...
If you did take a test now, and was left untreated, it can be still positive.
You should contact your local social worker agency to find out how to see a Gyno for little to no cost.
ive had brown discharge the last few days. its really thick and has a normal smell. anyone know what this is? im too young to go to a gynocologist.
Brown discharge usually means old blood or light blood. If you are about to start your period, or you're ending it, it could be why.
It's normal, and it's nothing to worry about. And anyone regardless of age can see a Gynecologist.
16/F
I have these really small bumps on/around my nipples. They almost look like small pimples. And I've had them for about a few years now. Does anyone know what these are? Should I get them checked out by the doctor?
Thanks!
Would you be refering to the bumps on your areola? If so, that's normal! Those bumps aid in breastfeeding.
If you are talking about bumps outside your areola, I really couldn't tell you what they could be because you don't give out enough information. What do the bumps look like? How small are they? What color are they? Have they discharged blood or pus? If you want you can be more specific and I will change my answer for you.
Leah
EDIT: What area is it exactly at on your breast? Could you give me an exact location?
alright, im a sorphomore in high school and wanna get a topic on my senior project soon. im interested in animal care but do not know what to do for it. i will have to type 8-10 pages and probably have a producct too. i do not know what to do for it. any sugestions please?
You can aim for animal issues in your area.. like animal abuse, illegal/inhumane animal testing, fighting dogs, malnourished pets, homeless pets, life in the spca.
You can talk about animal shelters, and their jobs, what they go through day-to-day, and other information about them. call a near animal shelter or hospital to set up an interview or discussion about their business. This can help you get a great start on your project.
You can also write information about dogs, cats, gerbils, hamsters, guinea pigs, rabbits, snakes, spiders, geckos, lizards, birds, goats, farm animals, or wildlife animals, etc.
For a product I am not sure what product exactly you need.. but you can get a toy for a pet you're writing about (like a toy mouse for a cat, or a bone for a dog). You can buy a book on an animal. Or purchase some kind of food or caged habitat where a [small] pet would use.
I hoped I helped
Leah
what is the normal age for womens ministral cycle to stop forever?
Previous columnist is somewhat right. Menopause does vary on genetics and sometimes vary when you first started your period. They've noticed that if you started early you'll go into menopause early. The average range of menopause is 45-50 years old. Most people I know didn't go into menopause until they were 48-49. Again it does vary. It's rare for someone to start in their 60's.
Hope I helped =].
Leah
i recently lost my 'v' & ever since i keep havin problems like i keep getting water infection.my stomach is always hurting.i get ill easier.is this just a coincidence or is it due to sex?
Previous columnist could be right. But I have other possible explanations. When you last had sex, the man's penis could have had some bacteria or infection that went into contact into your vaginal opening and cervical canal. Sometimes bacteria doesn't automatically mean STD's, but it can cause nausea, fatigue, stomach upset, lower abdominal pain, and headaches.
I would definitely say see a Doctor to get a culture test done on you to see what the infection is.
If you've done it or 110% certain it's not that, then there could be another underlying problem going on with your body. So either way I'd see a Doctor.
Leah
Okay, i'm going to be having sex with my boyfriend for the first time on his graduation nighy, June 3rd. We have protection and everything i was just wondering how long did it last on your first time? its both of our first times.
16/F
My first time lasted a couple of minutes. But everyone's duration of sex varies all the time. For some it takes seconds; others it takes minutes.
You can try to make it a bit longer by darkening the room, and add some romance a few minutes prior to sex. Do some sexual touching so you can get ready.
I am glad that you're wanting to lose your virginity to him, as well as he losing his virginity to you. Good luck on the special night =].
Leah
I've just started taking TriNessa and I'm still getting used to taking it at exactly 9:00 every night. I've been on it for about 10 days now and a few of those nights I would forget to take it at exactly 9:00, but I would remember around 9:15 or 9:30. Will it still be effective if I take it just 15-30 minutes late. (I obviously will try to take it at exactly 9.)
Also, I was wondering when it will be safe for me to have sex without using a condom?
Thanks!
Okay, I never have taken TriNessa, but I have taken other forms of birth control for two years.
It's no big deal even if you skip a couple of hours every now and then. If you take it roughly the same time every day you'll be fine.
As for the sex, I wouldn't wait a week. I'd wait a month. Why? Because it takes a month for the hormones to start shifting so it can cause your body to think you're pregnant. That doesn't work in a week. It usually starts working out after you had your period the first month at the end of the pack.
You can have sex now, but the birth control won't be 99% effective. I don't know the percentage right now, but I know it's lower than that.
Hope I helped.
Leah
First off, I'm in a long distance relationship. Yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday, and I didn't talk to him at all. He went out with friends, and didn't get back til real late, so okay whatever. Today he left a voicemail saying to call him at 7. I did, and he was sleeping. He got up at about 11, so we talked for a good 5 minutes..uhhh. I could tell he was on xbox, so I told him to go play with his buddies and we'd talk tomorrow. He happily left.
Now, I truly don't mind him going to play, I suggested it..but this happens everyday now. This has happened for the past 3 weeks, and I just don''t have the heart to tell him how much it hurts me. I wait literally all day long to speak to him, and when the chance finally comes, we talk no longer than 10 minutes, and he leaves to play xbox, says he'll talk to me tomorow, and the pattern repeats. I mean, our relationship is long distance, communication is the only damn way we can keep this thing going.
I don't know whether to tell him, and he see me as some whiny girlfriend, or just continue to let it happen. Everytime I hang up the phone after telling him to go play xbox I immediately start crying. And I never tell him this, he has no idea how much talking to him means to me. I'd just like to feel a little more important than his xbox friends, whom he doesn't know in real life. To make things worse, the 5 minutes we do spend talking..he talks about xbox. And usually about new girls he's added to his xbox friends list.
God, please, just any help/advice would be appreciated. I'm tired of crying.
I know what exactly you're going through!! You know, I am in a long distance relationship, too. And my boyfriend did this to me a whole lot! He thought games were more important.. or actually TV.. was more important than me. When we talked, it was a 5-minute thing, and he wanted to leave to watch a TV show or go to bed. After he promised repeatedly he'd talk to me..
Don't end it just yet. Here is what worked for me [at least]. When he answers (or you call), demand him to stay on the phone. And talk, tell him how you feel. And if he doesn't want to work it out, threaten to leave him.
Or, don't even bother calling him. Give him the silent treatment for a few days.
Honestly, he may first around not give a total crap, and not talk to you. But, you may have to give it a few days and then he'll come around.
So, if he still wants to keep playing games, let him. If he doesn't want it to work, break up with him. I did this to my boyfriend, and every time, he'd call me within a week and beg for forgiveness. I even reached his mom to help me out (I know that sounds like a bitch move, but it worked).
You should tell him how you feel. You have a right to get upset and you have a right to cry about it. That isn't being a whiner. If he ever thinks you're being a whiner then he's just a sophomoric immature little kid wanting to play games. I know you love him strongly! It's very very hard to be assertive about it.. I know.. I can't tell you how hard it is. I hate people telling me that it was the best thing to do, or you'll find someone better. Well right now it's nothing like that. You love him strongly and you want this to work. But if he doesn't want to cooperate then he isn't worth your time anymore.
Try talking to him. Don't be afraid to. He needs to know or else the problem will never be fixed. It's hard, but it needs to be done.
I know this is heartbreaking. I am not just going to sit here and tell you to break-up with him off the bat. There are things you can try doing before we get on that road. We both know you love him, and you want this to be an everlasting long relationship. Tell him how you feel. Like I said, if he doesn't want to cooperate, just give him the silent treatment and hang out with some friends. It's very hard to get your mind off him, trust me, I know.. but it's the only way to feel better. I always listened to some music to cry it out, then listen to music that has a "I am a strong woman" theme to it, and it makes me feel better.
I hope it all works out. If you'd like, you can always keep me posted on what's going on. Please do, I know what exactly you're going through.
Take care,
Leah
I struggle with getiing going in the mornings lately I am on topamax and citalopram I have been on topamax for about 6 years and the citalopram they started around 6 months ago I have gained around 50 pounds I feel tired have a hard time with fatigue I was wondering if anyone can help me with this issue since I am dealing with mental health clinic and they seem to be very limmited as to my problems and my concerns.
Both of those drugs are known to cause fatigue, yet in only some people. It varies from person-to-person. I am on Citalopram, too, and the stuff makes me drowsy.
The thing they recommended me to do was to take the medication during dinner before bedtime, every day, instead of taking it in the morning. The problem was resolved doing that. Go to your clinic and ask if you can just switch the schedule of taking it. If they turn your request down, just do it anyway. You're still getting the same effects, you're just taking it at a different time; that's all.
It won't hurt because I am an undergraduate medical student, and I have been to doctor appointments left-and-right about my prescriptions. I used to take Zypreza and Hydroxozine HCl, which is known to cause fatigue (as well as Celexa/Citolopram), so she suggested I take them in the evenings instead of the morning.
If you are already taking them in the evenings, try taking them earlier in the evening like before dinner. If that's not possible in any way, I would suggest going to a different mental health clinic. They're all different. If it's needed, I'll help you look for another one in your area.
I hope I helped and good luck.
Leah
I just posted this to public, but you seem like you might be able to help! With my ex for 5 years. 2 children. I'm 22, M, and she is 20. She left two months ago because I didn't give her enough attention. Truthfully, it was more like none. I admit. Anyway, the past two months she goes from one day "i love you so much and want to come home just show me you can give me the respect and attention I need", to "i hate you leave me alone, we're through". I am confused. She has since got a job and enrolled in school. I have 100k in debt for the family I made, a semi and a house. To me, it seems like she is playing the field and trying to keep the door of baby daddy open, but has possible love interests. I know she has been talking to some men. Does that sound like she is seeing someone, or has a possible? What should I do!?
Thanks for letting me answer your question.
Telling from your situation and the information you have given me, it seems like a whole lot is going on financially. You're in debt, and trying to get through. Since you said you paid no attention to her, could it be because of stress in the financial category? If it is, I would try talking to her to tell her that lately it's been hard on the you because of your financial situation, and remind her you still love her and still want it to work.
It seems like your ex is confused about the situation. Honestly, I would feel very desolate and neglected if my significant other paid no attention to me. It's a hard decision to go by, since she probably doesn't feel loved enough. If you really loved her and really wanted this to work, you'd try your best to keep it working. If you're extremely stressed out I would (like I said) confront her about it and tell her your situation. Apologize, and try to make it work again.
If she decides not to go back out with you, or try to make it work, that's her loss. I couldn't make a strong assumption whether she found someone else or not because I don't know her enough to decide. I would feel a bit disowned if my guy lacked attention to me. And if I really needed love, I would probably go to someone else for emotional support. Women need emotional support and love on a daily bases; not just once a month.
It does seem like she wants to keep the door open for anyone, actually. She'll be leaving it open for you, but she will be leaving it open for other guys. It's possible she could be talking to other guys. But the sooner you try to talk to her, the more likely she can forgive you. Don't wait on it because it can be too late. I assume the two kids are yours, so remind her you still want to be there to take of her and the kids. Things may be tough around here, but tell her that it doesn't mean you don't love her.
Start by inviting her to dinner, just to talk about things. And take it from there. But I suggest if she does come back, I would start giving her more attention than you did before. Relationships can never be successful if you don't give someone attention. You both need it. It does sounds like she loves you a lot still, but she is just scared she will get hurt again, hence you not giving her attention.
So if you really love her, try to make it work. I can see she still has feelings for you since you're 'the baby daddy', so try talking to her again. If no luck, all you can do is remind her you still love her and you really care for her and the kids. Just tell her you're here for her, and that you want this to work. She may put in awhile to think it through, but keep reminding her that.
If you'd like, keep me posted on what she says, and I can give you more advice on what to do, or suggestions at least. This is a tough situation (I can tell), but please start giving her more attention next time, regardless of the financial burdens you may be going through.
I hope I helped, and good luck.
Leah
Last month i didn't have a period. I took a pregnacy test 2 days later and it said "negative". I waited and a couple days later i still hadn't started so I took another test. And again, it said "negative". Still to this day I haven't had my period. Is it normal to skip a period and not be pregnant?
DarbyAnswers is right in some areas. You can still take several home pregnancy tests and still be pregnant! Don't let people say that.. the Doctor's can do tests that can detect smaller amounts of the pregnancy hormone than at home tests. Yet I would say give it a couple of more weeks and then retake it. If it's still a negative, I would try to go to the Doctor's to confirm it.
So if you're negative, you could just be stressed, merely irregular, fluncuating in weight or diet habits. It can be a lot of things.
So if you skip another month still, then I would see a Doctor (gynecologist) to see what's up and may offer you birth control.