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Um.. ok what is a yeast infection and how do you cure it? Im waaaaaaaaay to modest to go to the doctors about and and ill refuse to so ya help me!!!!

go to this site. they will tell you everything you need to know and do about yeast infections.

http://familydoctor.org/206.xml

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Okay well i was walken downtown with my 2 friends today and this druggie/badass was down there and he called over this geeky guy called Josh and all of a sudden he starts beating him up! i was so scared i didnt know what to do.. he almost started to cry and before he left he said im callen aaron (the cop in our town) and my friends r like dont tell him we were here. im afraid hes gunna tell the cop and he'll ask me and somehow it'll get back to the badass and he'll beat the shit outta me .. im a gurl btw and he hits girls and stuff and he like knows how to set up bombs n shit cuz he put a bomb in our school one year.. if the cop does ask me shoudl i say i witnessed it?

uhh...yeah you should! that kid needs to be taken off the fuckin streets. if you people just sit around and act like he isnt doing shit then hes just gonna keep doing the shit he does and threatening and beating people up.

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Sorry this is long, but i rate high! :)

I have a friend...lets call her Jill. Well jill is really cool to hang out with...when she isnt around guys or we arent on the subject of guys. She always uses guys and she flirts with them, and leads them on all the time and then she ends up crushing them. She always steals the gusy her friends like (including the guys i like...) and we are all sick of it. I really want to tell her off because i have talked to her about it before but just talking to her wont get through to her. I want her to really realize what a slutty jerk she has turned into. because she used to be really cool. Please help!

so tell her just that, that she is being a slutty jerk. i mean, if you said you already tried to explain to her in a nice way about the way she is, and you arent the only one who sees how she is and is sick of it, then maybe you and your friends should just approach her and get a little agressive about it. let her know, that hooking up with guys just to play with thier minds, especially ones that you know youre good friends like, is messed up. she should have a little more respect for her firends and herself. and once she is with a guy that you like, you cant have him anymore cuz no one wants thier friends sloppy seconds. and tell her soon, because if you dont, pretty soon she will have had all the guys and thier wont be any left for you and your friends.

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hey gurlz,
how can i make time to change my tampon at school? i never have time in between classes, and i dont like to leave the class w/ my purse b/c everbody would know. i usually don't put stuff in mypurse b/c all my friends go through it. i usually ut stuff in my lunch box, and change during lunch. can any of u give me advice on how to manage it?
i will rate high

look, who cares if people know you have your period. this is a natural and very common thing. you are acting like YOU are the only person in class who gets it. if you gotta go and change your tampon, then you gotta go, you shouldnt feel embarassed. trust me, kids in school are worried about waaaay more juicer gossip, then someone having thier period. so just keep tampons in your purse and if you have to leave class then go. but if this a really big deal for you (which it shouldnt be) then maybe you should wear a panty liner for back up protection. that way if you leak before lunch youll still be safe.

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I recently got a new puppy, the problem was that my 3 yr old lab mix would not accept her. She was very aggressive and territorial. She has never acted like this in the past. I would like to get another puppy, since I had to return the other one. What would be the best way to intriduce them?

just get another puppy. if they brawl, they brawl. fuck it. hey make a positive thing out of it, and have people in your family place bets on them... now thats etertainment! :)

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im kinda shy not as bad as i used to be but id like to be more outgoing with people i dont know! i don like anyone rite now but i still wanna b more outgoing incase i start to like someone. well anyway i wanna kno if anyone has any like tips for becoming more outgoing. thnx

okay 1st you have to go out... and then you have to get going... yeah, im pretty sure thats it :)

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Hi, i asked this kid to a football game 2nite and my friend who was wit me, sed he looked sorta excited whjen i asked him, he sed he didn't know if he cud make it to it or not and i was like ook ad then jjust forgot anout it hten at the game tonite, i saw him there. Do you think that he was perposuly ditching me? or he really wasn't sure if he culd make it, and he had no way of reacing me when he realized he could go? He didn't have my # or anything either.

he probably really didnt know if he was going or not. dont sweat it. and if he did lie, maybe he did because he just wasnt intrested in you but didnt wanna be mean, so he just broke it to you that way. either way, dont be stressin over it, its not like your his girln anyway. worry about a gtuy lying to you when you are actually with him.

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ok i found out this guy liked me and like i like him so i wrote him a note askin him but he said he wanted 2 ask this other girl out so i was ok im cool wuteer n then his friend wrote this note makin it look like it was from him n it said i dont like i nvr liked u and like i didnt noe wut 2 say after i read that n i got tha note on monday so on friday i decided to write him a note sayin lets 4git aboot this and lets be friends and he told my friend that he doesnt want 2 b my friend and that he wishes he nvr met me. I feel like shit and i want to b his friend but he wont talk to me like after i found out wut he said i tried 2 talk to him but he walked faster away wut shood i do to get his friendship back and 4git this ever happened b.c im practically in tears please help srrie its long

you can talk to this guy and tell him you are sorry there has been so many misunderstandings and all but you really enjoy having him as a friend and you dont want that to end. the thing is you have to talk to him yourself. you cant have someone else talk to him for you, and that writing note shit dont seem like a good idea either. talk to him face to face so you get all the facts straight the 1st time. if he still says he doesn't wanna be friends, thats pretty messed up, but what can you do? you cant make someone be your friend, you just have to deal with things like that. good luck! :)

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im starting to like a guy who goes to my school thats a junior-- two major problems: 1. im only a freshman... 2. hes the best friend of my x boyfriend and we didnt have what u would call the "best break up". we get along really well tho so i think there might be a chance but im also really shy when im around him... any suggestions?? i could use all the help i can get! **friend of kenzis...

yo who the hell cares who his best friend is?!?! and so what if he is older than you? age only really matters now at days when it comes to sex. and im sure you're not even thinking about sex with this guy, if you cant even tell him how you feel. look, if you like this guy, juts get some courage and stop beating yourself up and tell him how you feel, if you dont, youre gonna regret it.




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ok, i just transferd to a new school, but in the same town, because im a lil behind on my highschool credits, well i really like this girl, shes my age, and uuuuuunbelievably gorgeous!! not to mention funny and pretty dang smart.well, i flirt with her and she will flirt with me back, not to mention even when i dont see her coming she will walk up to me in the hall and like playfully nudge me and keep walking and just grin. but then again, she doesnt give me a whole bunch of attention in class, so my question to everyone is, what in the world do i do now? should i go for it, or just leave it be?

confront the broad. ask her "what is the deal. youre always playing around with me and acting all cute around me, do you like me? do you wanna hook up or hang out or something?"... you have to be straight forward with this girl about what you want to know, otherwise she is just gonna keep doing the same shit, and you are just gonna be sitting there all dumbfounded and confused asking yourself the same shit you are asking yourself now "gee, does she like me?"

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I`m a senior in high school. I`m turning 18 soon but my boyfriend will still be 17. If we have sex after my birthday, will that be illegal?

depends where you live. some state say that once you are 16 you are at the age of sexual conscent and you can be with someone who is older than you but only by 4 years at the most.

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Hey! (15/f) So I've asked this sorda before but it's a tad different this time. There's a guy on my tennis team that went out with my 'old bestfriend' last year. I'm still really good friends with her but not as close as when last year.Anyhoo, this guy likes me. I don't really want to confront him about it bc i really like being friends with him. I think I've been giving him the wrong messages bc i guess we sorda flirt but it's just friendly, ha so i thought. what should i do now? Ps. sorry for the longness!

if i were you, i wouldnt do anything about this situation unless he approaches you. and if he does, just be nice and let him know youre sorry but you only like him as a friend and you never meant to make him think it was any other way. in the mean time, cut down on that "honestly friendly flirting" so that he will stop getting that message.

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does anyone know any eyeshadow colors that would look really nice on a dark haired gurl? my face is sorta red all the time too so i duno why tho lol but i heard blue looks really bad on all blondes, but i have a silver and it looks cute.. any others? please!!

silver is good, as well as a shimmery white or pink. sometimes a light orangish color looks nice on blondes too. and as for blues and greens, if you wear them with black eyeliner and find the right shade, and dont go too heavy you can make it work. you just have to experiment and mess around with the colors. and try a little powder to tone down the redness, but dont over do it cuz youll fake.

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so my best friend and i have dated before and we broke up because me and his guy friends didnt get along too well.. he REALLy likes me now and im starting to like him a lot and me and his 'guy friends' are actually really close this year. i guess imjust scared to get hurt again cuz i really put myself out there last time... help??

just think about it long and hard. analyze all the facts. make sure that if you get back with him it will be worth it tis time. talk to him and let him know, i like you alot still, but im scared i will put all of me into you like i did last time and just end up a heart broken fool all over again. make sure that getting back with him this time will be taking a step forward and not a step back.

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i really like this guy (i think im in love) but he is older than me and right now we dont go to the same school but next year we will, he likes me too but i want him to like think of me all the time and be like crazy about me before we go to the same school, but all the communication i get is over IM so what should i say that would make him like really happy and like me even more?

p.s.-he knows i like him but not really...like he thinks we are just friends and im happy with that and that i dont want to be more..but hes wrong...also he doesnt know i know he likes me

thanks so much

well 1st off that little statement "he knows i like him but not really" is the problem right there. he will never admit to you that he likes you if he is the slightest unsure on whether or not you truelly like him. so in order to get things going on the right track, you need to stop beating around the bush, and tell him exactly how you feel so you guys can be on the same page. also, you guys probably need to find a way to communicate more than just talking on IM. Atleast talk on the phone, you can't truelly feel a person if you never get to hear thier voice. and honestly, i dont think you could possibly be in love with this guy if you never see him or even hear his voice. you need the whole packcage in order to completely love someone. how can you possibly love him if you dont know everything he is about, from the way his eyes look when he stares in your eyes, to the way his face scrunches up when he taste something that isnt appealing to him. heck, you might hang out with him and realize there is alot of things you dont like about him. what you guys need is more communication so you can know eachother better, then you will know how you truelly feel.

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well ok so i feel like tht my friends r ignoring me and i dnt no how to start up a conversation with them n i want 2 get to no them better but i cnt invite them ovr bc they live to far away 4rm me n they go to my school i also wnt to flirt like crzy with guys but im 2 shy someone please help
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desperate

girl where did you learn to type? i had to read that shit you call writing like 3 times before i could figure out what all the words were. no wonder you are having problems with talking to your freinds and guys, you dont know how to freakin communicate.

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im 16 and in love...is that good?

its fine to be in love. love is a wondeful feeling. just make sure that these feelings you have are truelly love and not just a really good or happy feeling. when you're young you tend to think or feel like you are in love and then get your hopes up so high and end up with a borken heart. so, yes being in love is good, but just be careful.

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There's this boy that I've known for a few years. We talk on email every single day, and we see each other at school.
It feels like we're just friends, but the other day my best friend pointed out that it seems like we are "more than just friends".
I don't believe that, he's just my friend. He's weird, funny, nice, creative, and lots of other things, but I don't know if I really "like like" him or not.
Can someone help me out in trying to figure out my real feelings?

Stop and realltg think. Could you ever see yourself with this guy? Like, can you imagine being in his arms, and kissing him? Can you see thing being more than a friendship and things going well? Do you find yourself thinking/dreaming about him? These are the kinds of things you need to think about and ask yourself.

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me and my friend had an argument and i feel very bad because i really want to be his friend but anything i do to be his mate he always upsets me and makes me really upset what can i do to b his mate again? please....

you just have to get over everything that happened and move on with your frienship. it might be hard, but if your friendship is that important to you, you will be able to do it. good luck! :)

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ok my friend lets call him joe well my friend joe is really cool and i just met him this year. my other 2 friends always say i like him and we always flirt. which i dont believe really. i dont think we flirt at all. i only have him in one class and we "always flirt". it makes me mad cuz like joe let me wear his rubber bracelet things and my friends are like awwwww how sweet! it makes me sooo mad! specially when they ask him out for me. now joe thinks im a stalker or sumthin and that my friends are stalkers. im not they are. so wat can i do to make my friends stop asking him out for me. and make joe think im not a stalkeR? plz help..srry this is long

First off, you have to put your foot down with your friends. Tell them to stop asking joe out for you because you dont like him that way. Let them know they are ruining the friendship you have with him. And let joe know, you are not stalking him, its just that your friends think you 2 like eachother. Tell him your sorry they are so kiddy and you really just like him as a friend.

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