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hey my friends birthday is coming up and she is having a garden party. but i dont know what to wear. nothign to fancy as she has a bouncy caslte coming for her cousins but i know me and my mates will go on it.so i have no idea what to wear or what to do with my hair!any ideas thank you so much! ill rate every answer that i get! (link)
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I live in UK too! I thought you were from USA! In that case I'd wear something warm as it's bound to rain or be really cold!! Have a great time!
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Is it possible to loose a few pounds by just eating healthier (with some physical activitey but not alot) If so, can you tell me some good health foods to subsitute with my normal junk food? Thanx i rate high! :) (link)
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First of all drink two litres of water a day. Sometiimes when you think you are hungry you are actually thirsty. Secondly try not to eat any carbohydrate (potatoes of any sort, pasta, bread) after 6.30 p.m as your body will be able to digest the food before you go to bed.
apart from that try fruit!
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i have really bad bags under my eyes all the time. no matter how much sleep i get they never go away. can sumone help
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Haemarroid cream! All the A-List Hollywood stars use it!! And no I'm not joking! Also, concealer-what ever you put on your eyes don't rub them gently spread what ever you use towards your nose, so inwards not outwards. This is because the skin under your eyes is the thinnes skin on your entire body so you have to be careful not to rub them too much.
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do you need to take a drug test before getting a job in new york? (link)
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It depends what job you are going for. If it is a well-known company then maybe-yes.
If not then I shouldn't worry but you have rights so you can ask them. Quite often companies do random drug tests where they tell you when you start working that they to random tests. The test could be that afternoon or a week later.
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Okay.. i need some way to cover a hickey.. i have a huge one on my boob.. which is no problem.. but if i get one on my neck.. i need a way to cover it while im around my parents.. Is there any special make up for it? I've tried foundation and concealer.. neither worked.. If you know of anyway to hide it.. besides covering it with my hair.. lemme know!!
Thanks!
P.S. I'm female.. so I have access to all kinds of makeup (link)
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Perhaps try not getting one on your neck?!!! There is this concealer you can get which is a light green colour. Because green over the redness of the hickie cancels out the redness and so you are left with pretty much the same colour as your natural skin tone. Then go over it with pressed powder-keep it in your bag so you can touch up during the day. Everyone assumes that hickies are always on your neck-they don't have to be!
If you get one that you don't have to cover up then it can be your secret without being embarrassed that everyone will see it!
Good luck!
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ok so thers a gurl i like and she kinda likes me so i could probably go out with her but i already told another girl that i would go to the dance with her as friends and i dont know what to do so help me out
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I don't think you should tell the girl you are already taking to the dance that you can't. I think you should explain to the girl that you like that you have already asked a girl to the dance but just as friends and that was way before you decided you liked her. Tell her you would much prefer to take her but feel you can't let this other girl down. Can the girl you like take a guy that the girl you are taking likes?? That way, they can get together and then you'll be left with the girl you like!
Good Luck1
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When should girls start to wear tampons? (link)
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There isn't a certain time or age you should start to wear them-it's just whenever you feel like you want to. Buy a packet and try then out for a bit-if you feel comfortable then carry on wearing them and if not then wait till you do.
Good luck!
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im going to a party this weekend with my friend justin and im not sure what to wear....im 17/f...i havent really ever been to a party before because im not realli the partying type but his friends having some big party and wants me to go and iwanna go with him..so im not sure how im suppose to dress like casual or sort or more dressy or like something id wear to school.... how do most people dress? should i wear sneakers or shoes?.... dont tell me to wear what i want or whatever i feel comfortable in cuz thats not what im looking for...the weather is only like the 50s at most here where i live so no shorts or anything but maybi flip flops or sandals ....no sweaters tho .... (link)
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If you're not sure what to wear is there anyone else you know who is going who you could ask?
If not then ask Justin to ask the person holding the party-it's not embarrassing-I bet loads of people will be asking the same question!
If I were you I'd play safe- wear some jeans but not too scruffy ones, a fitted t-shirt or top and some funky flip flops or something. It's always the safe way to dress more casually but then have accessories which can brighten your outfit up so you seem more fashion conscious. You can always put a smarter top in your bag in case everyone else is smarter.
And remember-if you're going to wear flip flops or opened toed shoes-sort out the nails!!
Good luck
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So there's this guy, right? And I used to have quite a crush on him. He liked me somewhat too. So I wrote him a note. I told him I liked him.
That was a while ago, and my feelings have faded, but now he likes me! And I'm sure he assumes it's mutual, since I wrote that note, and I haven't said anything since. The problem is, we're really good friends and we talk a lot. I'm worried that he's interpreting it as flirting, which it isn't, at least not intentionally. I really don't want to lead him on, he's sweet.
So, my question(s> is(are): Is there any way to read his feelings, and how can I flir--talk to him less without comprimising the friendship? (link)
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YOu can usually tell if a guy fancies you if he wants to spend more time with you than his mates, if he prolongs his eye contact with you, teases you, touches you briefly when he's talking such as on the shoulder or back.
Try not to flirt with him as that will give him hints that you fancy him back.
Could you say in a passing comment how nice it is to be single at the moment?
As long as you treat him as you would any other friend then he should get the message sooner or later!
Good luck!
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I won't explain how but I got a bottle of fake tan thrown over me by one of my friends while I was wearing a bikini I didn't think much of it because I thought it was a crappy one and wouldn't work. I wake up this morning and I'm covered in huge blotches of tanned areas and yeah I look pretty dumb.
Does anyone know a way to get fake tan off?
I've heard a way before but I forgot, lol.
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Two things!
1. Nail Varnish remover and cotton wool.
2. Whitening toothpaste. Mix it with some water and put it on your skin. Leave it for 5 minutes and then wash it off
Good Luck!
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i would like to remove cellulate, but i do not belive in creams and stuff like that. is there any other method that it is very effective. the only method i know drink alot of water and exersise. I would appreciate alot if there is an other way. (link)
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Unfortunately you can't remove cellulite but there are many things you can do to improve it. You can buy a body brush which you should brush upwards to get the circulation going. Also , first thing in the morning drink a cup of hot water and lemon to get your metabolism going. Also try not to eat your dinner to late. Try and eat it by 7.30 as otherwise you will go to bed and you will not burn off the fat and your body will store it.
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Is it better to wash your hair in cold water or in hot water? Is it less damaging? (link)
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Washing your hair in hot water is better. You get the circulation going which increases hair growth and also gets the shampoo and conditioner out of your hair better than cold water. If you run cold water over your hair at the end after you've washed it then it will make it shinier.
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What are some ways I can keep my hair healthy (breakage, damaged hair .. etc) but still make it look great everydaY? I rate high! :) (link)
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It depends how often you need to wash your hair-do you let it dry naturally or do you blowdry it? Do you use straighteners?
If you use straighteners or blowdry your hair more than 3 times a week then you can buy treatments or a special conditioner which is like a mask. If you can't afford this then cover your hair in your normal conditioner (paying special attention to the ends) and leave it on for 5 minutes before washing it out. You can also comb it through before washing it off. I do it and it works!
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A week months back I was informed my friend gave someone else a hand-job. She's 14. I know, to some people this is normal, but we live in a nice small town where nothing like that ever really happens. Here it's different. I asked her if there was anymore and she 'swore on her music' I told her to never let him back in her house again because she claims he forced her into it. (She's in love with music, anything that has to deal with music). SO, naturally I believed her. Yesterday I found out new information. She had given a hand-job twice, a blow-job one, made out alot and let him feel her up. She never told me. She claims that she's scared, I would be too. I'm so mad about her not telling me. I'm her 'best friend'? Why don't I feel like it? (link)
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Perhaps she's embarrassed to? What she is going through is just as new to her as it is to her and she was probably really worried about telling you because of your reaction. By being a best friend you have to be there for your friend even if you don't agree with what she is doing. By getting angry you will push her away and therefore it will be difficult for her to tell you more. The more you get angry the more she won't tell you. You need to show your support and let her know that even if you don't agree with what she is doing, you will still listen to what she has to say.
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i lost a parent a year ago. my other parent is getting married in the summer. how do i show this fiance that i still love my parent, but i'll try to have a relationship with the fiance.
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It's very difficult for you because when you lose a parent and the other finds another partner, you feel like they are forgetting about the parent who passed away. It's totally natural for you to be feeling this way. What you don't know is that the fiance will be just as wary about not trying to take the place of your parent. Could you write to them and let them know how you feel? Sometimes it's easier to write as then you can take time over it and get all your feelings out and take as long as you like to write it. Just let them know that no one can take the place of the parent you lost and it will just take a bit of time for you to get used to the situation you are in. Good luck
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About 2 hours ago I asked if I was going blind and I talked about my eyes and stuff. Well, I said I got a headache after that and it became worse. I layed down and I just woke up and the headache is just as bad. I still feel dizzy, and I feel like I'm going to throw up. Is this what migraines do? I took an Advil and it didnt help at all. Ugh! I feel horrible! (link)
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I didn't read your first question but yes, your having a migraine. The best thing to do is lie down in a quiet room with the lights off and curtains closed. No music or tv on or anything. It might take a while for the advil to work but after that you should be ok. It's quite scary if you've never had a migraine before but it will get better I promise.
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Thanks everyone for your advice but there's another problem. Many of you said that I'll go to him since he is shy. What if he rejects me? or what will i say to him once we are facing each other? Pls. help me. I rate 5's. (link)
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Don't ask him out-just talk to him first of all and have a good conversation. The more good conversations you have the more relaxed you will become around eachother and the more time you will then spend together. It will then be easier for you both to tell eachother how you feel. Nothing is going to happen unless you do something about it-but you can't make a fool of yourself by just having a conversation.
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my best friend is pregnet. i dont know what to do. i know she wants to keep it but she hasnt even told her boyfriend and she wasnt going to tell me but i found the strip in her room. I'm afraid that she wont be able to handle it and that her parents will be mad if they find out I've known this girl since i was 7 and were 14 now and she is so young that her parents would probly just kick her out. i dont want this to happen to her and i dont know if i should tell anyone she's not ready to have a baby at all and she cant get enough courige to go tell somebody about it so now im realy worried about what will happen if she doesnt tell. should i just go ahead and tell ppl and make things easy or should i just let her do it her way? (link)
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At her age, you think you can cope with a baby etc. You have to let her know that by having a baby it will disrupt her school work, finding a job and meeting guys. It will mean she won't be able to go out with you guys because she will have to be at home looking after her baby.
You can call someone who will give you advice. You can also get these dolls which they lend you from a hospital. They are just like babies and you have to look after them for 48 hours and see how you cope. They will behave just like a normal new born baby and cry and wake her up all night. Most people who have tried this realise they are not fit to go ahead with the pregnancy at their age.
Ask her how she will be able to look after the baby and get a job with no qualifications as well as no time to work in that job because she'll be having to look after the baby all the time. Good luck
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I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 monthes now, and we havent kissed yet... part of the problem is that i havent really found the time right, i would like a spot that (i know this may be kinda unlikly) but later on down the road maybe if i proposed to her, it would be the same spot... the other problem is that she never makes any "moves". The only times we talk is when i call her, (or at school) and the only times she ever calls me, is when she missed my call and is just returning it. Now a bunch of things are going on, and we are both a little buisier (sp) and really stressed out. We both have a really short fuse at the moment, and i know sometimes i can be kinda annoying. What should i do since we are both really, really competative, im affraid if i dont say it exactly right, it will turn into a fight, and i havent had one with her (or any girl) yet, but i really dont want to... so what should i say to her to kinda tell her i dont want to be doing everything in the relationship? (link)
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If you want to kiss her and it to be in a special place then think of somewhere quiet you could go where you won't be disturbed. Somewhere by a river or park? Do something like make a picnic one evening or for lunch on a weekend and just send her a text telling her where to meet you and the time-nothing else. When she arrives she will see what an effort you have made and so you can be together in person and not surrounded by everyone else at school. You can just be yourselves and, if you want, apologise for annoying her etc. She won't be making any moves because girls rarely do. She's probably frustrated because you haven't tried to kiss her. Good luck!
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K, so I've been going out with my boyfriend since 1-31-05, and lately we've kind of been like, you know, "touching". At first I was kind of like, well I dunno about this, and feeling indecisive about whether we should even be doing it, but kind of wanting to at the same time. (I'm 14, he's 15) Well now my problem is that when he touches me it feels *kind of* good at first then it just hurts. What are we doing wrong? (link)
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You are not doing anything wrong- the reason it hurts is that you are getting nervous because you are thinking about what is going on, what he is doing and what might happen next.
Let your boyfriend know that you don't want to go further yet and he will understand. If you take things slowly then you will get used to what is happening and you will be able to relax and enjoy it more. Don't worry-what you are going through happens to everyone!
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