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blended families
i lost a parent a year ago. my other parent is getting married in the summer. how do i show this fiance that i still love my parent, but i'll try to have a relationship with the fiance.
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You shouldnt have to prove that you still love your deceased parent, because he/she will automatically know that. You shouldnt worry about trying to impress this soon-to-be step parent. You can talk to them and tell them how you really feel. Just tell them that nobody will ever be able to take the place of your parent, but you look foward to having a good relationship with them. Most of the those things they will probably already know. It may not be easy at first to make those adjustments, but it will get easier. Good Luck! I hope I helped you out!
♥Emily
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I had the same thing happen when I was younger. You don't need to worry about showing the fiance you still love your parent, I'm sure he/she is aware of that. In conversation I imagine you probably will want to bring up your lost parent and that's a good way of keeping their memory alive and showing you love them. Talk with the fiance as you would any other person, if you want him/her to fill that void from your lost parent, let them do that. Keep in mind he/she is the adult and you are the child (I'm sorry, I have no way of telling how old you are, but typically people on this site are not too old, either way in reference to a parent no matter how old you are, you are a child...at 22, I'm still a child.:)), it is not up to you to prove anything to them. From the very fact alone that you are concerned about maintaining a good relationship with him/her it is obvious that you do care about the fiance and want things to work, which is amazing and a great start. If you really want to make things work, I'd suggest talking to the fiance, tell him/her how you feel and that you want to be close with them, but no one can replace your real parent. Since you are willing to accept him/her as part of the family, that will mean a great deal to him/her. I wish you the very best and I'm very sorry for your loss.
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just be nice to them and talk to them as a friend!
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Just be nice to them/ try and talk to them about it that you will try but they cant replace your other parent. hope i've helped a little.
luv shelly
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Always talk high of your lost loved when when ever you can but stil be nice to then new person. if this Fiance knows your situation, im sure they will totally understand where you are coming from and know that it is very hard to except a new parent into their lives. let me know if you need anymore help! hope everything works out for you sweetie!
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It's very difficult for you because when you lose a parent and the other finds another partner, you feel like they are forgetting about the parent who passed away. It's totally natural for you to be feeling this way. What you don't know is that the fiance will be just as wary about not trying to take the place of your parent. Could you write to them and let them know how you feel? Sometimes it's easier to write as then you can take time over it and get all your feelings out and take as long as you like to write it. Just let them know that no one can take the place of the parent you lost and it will just take a bit of time for you to get used to the situation you are in. Good luck
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I think the fiance probably knows that already. I don't think you'll need to do anything. They may be trying overly hard to win your affection right now but knows how you felt about your parent. :)
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im sure that the fiance is already aware of that and im sure they dont want to take over what u had but just be there for you and to try and have the same relationship that you wat. tell them thats how you feel and that you hope it owrks out. it will take some time getting used to but you can pull it off. gl!
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Your parents new fiancee will most likely already understand that you still love your birth parent. And they prob will never try to really replace your parent...because they know thats impossible. I wouldn't try to show him or her that you still love your parent, when you get to know them better, you can talk with them about your parent & their death.
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It takes some warming up to them. I am sure the new soon to be step parent understands how you feel, and they will probably go the extra mile to help you feel comfortable. The new person is not and never will be a replacement for your loved one. Just take your time and get to know them. I would highly suggest a lunch or shopping trip with them so that you start knowing one another. Remember that they care about you, and want good things for you as well or your parent wouldn't be marrying them. (At least I hope so).
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